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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- How To React When You See Your Ex - Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldHow to react when you see your ex; Many girls want to know if they and their ex boyfriend can ever get back together again. To answer that depends on the girl and the boyfriend, why did you break up in the first place? This article looks at some things you can do to help get your ex boyfriend ...
Views: 787 - How to Get Through Divorce Court in One Piece - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Anica OaksDivorces will always evoke a variety of emotions ranging from anger and fear to doubt and sadness. Whatever you may currently be experiencing, it is important to remember that these feelings will pass and you must get proactive about your future. Anyone who is currently going through this legal ...
Views: 1039 - Spice-Up Your Relationship this Year - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWithout even realizing or knowing how it happened sometimes couples find that they have gotten themselves stuck in a rut. This is very common and it can happen cyclically in the relationship. The couple’s rhythm inevitably sets this up to happen. Some things that affect this phenomenon ...
Views: 919 - Choose to Be Happy - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are in a vulnerable place, triggered, overextended, overwhelmed, stressed, hormonal, whatever, we function from a less than resourceful state and therefore can very easily fall prey to negative thinking, victimization, sabotaging, undermining, deprecating, blaming, abuse, neglect, and ...
Views: 991 - Do You Want to Succeed? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Emma ViglucciDo you remember when you were a kid and wanted something really badly? Whether you nagged someone to death to get it, or tried, rehearsed, or practiced incessantly you knew what it would take to get it and went for it. As kids we knew that repeating actions got results: learning to ride a bike, ...
Views: 954 - Own Your Independence! - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIn our society Freedom is one of our most valuable assets and one we tend to take for granted. How we perceive and define our freedom is directly correlated to our sense of power and our ability to design the relationship and life we want. When we get stuck looking at our situation with a murky ...
Views: 967 - Summon Your Magic! - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Emma ViglucciUnless we live in a cabin isolated from the world, grow our own veggies, and paint all day, we pretty much rely on our left brain (logical, technical, verbal brain) to live our lives, and even then we would still need our left brain to carry out life’s most basic functions. It is when we ...
Views: 1039 - Use Self-Care as Your Way to Higher Abundance - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Emma ViglucciAbundance in our life is experienced in direct proportion to the level of Self Love and Self Care we give ourselves. Take a moment to soak that in. When we are stingy with our Self, our energy vibrates at a lower frequency which attracts other low frequency people, situations and results in our ...
Views: 856 - Hunches, Gut Feelings & Intuition - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Emma ViglucciOur body is our most important possession. It houses, protects and enables our most precious possession our brain. Our brain creates and generates our mind and the essence of us. It makes us who we are on a daily basis. It is the CEO of Me, Inc. It is the master mind of our life. Some say it is ...
Views: 1208 - Love the F Word - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWhat do you usually think of when you think of the f word? We probably both think of the same four-letter word, but for today let’s make our f word a more meaningful word. F is for Focus. F is for Freedom. I’ve written before that what we focus on persists. What we focus on either enables us or ...
Views: 959 - Dr. Romance on The Worrier’s Guidelines: simple steps to combat worry - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Often, it seems that there are not enough hours in the day to do everything that must be done, and like the Red Queen in Alice in Wonderland we have to run as fast as we can just to stay in place. And she was created before computers, cell phones and e-mail! ...
Views: 1281 - Dr. Romance on The Worrier’s Guidelines: simple steps to combat worry - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Often, it seems that there are not enough hours in the day to do everything that must be done, and like the Red Queen in Alice in Wonderland we have to run as fast as we can just to stay in place. And she was created before computers, cell phones and e-mail! ...
Views: 1261 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my late 40s and feeling very unhopeful about my future love life. - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am in a terrible funk over a failed relationship that lasted 2 years and I thought would lead to marriage. We met online and now I'm afraid if I go online again, he will see my profile and/or I will see his. I took this breakup so hard, the thought of that happening just ...
Views: 1560 - Getting Out of Your Way - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaRecently, I wrote here about making the most of time. This month, I have been asked a lot about how people can overcome paralysis and self-sabotage, so I thought I’d pass on my ideas on the subject. Getting in your own way is all about how you relate your yourself. In addition to not ...
Views: 1264 - Stop Sabotaging Yourself! - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Emma ViglucciHave you noticed that when you are really close to what you want or to the next level in your life, things seem to go wrong? You are close to having your car paid off and you total it, you are about to win a sports competition and you get injured, you are about to take the trip of a life time ...
Views: 887 - Give Yourself a Pat On The Back - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciEvery once in a while we need to acknowledge how far we’ve come in our relationship. Think back on how things were, when you were having a hard time in your relationship and had not started making a conscious and guided effort to make things better. If your relationship is fairly new and you ...
Views: 976 - How to Get Support from Your Partner - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWhen couples struggle it is very common to find that the partners have not yet found a way to honor and support each other in genuine, compassionate and generous ways. Partners share that they have tried it all and are tired of not getting anything back, getting their needs met, nor being able ...
Views: 895 - Your Mindset is Ruining Your Life... - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciDo you find that you have so many demands and responsibilities calling for your attention and resources that sometimes you feel like crawling under a rock and going to sleep for a millennium? Do you find that everyone wants a piece of you? Your kids have practical, social, intellectual and ...
Views: 909 - Hit a Home Run in the Game of Love!! - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciAre you using the parts you love about yourself in your relationship? Do you bring the best out in each other? Do you complement and learn from each other? Are you a team working towards a common goal? Do you stimulate each other? What is the underlying theme to your interactions with your ...
Views: 1303 - Uniqueness and Richness in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWe bring a lot more into our relationship than we are aware. We are unique human beings with a unique set of history, parenting, socialization, wounding, and experiences. As we develop and journey in our lifetime, our uniqueness plays a role in all we do including how we relate to our partner. ...
Views: 861 - Are You Using Your Courage? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIsn’t it sad that most couples are not happy or that relationships are barely working as the partners wish? I attribute this to a lack of courage, to fear. For you see, we tend to lead with our defenses, protection and ego in our relationship. We are not attractive when we use our porcupine mode ...
Views: 948 - Freedom, Perspective & Choice - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWe leave freedom and independence to be celebrated on the 4th of July, and for politicians and policy makers to worry about. But freedom is a gift that should be treasured, cherished and protected in all contexts, especially in such an intimate and influential relationship in our lives such as ...
Views: 844 - Bring Your Self to Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIt is a phenomenon when we feel energized, connected, and alive past the infatuation stage of our relationship. At the beginning, we fall in love. We feel euphoric, on top of the world, passionate, sexy, wanted, lustful, etc. This stage lasts and can be maintained only for so long. In this ...
Views: 945 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Cause You To Abandon Yourself? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs one is a human being, it will mean that they have their own needs to fulfil. If this wasn’t the case, they could go along with what other people are doing and it wouldn’t be a problem. One wouldn’t end up feeling frustrated and as though they were on the wrong track; as it wouldn’t be ...
Views: 1526(1 vote) - Can You Change Your Partner? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2015 from Emma ViglucciMany couples operate under the assumption that being in a relationship means to be bossed around, told what to do, and to loose their personal freedom and choices. I have heard references to young couples getting engaged as “he bit the bullet” and other similar degrading remarks. I’m sure you ...
Views: 886 - Can’t Get Your Partner to Do What You Want? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2015 from Emma ViglucciSometimes we feel stuck and hopeless. We look at our life and relationship and wonder, What happened? This is not what I set out to create. Somewhere along the way you lost your path, you lost your self. And now, you have no idea where you want to go and how to get yourself there. You might ...
Views: 978 - Have Your Ideal Partner by Creating Balance in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2015 from Emma ViglucciA crippling state in relationships is when partners can’t seem to get each other and get on the same page. Partners struggle with being themselves, seen, accepted, recognized and embraced. I find when couples struggle is because the partners are having a difficult time honoring themselves and ...
Views: 842 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Cause You To Go Back To A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wants to buy a new car, it could be because their old car is no longer drivable or it could be because it no longer fits their requirements. And once a decision has been made, they are unlikely to use their old car again. One could go back on their decision and keep their old car, but ...
Views: 1388 - Is It Possible to Have a Healthy Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2015 from patti geierMaria entered my office crying. She just ended her five year relationship and was understandably upset. In retrospect, she recognized numerous 'red flags' that she tried to overlook throughout the relationship. As she spoke of her anger, hurt, and disappointment, she asked, "Does anyone ever ...
Views: 954 - Stand On Your Own Two Feet - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2015 from Emma ViglucciCouples run into trouble when the partners have different definitions of how things should be in their relationship. They operate under different assumptions, expectations, wishes and needs. One of the reasons for this is their Boundaries. Individuals have two kinds of Boundaries that play ...
Views: 1401 - I Still Love My Ex Boyfriend - How To Tell Your Ex You Still Love Him And Want Him Back - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldI still love my ex boyfriend; Are you in a position were you are thinking I want to get back my ex boyfriend? This is common after a break up because you may realize how much you miss him and that you want to try for a second chance. Where trouble can come into play is when the girl gets too ...
Views: 869 - Should I Get Back With My Ex Girlfriend - How To Convince Ex To Get Back Together - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldShould I get back with my ex girlfriend; When you have experienced a relationship break up and want to know the fast way to get your girlfriend back, what do you do? You don't do it by sitting around sulking and just thinking about it. You must take action to get it done, don't wait for your ex ...
Views: 875 - Tips On How To Get Your Ex Back Again - How To Make An Ex Like You Again - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldTips on how to get your ex back again; What does it take to get your ex boyfriend back when you are the one that chased him away? You may have done something to make him angry and he just said that's enough and left or maybe you are not even sure why he left. Whatever the reason for him leaving ...
Views: 914 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a damned freak. - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My entire adult life, I have gone out to all the places you're told to go to meet someone special. Nothing. I never even get asked out. It's like I'm invisible, and my life has wasted away because there's not a damn thing I can to do to 'make' someone ...
Views: 1163 - Dr. Romance on How to Write a Love Letter: put your relationship in perspective - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr Romance adapted this from an Alcoholics Anonymous handout: We often get out of touch or out of sorts with people – sometimes they leave or pass on, sometimes we quarrel, sometimes we just grow apart. If your connection, or lack of one, with someone is troubling you, here’s a simple way to ...
Views: 1683 - Couples Can Cooperate for Success - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaYou have probably entered relationships madly in love, convinced that your feelings for each other were so strong your dream would carry you through the tough times, but wound up feeling more like you were living in a nightmare than a dream, struggling with conflicting wants and needs. If you ...
Views: 1440 - Returning To Love In A Conflict Situation - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2015 from Kate SinerReturning to Love in a Conflict Situation It is often the case that the people we love most are those that we have the worst conflicts with. Our most intimate relationships can touch upon our deepest places of hurt, mistrust and wounding often leading to misunderstandings, distance or ...
Views: 1089 - Fame: Can Childhood Neglect Make Someone Want To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was well-known in the past, it may have been because they had achieved something significant or it may have been the result of a crime they had committed. In today’s world, this has all changed and one no longer needs to have done either. This was something Andy Warhol alluded to ...
Views: 1761 - How to Stop Being In Love With Someone Who Doesn’t Love You - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonWe are so happy when we fall in love and cannot understand why our world comes to a standstill when the love of our life decides to walk out on us. Something in us refuses to accept the fact that our relationship has come to an end. We start working ourselves up in a frenzy, cry, plead, ...
Views: 1550(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Needing Someone The Same As Loving Them? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about what it means to love someone or for someone else to love them, they are likely to have an idea in mind. This idea could also be backed up by a certain feeling or a combination of feelings. What it means to one person is not necessarily going to be the same as what it ...
Views: 2035 - Does this sound like your relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Clement McGrathYou will have your own story and your own patterns that play out, but see read through this story and see if you can recognise any patterns could be affecting your relationship. “Karen and David (names changed) came for help because their marriage had been deteriorating since Karen started ...
Views: 1374 - How To Ask Your Ex Back Out- How Do You Get Your Ex To Ask You Back Out - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreHow to ask your ex back out; After breaking up with your lover, you find you really need them and want to get them back. How do you go about this without messing up and making them run further away from you? You will first have to decide if getting back with them is the right thing to do before ...
Views: 1060 - How Can You Tell If Your Ex Still Loves You-How To Know If Your Ex Still Cares - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Vanessa MooreHow can you tell if your ex still loves you; Have you been cheating on your girlfriend and now you want to get her to love you once more? Have you done everything you can think off to convince her but not avail? You may have talk to her about the affair that it means nothing and you have ...
Views: 1159 - How To Tell If Your Ex Still Likes You - Should I Tell My Ex I Still Love Him - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreHow to tell if your ex boyfriend still likes you; Have you experienced a break up or divorce and find yourself wanting your man to fall back in love with you again? This feeling is expressed by women from all walks of life all over the world every day. When you miss the familiarity of your ...
Views: 746 - How To Tell If Your Ex Still Loves You- How To Make Your Ex Fall In Love With You Again - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Vanessa MooreHow to tell if your ex still loves you; If you have broken up with your girlfriend despite of what the situations was, you may now have the feeling that the break up was a mistake. It's not rare to feel that breaking up was a bad idea for you, neither is it strange to get your ex girlfriend ...
Views: 825 - How To Know If Your Ex Will Come Back - How To Know If Your Ex Wants You Back - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreHow to know if your ex will come back; Have you done everything to get back together with your ex and nothing you have tried has worked? Have you think of writing those letters? If not then this is something you may want to think about. There are some reasons writing a letter can work better ...
Views: 1417 - Signs Your Ex Misses You - How To Tell If An Ex Misses You - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreSigns your ex misses you; If you are trying to get your ex to get back with you, there are some techniques that many people have used with some success. You might call some of them a strategy because you have to plan or think a head instead of just winging it. Also if you do these things wrong ...
Views: 1090 - When You See Your Ex With A Downgrade - What To Say When You See Your Ex - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldWhen you see your ex with a downgrade; Have you and your ex-boyfriend been considering coming back to each other? This could be a pretty exciting feeling for you while remembering the good times you had together. Many couples have reunited and gone on to have a successful relationship. What ...
Views: 3753 - What To Say To An Ex That You Still Love - Tips After A Break Up - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldWhat to say to an ex that you still love; Are you considering coming back with your ex after a break up? If that is what you are thinking in your mind then it may not be as easy as you may think to do. It is not something that has a precise check list you can follow to make sure you do it right. ...
Views: 679 - When You Still Love Your Ex Boyfriend - I Still Love My Ex Boyfriend And I Want Him Back - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldWhen you still love your ex boyfriend; If you have been wondering how to get your ex-boyfriend to come back to you again, rest assured that it can be done. Of course due to varying circumstances there is no guarantee, but if you make an effort your chances are good. Those that think about it but ...
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