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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationships: Do You Expect The Same Person To Meet All Your Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about their ideal partner, they may imagine someone who can fulfil all of their needs. They may even describe this person as their ‘soul mate’; with this being someone who will end up transforming their whole life. There is then the chance that they will have been with a ...
Views: 2973 - Do You Ever Think How Can I Change My Spouse? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Nicola BeerYou wouldn’t believe the amount of husbands and wives that come up to me and say “Nicola, how do I get my Spouse to Change? ”If you are trying to save your marriage by desperately attempting to change your partner to no avail - STOP! Want your partner to exercise more? Stop social media? ...
Views: 1074 - Grieving the End of the Marriage – 4 Steps to Begin Healing - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Nicola BeerDivorce is a word that we see and hear everywhere. In our daily lives divorce attorneys solicit their services in commercials, billboards, print media and flyers. Television shows and films trivialize divorce as it's cloaked in steamy affairs, romanticized depictions of fragmented families and ...
Views: 3425 - Help! My Spouse is Driving Me Mad – 6 Steps to Deal with Annoying Habits - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Nicola BeerWhat’s are your spouse’s most annoying habits? Is it the way they talk, eat, sit, clean up? Do they perhaps hum an annoying tune or crack their knuckles? When was the last time they did something that irritated you? Last week? Yesterday? An hour ago? One of the most annoying things about ...
Views: 1741 - ***Is My Need For Attention Reasonable or Needy? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Margaret PaulHave you ever wondered if your desire to share time with a partner is coming from need or neediness? Sometimes it's a challenge to know what are reasonable relationship needs and when we are being needy. Klarese is asking this important question: "I am currently dating a wonderful ...
Views: 1499 - ***What Prevents You From Loving Yourself? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Margaret PaulIn your daily life, are you guided by fear or by love? What are the fears that block being loving to yourself and others? How often is the question, "What is loving to myself and others - what is in my highest good and the highest good of another?" the question that guides your actions? Is ...
Views: 1434 - ***"I'm Not Important Enough To Want To Love Myself - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover what to do if you are stuck not being able to love yourself. When you were growing up, did you feel important to your parents? Did they attend to you in loving ways to show you how important you were to them? Or, did you often feel like a bother or a burden to them? Did either of ...
Views: 1536 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't decide if she's as in to me as I am her - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My situation is different that some. See I have only been in 2 relationships, but they were really long term. My first I was 16 till I was 21. Second from 22 till 26 years old. Both of those relationships were an on off kind of relationship. So inbetween the ons and off, ...
Views: 1277(2 votes) - Your Inner Detective - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Tina TessinaThe biggest obstacle to most of my clients’ healing and recovery is their inability to understand and accept their feelings, and the emotional and behavioral clues that indicate where the problems lie. Most of us learn early that being too open with our feelings and thoughts is dangerous. ...
Views: 1426(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on Attitude Adjustment - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I have blogged before about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, ...
Views: 1599(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Attitude Adjustment - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I have blogged before about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, ...
Views: 1599(2 votes) - ***Communication- Establishing Connection Instantly - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Barbara SteppCOMMUNICATING AND ESTABLISHING A CONNECTION INSTANTLY by Barbara J. Stepp, Premier Coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist, No Fault Psychology™, NLP, DHE® Master Trainer WHEN WE MEET someone our first impression is critical. It doesn’t matter what the situation. It has probably happened to us all ...
Views: 4574(2 votes) - Top 3 Reasons Why Men Become Insecure - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2016 from Kemi SogunleWe all have insecurities of some sort but when it takes a toll on our relationships, it becomes burdensome. You may have finally met the man of your dreams but it seems you cannot put your fingers on. It turns out he is always defensive or sensitive and has answers or excuses for everything ...
Views: 4277 - Yes, I got Triggered Again! - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Valerie LipsteinOur most intimate partners know how to trigger us. Sometimes we get annoyed or even angry. We take the bait and we’re in reactive mode. It’s not a matter of “if” we will get triggered, it’s a matter of how often and what we can do to stay grounded and accept the gift being offered. Yes, you ...
Views: 1387 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Other People's Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone only focused on themselves and didn’t take the time to see how other people are, there is a strong chance that they will be seen as self-absorbed. Not only that, they might not have many friends either. This is going to cause them to feel isolated from others, and their existence ...
Views: 4858 - How to Find the Love You Deserve - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2016 from Kemi SogunleHave you ever wondered why you have not found the love you deserve? Are you getting frustrated about finding your match? What you need is not far from you, you just may need to take a closer look within. We often have after thoughts of meeting the wrong people, especially when we initially ...
Views: 1791 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages, after she asked for my advice I suggested a spousal abuse counselor for therapy. She didn't receive counseling and went on to a second failed marriage. This time even worse than the first. She doesn't understand the ...
Views: 1497 - Dear Dr. Romance: My son gets angry, throws things - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my 15 year old son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor. I am a single parent about ...
Views: 1398 - Dear Dr. Romance: It's as if something turned out bad - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the Internet your advices to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. ...
Views: 1266(2 votes) - Candid Relationship with People and Divinity – Its Meaning in Spiritual Awakening - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2015 from Gopalakrishnan ChandrasekaranWe all come to know about ourselves through our relationship – relationship with people, with other living beings and even with the inanimate things. Bringing in our self-awareness into this aspect of life, we can transform ourselves spiritually. Human beings who have paid attention to the ...
Views: 1905 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Unattractive? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can look attractive, it doesn’t mean they feel attractive or that their self-image matches up with how they look. In this case, the impression that they have on others doesn’t match up with what is taking place within them. However, this is not to say that whether one is ...
Views: 1491 - ***How Are You and Your Partner Doing Together? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulHow is your relationship with your partner? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? What are the positive and negative aspects of your relationship? When you and your partner are both operating as loving adults, you will experience many positive results. When one ...
Views: 1678 - ***"When Someone's Behavior Affects Me, What Can I Do?" - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulWhen someone's behavior is affecting you, what can you do, other than blame them? We Are Not Separate Some authors suggest that, when we are healthy enough, we will not be affected by others' unloving verbal behavior. We will rise above it and not take their words personally – that "Sticks ...
Views: 1917 - ***Longing For Connection - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you longing for connection? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another. Deeply connecting with another is one of the great joys of life, and is something most of us long for. Deep connection takes away loneliness and gives us the experience of being deeply ...
Views: 1535 - Tapping Your “Inner Mentor” to Create New Meaning in Your Life - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaSooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer. As a therapist I watch many of my clients pass through stages of personal growth. Once they work through the issues that have held them back, they often ...
Views: 1537 - Dr. Romance on Self-Reliance and Independence - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2015 from Tina Tessina"As the price of liberty is vigilance -- so the price of independence is self-determination, the price of dignity is self-assertion, and the price of respect is self-respect," wrote psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Szasz. Dr. Romance knows that self-determination and self-respect are the ...
Views: 2630 - Dr. Romance's Newest Ebook: The Real 13th Step - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance announces The Real 13th Step:Discovering Confidence, Self-Reliance, and Independence Beyond the Twelve-Step Programs Dear readers: So many of you have written and e-mailed to ask about The Real 13th Step that I'm delighted to have this new edition in print. It's the ...
Views: 2378 - Are You Looking for Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2015 from Nigel St.HillDear friend, we all have formed our own definitions of happiness right from childhood. A lot of these perceptions are because of conditioned development i.e. they are a part of our habits due to repetitive inculcation by parents, teachers and the society in general. That is why, none of us has ...
Views: 1421 - Developing Empathy - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2015 from Barry HammerDEVELOPING EMPATHY DR. BARRY HAMMER Developing empathy, or experiential insight into the feelings and needs of other individuals, is the key to developing related altruistic qualities such as, genuine caring, compassion, sympathy, generosity, patience, and tolerance for diversity. The ...
Views: 1776 - Healing Our Emotional Pain and Relationship Pain - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2015 from Barry HammerHEALING OUR EMOTIONAL PAIN AND RELATIONSHIP PAIN DR. BARRY HAMMER An important key to emotional self-healing is to fully embrace our emotional pain and relationship pain with an open, nonjudgmental, nonpartisan, compassionate, warmly loving heart. That warmhearted, compassionate, ...
Views: 1865 - Finding Our True Soul Family: A Key to Inner Alchemy - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2015 from Barry HammerFINDING OUR TRUE SOUL FAMILY: A KEY TO INNER ALCHEMY DR. BARRY HAMMER Our individual life energy form feels inwardly empty, deficient, dissatisfied, restless, until it is filled with the relational energy substance of life as love by connecting in empathic vibratory attunement to other ...
Views: 2136 - Formula for a Great Marriage! - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2015 from Richard RuhlingWith half of marriages ending in divorce and so many married couples still unhappy, this topic begs a look. Many might be happy if they kept two points in mind. This author thought he was happily married when his first wife of 20 years left him. He was in a stressful marriage for 19 more ...
Views: 1374 - Me, You, and Us: Finding Balance in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2015 from Kate SinerRelationships are the one of the most rewarding and challenging parts of our life. There are types of personal development that we are unable to do unless we are in relationship and there are ways that relationships push us to do work that we would not be otherwise motivated to do. One of ...
Views: 1477 - Learning Forgiveness - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaLearning to forgive those who hurt us is an essential life skill, because it helps develop inner maturity, frees us from emotional bondage to the other person, and helps us develop the power to move on. Forgiveness begins with learning to forgive yourself for any damage you may ...
Views: 1688 - I Want My Ex Boyfriend Back - How To Get Your Ex Back - I Think My Ex Wants Me Back - Relational Skills - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldI want my ex boyfriend back; Has your relationship ended and you are feeling like you are in limbo. Not sure what's going on. Occasionally we go through refutation that we might have actually broken up; the relationship was going so well. I think my ex wants me back; Apparently something was ...
Views: 2076 - Do Exes Come Back - How To Get Him Or Her Back - When You Still Love Your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend - Upfront Answers - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldDo exes come back; What does it take to win back the love of your ex? Getting them to fall in love with you again can be awkward depending on why you separated in the first place. Once you have figured out why your ex left you will be better able to figure out how to get them back. When you ...
Views: 2983 - Will My Ex Come Back? How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend Come Back - Deeper Truths - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2017 from Tiemo DonaldWill my ex come back; You have been separated from your boyfriend or girlfriend for some time now and miss him/her badly. Now you are wondering, how to get your guy/girl back or if it's even possible to get him/her to come back to you. There are definitely proven methods you can use to get her ...
Views: 2307 - My Ex Hates Me - How To Get Your Ex Back - My Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend Hates Me And I Want Him Or Her Back - Upfront Answers - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldMy ex hates me; Trying to figure out how to get their ex back is a difficulty lots of guys wind up dealing with. Do You Want Your Girlfriend Back After She Dumped You? Before you make that big conclusion to get her back, think real hard if that is what you really want. My ex boyfriend or ex ...
Views: 3403 - Break Up Advice - How To Fix A Break Up With Your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend - Relational Skills - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldBreak up advice; Stipulation you were in what you thought was a close relationship with a man or woman who unexpectedly dumped you, you may find out later that you want to get him or her back. How to fix a break up with your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend; Maybe you think this relationship was ...
Views: 3747 - Texting Your Ex? How To Text Your Ex Boyfriend Or Ex Girlfriend Back - News - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldTexting your ex;When the time comes to getting your ex back to you, too many people always says it’s wrong. A lot people always assume that they need to violently pursue their ex to convince them to come back to them. That is the baddest way to go about it. You will only make it worse by forcing ...
Views: 3636 - Does My Ex Miss Me? Does My Ex Boyfriend - Ex Girlfriend Think About Me - Advice Ideas - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldDoes my ex miss me? So, how do you get your guy or girl back after a break up? How can you convince him or her that coming back to you is in his best interests because of the great relationship the two of once had? Now, do you realize why the two of broke up and that you both are most likely to ...
Views: 3256 - Has my Ex Moved On - How To Make Your Ex Come Back - Signs Your Ex Has Moved On - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldHas my ex moved on? It is very important to learn how to get back with your ex because this person may be the very best for you. You may have broken up over something silly and if the two of you can work it out, everything may be just fine. Signs your ex has moved on; This can apply to a married ...
Views: 2264 - My Ex Is Ignoring Me? How To Impress Your Ex Boyfriend-Ex Girlfriend - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldMy ex is ignoring me; If you have someone that has broken up with a loved one who is unexpectedly saying that they still love their ex, what is it they are trying to say? There are a couple issues that could be concluded from their statement; that they still have love for them but no interest in ...
Views: 2739 - I Still Love My Ex, Is My Ex Boyfriend - Ex Girlfriend Thinking About Me - Ideas Does Work - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldI still love my ex; How do you grip yourself after you break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend? Does it push you over the border or leave you overwhelmed? These can be common reactions to having broken up with someone you thought was your soul mate. Is my ex boyfriend-ex girlfriend ...
Views: 1538 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Serious? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times in life where it will be important for one to be serious and then there will be times when this is not the case. If one was to come across as one way all the time, they are going to be out of balance. However, this doesn’t mean that one is going to spend half of each day ...
Views: 1955 - Should I Text My Ex First? Text Messages That Get Your Ex Boyfriend-Ex Girlfriend Back - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldShould I text my ex first? Many times after a break up, people get the feeling that they were better off with their ex and want to try and get them back. How can you go about this? Below are some guidelines to use which are not the normal way to go about it, but many people have had luck with ...
Views: 3100 - How To Make Your Ex Miss You - Does My Ex Boyfriend-Ex Girlfriend Miss Me - This Will Work - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldHow to make your ex miss you; If you have determined that you must try to get back together with your ex after breaking up there are vital steps you must take. If you still have love for your ex, try to think about why this break up happened. You need to be aware of what the situations are ...
Views: 1400 - How To Be Friends With Your Ex - Can You Be Friends With Your Ex Boyfriend-Ex Girlfriend You Still Love - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldHow to be friends with your ex; Yes a break up is a hard thing to deal with, especially if you had been with your ex for a long time. You have developed a relationship you thought was strong and now you find yourself on your own. You may have an unfilled feeling inside you and your brain does ...
Views: 1471 - Accepting Feelings Leads to Inner Peace - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2015 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.Many of us were raised to resist our feelings (don’t be angry, don’t cry, don’t be so wild, etc). We do most anything to not feel: we eat, do drugs, drink, exercise, work, text, play computer games, and in doing all of this doing, we fight reality. When we resist feeling, we block reality, and ...
Views: 2107(2 votes) - How To Get Him Back - Letter To Ex Boyfriend - Ex Girlfriend To Get Him Back - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldHow to get him back; How many time have you asked yourself "why would I want to get my ex back" after having separated or maybe broke up with someone. You are finding it hard to let them go hoping someday you can get back together with them. Have you gravely asked yourself why you would want to ...
Views: 3003 - I Miss My Ex - How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend-Ex Girlfriend Miss You Like Crazy - Freshly Pressed - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldI miss my ex; Have you broke up with someone and want to get back together with them? You are probably overwhelmed over this break up but you will stay alive. You just need to get past the pain and irritation you are feeling right now and you will then be able to think clearly about what you ...
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