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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- MAGIC NOW! - THE 5 KEY STRATEGIES FOR CREATING A LASTING LOVING RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Andrea J MosesCreating a lasting loving relationship requires that you are clear in your mind of what that looks like. You have the power to create the exact relationship you desire if you do the right things to make it happen. The 5 Strategies for Creating a Lasting Relationship will help you move in the ...
Views: 975 - The Key To Relationship Happiness - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Andrea J MosesWhat is the secret of relationship happiness be in an intimidate relationship between a couple? Both you and your partner need to be happy in yourself independent of each other. While the wish is that your partner will make you feel great about yourself, or on a long-term basis, the truth is, ...
Views: 1079 - 10 Gifts you Should Only Present To Your Dentist Over Christmas - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Cynthia WitsonWith the holidays approaching, you may be looking for the perfect gift to give all of the important people in your life. But while shopping for your spouse or your children might be easy because they’ve been dropping hints for the last six months, it might be much more difficult for you to find ...
Views: 5664(1 vote) - Do You Think of Other People As Separate Individuals? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Peter MainThis is the sort of question that people will instinctively answer yes to, without really taking a moment to consider the real implication of what the question is asking, and why it is particularly important to any notion of personal development or self growth. At some level people think of ...
Views: 2072(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I wrong for asking for more time for us? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I've been in a relationship for 6 1/2 years with a man I can see myself marrying and growing old. The first 4 years we were on our long distance relationship because I was in college in another state. We then lived together for a year to realize we could ...
Views: 2150 - Fear Distorts Perception - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Sheryl Paul“Our eyes are not viewers; they are also projectors that are running a second story over the picture that we see in front of us all the time. Fear is writing that script. Now fear is going to be a player in your life. You get to decide how much. You can spend your whole life imagining ghosts, ...
Views: 2508 - Keep Your Word - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2014 from Kathi CalahanGod wants to help you keep your word. Bible Numbers 30:2 Around 1300 years before the birth of Jesus the leaders of the Israelite tribes were gathered before Moses prior to entering the promised land. Moses reminded the tribe leaders that God had kept his word and they were about to enter the ...
Views: 1278 - Enchance Your Sensuality - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Greg Dudzinski, MS, LPCSENSUALITY! Do you have an idea of what sensuality entails, or what it means? Everyone has that smirk on their face, contemplating their last sexually fulfilled experience. Wait, that may be partially true. However, are you sensual outside of the sexual realm? Are you confusion now? Yes, ...
Views: 1147 - Romancing Your Lover - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Greg Dudzinski, MS, LPCWhat happen to those days where you would bat those luscious eyes or lick your lips just to grab his attention? Gentlemen, what about you? When was the last time you wrote that little love note expressing your deepest feelings for her? Perhaps even bought the little gift or flowers to show her ...
Views: 1488 - Get Difficult Relationships on the Right TRAC - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Janet PfeifferFor the most part, I don't associate with people who difficult to get along with. Being a sole entrepreneur, I am not subjected to dealing with obnoxious coworkers, irate customers or demanding bosses (although I am tough to work for but fortunately I get along very well with myself). Socially, ...
Views: 1473 - Competition into Collaboration - A Formula for Success - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Kathleen GageIt’s one thing to know our own strengths and weaknesses in business. It is also important to know the same about your competitors. Unfortunately, many entrepreneurs don’t take the time to find out about their competitors until it is too late. Knowing your competitors’ strengths and weaknesses ...
Views: 2173 - Collaboration Rather Than Competition – The Need for Wise Partnerships is Higher than Ever - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Kathleen GageI have owned and operated my business for nearly 15 years. Although the reasons for being in business have remained consistent, the method in running and building my business has drastically changed. The greatest change came with the onslaught of the Internet. Another huge change came with 9/11. ...
Views: 1418 - Intimacy: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings need to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that this always take place. In fact, one might be in a position where it is not part of their life and never has been. This means that some people are used to experiencing intimacy and this is ‘normal’, and others are not used ...
Views: 2891 - Who's Your BFF? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Michael MantellHere’s a wonderful poem on friendship I came across, written by David Leonhardt. Choose friends wisely, the portrait they paint Is who you are and who you ain't. Friendship is life's great support When friends are of the right sort. For all your dreams do they make room, Or bring you ...
Views: 1347 - Practicing A New Approach To Love, Relationships & Dating - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2014 from Tatia DeeI've been on a quest for over a month now. I’ve been purposely carrying several big bags with me each day. Delightfully, men were leaping and reaching for doors, holding doors and offering to help me with my multiple bags! They were all so nice, attentive and helpful! I practiced ...
Views: 1412 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I let go of a toxic relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wonder if you have an article that you've written that you can point me too on how to let go of a toxic relationship. I've been involved for 7 months with a man who is continually evasive, avoidant-attachment, manipulative and I need to figure out ...
Views: 1566 - Creating Connections: Draw Them In - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2014 from Tina TessinaMany years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it Outwitted by Edwin Markham He drew a circle that shut me out — Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But Love and I had the wit to win: We drew a ...
Views: 1273 - Dr. Romance on Giving Thanks - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance wishes you a Happy Thanksgiving! A lot of people aren’t very good at looking at the positive. I hear a lot of negativity, blaming and complaining daily in my counseling office, and I find the more negative people are, the worse their lives work. Talking about how bad it all is seems ...
Views: 1318 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Defining Who You Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, many points of view have been put forward as to what causes one person to be attracted to another. These have come from scientists, relationship experts and everyone in between. And while some of these views can sound accurate and as though they reflect reality, it doesn’t ...
Views: 1589(2 votes) - Saving Adolescents From Mental Breakdowns Through Timely Guidance - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2014 from Aditya BalaTeenage is a beautiful stage of life where adolescents learn the hard and sweet lessons of life. It is that part of life when they learn the basic lessons of being responsible, being respectable and how to turn into an adult slowly and gradually. It is almost like the second last part of a ...
Views: 904 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there have always been people who have had affairs, it is probably easier than ever before to have one. This is because of modern-day technology and how the internet has given people the chance to find someone without even leaving their home. One can then use their phone to keep in ...
Views: 1837 - ***When To Compromise…And When Not To Compromise - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2014 from Margaret PaulDiscover when compromise is healthy and when it's self-abandoning. Compromise! What does this word conjure up for you? Is it is a positive or negative word for you? Does it bring up a sense of loving resolution, or a sense of losing yourself and losing your integrity? When you think about ...
Views: 1095 - How to Have Happier Holidays! - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaRichard and I just indulged in our favorite December tradition—we watched our favorite Christmas movie (Scrooge! the musical starring Albert Finney) which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year. No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, ...
Views: 1308 - Better Intimacy, Better Sex - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaAs a counselor, I get a lot of clients who are worried about intimacy and sex. Romance books are a lovely escape from reality, and can help reduce your stress from daily frustrations. And, you can even learn a few tricks to enhance your relationship. The danger comes in if you ...
Views: 1661(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: What is the right love to last a lifetime? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing this letter to you because I really want to know what is the right love to last a lifetime? I am frustrated right now. How couples especially married, last love into lifetime? I am in love with someone, but I don't know if that person feels the ...
Views: 1562(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part of Attracting People Who Are Available? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the desire to attract someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. One could find it more or less impossible for attract someone who is available. When someone is available, it is going to mean that they are not only physically and ...
Views: 1528 - The Silent Treatment = Emotional Warfare! - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2014 from Rossana SneeThere is nothing louder than the silent treatment; nothing more uncomfortable, or abusive (other than physical abuse). The silent treatment is an attack on your psyche—a withdrawal of approval and affection—a form of punishment in an attempt to control you into doing what he/she wants you to do. ...
Views: 3620 - Heal Pain and Fear - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2014 from David OttHealing the Pain Body 1. How Our Pain, Fear and Defensiveness Surfaces The “Law Of Attraction” As pointed out by Michael Losier and Esther Hicks, both teachers of, “The Law Of Attraction,” we attract what we vibrate at the level of our emotional bodies, not necessarily what we think or ...
Views: 2502 - Dr. Romance on Friends With Benefits - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: If you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple. *If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result of the ...
Views: 1446(4 votes) - Too nice? Have I lost my edge? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Adele McDowellI have been called nice – a lot – frequently. I know people mean well, but nice can be…er, well…nice. It is so fluffy, so sweet, so damning with faint praise. There is no bite in nice – and that is precisely the point. Nice is toothless and gummy. It leaves no marks. Nice lacks gravitas. ...
Views: 2264(1 vote) - Relationships: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Letting Of The Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is said that it is not possible for someone to be abandoned as an adult, and how this would only apply if they were a baby or a child. However, just because one is an adult it doesn’t mean that they will no longer feel abandoned. The fear of being abandoned and the feeling itself could ...
Views: 1552 - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to keep making the same mistakes - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't want to keep making the same mistakes! Some people say "be yourself" other say "don't do too much too soon, keep ...
Views: 1303 - ***Are You Stuck in One-Way Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you sometimes feel trapped with some who wants to be listened to but doesn't want to listen to you? ________________________________________ One of the common complaints I hear from my clients is that they listen well but they end up just listening and never being heard. This is the ...
Views: 1172 - ***What if You Knew That You Are Never Alone - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Margaret PaulYour spiritual guidance is always here for you, but you need to know how to access it. Connecting with Spirit is simple, but not always easy. ________________________________________ What if you knew that you are never alone - that you are always being guided by a personal source of ...
Views: 1143 - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't think I want to be in this relationship after all - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am currently reading your book, The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman can Make Before 40 and absolutely loving it. I have been married for a year and four months and we are going through a really tough time right now. I have suggested counseling and my husband ...
Views: 1509(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Still Miss Him Terribly - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband/best friend crossed-over a few years ago and I still miss him terribly. I think of him every day and his essence is is always with me. I am still in love with him and cannot imagine having a relationship with another man. At this time, however, I have ...
Views: 1472 - Attitude: From Negative to Gratitude - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDespite the occasional temporary setback, my life is good, and I’m grateful. It wasn’t always that way, however. At 18, just after I left for college, I was essentially orphaned, and have had to go from no education or support to finding a purpose, supporting myself through a ...
Views: 1341 - Five Realizations of Good Relationships - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2014 from William CottringerFive Realizations of Good Relationships By Bill Cottringer “Life is not happening to you. It is responding to you.” ~Author Unknown. In order to create good relationships, correct bad ones or continue good ones, there are a five things, that when realized, can help set up more ...
Views: 1553 - Relationships: Are People Entitled To Get Revenge On Their Ex? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be with someone and believe that they are the one, and in the next moment it could all be over. They could also be with someone who doesn’t have the same effect and then before long, this person is no longer part of their life. How close one feels to another person won’t ...
Views: 1635 - TIT 4 TAT: The Basic Backdrop of Life. - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2014 from William CottringerTIT 4 TAT: The Basic Backdrop of Life. By Bill Cottringer “Reputation is not of enough value to sacrifice character for it.” Miss Clark. All of life, upon due reflection, seems to be a variation of one very basic rule commonly known as—Tit for Tat (literally blow for blow). This a ...
Views: 1604 - Get Rid Of The Nerves: How To Boost Your Confidence For A First Date - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2014 from Anita GinsburgWhether you asked someone or accepted the date, nerves can be a major hinderance when it comes to being relaxed and enjoying yourself. There are a few things your can do to calm down, to put your best foot forward and to actually enjoy the date. Do something you enjoy prior to your date Go ...
Views: 1149 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Taking Responsibility For How We Feel In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that while relationships have the power to lift one up, they also have the power to bring them down. So one can experience just about every emotion on one side of the spectrum at one moment and then experience just about every emotion on the other side of the spectrum at ...
Views: 1667 - The 5 Keys To A Healthy Marriage - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2014 from Harriet Pappenheim“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple” — Dr. Seuss Finding the person that you want to spend the rest of your life deserves to be celebrated and honored. When you make the decision to get married it shows how your commitment to one another has evolved, aspiring ...
Views: 1644 - The Power of Politeness - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaFor quite a while now, we’ve heard many public figures, like Rush Limbaugh and comedian Bill Maher express scorn about people who are politically correct. Maher even gave his show the very funny title “Politically Incorrect.” Terms like “the PC police” were used to ...
Views: 1499 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having problems with my Daughter-In-Law - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm having problems with my daughter in law . I I love her. She and my son had a relationship for more than fifteen years and were married for six. They have two preschool age children. I always thought My daughter-in-law and I got along, but now we can only ...
Views: 1570 - Dr. Romance on How to Help a Friend Who is Depressed - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaIt's not easy to know what to do when you have a friend who seems depressed. Dr. Romance has some guidelines to help you support and care for your dear one. 1. Don't try to cheer your friend up. It just sounds like you don't understand. 2. Listen, listen, listen: Your friend ...
Views: 1510 - Love: Where Does Love Come From? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people say money makes the world go round, other people say that it is love that makes the world go round. Each outlook deserves to be heard and the outlook that one has is likely to depend on what they’re like as a person. If one was an idealist they might say it is love and yet ...
Views: 2139 - Relationships: Do Your Friends Bring Out The Best In You? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that we are what we eat and while this is an area that is given a lot of exposure, it is not the only thing that one needs to pay attention to. This is not to say that what one eats is not important or that it should be ignored, what it means is that one needs to pay attention ...
Views: 1854 - Applying Maslows Heiarchy of Needs in the Service of the Intellectual and Developmentaly Disabled - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2014 from Bobby HarrisMaslow's hierarchy of needs theory consists of five interdependent levels that one strives to meet in a life cycle. Some cultures may place more or less emphasis on the importance of each level, but each has great applicability to achieving a meaningful life for all people. The hierarchy is ...
Views: 1640 - 3 Amber Flags About Women - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2014 from Bave New ManThere are many “red flags about women” articles floating around on the internet. This time though, I will address the amber flags – not good, but not absolute deal breakers either. These can go both ways, but are flags to keep in check, just in case. Fashion I was slightly confused for a ...
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