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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationships: Do Some People Reject Others To Avoid Being Rejected? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what someone looks like or where they have come from, they will have experienced rejection. What this comes down to is that it is part of life and this is because it is not possible for one to always be accepted. And if one was to look back on their life, they would also realise ...
Views: 3778 - How to Get Over a Guy You See Everyday - 5 Strategic Steps You Don't Know - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonSo you loved someone from the bottom of your heart, but he didn’t care about it. Or maybe you just got a devastating breakup. Either situation sucks, doesn’t it? However, do you know that it isn’t end of the world? There is a high possibility that you will find someone better than that ...
Views: 1462(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can short guys date? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I'm a 5'4" 34yr old male. I've searched online dating sites for a few years now and read thousands of women's profiles. In doing so, I recognized a peculiar trend in women's descriptions of their ideal mate. It's exhilarating to read ...
Views: 1380(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am having issues with my boyfriend. I was searching something on WebMD and found an article that spoke of your book How to Be a Couple and Still be Free. I started doing some research on you and your other books (It Ends With You, How To Be A Couple and Still Be Free, ...
Views: 1804 - VENUS RX KARMIC KRAZY GLUE ALERT: “Who Do You Love . . . and Why?" - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2015 from joan pancoe"The magic moment is the moment when a 'YES' or a 'NO' can change our whole existence." Paul Coelho Dear Friend, Happy Summer! Over the next few months, we’ll have a golden opportunity for some potentially life-changing healing and growth as Love Planet Venus retrogrades over ...
Views: 1911(1 vote) - Social Media: Can Social Media Make People Flaky? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is now easier than ever before for people to stay in contact with each other, and this can happen through words being exchanged on a screen or through a conversation taking place with a camera. The only piece of equipment someone needs, in order for this to occur, is a Smartphone. For ...
Views: 1775 - ***How Can I Get My Partner To Change? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover the things you might need to change in yourself in order to have a chance at creating change in your partner and in your relationship. ________________________________________ How much energy do you spend trying to get what you want from your partner? Think about it for a moment - ...
Views: 1405 - ***Do You See Your Essence and The Essences of Your Children? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you really see your children? If you operate from core shame and cannot see the beauty of your own essence, your children will not feel seen by you. Yet they need to be seen by you to truly value themselves. ________________________________________ One of the things I loved doing as a ...
Views: 1523 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Grieve An Important Part Of Being Able To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time around people who have an open-heart, they are likely to appreciate being around them. Whereas, if they were to spend their time around people who were the complete opposite; there is the chance that they will feel uncomfortable. This is because when people ...
Views: 1524 - Relationships: Do Some People Analyse Others In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it could be said that there are some people who are highly curious, it could also be said that there are others who are the complete opposite. This is not to say that this is something that is black and white; as there are going to be people who fall into the middle of the spectrum. ...
Views: 2848 - ***Self-Love vs. Selfless Love - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2015 from Margaret PaulIs there a difference between loving yourself and loving others, or are they one and the same? ________________________________________ Have you ever been confused about the boundary between loving yourself and also being loving to others? This is what Rosanna is struggling with. She ...
Views: 1589 - Dr. Romance on Living Outside the Box - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I was speaking with a client today about his burn-out in his career. This is a man who’s been very successful, earned a lot of money, and worked hard for a big, national corporation. I told him he was burned-out, and on strike, because he had put himself in a ...
Views: 1440(2 votes) - Getting Along With Each Other - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn 1998, Richard and I had a marvelous opportunity to sail around the world as the ballroom dance teachers on a cruise ship. Many of the places we saw then, such as Oman, Jordan, Turkey, Morocco, Indonesia and Israel are in turmoil now, and not as safe for tourists. Last year, when ...
Views: 1422(1 vote) - Is Ethical Non-Monogamy a Viable Alternative to Cheating? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2015 from Ketima WhitehallWhen I think about cheating in relationships, a wide range of scenarios ranging from the woman who confides her deepest desires and fears to her coworker instead of her husband, to the highly sexed “player” that will bed any woman who spreads her legs for him, come to mind. There’s emotional ...
Views: 2229 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can have the need to be in a relationship with someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who unable to be there for them. If this was something that they could overlook it wouldn’t matter, but as this is not ...
Views: 1668 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Cheating? - by Submitted on May 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman has been with men who have cheated, she might come to the conclusion that all men are the same. And if a man has been with a number of women who have cheated, he could also come to the same conclusion. As a result of what they have been through, it would be normal for them to say ...
Views: 3873 - How To Avoid Loving a Jerk - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaAs I was swimming last week, a young couple came into the pool. Instead of doing laps or walking, like most of the gym members, they were just enjoying themselves. He started splashing her, and she said “Joey, stop it!” but she said it in a placating, whiney voice. He just kept ...
Views: 1612(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Does Friends with Benefits Work? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was browsing the net and came across one of your articles "No Strings Attached Sex" which I found very interesting as it relates to a situation I am facing currently. I am a young male and I cannot handle having sex for a while with a person ...
Views: 1511(1 vote) - ***Getting Your Point Across - by Submitted on May 27, 2015 from Margaret PaulWhat happens in your relationships when you try to get your point across to someone who isn't open to your point of view? ________________________________________ One of the situations that often creates relationship conflict is when you become devoted to getting your point across. Most ...
Views: 1808 - 3 Things You Should Not Do When Dating - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2016 from Kemi SogunleDating is no longer, what it used to be. You also have to realize that your boyfriend or girlfriend had his or her own friends’ priority to meeting you. Dating is about learning and exploring the possibilities that exist in a relationship and figuring out if the relationship can move to the next ...
Views: 1441 - 20 Most Common Dating Mistakes (From a Male's Perspective) - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Latorria Freeman1. Stop asking “Where do we stand?” This question lets me know that the terms of our relationship are up to my own standards. 2. Stop being so predictable! I don’t need to know your every move. Besides you’re not my wife yet. 3. Respect my time and privacy. Don’t assume I will always ...
Views: 1684 - Why Couples Fall out of Love - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling office, I frequently deal with people who’ve heard the dread phrase, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” How can it happen that a couple who were once thrilled with each other can fall out of love? It seems like a mystery, but it’s not. And, ...
Views: 1346(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on 10 signs a guy is cheating on you - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Telling a guy you won't stand for cheating is a waste of time. Instead, be open and accepting, and encourage him to talk about his sexual exploits. If he's cheated before, he probably will cheat again. The best protection against cheating is to have open and frank ...
Views: 1732(2 votes) - 8 Easy Ways to Appreciate Your Mate - by Submitted on May 23, 2015 from Ketima WhitehallWith so many demands on our time these days, even people in loving relationships often find it difficult to make the time or effort to show their mates how much they appreciate them. In many households, the roles we play and the things we do to fulfill those roles are expected and taken for ...
Views: 1085 - ***Courage - by Submitted on May 20, 2015 from Margaret Paul___________________________________________________________________Do you have the courage to do the things you are afraid of, or do you allow fear to stop you?___________________________________________________________________ "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the ...
Views: 1606 - How to free oneself from undesired relationships - by Submitted on May 19, 2015 from Max CorradiRelationships with other sentient beings always depend on the Law of Cause and Effect and the Laws of Vibration and Correspondence. In particular, the causes driven by one’s intention that one sets in motion when dealing with other beings will have an effect and shape what kind of relationship ...
Views: 1187 - Dear Dr. Romance: I was always wrong - by Submitted on May 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: THANK YOU so much for this dating tip! My girlfriend sent me your article "You Be The Judge" yesterday. I needed this. I dated this African guy for 4 months, 3 weeks in which we were actually together, and I was always upset and let-downed. Always, his way, his ...
Views: 1672 - JEALOUSY, FAITHFULNESS AND DISTANCE - by Submitted on May 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaSo many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military ...
Views: 1390 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married but I love somebody else - by Submitted on May 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I really admire how you advise people, please help me too. I'm married and I love my husband very much, but I love somebody else so much I don't know why although people say you can't love 2 people at the same time but I do. coz I love him very much and ...
Views: 1627 - ***Why Have Animals In Your Life - by Submitted on May 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover the many good reasons for having animals in your life. “Until a person has loved an animal a part of the soul remains unawakened." ~Anatole France People who love animals know that there are many very good reasons to have animals in your life. Love and Presence Animals who ...
Views: 1494 - How to Cope when your Partner has an Anxiety Disorder - by Submitted on May 13, 2015 from Julie DohertyAlmost all couples have their share of challenges. Financial hurdles, disputes over child rearing, differing priorities, intimacy issues and a host of other areas can make romantic partnerships difficult endeavors at times. However, when one half of a couple has an anxiety disorder, ...
Views: 3355 - Relationships: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Starting A New Relationship? - by Submitted on May 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that when one door closes, another door opens, and what this shows is that the end of one thing can be the beginning of another. However, in order for someone to walk through a new door, they will need to walk away from the old door. Yet, even though the old door has closed, ...
Views: 3101 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never put up with any crap until this one came along - by Submitted on May 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ...
Views: 1318(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on The Right Way to Love - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There’s a pervasive myth in our society that there is a right and a wrong way to love. However, there’s not much clarity about what the right might be. We all have difficulty with relationships and difficulty with love. Therefore, we’re liable to draw the uncomfortable ...
Views: 1316 - Watch Out for Bad Relationship Habits - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Tina TessinaI often write about good relationship habits, so this month, I thought I’d explore some of the bad habits I see in my counseling practice that lead to strife and struggle in relationships. Hopefully, if you recognize any of these habits in your own relationship, you’ll work ...
Views: 1338 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist. What was your education track if I may ask? Dear Reader: Of course you may ask. I was licensed in 1978, so things were quite different then. I took an independent study curriculum at Lindenwood Colleges, and I used ...
Views: 1527 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Lonely? - by Submitted on May 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn't mean they will end up feeling lonely. This is similar how someone can be around others and still end up feeling as though they are by themselves. What this shows is that it can all depend on how one feels in their own company, and how they feel ...
Views: 1704 - How to Overcome a Co-dependent Relationship - by Submitted on May 08, 2015 from nancy traversSince co-dependent relationships are not healthy for you, why is it so hard to extricate yourself? Why is it so difficult to get out of a situation that is harmful to you? Well, we all hate change, even if that change may be for the better. And if you’ve been in a co-dependent relationship your ...
Views: 1728 - Relationships: Can Trapped Grief Make Breakups Harder To Handle? - by Submitted on May 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to spend their time around people who have just experienced a breakup, they are unlikely to have the same experience with each person. They could find that although one person is in a bad way, another could come across though they haven’t been affected. And they could also ...
Views: 1423 - ***Loving Yourself - by Submitted on May 07, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you asking your higher self for the loving action and not receiving answers? Ernie was having trouble accessing his higher self. He wanted to know about the loving action toward himself, but he couldn't seem to receive any answers. Because his inner child often felt abandoned and unloved ...
Views: 1515 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sexually as attracted to him as I'd like to be - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was hoping for a little advice on my relationship now that is truly wonderful and appears to be the best relationship of my life. Things are souring from my end, which I could not understand why, until this morning when it dawned on me. I have never been as happy as I am now ...
Views: 1433(1 vote) - How to Cope with Toxic Friendships - by Submitted on May 03, 2015 from Tina TessinaResearch shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family, but all friendships are not beneficial. A healthy friendship has mutual caring, mutual respect, mutual responsibility and good communication. Breaking up with an important friend ...
Views: 1674(1 vote) - Is There Really Happiness Over The Rainbow? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from JAMES MAIOHOIs there really happiness over the rainbow? What’s so special about that place over the rainbow? What’s so wrong with Kansas? Is Glenda, the Good Witch really any more special than Auntie Em’? Are the scarecrow and the tin man any better than the farm hands whom so adoringly care for ...
Views: 1420 - Is There Really Happiness Over The Rainbow? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from JAMES MAIOHOIs there really happiness over the rainbow? What’s so special about that place over the rainbow? What’s so wrong with Kansas? Is Glenda, the Good Witch really any more special than Auntie Em’? Are the scarecrow and the tin man any better than the farm hands whom so adoringly care for ...
Views: 1422 - Is There Really Happiness Over The Rainbow? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from JAMES MAIOHOIs there really happiness over the rainbow? What’s so special about that place over the rainbow? What’s so wrong with Kansas? Is Glenda, the Good Witch really any more special than Auntie Em’? Are the scarecrow and the tin man any better than the farm hands whom so adoringly care for ...
Views: 1420 - Is There Really Happiness Over The Rainbow? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from JAMES MAIOHOIs there really happiness over the rainbow? What’s so special about that place over the rainbow? What’s so wrong with Kansas? Is Glenda, the Good Witch really any more special than Auntie Em’? Are the scarecrow and the tin man any better than the farm hands whom so adoringly care for ...
Views: 1457 - Is There Really Happiness Over The Rainbow? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from JAMES MAIOHOIs there really happiness over the rainbow? What’s so special about that place over the rainbow? What’s so wrong with Kansas? Is Glenda, the Good Witch really any more special than Auntie Em’? Are the scarecrow and the tin man any better than the farm hands whom so adoringly care for ...
Views: 1288 - ***Learning to Love Your Sacred Being - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you know who you are in your essence? If you knew that your core Self, your essence, was a sacred being, an individualized expression of Spirit, would you treat yourself differently than you currently do? There is a wonderful story about a king who went into a downtrodden village, a ...
Views: 1472 - Co-dependency Do You Need to Be Needed? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2015 from nancy traversMaybe you grew up in a dysfunctional home in a codependent relationship. In the bestselling book, The Glass Castle, Jeannette Walls tells of her hardscrabble childhood. Her father was an alcoholic, her mother abdicated her role as caregiver, and the children had to fend for themselves. Walls’ ...
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