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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- MISSING MY EX BOYFRIEND - I WANT HIM BACK - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Franklin FashayaWe all experience that special relationship that changes our life for good, that relationship that makes us better. Thus, when it ends, we usually face the uncertainty attached to finding someone like the one we let go off and this can be very upsetting emotionally. So, you’ve decided that you ...
Views: 667 - I AM MISSING MY EX LOVER - HOW CAN I GET HIM BACK - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Franklin FashayaYou can be sure to be in the arms of your ex again after you’ve made that serious decision to get him back. So what if I don’t get him back at all? You may ask, well the steps that would be given to you on getting your man back, if followed dedicatedly can provide maximum result. It is never too ...
Views: 649 - I NEED MY MAN BACK - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Franklin FashayaYes! I can hear you scream that out loud ‘I want my man back’ and you’re willing to do whatever it takes to get him back. When women try to get back with their ex, they sometimes go to unnecessary lengths that only show how desperate they are and it shouldn’t be so. No matter how eager you are ...
Views: 831 - ***Resisting Happiness - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you stuck in misery? Do you resist taking responsibility for making yourself happy? Discover a possible cause of this. One of the issues I frequently encounter with my clients is the following: Sasha is in a long-term, on-again, off-again, relationship with Fabio. When Sasha is taking ...
Views: 1437(1 vote) - WHAT CAN I DO TO GET MY EX BOYFRIEND BACK - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Franklin FashayaThis is one question that gets asked a lot and there are diverse answers to it. However, the effectiveness of the answers will determine if they are worth trying out. Firstly, yes you can get your ex back but the real question you should be asking is ‘am I ready to do whatever it takes to get ...
Views: 603 - EASY TRICKS TO GETTING YOUR EX BOYFRIEND BACK - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Franklin FashayaThere comes a time in one’s life when we question the decisions we make and sometimes would want to change some aspects of it. With respect to this article, have you made decisions about your personal life that you regret? Have you looked back and thought to yourself, ‘oh maybe I should be with ...
Views: 664 - Leaning Back Into Your Feminine - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2015 from Tatia DeeTHE ART OF LEANING BACK Leaning Back is all about existing in your Feminine Power. Leaning Back is purposely NOT doing anything from your Masculine Power when interacting with a man. Remember, being in your Feminine Power involves: feeling being receiving creativity and ...
Views: 6162 - HOW I CAN WIN MY MAN BACK - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Franklin FashayaGetting your man back might become a difficult task when you haven’t won his heart over again. Winning your man back is quite different from just trying to get him back as, winning him back entails getting back all of his affection and love. This article is aimed at providing effective ways ...
Views: 695 - 10 THINGS MEN CAN DO TO CAPTURE A WOMAN’S HEART - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2015 from Latorria Freeman1. Security Show your woman that she is safe with you. Show her that she can share her inner self with you and you have the strength to hold her up. 2. Open Book Share things with her about your daily routine not because she may be insecure and not trust you. This act creates ...
Views: 4005 - WAYS TO ATTRACT YOUR EX BOYFRIEND - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Franklin FashayaHey, you’ve decided to get your ex back but keep wondering how you’re going to attract him back into your life. There are several ways to hook up with him but I believe you would want to explore the best options to achieve maximum results. This article aims at providing effective ways through ...
Views: 841 - HOW TO GET YOUR EX BOYFRIEND BACK - TRICKS TO WIN HIM BACK. - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Franklin FashayaSo the relationship ended, you let the best guy you’ve ever known slip through your fingers and now you desperately want him back. This can be a very huge step in your life as going back to someone who hurt you or someone you hurt can be very tricky. Thus, as you embark on this quest to get ...
Views: 807 - How To Beat a Sociopath at His Own Dating Game! - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2015 from Dr. Anne BrownRemember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes time in pain and sorrow. ...
Views: 3047 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a woman wants to be in an intimate relationship, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. However, while there will be some women who realise that this is because they fear intimacy, there are going to be others who are unaware of why they are unable to experience it. In the first ...
Views: 2583 - Looking for Love - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Natalie MooreI was recently in a New York City café, sipping a cappuccino and observing couples at different stages in their relationships. The age-old story: two people meet… and the ritual of courtship ensues. They’re looking for love. Some couples will find “love” for a day. Other couples will create a ...
Views: 814(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can you refer me? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaI read your book How To Be a Couple and Still Be Free several months ago and re-read it recently. I would love to receive more one on one help. Do you have anyone you could refer me to? Thank you for your help! Dr. Romance ...
Views: 1333(1 vote) - Dr. Romance on The Meaning of Life - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: A seeker goes to Nepal and climbs into the Himalayas to find a teacher, a guru he’s heard about. After months of searching and struggle, he finds the famous man, and asks his burning question: "What is the meaning of life?" "The meaning of life is a ...
Views: 1309(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have lost the umph for even planning the wedding - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on "How to Stay Happily Married" podcast. I am getting married in June to someone I know for 3 years and lived with. He is now deployed in the Army and has been since last May. This is my 3rd marriage and I feel like my eyes are wide open now and I know ...
Views: 1267(2 votes) - ***Do You Have Problems Bringing Up Issues? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you get stuck in not being able to resolve conflicts because you don't know how to bring up issues in a way that works? Bringing up difficult issues is often a major challenge in relationships. Laurie wrote to me about this issue: "My biggest trigger in relationships is bringing up ...
Views: 1520(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Shame Others For Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who embrace their inherent vulnerability, there are others who do everything they can to come across as invulnerable. This is not to say that these are the only options available, as there are likely to be people who alternate between the two. There will then be ...
Views: 2077 - Relationships: Should We Expect Our Friends To Accept Us If We Change? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a friend who they connect with, it is going to come down to the fact that they enjoy being in their company. This doesn’t mean that they are ‘perfect’, but they are going to be ‘perfect’ for them. If one was to take a closer look at why they enjoy being in their company, they ...
Views: 1566 - How to Manage Emotional Risk So You Can Get Outside Your Comfort Zone - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2015 from Pat LaDouceurWhat would you love to do that you’re not doing yet? One of my clients, Melanie, wanted to wanted to inspire her colleagues by sharing her approach to teaching students to write. But, she asked herself, what if someone asks a question I can’t answer? Or what if the projector fails and I have ...
Views: 1356 - ***Do You Give People The Benefit of the Doubt? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover whether or not it is loving to yourself to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I was having a Skype session with Raul. He was feeling down because a woman he has recently met rejected him. He was confused because he hadn't actually really liked her on their first date, but he ...
Views: 1632(2 votes) - Love in a Cup - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2015 from Gordana StankovicLessons in love are hiding in almost every moment and situation of our life. The question is whether we are ready to take an opportunity to live that moment fully and whether we are going to stay open to receiving a lesson in love that this moment and situation have the potential to teach ...
Views: 1188 - Relationships: Why Are People Who Act Superior Attracted To People Who Act Inferior? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn a relationship were each person is at the same level, one person is not going to see themselves as being above the other. This is not to say that each person is at the same level materially, for instance, but this is not going to affect the amount of respect they have for each other. ...
Views: 2969 - Do You Understand Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2015 from Tina TessinaEver since Daniel Goleman wrote Emotional Intelligence, we have heard that phrase a lot, but perhaps you never heard it explained. Emotional intelligence is a valuable skill, because it means you know how to work with all kinds of people, understand them and get along with them. Once you ...
Views: 1320 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages, after she asked for my advice I suggested a spousal abuse counselor for therapy. She didn't receive counseling and went on to a second failed marriage. This time even worse than the first. She doesn't understand the ...
Views: 1554(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Please help, our family is growing apart - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Q: My father died 1 1/2 years ago.My mom always snaps at me and my older brother and I think she has a serious problem. I personally think it's a power struggle because she fells like she is loosing control over my brother and I. But, what she ...
Views: 1377(2 votes) - Dr. Romance asks: Are you addicted to your smart phone? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaRecently, clients have been coming in to Dr. Romance's office with questions about their cell phone use: either it is creating a problem in their relationship, or with getting work done, or even health problems. Here's how to tell if you have cell phone addiction; and what ...
Views: 1443(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on her? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance A question for you: I have a female friend that I dated for 7 months - she dumped me - and is, I think, dating some other guy. The question is: I have tried to ask her for 5 or 6 different events - and have gotten turned down for each one - with some excuse - the excuse sounds ...
Views: 1272(2 votes) - ***Why Do I Attach To An Unavailable Person?" - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you addicted to trying to get love from unavailable, unloving people? Have you found yourself repeatedly 'falling in love' with an unavailable person? Have you wondered why you keep doing this? This is the question Wanda asked: "What about our wounded self causes us to attach so ...
Views: 1462(1 vote) - How to Manifest your twin soul relationship - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2015 from Jill GrahamYou've met someone that you believe is your twin soul and it feels like your whole world’s changed. You feel this incredible love and desire to be with them which is unlike anything you’ve ever experienced. It feels like you’ve known them all your life, even if you’ve just met and you can’t ...
Views: 2775 - Relationships: Why Is 'Ghosting' So Common? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperModern day technology has not only had an impact on how relationships begin, it has also had an impact on how they end. In the past, one would have met someone in person and then it would have been possible for them to develop a relationship or something more casual. Nowadays, the first step ...
Views: 1928 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Listen As Important As Being Able To Talk? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, human beings have the ability to talk, and on the other, they have the ability to listen. And as they have two ears and only one mouth, it could be said that it is a lot easier for them to listen. However, even though it is easier for someone to listen, it doesn’t mean that this ...
Views: 1643 - Relationships: Is It Important To Take Responsibility For How We Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about someone they appreciate, there is a strong chance that they will end up feeling ‘good’. Yet, if they were to think about someone who presses their buttons, for instance, they are unlikely to have the same emotional experience. And when they feel good, there is not ...
Views: 1294 - How to Forget Your Ex Girlfriend Who Cheated On You - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonAs a man, one of the hardest things to do is to get over a girl who has cheated on you. Remember that she was the one who cheated on you and dumped you for somebody else. It hurts your ego to a great extent. Some guys call and text their exes in such a way to make them regret about their ...
Views: 17619(1 vote) - 5 Things that Women Notice in Men at First Sight - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Clair RobertsYou surely don’t want to end up looking and feeling unattractive, especially when you want a stable relationship with a woman. It is profoundly significant to know what is it exactly that a woman notices in a man when she is meeting him for the first time. Of course, the first impression may not ...
Views: 2926(3 votes) - 5 Things that Women Notice in Men at First Sight - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Clair RobertsYou surely don’t want to end up looking and feeling unattractive, especially when you want a stable relationship with a woman. It is profoundly significant to know what is it exactly that a woman notices in a man when she is meeting him for the first time. Of course, the first impression may not ...
Views: 2926(3 votes) - Communication: Does It Matter How You Greet Someone? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in one’s life when they meet someone for the first time, and how they greet them is likely have a big impact on what happens after they have met. This is because the other person’s first impressions are going to be heavily influenced by what takes place during this ...
Views: 2039 - ***What to do When Your Partner Lacks Empathy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Margaret PaulHave you found yourself in relationships where you feel empathy for your partner but your partner lacks empathy for you? Were you born with the ability to feel others' feelings? I was, and one of the issues that I had to face was that not everyone is empathic. This was very confusing to ...
Views: 1667(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Are Some People Always Moody? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments when someone feels happy and moments when they don’t, and while they may prefer to be happy all the time, this is not going to be possible. When it comes to the people someone spends their time around, they may also find it easier to be around them when they are ...
Views: 2960 - Dear Dr. Romance: What is being a therapist like? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Tina TessinaQ & A with a Dr. Romance reader: Q: I would like your advice and input. I have been working in business for 12 years as a CPA and have recently been quite frustrated with it. Recently I did some career/interests/aptitude testing and found that the work I do now is pretty much what I ...
Views: 1246(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a substance abuse counselor - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I work at an Indian health clinic in northern California. I am a substance abuse counselor, or Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor . After scanning a book I found on a colleague's bookshelf called The Real Thirteenth Step I felt compelled to seek it out, and I ...
Views: 1265(2 votes) - Turning Poison Into Medicine - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Tina TessinaThe revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: “We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings” I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing ...
Views: 1269(1 vote) - How to Forget Someone Who Doesn’t Love You – Save Yourself With These 5 Tips - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonIf someone loves you then they do. If they don’t then they don’t. That’s it. However, it is utterly painful to forget someone who doesn’t love you. It’s hard to see that your LOVE is not returning the feelings to you. I was in the same situation. I felt a lot for her but she always ...
Views: 2384(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Hold Onto Past Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can let go of a relationship once it is over, there are others who are unable to do so. When someone is able let go, it will be possible for them to move on and to embrace the present moment. However, if they are unable to do this, it is not going to be possible for them to ...
Views: 6386 - How Safe do Your Feel in Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Clement McGrathWe all need a minimum sense of safety and security to relax and get on with our life, whatever we are doing. That level will vary from person to person but the need is universal. The following story is typical and scenarios similar to this get played out in many relationships. Michael ...
Views: 1268 - ***Healing a 'Fix Others' Addiction - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you addicted to fixing others? Do you believe this is loving rather than controlling? Many of us were raised to base our identity on helping or fixing others. Fixing others is often the addiction of choice for people who have a naturally deep level of empathy and who easily feel ...
Views: 1477(2 votes) - The Good Boss and the Bad Boss: Motivation and How to Create It - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many of my clients have come in complaining of a lack of motivation; from not being motivated enough on the job, to not being able to diet, quit smoking, or get out of bed in the morning. They desire to achieve both positive and negative motivations — positive motivations ...
Views: 1424(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Will this guy turn out like my wicked stepfather? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a problem. My mother has introduced me to a male co-worker at her work. We have been friends for a month. My problem is that I am afraid that this relationship may become serious. The gentleman that she introduced me to is real nice, but my stepfather was the same way ...
Views: 1319(1 vote) - Emotional Self-Control - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Tina TessinaOne of the most powerful ways I found to stop being a doormat in relationships was to learn emotional self-control. When you’re too reactive to your partner, he or she can easily draw you into a fight that stops you both from focusing on fixing the problem. Self-control is not easy. In ...
Views: 1621(2 votes) - Creating Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.When you expect to get the love you didn’t get as a child from your partner, you are stuck in the pattern of hope and struggle that you cannot win. This is a pattern that is created in childhood that seeps into our relationships (as most patterns do). The pattern comes about because the love we ...
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