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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dr. Romance: Married, Different Shifts - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn this tougher economy, couples are finding it necessary to take the jobs they can get, and that means more couples work different shifts. If one of you works a “graveyard shift” or rotating shift job that limits your time together; the difference in your shifts and commutes may mean you ...
Views: 1464(2 votes) - Relationships: Do Some People Use Dating Sites For Attention? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to buy something in the past, they would have had to go out and get it; nowadays, this is no longer necessary. The only thing one needs to do is to go on their device, and once they have found what they want, there is a strong chance that it will even be delivered. As a result, ...
Views: 1479 - ***How to Begin Expressing Your Romantic Feelings for Your Best Friend - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishOne of the common plot lines of romantic comedies involves a relationship that has to change from a best of friends into a romantic couple. The standard story elements are that one person has more intimate feelings for the other person. Or, each person doesn’t really know how she or he feels ...
Views: 1661 - What Is Love? – The Investor’s Guide - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2015 from Ilya TeslerAt some point in our lives, most of us go through the process of searching for and finding our dream home. Equally, at some point in our lives, most of us go through the process of searching for and finding the person we will spend the rest of our lives with to live in that dream home. I draw ...
Views: 1064(1 vote) - What Is Love? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2015 from Ilya TeslerWe hear it all the time, “opposites attract.” It’s said so often that nobody even stops to question what it means or whether the theory is correct. Much like most clichés, this one is a dangerous one. You meet someone and you start getting to know them. Of course, there’s a good chance you ...
Views: 1177(1 vote) - Why Should We Create Existential Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Cameron FraserIn existential terms, for us to transcend dysfunction, we must accept the anxiety generated by the awareness of the nature of existence as inherent to our lives and learn to live with it as authentically as possible. The authentic self, which is both grounded in and aware of its transient ...
Views: 1250 - Dr. Romance on: Mirrors and Teachers - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There are people in my life who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me. It’s not that they’re bad people, others get along with them fine, and, actually, so do I. It’s just that I have to work a little bit more to ...
Views: 1351 - Are You In Love or Just Attached? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Cecile PeterkinIf you are currently in a relationship, it's likely that you feel sure you are in love with your partner. But do you sometimes wonder too if it's real love that you feel or just mere attachment. Love can be very complicated, but after reading this post, you will have a better understanding of ...
Views: 1695 - Mediation With a Twist - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe all have the opportunity to be mediators at various times in our lives. Two family members are arguing and cannot come to a resolution about the issue in dispute. We intervene and lend a helping hand. Perhaps an objective third part can offer some insights or suggestions that have alluded ...
Views: 1440 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel quite abandoned by the both of them - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a number of people I would consider friends - two in particular, that have lately become acquaintances, rather than friends, per se. One, in particular, my ex-girlfriend (who was a good friend 12 years prior to romance), no longer contacts me: calls, notes in the mail, ...
Views: 1374 - Where Complaints Come From - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2015 from Pat LaDouceurLet's start with what counts as a complaint. If you tell your doctor about your headache, for example, that's not a complaint. That's because there's a good chance your doctor can help. So here's the definition: a complaint is talking about something you don't like to someone who can't ...
Views: 1285 - ***Trusting Others Starts With Self-Trust - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2015 from Margaret Paul_______________________________________________________ We want to be able to trust others to be honest and reliable. Yet are you honest and reliable with yourself? Do you trust your own inner knowing? You will not be able to trust others until you are trustworthy with ...
Views: 1398 - One Sure Way to Know if You Are Ready For a Great Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2015 from Scott & Stephen PetulloMost singles searching for love believe they are ready for love. Who can blame them? They're doing all the things mainstream love experts recommend like keeping fit, making room in their life for that special person, and doing what it takes to meet new and interesting potential matches. But they ...
Views: 1133 - Two Rarely Mentioned Traits Most Happy Long-Term Couples Share - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2015 from Scott & Stephen PetulloAccording to Stephen J. Johnsonn, Ph.D., a marriage and family therapist in practice for 40 years and married for nearly 35, "Even stellar relationships lose their spark over time." In this article, he gives "the ingredients of a lasting, fruitful partnership, and techniques for weathering the ...
Views: 1164 - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife doesn't know about my overseas girlfriend - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article on yahoo about older woman dating younger men. Well I'm the opposite, you said on your article at the end "What really makes a romantic relationship succeed is the emotional connection." If this is true then I think my relationship would work ...
Views: 1495 - Being Present: Can The Need To Look Good Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, what is taking place externally is generally given more attention than what is taking place internally. This then means that it can be normal for some people to focus on their appearance and to ignore what is taking place within them. Point of Focus Someone can then ...
Views: 1538 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Do Some Men Stay Attached To Their Mothers Out Of Loyalty? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some men are able to break away from their mothers, there are other men who are unable to do this. When this doesn’t take place, not only is it going to cause the men to suffer; it is also going to cause the women in their life to suffer. However, if a man has turned his back on women ...
Views: 4038 - It’s Time to Play Your 2015 Endgame: “TRUTH or KARMIC CONSEQUENCES” - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from joan pancoe“We are in the perfect circumstances for our Souls to learn whatever they designed this whole game to learn. If we come back into form from having merged with All That Is, what the Buddhist call nirvana, we are in the world but not of it. We play the cosmic sport. We fill the forms though there ...
Views: 1473(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others Instead Of Rescuing Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is experiencing some kind of inner pain or drama, they can take a closer look at what is taking place and start to look for solutions, or they can focus on what is taking place around them. Through placing their attention on something or someone else, it can allow them to avoid ...
Views: 838(1 vote) - 10 Tips for Healing Your Heartache - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2015 from A. WomanMy life changed completely in my thirties. I suddenly found myself divorced, and on my own. It was a pretty dark time in my life. When you are in the middle of it all, it’s easy to think that the dark times are never going to end. But now I know that it was just a short detour on the road to ...
Views: 991(2 votes) - 10 Tips for Healing Your Heartache - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2015 from A. WomanMy life changed completely in my thirties. I suddenly found myself divorced, and on my own. It was a pretty dark time in my life. When you are in the middle of it all, it’s easy to think that the dark times are never going to end. But now I know that it was just a short detour on the road to ...
Views: 991(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Lonely and probably very naive - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I fell for a man that I work with. He was married, and I was in a lesbian relationship. When I first saw this man, who I will refer to as John, I thought he was the most handsome man I had ever met in my life. I had dated men off and on, but my two long-term relationships were ...
Views: 1388 - Relationships: What Is Emotional Cut-Off? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one made a mess somewhere, they could either clean it up or they could leave it where it was. If they were to take the first option, it might take them a while, and this may mean they have to put something else on hold. However, if they were to take the second option, it might allow them ...
Views: 5974 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't shut the voice in my head - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have just read your article that appeared on yahoo today on the issue of having an older partner. First let me thank you for bringing up such topic, as it has been considered for a long time as a classified one. second, i have some questions that i need clarify for ...
Views: 1216 - Dear Dr. Romance: She runs my life like a prison - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my early twenties. I got to this country a few years ago from the mideast. I met this lady that was in her thirties, we dated for a couple years then she offered to marry me to improve my immigrant status. I used to ...
Views: 1265 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Say That All Men/Women Are The Same? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one heard someone say that all dogs are the same, there is a strong chance that they would find it hard to agree. This could be because they have owned a number of different breeds, or it could be something they have come to realise through observing other peoples dogs. As a result, ...
Views: 1412 - Can Human Transcend Their Religious Differences to Coexist Harmoniously? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2016 from Thabet Sava HassanScanning through daily newspapers, one may fall victim to despondency and despair. Nowadays, the majority of the media is focusing on the friction between Muslims and other religions. Reading all about the protests in Europe and USA against Islam leads one to believe that people of various ...
Views: 1251 - Relationships: Is Self-Awareness An Important Part Of Attracting The Right Partner? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the need to attract the right person into their life, it doesn’t mean that this will be that takes place. Instead, one can end up attracting people who are not right for them. Now, if one is under a certain age, they might see this as something that they will grow out ...
Views: 1511 - ***Are You Forgetting Your Guidance? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2015 from Margaret Paul______________________________________________________ Are you a person who has experienced being tuned into your spiritual Guidance, yet you frequently forget to check in, especially in times of anxiety and stress?_______________________________________________________ Gerald was raised ...
Views: 925 - Dear Dr. Romance: he is still stuck in his bad habits - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read most of your book, It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction and loved it. I work at a center where in talking to our clients, we have found repeated patterns of dysfunction (generational), over and over and over again, so your ...
Views: 1230(2 votes) - Relationships: Is It Good Or Bad To See The Best In People? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people in the world who always try to see the best in others, there are also people who always try to see the worst in others. In their eyes, the outlook they have could be seen as best one to have. Through having a different outlook, it is likely to mean that their ...
Views: 1418 - 6 Tips To Make Your Relationships Rock Solid - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2015 from Peggy SealfonAre you overlooking subtle ways to maintain the spark in your relationship? Intimate relationships are an essential part of our humanity. To keep yours vibrant and long-lasting, you’re likely already aware of how you excite and attract each other and also how you show compassion. But there ...
Views: 6717 - How to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Beg For You Back - Make Him Beg For You Back - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Patrick UadialeIf you're still crazy in love with your ex boyfriend and you want to make him beg for you back, you've come to the right place for advice on making that happen. There's a part of a woman that feels victimized after she's been dumped by her ex. The feeling of rejection can be overwhelming. All ...
Views: 9916 - Dr. Romance on: Where is Love? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Probably the most prevalent question I’m asked in my counseling practice is "Where is love?" Clients want to know why they can’t find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won’t respond as they would like, even why they don’t love themselves. ...
Views: 1237(2 votes) - ***The Greatest Joy in Life - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Margaret Paul_______________________________________________________ There are many experiences that create momentary happiness, but there is only one experience that is truly the greatest joy in life. _______________________________________________________ Take a moment to think about what you ...
Views: 1387(1 vote) - Sour Echoes: Why the Law of Attraction Isn't Working for You - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2015 from Carisa HolmesLife is a concert hall and we are the singers. Whether we are actually trained vocalists or not, each of us embodies a unique song, and we are charged with standing on the stage of the concert hall of life and singing it, no matter how much noise is around us. Unfortunately, the most ...
Views: 1719 - Relationships: Can How A Relationship Ends Define Whether It Can Be Rekindled? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a relationship can last a lifetime, there is also chance it will only last for short amount of time. It could also be said that there is a greater chance of one staying friends with someone for a lifetime than there is of them being in an intimate relationship with someone for the same ...
Views: 1592 - Zen + Sex = Starting Over? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaMen and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several steps to recover from the ...
Views: 1246(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It is sad that I cannot stop loving him - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I told my husband that if he cannot be with me as his wife and does not give me the place that a wife should have that I wanted to go on with my life and file the papers. He stopped seeing the other woman for a weekend. Then, on the Thursday that followed, he called me ...
Views: 1274(1 vote) - 3 Surprising Ways Being "Selfish" Makes Your Relationship Happier - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2015 from Peggy SealfonSometimes you have to take a stand for your own happiness! I have a client who, on one hand, says she's always considerate and helpful to her husband, making valiant efforts to please him. But then, in the next breath, she complains that he treats her like a doormat. She continues doing ...
Views: 5805(1 vote) - Customer Service: Is Eye Contact Important? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone could enter a store and not receive eye contact from anyone who works there, and it might not bother them. The same thing could take place when they go and pay for what they have come to buy, and once again, this might not faze them. This could be because they are in a rush and want ...
Views: 5742 - Memories of a workshop for healthy relationships - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2015 from Jerry ZondervanMy intention with this article is to bring to the light of day the process that is born between, in this case, two individuals who clearly have a lot of love for one another, yet don't know anymore how to share it and simply end up on a path of mutual recrimination, often, or perhaps mostly, ...
Views: 1434 - ***How Relationships Can Be Easy – 4 Keys to Loving Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2015 from Margaret Paul_______________________________________________________ Creating a loving relationship doesn't have to be as hard as you might think! _______________________________________________________ As most of us know, relationships can be very challenging. We generally enter a relationship with ...
Views: 1733(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on her? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance A question for you: I have a female friend that I dated for 7 months - she dumped me - and is, I think, dating some other guy. The question is: I have tried to ask her for 5 or 6 different events - and have gotten turned down for each one - with some excuse - the excuse sounds ...
Views: 1581(2 votes) - Coping with Critics - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaNo one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad I’m not more ...
Views: 1397(1 vote) - Twenty Questions Identify Codependency Issues - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs Codependency a Problem in Your Life and in Your Relationships? Take the Quiz To find out if codependency is a problem in your life, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own? Are you drawn to ...
Views: 1936(1 vote) - How To Get Your Long Distance Ex Boyfriend / Girlfriend Back - How To Fix A Long Distance Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Patrick UadialeYou've broken off for reasons best known to you, but you know the guy and what his likes, dislikes or preferences are. So if you want him back you'll know how to go about it even better this time than you did the first, so go along with these ideas and impress him back. Smarten up To ...
Views: 10680 - So Your Boyfriend Left You & Now You Are Missing Him? 7 Steps to Easily Get Him Back - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Patrick UadialeIt's really unfortunate that we don't get a glimpse into the future when we start dating a new guy. Everything can seem incredibly promising and then in the blink of an eye it falls apart. This is exactly what happens to many women once they begin falling in love with their guy. They have ...
Views: 999 - Relationships: Do People Hurt Others On Purpose? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was asked to think about a time in their life where they have been hurt by someone, there is a strong chance that it won’t be long until someone comes to mind. And while this might cause them to think about a certain event; they might think about a number of things that took place. The ...
Views: 1545 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Can't forget him after 10 years - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I live in Southeast Asia. I knew about you from the internet. I have a problem that I haven't found the way out till now. Before I tell you anything, first please forgive me if my english is not too well. I am in my late 20's and for most local people at that ...
Views: 1878(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on The Colors of You - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr Romance writes: As life develops, many of us have an urge to focus on the deeper issues -- our dreams and goals, and our emotional and spiritual development. When this happens, life gradually becomes more about meaning and satisfaction and less about obligations and ...
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