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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationships: Are You In A Relationship With Someone Who Is On The Rebound? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone starts a new relationship there is a strong chance that it will be their intention to be with someone who is available. In this case, one is in a position where they are ready to share their life with someone else. It could then be said that they have the right outlook, and it ...
Views: 1358 - Dr. Romance New Book: How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance is delighted to announce the publication of her new book, with co-author Riley K. Smith: How to be Happy Partners: Working it out Together By Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. and Riley K Smith, MA How to Be ...
Views: 1692 - Are You Just Fighting or Engaging in “Conscious Combat”? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2016 from Linda and Charlie BloomThe factor that is most likely to predispose a couple to have an enduring successful relationship is: A. Shared interests in common B. Ability to avoid or prevent intense emotional conflict C. Ability to manage differences effectively D. Shared political views E. Strong ...
Views: 1186 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Talk To You When They Want Something? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough relationships can be based on give and take, they can also be out of balance. When this happens, one person can give and another person can take, and this is going to lead to problems. Normal However, this is not to say that either of these people will realise that they are out ...
Views: 1380 - ***Have an Amazing First Date: Success Tips and Strategies - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2016 from Valeria ChubaAre you currently dating, or about to start dating? Then you absolutely need to listen to this new episode of the Get Sex-Smart podcast. Dr. Valeria Chuba and sex coach Sarah Martin share expert tips and strategies on how to have a great first date. This includes: choosing the right location for ...
Views: 8686 - *** Avoiding Emotional Pain Causes Emotional Pain - by Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Margaret PaulWe all learned many ways of avoiding pain as we were growing up, but what once seemed to protect us against pain is now actually causing our pain. We all had to learn many ways of avoiding emotional pain as we were growing up, because we could not have survived the pain of childhood ...
Views: 1470 - Dear Dr. Romance: I've always been asked out - by Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance : I just read about you and some articles you wrote about Age Differences in Relationships and really enjoyed what you had to say and how you said it. I now have a question: I am 49 years old and very attractive. I look ...
Views: 1298(2 votes) - Age Differences in Dating - by Submitted on May 29, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance gets a lot of letters about older women dating younger men, which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don’t find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn’t attracted to success, smarts and experience? Young men can find this ...
Views: 1378(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Did you recommend not asking? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read Age Differences in Dating I did date for about 3 years a woman about 4 years older than me. I love her still and we separated because one thing I felt was that she never wanted to open up about herself. The following comment caught my attention: ( I underlined and ...
Views: 1564(1 vote) - Relationships: Are The People Who Rescue Others Healthier Than The People They Rescue? - by Submitted on May 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could be in a position where they have saved a number of dogs from drowning, it could go even further than this. Perhaps they also work in the fire service, and have then stopped a number of people from losing their life. They could also find that this kind of behaviour appears ...
Views: 1232 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Experience Anxiety When They Don't Please Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that one’s life can be an expression of their own needs or it can be an expression of other people’s needs. When it comes to the former, one is pleasing themselves; whereas when it comes to the latter, they are pleasing others. True Fulfilment In order for one to live a ...
Views: 1260 - ***3 Signs of True Confidence - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Valeria ChubaIf there is one thing in this world everyone wants to have more of, it’s confidence. Men and women everywhere wish they could be more assertive, self-assured and secure. Confident people make it all look so easy. There is something magnetic and enviable about their unshakable sense of self. ...
Views: 9903(2 votes) - ***Online Dating Strategies That Set You Up for Success - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Valeria ChubaAre you currently dating - or getting ready to start dating online? Have you dated unsuccessfully in the past, and want this time to be different? When it comes to dating, It's especially important to get started in a way that will set you up for success. In this episode of the Get Sex-Smart ...
Views: 8271 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People They Can Overshadow? - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people end up with people who on a similar level, there are others who end up with people who are not. As a result of this, not everyone is going to be drawn to people who are as developed as they are. Equal When it comes to the former, it could be said that one’s relationships ...
Views: 1218 - ***The Gifts Of Laughter And Tears - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 23, 2016 When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result. Ron grew up in a household where laughter and tears were never expressed. Anger was the main ...
Views: 1207 - True Beauty: Honor the God or Goddess Within - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Extreme makeovers are all the rage these days, with botox injection parties, and reality shows. Plastic surgery is on the rise. Many people are trying to match the extraordinary measures actors and actresses go through to look perfect on the screen. ...
Views: 1415(1 vote) - Relationships: Does Someone Leave Their Childhood Behind When They Leave Home? - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets on a plain to go home after they have been on holiday, it could be said that they are leaving the country behind. Once they get home, they can carry on with the rest of their life. Now, this is not to say that they won’t have moments when they will think about what took ...
Views: 1227 - Sense Of Self: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on May 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who can change their behaviour if they need to, there are others who are unable to do so. When this happens, they can come across as the same no matter what is taking place. This is not to say that they won’t have moments where their behaviour will change, but ...
Views: 1222 - How To Make Him Miss Me And Call Me - I Miss My Ex So Much But He Hates Me - by Submitted on May 22, 2016 from Michael UadialeNot many people can fall in and out of love easily without having hard feelings. Feelings cannot be controlled, but only suppressed. However, suppressing our feelings, especially bad ones like hurt, anger, envy can lead to irrational judgement. When a woman falls out of love, she too, may go ...
Views: 1866 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have no support structure - by Submitted on May 22, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 48 years of age, never married but would definitely like to. I am doing the online dating thing for a while now and so far no success. I am currently speaking to a gentleman who lives in another state; but given he is currently a pilot he ...
Views: 1236(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can I ask her to give up her job? - by Submitted on May 21, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My wife has developed a connection with someone at work. Can I ask her to give up her job? If the guy she works with is the source of her attention, would it not be better to ...
Views: 1421(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Expect Too Much From Others? - by Submitted on May 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go shopping and they were to speak to someone who works in a store, it is highly unlikely that they will expect them to treat them like a close friend would. In fact, they might not know what to expect from them. This is something that can all depend on how they are treated by ...
Views: 1271 - Abuse Campaign of Pathological Narcissists - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FinePathological Narcissistic Abuse Written by Randi G. Fine Excerpt from my upcoming book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing Pathological narcissistic abuse is far more damaging than any of us can possibly conceive. Have no doubt—it is both ...
Views: 1496 - Is My Abuser a Narcissist Psychopath or Sociopath - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FineNarcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath? Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ...
Views: 2149(1 vote) - Blame: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Always Blame Men/Women? - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could have the tendency to take responsibility for what happens in their life, they could also have the tendency to blame others. Based on this, it could be said that one can either behave like an adult, or they can behave like a child. When one doesn’t take responsibility, it ...
Views: 1449 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been feeling lonely since high school - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 23 years old. I have been feeling lonely since high school and recently, its been getting worse. I feel like I can't have really close relationships with women and yet that is what I crave most right now. I recently cut off a friendship of 5 years because my ...
Views: 1268 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been feeling lonely since high school - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 23 years old. I have been feeling lonely since high school and recently, its been getting worse. I feel like I can't have really close relationships with women and yet that is what I crave most right now. I recently cut off a friendship of 5 years because my ...
Views: 1169 - Dr. Romance on: Intuition or Inner knowing - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When I met Richard , my husband, October 10, 1981, he was sitting outside, and the sun was glinting off his red hair, and my whole body and soul said "wow!" We married on May 9, 1982, and thirty-four years later, we’re still happy. It ...
Views: 3029 - Dear Dr. Romance: I haven't even kissed a girl in ten years - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm not sure where to begin. I am single white male tall and stocky like a football player. My problem is I'm to shy and I fail to respond when women come on to me It's like I freeze up. I'm not out to get laid but to fall in love I fell in ...
Views: 1489 - Dear Dr. Romance: I catch him looking at me with passion in his eyes - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: As a woman in my early twenties, I am finding it hard to get over a man with whom i have been in love with for 5 years. He is married now to another woman and they are about to have their first child. Seven years ago, I joined a church choir where i met ...
Views: 1485 - Dear Dr. Romance: I was controlling and verbally abusive - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 32 yr old man who is lost when it comes to relationships. I just had a chance with a nice woman which I subconsciously messed up. I didn't accept her for who she was . I was controlling, verbally abusive, and not compassionate with her. The ...
Views: 1368 - Dr. Romance on Less Talk, More Action - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Those of you who have read my articles know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and ...
Views: 1131 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Cry upon a disagreement - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Your article on "Fair Fight Guidelines" is wonderful!!! My major issue is that I cry upon a disagreement. This prevents me to think clearly, act maturely and interact directly. Would you please address this issue? Dear Reader: Thank you for the ...
Views: 1254 - Hang On - by Submitted on May 13, 2016 from Sheryl PaulAt the end of one of the interviews in the E-Course, when I asked the interviewee what she would like to say to those who are still in the trenches of relationship anxiety, she responded quite simply with, "Hang on. Hang on. Hang on." Those words have offered a lifeline to countless people who ...
Views: 1875 - 5 Ways to Avoid Court at all Costs! (by: Anne Brown PhD, RN) - by Submitted on May 12, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownDivorce can be ugly. Courts can make it uglier. I think we are all in agreement "settle out of court". How can a couple do that when they are fighting to the extent they are filing for divorce? You are probably going to get tired of hearing me say first always "Fight for your Marriage." 1. ...
Views: 1589(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People Avoid Relationships In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come across two people who want to be in a relationship, it would be easy for them to assume that they are both in the same position. On one level, it could be said that this is the case; however, if they were to look a little deeper, they might find that there is more to ...
Views: 1800 - ***Managing Challenging Families - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulSometimes the most loving act, both for yourself and for others, is to disengage from an abusive family relationship. This can eventually lead to some healing. We all know that families can be very challenging! Angie grew up in a family where she was the caretaker. The oldest of four, ...
Views: 1410 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People Who Are Not Available When They Leave A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, it doesn’t mean they will end up with someone who is available. Instead, one may find that the person they are with is physically there but that could be as far as it goes. As a result of this, it won’t be possible for them to connect with them at a deeper ...
Views: 1724 - Social Media: Is Something Only A Good Deed When It Is Mentioned On Social Media? - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had something on their mind in the past, they may have kept it to themselves or they might have spoken to someone. Nowadays, one has another option, and this is to share what is taking place for them on social media. As a result of this, not only can one share the kinds of things they ...
Views: 1386 - Healing Relationships–What Is My Part Of The Story? - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Orsolya HernoldAs people, we are social creatures living in bonds of relationships. Some of these relationships are loving, where we are equal partners, and some are challenging to participate in or even just to endure. Loving relationships need constant attention and nurturing.Then there are those ...
Views: 1196 - Don't Drown Trying to Save Others - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Julie DohertyEach of us have people in our lives that just seem to Struggle with Life. Everything that can go wrong does. Because you are a caring person feelings of sadness, sympathy and an eagerness to help come over you. How can you help, what can you do? These people can be friends, work ...
Views: 1991(1 vote) - Relationships: Do You Push People Away When They Trigger Your Pain? - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about being in a relationship, they might focus on what it would be like to be with someone who they can share their life with. This can then mean that they will experience positive feelings. The reason that one has this experience could be because it reminds them of what ...
Views: 1640 - 5 Signs You Are in an Abusive Marriage (by: Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN) - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownAre you controlled or in a partnership? Abusive marriages come in different forms. Most people are quick to think of "physical abuse" but there are definitely other acts of abuse that detriment the wellbeing of individuals at the hands of their domestic partner. 1. Physical Abuse In ...
Views: 1514(1 vote) - Creating a Conscious Self-Image - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2016 from Marc LernerWho we are seems to be the most important issue in our life. Our personality is how the world knows us. It was created from the habits we learned beginning as a very young child. We developed those habits by the way people related to us, especially the significant people in our family. Also, the ...
Views: 2082 - Relationships: Can The End Of A Relationship Trigger Someone's Childhood Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship starts, there is the chance that one will experience a lot of pleasure, and then as time passes, this could change. This is not to say that this will go from being a something that has a positive effect on their life, to something that has a negative effect. What this ...
Views: 1710 - ***Healing From A Relationship With A Narcissist - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 25, 2016 ________________________________________ Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a learned process. Learn it now! ________________________________________ Many of us have been there. You met the person of your dreams – charming, ...
Views: 1701 - How to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend When You Still Love Her - Amazing 5 Tips - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2016 from Alex J. StevensonHaving trouble forgetting your ex? Do you miss the way that they smiled at you? How they smelled? The way their hands felt in your hands? Do you think you see them on the street when really it’s a stranger? Do you still hear certain songs that reminds you of them? When is a big part of ...
Views: 2673 - When to Let Go Of a Relationship - Know These Before It Will Too Late! - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2016 from Alex J. StevensonSometimes no matter how hard a couple tries, it is just impossible to keep a relationship together. Today it has become more important to make a relationship work. For one reason or another, it has become so difficult to let go and move on when the time comes. Great partners usually don’t ...
Views: 1858 - Relationships: Is Being Curious An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go and see their doctor, there is a strong chance that they would be the point off focus. This is primarily due to the fact that one is likely to be there because they have a problem and the doctor is there to assist them with what is taking place. One way of looking at this ...
Views: 1683 - Relationships: Will The People That Someone Attracts Online Be Different To The People They Attract Offline? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to run out of food in the past, they would need to go shopping; however, in today’s world, this is no longer the case. The only thing that they need to do is to go online and to order what it is that they need. And depending on when they order what they need, it could be delivered ...
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