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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dr. Romance on Older Women Dating Younger Men - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance gets letters about older women dating younger men; which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don’t find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn't attracted to success, smarts and experience? Young men ...
Views: 1666(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Are Some People Only Attracted To People Who Need To Be Rescued? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across a magazine or a newspaper, for instance, they may be told that if they are a man, they will be attracted to a certain type of women and vice versa. For example, when it comes to women, it is likely to say that their hip to waist ratio is important, and for men, it could ...
Views: 1561 - Relationships: Do Some Websites Condition People To Believe That All Men/Women Are The Same? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is incredible easy for someone to learn about something, and this is largely due to the internet. The only thing they need in order to access all the information they could ever need is to have some kind of device. Once they are online, one can go straight to a website ...
Views: 1440 - Win Your Ex Back With Beautiful Roses - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2016 from Ayiba Tiemo• Appearance is Key I have always said looking good is good business, everyone wants to be associated with an attractive person. Be conscious of yourself, look smart and neat, take a minute to admire yourself, appreciate you, love yourself so others can also love you. When going out, make sure ...
Views: 1021 - How To Get My Ex Back By Faith 100% - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2016 from Ayiba TiemoIt’s like you are missing a part of you. It is one of the worse emotionally unstable feeling one can have. Are you in an emotional breakdown feeling down, sad, unhappy and having restless night? All you can perceive or see is how to get your Ex back? Its could be so demanding and out of ...
Views: 1234 - ***The Aftermath of a Relationship with a Narcissist - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul Ph.D. February 22, 2016 Have you been in love with a narcissist? Are you now going through pain and confusion as a result of the relationship ending? Have you been in a relationship with a narcissist? Many people are very vulnerable to getting into a relationship with a ...
Views: 1502 - 3 Essential Guidelines for Better Communication With Your Partner - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2016 from Michael BroderBefore that loving Valentine's Day momentum fades away, think of this season as a great time to focus on effective communication with your partner. So regardless of what else is going on between the two of you, by keeping these essentials of good communication in mind, you can only make things ...
Views: 1716 - How to get my Ex Boyfriend Back Approved Techniques - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2016 from Ayiba TiemoAre you one of those who abuse their spouse? It does not have to be physical abuse, it could be through harsh or provocative words or disdain treatment towards your Ex. If you have been doing such or did such, I would professionally advise you to re-frame from such ct totally eek help before ...
Views: 1421 - How Close Friends Can Help You Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2016 from Ayiba TiemoWhen you lose those persons who holds a significant position in your life or has broken up with you, it makes you feel lost without them. All in interested in is getting your Ex back, this feeling is justifiable. You may have tried some moves with the hope that your Ex will return to you, ...
Views: 3880 - How to Get your Ex Girlfriend Back, Sure techniques - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2016 from Ayiba TiemoFrankly it may be difficult to get your ex back especially when he see’s someone he already likes. But it is possible, first step is to have a positive ideology that you will have him back and no one is as pretty as you to take him from you. On how to get your Ex girlfriend back ; Well there is ...
Views: 1029 - Relationships: When Someone Believes That All Men/Women Are The Same Is It Because They Lack Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are able to see that not all men/women are the same, there are also people who are unable to do so. In their eyes, every member of the opposite gender is going to be the same. The First Side If someone was to ask a person in the first group to prove to them that ...
Views: 1402 - Dear Dr. Romance: He says he can't give me what I want - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope that you will be able to help me with a problem that i find i now have. I meet a man on line and he and i are great together everything was going great then a ex girlfriend had him put in jail saying that he was stalking her when he was really just going to his brothers ...
Views: 3695(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: 3 Tips to Letting Go of Pain - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Tina TessinaIf your marriage ends in divorce, you lose more than the marriage itself. Even if your marriage had problems, or you were the one who wanted out, you still will have grief over the dreams and hopes which have died with the relationship. The overwhelming feeling of loss can be confusing and ...
Views: 1388(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Think They Are Superior To Men/Women? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about the opposite gender, they may start to think about some of the men/women that they know. Through doing this, they could reflect on what they are like and the kind of qualities they they bring to the world. One could then see that there are things that they can do that ...
Views: 1713 - Make Love A Priority in Your Life - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2016 from Sandra MiniereHeart Awareness Month and Valentine’s Day are both celebrated in February. I don’t know whether that was planned, but the physical heart appears to be associated with our ability to give and receive love. We say: “My heart is overflowing with love for him/her” or “my heart is breaking for the ...
Views: 1535 - Relationships: Do People Who Rescue Others Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have moments where they take care of their own needs and the needs of others, they can also experience life differently. What this means, is that they can be in a position where they only focus on their own needs or on other people’s needs. Balance Life is about give and ...
Views: 1502 - ***5 Ways to Spice Up Your Valentine’s Day (with or without a partner) - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2016 from Valeria ChubaValentine’s Day is a holiday few of us like but most of us feel compelled to participate in. Many people I know, friends and clients alike, resent the commercialism of this holiday and its authoritative “celebrate or else” feel. It’s true that no one likes to be told to be romantic and ...
Views: 8837(3 votes) - The Truth About Love, Hurt, and Anger - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe're all familiar with the phrase, "love hurts". Too often, we take a witty cliché and assign truth to it. We then refer to it in times when it brings comfort, helps us to make a decision, or emphasizes a point. In reference to "love hurts", those who have been betrayed by someone they loved ...
Views: 2028 - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants it to be over - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found your site by accident and I hope you can help me. I have been divorced for one year and have been seeing a co-worker for most of that time. I have known him for five years and have been in a "relationship" with him for one of those. He is my ...
Views: 1526(2 votes) - Relationships: Do Some Women’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Hate Men? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could say that they hate a certain type of food, for instance, they can also say that they hate the opposite gender. It one could relate to the first example (or if they hated something similar), it is unlikely to have much of an effect on their life. However, if they were in ...
Views: 1716 - How to Get my Ex Boyfriend Back, One sure sign - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Ayiba TiemoYou find yourself thinking about your ex every time, you wonder if he has just as much thoughts for you as you do because deep in your heart you want your ex back. Hold on for a sec…all you think about is having your ex in your arms again. The good news is, there is a way to have your ex ...
Views: 1276 - Blame: When Someone Blames Others Can It Make Them Blind To Their Own Faults? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something goes wrong, one can look into why it has gone wrong or they can find someone to blame. If one was to take the first option, it could be said that there is a greater chance of them being able to find a solution. Whereas if they were to find someone to blame for what has taken ...
Views: 2059 - ***Learn To Love Yourself: Listen To Your Soul NOT Your Mind - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. February 08, 2016 _____________________________________________________________ Learning to discern the difference between mind and soul communication is essential to learning to love yourself. Learn how to tell when information is truth from Spirit or made up from the ...
Views: 1815 - Dear Dr. Romance: He pushed me to tears - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for the Fair Fight Guidelines. I found a lot of wisdom and thoughtfulness in them. I hope my husband will agree. That said, I don't know what you mean by "rage is phony; it's drama created by not taking care of yourself." If a ...
Views: 1445(1 vote) - You Can Make and Keep Your Relationships Harmonious - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2016 from Maria Khalife“As a teenager I was more of an anarchist, but now I want people to thrive and be harmonious.” ~ Nicolas Cage Bouncing your ideas off others can begin as a terrifying task when you aren’t completely sure about yourself. As you unfold that surety, though, you learn ways to adjust your words so ...
Views: 1450 - 3 Must Have's That Resolve Conflicts - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2016 from Janet PfeifferConflict is a natural and even healthy aspect of life. It enables us to see another perspective of an issue, to creatively discuss and seek solutions to our differences, to learn to be open-minded and flexible, to practice the fine art of compromise or in some instances to graciously concede to ...
Views: 1642 - Relationships: Can A Bad Relationship Cause Someone To Believe That All Men/Women Are The Same? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are in relationships that could be described as ‘functional’; there are others who are in relationships that could be described as ’dysfunctional’. And as a result of this, their experience on this planet is going to be radically different. One Experience ...
Views: 1539 - ***The Fear of Being Excluded - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph. D. February 01, 2016 ___________________________________________________________ You CAN heal a fear of being excluded and rejected! ___________________________________________________________ Many of us grew up experiencing, in one way or another, the pain of ...
Views: 1352 - The Best Valentine’s Gift Ever: “I Don’t Care”! - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2016 from Noelle NelsonNo, not “I don’t care about you” – that would be awful! Just “I don’t care.” By itself. As in “I don’t care that you left your socks on the floor.” “I don’t care that you over/under-tipped the server.” “I don’t care that you were five minutes late.” Because here’s the thing: nothing kills ...
Views: 1993 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Leave A Relationship When The Other Person Grows? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons why one would want to be in a relationship with someone, and while they might be aware of these reasons, there is also the chance that they won’t be. At the same time, they might be aware of one of the reasons why they want to be with someone else. In Touch ...
Views: 1440 - Relationships: Why Do Some People End Up With People Who Are Not As Developed? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together they often find that they each bring something different to the relationship. So while one person might be really good at something; the other person might not have the same ability. But this doesn’t mean that this will apply to everything, as there is a strong ...
Views: 1447 - Relationships: Can Rescuing Others Stop Someone From Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels comfortable with their own feelings, it will give them the ability to open up to others. In fact, it could be said that it will be normal for this to take place, and this is going to mean that their relationships are likely to be far more fulfilling than they would be if this ...
Views: 1597 - ***When You Reach for Help, Are You Loving or Abandoning Yourself? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 25, 2016 ________________________________________ Discover the big difference between reaching out as your loving adult or as your wounded self. ________________________________________ Dorothy asked an important question: "What is the difference ...
Views: 1349(1 vote) - Relationships: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can give people a helping hand from time to time, they can also try to do everything for them. When this happens, other people may not see them as someone who is there to give them support from time to time; they can see them as someone who is responsible for their life. Their ...
Views: 1573 - Bet You Don't Know How To Apologize - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaAre you and your partner having a tough time getting over an argument? Here are some tips to help. 1. Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it and apologize. Use it as an opportunity to learn and grow. You don’t have to be afraid of ...
Views: 1956(1 vote) - ***Why We Take Things Personally - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. January 18, 2016 __________________________________________________________________ When others are mean or rejecting, do you tend to take their behavior personally? __________________________________________________________________ One of the biggest issues that ...
Views: 1546 - 7 Must Do's Before Moving In - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaAccording to results from a recent GfK Roper poll, more than 80 percent of divorced Americans still believe in marriage, but we all know more than half of marriages don’t make it, for various reasons. Cupid, the ancient Roman god of love, was blind. In mythology, he’s been represented as a ...
Views: 1821(2 votes) - Is Ego Destroying Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2016 from Kemi SogunleRelationships experience ups and downs and can sometimes lead to breakups and heartaches but is ego part of what is destroying your relationship? If you take a deep look at relationships across the globe, be it in the workplace, government or personal, pride/ego shows up when there is a ...
Views: 1775 - Fear of Loss: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Loss? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are a number of things in life that one can’t avoid and experiencing loss is one of those things. No matter what one looks like, where they are from, or what their gender is, for instance, it is not going to be possible for them to avoid this experience. However, ...
Views: 1590 - Dr. Romance's Fair Fight Guidelines - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Almost forty years of marriage counseling and thirty-four years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to ...
Views: 1382(2 votes) - ***Kind at the Beginning…Critical Later. Why? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. January 11, 2016 ________________________________________ Have you been mystified when someone who has appeared to be very kind and caring suddenly becomes blaming, critical, or just disappears? ________________________________________ How often have you had ...
Views: 1392 - 4 Tips for a Cheater: Get Your Marriage Back on Track - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2016 from Tina TessinaTo recover from infidelity and save your marriage: 1. Tell the Truth. Assuming your spouse found out, you didn't confess—this is the time to tell the whole truth. It's probably best done with a therapist present, to keep a lid on the emotional reactions. 2. Give your Spouse the ...
Views: 1769 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Take Advantage Of People Who Are Kind? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had the chance to get something for free, they could either take what they need or they could take as much as they could. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they can act with grace or they can act with greed. Two Outlooks When one only takes what they need, it ...
Views: 1895 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Have Relationships With People Who Make Them Look Good? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to buying a new car, someone could go for a car that looks the best or they could take their time and see what car they prefer to drive. If they were only buying a car to put on display, it could be said that the first approach would be the best one to take. However, as they ...
Views: 1479 - Saving Your Marriage: Troubled Teen Edition - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2016 from Tyler JacobsonThere is no question marriage is work. It can be the greatest, best, most difficult work you ever do and when you have a good partner it is absolutely worth it. However, even the best of friends and companions can be tested by trying to parent a troubled teen. Trying While Being ...
Views: 1723 - ***"How Do I Know When The Issue Is Mine?" - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. January 04, 2016 Do you sometimes get confused regarding whether a relationship issue is about you, about your partner, or about both of you? Alexa asked me the following question: "How do you know when you are self-abandoning and being needy versus setting off ...
Views: 1633 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hate Men/Women? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who have moments when they get angry with the opposite sex, there are others who always feel this way. In this case, it could be said that it would be more appropriate to say that they hate them. As a result of this, it might not be possible for them to settle ...
Views: 1687 - Social Media: Are Real Relationships Being Replaced By Online Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to use social media, not only could they see what their ‘friends’ have been doing; they could also see what certain celebrities have been doing. What this comes down to is that their news feed is going to be filled with updates from people they now and from people they don’t know. ...
Views: 1667 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame The Opposite Sex For Their Relationship Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to talk to a number of people about what their relationships are like, they are likely to hear about a wide range of experiences. While some of these people could be in a relationship, there are bound to be others who are not. So depending on what their current situation is, ...
Views: 1558 - Dr. Romance on Creating Peace - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr . Romance wishes you a Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, in the face of all the violence we have experienced this year, I would like to propose a different kind of resolution. Will ...
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