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- “I Meditate In The Sauna” - by Submitted on May 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a call that I had with Errol Campbell, he said that he hadn’t been able to use the sauna the day before due to a minor problem at the hotel nearby. He went on to say that he meditates when he uses the sauna. I thought that this was different, with it being something that I hadn’t ...
Views: 1097 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Think That People Are Too Stupid To Think For Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, a lot was said about “fake news”, and how this was causing all kinds of problems. Along with blaming the Russians, “fake news” has been seen as one of the reason why Trump won and Brexit took place. Based on how the mainstream media and certain politicians have responded ...
Views: 1009 - A Child Can't Be Religious! - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAs a boy I went to a Church of England school and this meant that there were occasions when I would have to go to church. Additionally, my father was a Christian and he was part of the church choir as a boy. However, I wasn’t forced to read the bible and to go to church every Sunday. This ...
Views: 1423 - Trust: Do Some People's Childhoods Make It Hard For Them To Trust? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take action there is no guarantee that everything would go to plan; in fact, everything could go wrong. This is why a certain amount of trust will be needed for them to take the first step. Without this, it would be a challenge for them to take action. They might not do ...
Views: 836 - Taking Action: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Take Action? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFirst there is the desire to do something and then there is what needs to be done for one to experience that which they desire. For this to happen one may just need to need to leave their house and to head out. Ultimately, what they need to do is going to be defined by what it is that they ...
Views: 900 - He Had Something To Teach Me! - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was on a course in 2009, there were moments when we all had to pair up with someone to practice the technique that we were learning. I would try to work someone who I felt comfortable with, and was something that just about everyone else did. Towards the end of the course, we were ...
Views: 1199 - It Takes Courage To Heal Ourselves! - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, I was speaking to someone who had a less-than nurturing childhood, and this was something that had left them in a bad way. There was the impact it had had on how they saw themselves and then there was the trauma that they were carrying. Then again, it might be more accurate ...
Views: 1374 - He Wanted To Kill Himself After His Partner Left Him! - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I spoke to someone whose son had gone through a break up, and this was something that had a big impact on him. She didn’t say how long he had been with her for, but she did go into what he had gone though. He ending up losing the will to live and, as a result of this, he ...
Views: 1187 - Receiving: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Receive? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that in order for someone to be able to give, they will need to be able to receive. With this in mind, being able to receive is the first part and being able to give is the second part. Right at the Beginning Another way of understanding this would be for one to go back ...
Views: 1401 - The Value Of Your Work Is Not Defined By How Many ‘Likes’ You Get! - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was speaking to a friend of mine the other day called, Wain, and he was talking about the work that he had been sharing on social media. He had recently created another page and had put in a fair amount of work to build it up. From what he was saying, it made me think about how it is easy ...
Views: 1085 - Our Value Is Not Defined By How Many 'Likes' We Get! - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember hearing about someone who only felt good about themselves if they received a certain amount of likes on a social media site. This person was sharing pictures of their face and their body. If they received a certain amount of likes everything would be fine, but if they didn’t, ...
Views: 1097(1 vote) - Travelling Is Great For Developing The Masculine Aspect! - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring my time in Sweden, Stockholm, I was reminded of how good it was to travel. Before I went away, the last time I went aboard was a number of years ago, and this meant that I had pretty much forget about what it was like to go away. When I was away, it was clear that I was the one who ...
Views: 962 - “There Is No Reason To Feel Ashamed If You Have Mental And Emotional Problems!” - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I was talking to someone who said that one of their friends had suffered from depression in the past and, along with this, another one of their friends had recently revealed that they were not in a good way. I don’t think it came as a surprise for them to hear about what their ...
Views: 954 - “My Healing Technique Is The Only One That Works!” - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2015, I was speaking to a therapist called, Vijay Rana, about different healing techniques. I was talking about how some people believe that their technique is the best one available or the only one that works. After bringing this up, I went into why I thought that it wasn’t a good idea ...
Views: 1115 - Are Your Intentions Pure? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I have spoken my friend Wain about what I was working on in the past, he has often asked me what I was trying to achieve. Additionally, he has asked me what I was looking to receive after I had done something. These questions had a big effect on me, and I wasn’t quite sure how to ...
Views: 1400 - Do You Put Up With Bad Service? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe time had come for me to see my friend Wain again, and I was looking forward to telling him about my time in Stockholm, Sweden. But, I knew that this wouldn’t be a time when we would simply talk about what we had been up to. I knew that we wouldn’t talk about ‘normal’ things, and this ...
Views: 1247 - “Are Open Borders A Good Idea?” - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI had arranged to speak to Errol again and before our call, there was something that I wanted to talk to him about. What I wanted to know was what his views were on open borders and if he thought we no longer needed them. This topic was on my mind due to what someone had shared on social ...
Views: 1251 - Masculinity: What Can Happen If A Man Grew Up Without A Father? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for a man to have been brought up without a father. Or, even if his father was around when he was growing up, he might not have been emotionally available. Therefore, a man may have had his father around during the beginning of his life, but that doesn’t mean ...
Views: 1237 - "You Have To Kill Your Inner Parents!" - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of 2016, I could see that I needed to work on my boundaries and to feel better about myself. When it came to the former, this wasn’t just about me saying no; it was also about me listening to my own needs and no longer trying to please others. As for the latter, I could see that ...
Views: 1253 - I Watched 'Ready Player One' The Other Night - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFirstly, if you haven’t watched 'Ready Player One' and you plan to watch it, it might be a good idea to read this article at a later date. The reason for this is that I don’t want to give any of the film away or to influence how you perceive it. I had heard about this film a number of years ...
Views: 1170 - Relationships: What Can Happen To Someone When Their Partner Denies That They Are Cheating? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in relationship, they will have the opportunity to grow and to heal any wounds that they may have. This can mean that there will be moments that are deeply fulfilling and moments that are extremely painful pain. What will play a big part here is how much pain one is carrying. ...
Views: 1264 - I Wanted To Embrace The Swedish Culture! - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I knew that I would be going to Sweden, Stockholm, I started to think about what it would be like. Going away didn’t consume my mind, though, as I was engaged with what was taking place in my life. I wanted to go away, no doubt about it; but I wasn’t in a position where I needed to ...
Views: 1103 - “Shadow Work Is Important!” - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe last time I spoke to a friend of mine called, Errol Campbell, we touched upon the effect that the mother/father wound can have on someone , and this time we looked into another important area. But before I got into what this was, I want to talk about how this topic came up. This was ...
Views: 1093 - Dating: Can Someone End Up With The Wrong Person If They Need Attention? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are a number of reasons as to why one would want to be with another person. And while they might be aware of what these reasons are, there is also the chance that they won’t be aware of all of them. For example, one might want to share their life with someone; ...
Views: 1133 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Be Disconnected From Their Instincts? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a terrorist attack has taken place in England, people are usually told that they shouldn’t get angry. Getting angry after something like this has taken place is seen as something negative. Instead, people are expected to just carry on as normal and to not allow themselves to experience ...
Views: 1197 - Travelling Is Great For Self-Development! - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I went to Stockholm, Sweden, I was reminded of how good it was to travel, and the experience was very similar to how I felt when I have travelled in the past. When I went away last time, I came back feeling alive. In addition to this, I saw myself differently and a lot of my thoughts ...
Views: 1064 - Dating: Will A Man Suffer If He Puts A Woman On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on May 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man has only just met a woman, he may have the desire to find out more about what she is like. In this case, he will find her physically attractive but that is not going to be enough to seal the deal, so to speak. If he just wanted to share his body with her, it could be said that ...
Views: 1140 - I Went To Sweden For A Few Days - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of March, I ended up going to Stockholm, Sweden for a few days and this was somewhere where I had never been before. As a result of this, I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. Having said that, what I did know is that it was going to be fairly cold and that it was supposed to be ...
Views: 1122 - Critical Thinking: Are Women Portrayed As Victims In The Western World? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it would be easy to believe that the mainstream media exists to tell people what is actually taking place in the world, this is rarely what happens. Instead, this source of information has their own narrative that they impose upon others Now, this is not to say that there is only ...
Views: 1157 - “It’s Called The Fight Instinct!” - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few years ago, I could see that I found it hard to stand my ground and to assert myself. But even though I could see that this was a problem for me, I wasn’t sure about what I could do to change this. And although part of me had had enough of experiencing life in this way, another part of ...
Views: 1173 - “Changing Your Environment Is The Easiest And Quickest Way To Change Your Thinking!” - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI recently went to Stockholm, Sweden, and while I was there I spent time with a friend who I met many years ago. This was Peter, and this was someone who I met when I did a healing course in London towards the end of 2009. After I spent time with him in London, I ended up meeting him again ...
Views: 996 - Assertiveness: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to come across information about how to be assertive, and this surely shows how much of a challenge this is for so many people. If someone was to read a book on this subject, it could be for one of two reasons. Two Experiences On the one hand, it could be a sign that ...
Views: 1220 - Celebrities: Are Celebrities Being Used To Indoctrinate Children? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about a singer or an actor, for instance, they could say that these people have one purpose. When it comes to the former, they could say that their purpose is to sing and, when it comes to the latter, they could say that their purpose is to act. Clear As Day This ...
Views: 1257 - This Technique Actually Heals Trauma! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround the middle of last year, there was a day when I felt like trying yoga again, and this was partly due to the fact that I felt lighter. What also gave me a boost was that I had just spent the afternoon with a friend. I had thought about doing this before, but I hadn’t taken the next ...
Views: 2136 - True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Express Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the ability to express what is taking place within them, they will probably be seen as someone who is in tune with themselves. They will be able to share their thoughts and feelings, and being this way will affect every area of their life. Authentic Being this way is going to ...
Views: 1167 - Free Speech: Is Being Offended A Great Way To Control People? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the western world, offending someone is often seen as being as bad, if not worse, than actually causing harm. When someone has this view, words are going to be seen as another form of violence. It will then be necessary to punish a person who has said something that is ‘offensive’, and ...
Views: 1162 - True-Self: Can Someone Leave Their Body When They Don’t Feel Safe? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, the title of this article might sound a bit strange, and it could be said that this is not going to be much of a surprise. After all, it can seem more or less impossible for someone to ‘leave their body’. To be human means having a body and, if someone lost this part of them, ...
Views: 971 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up To Feel Safe With Abuse? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people in the world who are in healthy relationships, there are others who aren’t. As a result of this, some people are going to be with people who have a negative effect on them. Zero Tolerance If someone is in a healthy relationship, or if they have had them in the past, ...
Views: 1128 - The Abuse Was Passed From One Generation To Another! - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have had many conversations with my mother about what her childhood was like. This wasn’t simply because I wanted to know what this time in her life was like; it was because I wanted to find out why she behaved the way she did. As the years went by she settled down and was ...
Views: 1275 - Anxiety: Can Someone End Up With Anxiety Problems If They Don’t Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough mental and emotional problems have taken centre stage in today’s world, there was a time when they were not really given the time of day. One way to look at this would be to say that it is a good thing that this has taken place. A Healthier Approach The reason for this is that if ...
Views: 1177 - Image-Obsessed: Can Someone Try To Look Perfect When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman wanted to change her appearance in the past, she may have had a boob job. Nowadays, this is just one of a number of procedures that a woman can have to change how she looks. Plenty of Options If she isn’t happy with her weight, she could have fat removed, and this will mean ...
Views: 1052 - Fight Instinct: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where someone lives on this planet, they are going to need to be able to stand their ground and to protect themselves. What this will do is stop them from being walked over by other people. Now, this is not to say that everyone who one will come across will have the desire to harm ...
Views: 1085 - Anger: Can Someone End Up With Anger Problems If They Don't Feel Safe Enough To Fulfil Their Needs? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of emotional problems that are fairly common in today’s world, and it is hard to say for certain how common they are. Even so, this is not to say that each problem will receive the same amount of sympathy. For example, if someone suffers from depression, they may find ...
Views: 1148 - Needs: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Fulfil Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBeing happy is often seen as the purpose of life, and this means that a lot of people want to experience life in this way. Therefore, if someone is unhappy, they can feel compelled to find a way to be happy. Now, this could mean that they will come to believe that they will be happy once ...
Views: 1111 - Free Speech: Why Is The United Kingdom Banning Free Speech? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAs time goes by, it is becoming increasingly difficult for someone to speak their mind in the United Kingdom. Free speech – the ability for someone to share their views – is gradually been curtailed. As a result of this, certain things are now being called ‘hate speech’. But even though free ...
Views: 1165 - Assertiveness: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living a fulfilling life, it is going to be vital for someone to be able to listen to their own needs. The other part of this will be for them to feel comfortable enough to fulfil them. A Life worth Living This is not to say that they will always be able to fulfil their ...
Views: 1107 - Critical Thinking: Does Identity Politics Cause Some People To Suffer From Thinkaphobia? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the main purpose of the education system is to give people the guidance that they need in order to be able to think for themselves. Along with this, it will be important for them to receive the tools that they need to stand on their own two feet. In an ideal world, that ...
Views: 1077 - Critical Thinking: Is The Establishment Only Interested In Silencing Dissenters? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, three public figures tried to enter the UK, only to end up behind bars for a few days. These people were seen as a threat due to the views that they had, and this meant that they had to go somewhere else once they were released. An Odd Scenario If this is taken at ...
Views: 1028 - Relationships: Is Our Life Defined By The Inner Models That Other People Have Of Us? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone for the first time, they might not know anything about them. However, once they have spent a little while in their company, they will start to construct an inner model of what they are like. This inner model is then going to define how they interpret just about ...
Views: 1003 - Self-Development: Do Some People Only Judge Others If They Haven't Faced Their Own Issues? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the people who are into self-development, it could be said that they all have one thing in common. What they all want is to do is to grow and to make their life better in some way. With this in mind, it is going to be a good idea for these kinds of people to spend time ...
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