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- Critical Thinking: Is Being Offended A Way For Someone To Feel Significant? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNot a day goes by where hundreds, if not thousands, of people are not offended about something. This is something that can happen after they have watched a video or read something, for instance. And in addition to being offended themselves, they can also end up being offended on behalf of ...
Views: 1021 - Emotional Awareness: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Ignore Their Own Pain? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a light will usually appear on the dashboard of a car when something isn’t right, someone will usually experience pain when something is not right. Through paying attention to this pain, they will be able to do something about it. On the one hand, there will be physical ...
Views: 949 - You Are The Light At The End Of The Tunnel! - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago I was talking to my friend Wain about how important it is keep gong and not to give up. After this I think I said that if we do this, the light at the end of the tunnel will appear. He went on to share something that one of his friends had said to him around his ...
Views: 784 - Critical Thinking: Should People Be Punished For What Their Ancestors Did? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not unusual for someone to believe that certain people should be punished for what their ancestors did. When someone has this view, it can be due to what they have picked up from the education system and the mainstream media. This doesn’t mean that someone like this will ...
Views: 1177 - Critical Thinking: Do We Need To Stop Using The Term ‘Mental Illness’? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where their inner world is generally out of control, for instance, they may believe that they have mental health problems. This could have taken place after they did some research online, or it could be the result of what their doctor has said to them. Then again, ...
Views: 836 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel More At Peace When They No Longer Need Anything From The People Who Abused Them? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused at the beginning of their life, it is likely to mean that they experienced a lot of pain during this time. In addition to this, most, if not all, of their development needs might not have been met. As a result of this, even though a number of years will have passed ...
Views: 2285 - Relationships: How Can A Woman Tell If A Man Is Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman may find that it is relatively easy for her to attract a man, what she may also find is that she is unable to find a man who actually wants a relationship. This may mean that she has been with a number of men who were emotionally unavailable. Even so, this doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 922 - Being Seen: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Stop Someone From Reaching Out For Support? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a big part of success is simply turning up, and this shows how important it is to take the first step. If the first step is not taken, it won’t be possible for someone to get the ball rolling, so to speak. What typically stops someone from taking the first step is fear, ...
Views: 964 - Child Development: Do Mothers Love Unconditionally And Fathers Love Conditionally? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that there is the being and then there is the doing, and that both of these aspects are important. Therefore, if someone can only embrace one of these aspects, they are going to be out of balance. Another way to look at this dynamic would be to be to say that there is the ...
Views: 1215 - Critical Thinking: Is Being Able To Cause Offence Part Of Free Speech? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media often talks about people who have caused offence and how these people need to apologise for what they have done. Additionally, it is not uncommon for people in the public eye also say this. Based on this, offending someone is tantamount to physically harming them. So, in ...
Views: 822 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Take Other People's Pain Away? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperPain is something that everyone on the planet experiences and, therefore, it is one of the things that connect human beings. However, although pain is something that can’t be avoided, it doesn’t mean that everyone is willing to accept this. When someone is not willing to accept that this is ...
Views: 942 - Being Present: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Stop Someone From Being Able To Be Present? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNumerous books have been written about the importance of being present and how to be present. These kinds of books can go into how the body is always in the moment but the mind, on the other hand, is always trying to be somewhere else. When someone is in the present moment, there is nothing ...
Views: 940 - Critical Thinking: Does The West’s Obsession With Tolerance Show How Out Of Balance It Has Become? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, a day rarely goes by when someone in the public eye won’t talk about how important it is to be tolerant. This is often seen as the ultimate value to have; it is as though it is the answer to most, if not all, problems. Therefore, the more that people are willing to allow ...
Views: 955 - Masculinity: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Masculine Aspect? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be in a position where they find it hard to stand their ground. Therefore, instead of assertive themselves when it is necessary, they just allow other people to walk over them. Along with this, they may have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say ...
Views: 740 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can stop one from being able to have a fulfilling relationship, and ending up with someone who is unavailable will be one of the things that will stop them from being able to fulfil this need. When this takes place, they can find it hard to understand how this ...
Views: 876 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Attract Men Who Are Aloof? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman has the tendency to end up with men who are unavailable, it is naturally going to have a negative effect on her wellbeing. Her desire to be with a man who is available is not going to be met, so it is to be expected that this won’t be something that she can simply overlook. If ...
Views: 931 - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Only Interested In Women Who Need To Be Saved? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man and a woman are together, and they are both in touch with their power, there will be no need for one of them to try to rescue the other. They will both have boundaries and they won’t be carrying too much baggage. So, instead of seeing each other as competitors; they will be able ...
Views: 1549 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want To Destroy Masculinity? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone pays attention to the mainstream media on a regular basis, they may have heard the term ‘toxic masculinity’. And even if they don’t pay attention to this source of information, they may have still heard this term. This could be because they are at university or have been there in ...
Views: 959 - Relationships: Do Some People Need To Experience A Few Bad Relationships Before They Can Appreciate A Good One? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who will feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who is not abusive, while there will be others who won’t. Therefore, if someone who can relate to the former was to end up with someone who is abusive, they would probably soon walk away. And, if someone ...
Views: 971 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Want To Save The World? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to act as though it is their purpose to save the world. The world is then going to be in a mess and it will be up to them to do something about it. This could be something that will consume their whole life, meaning that it will be hard for them to ...
Views: 1032 - Healing: Is The Masculine Aspect Important When It Comes To Healing? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is carrying pain that needs to be faced and acknowledged, and this pain is avoided, it can lead to a whole host of problems. There can be the effect it has on their mind, emotional body, and their physical body. As a result of this, this pain is naturally going to play a big ...
Views: 911 - Relationships: Who Do Some People Focus On Other People’s Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one will have their own life to lead while they are on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they will actually have their own life. Instead, they could end up spending most of their tine focusing on other people’s problems. When this takes place, they could end up being seen as ...
Views: 747 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have The Need To Be Needed'? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who are not interested in trying to rescue or save other people, there are others who are. As a result of this, some people will be repelled by these kinds of people and some will be drawn to them like bees to a honey pot. And no matter what kind of people someone is ...
Views: 1117 - Black Panther: Did ‘Black Panther’ Emphasize How Important It Is To Heal Ancestral Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen ‘Black Panther’ came out earlier on in the year, I heard that it was a really good film. A few friends of mine said it was good and one of them said that they were willing to see it again if I wanted to go. I didn’t go to the cinema in the end and I ended up forgetting all about the ...
Views: 942 - Critical Thinking: Did The Establishment Set Up The Alternative Media? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to find out about what is going on in the world, they might end up looking towards the alternative media. This can be seen as the only news source that does what it is supposed to do – to report on what is actually going on. It might then be accurate to say that this person ...
Views: 948 - Critical Thinking: Why Do So Many Celebrities Support Open Borders? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to look towards a celebrity for guidance. Consequently, it won’t matter if a celebrity is a good singer, actor/actress, or any else for that matter, as they will be seen as an authority on just about everything under the sun. Now, if someone has ...
Views: 1069 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Swallow Everything The Mainstream Media Comes Out With? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, the mainstream media’s power has waned but that doesn’t mean that there are not a lot of people who still pay attention to this source of information. Some of the people who look towards this source to tell what is going on will be in the latter stages of their life, while there ...
Views: 1005 - How Can You Tell If A Tarot Reader Is Psychic? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had had a number of readings, I started to think about how it was possible for someone to predict what would happen to me as time went by. I wondered if certain things would only happen because I had ended up believing that they would happen. If this was the case, it was as though a ...
Views: 1393(1 vote) - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Be Compassionate Towards The People Who Abused Them? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was treated badly during the beginning of their life, by the very people who were supposed to love and protect them, the last thing on their mind can be to show them compassion. In fact, what they could think about is how they would like to get revenge for what was done to them. ...
Views: 1149 - Relationships: Can Smartphone’s Destroy Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it is easy for someone not embrace each day of the week due to being completely absorbed in what will happen at the weekend, it is also just as easy for them to ignore the people in their life due to being completely absorbed in their Smartphone. In each of these cases, the ...
Views: 1016 - Humans Beings Have Been Conditioned To Be Submissive - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFrom a very young age most of us were taught to respect authority; it started with our parents, then went onto include our teachers, and continued with the people we worked for. There will also have been the government, the media, and there might have even been different religious leaders. ...
Views: 1133 - Don’t Try To Save Or Rescue Anyone! - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I went on a Hoffman process introduction day, there was a moment when I had this sense that we would all be told not to try to rescue or save anyone during the day. I ended up putting this insight to one side. After I had been at this introduction day for about an hour or so, one of ...
Views: 1143 - Are You In A Relationship With Someone Who Is More Like Your Son/Daughter? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was thinking about how there were times when I had come across couples who appeared to be out of balance. When this was the case, it was as though it was more like a parent-child relationship and not an adult to adult relationship. One of them was more like a parent to the ...
Views: 1206 - Are You Playing A Role In Life? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperSince I did the Hoffman process introduction day, I have been thinking about the roles that I used to play as a child. The reason for this is that this one was one of the things that we looked into. I came to see that I was often the peacemaker, the helper, the responsible one, and the ...
Views: 1147 - I Went On A Hoffman Process Introduction Day - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I ended up hearing about the Hoffman process and I was told that this was a powerful process. This was put forward as something that would allow someone to let go of the patterns in their life that are holding them back. I wanted to find out more about this process, and ...
Views: 1076 - Critical Thinking: Was Everything Fine Before Trump Became President? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDue to Trump’s visit to England, he has received more media coverage than usual, and this has also meant that certain people have spent more time talking about him than they usually would. It is as though some people can’t stop thinking about Trump; their whole life appears to revolve around ...
Views: 1059 - Don't Do Anything For Recognition! - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a month ago, I had a call from a publisher that was trying to sell me some kind of publishing package. This was a publisher that had contacted me a number of times in the past and, each time this took place, I made it clear that I was not willing to go down this route. After I spoke ...
Views: 1051 - Smartphone’s Are Stopping Us From Living In The Moment! - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether I walk through a shopping area or go into a coffee shop, I see people who are glued to their Smartphone’s. One of the reasons why this stands out is because I usually leave mine at home. If I didn’t do this, I would probably be too busy looking down to really notice ...
Views: 812 - Do You Want To Become More Grounded? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I was thinking about trying Tai Chi, yet I didn’t end up taking the next step. Since that time, there have been moments when it has crossed my mind, and a little while ago, I spoke to someone who did Qigong. They told me that it was good for grounding, amongst others ...
Views: 993 - It Is Important To Be Able To Cry! - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was sat next to someone and soon after this, their partner came over and had a good cry in their presence. I was in awe of how easy it was for this person to cry and that it didn’t even matter that I was there. It was then clear that this person had a good connection with ...
Views: 865 - You Have Daddy Issues! - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other day about how, over the years, I had heard a number of people say that certain women had “daddy issues”. This was something that was said if a woman blamed all men for everything and hated men, or even if she had the tendency to go for older men. However, although ...
Views: 1162 - You Don't Need Anyone To Love You! - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt’s not uncommon for someone to say that they want someone to love them, and this is what will motivate them to look for another person to be with. They might believe that everything will be fine after they have found someone like this. At an emotional level, they are likely to feel empty, ...
Views: 1061 - Don’t Put Women On A Pedestal! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile I was out the other day I saw a woman who was wearing a fair amount of makeup, and seeing this woman had quite a big effect on me. But, even though part of me was responding to what I had seen, another part of me thought about how strange this all was. For one thing, I didn’t know ...
Views: 1252 - You Only Need To Listen! - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is going through a challenging time, for instance, it can be easy to assume that they need advice. It is then going to be as though they don’t know what do, meaning that they will need to be saved. One can then end up feeling a lot of pressure - pressure that will arise through ...
Views: 984 - Critical Thinking: Does Someone Suffer From Xenophobia If They Are Against Open Borders? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the fact that a number of countries in Middle East have been disrupted by the establishment, it has meant that a lot of people have been displaced. Before this happened, people were told that these countries were basically a threat to their survival, which meant that something needed to ...
Views: 987 - Their Arm Was Covered In Cuts! - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day, I saw someone who had all these cuts on their forearm and I thought that this person must self-harm. Over the years, I have seen a number of people with arms that have received a lot of harm. But, whenever I see something like this, I usually feel pain through ...
Views: 1247 - Is Dubai A Physical Representation Of The Conscious And Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, I have come across a number of people who will be moving to Dubai, and this has made me think about the place. I have never been there, but I have seen pictures, videos and heard stories about it. On the surface, it seems as though it is paradise on earth; everything looks perfect ...
Views: 835 - Do You End Up With People Who Are You Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other day about how common it is for people to end up in a relationship with someone who is not available. This is something that usually causes them to experience a lot of pain. To go through this once is more than enough, but there are people who have experienced this ...
Views: 1087 - Buy This And You Will Be Happy! - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I used to play football at school, I used to see other people wear expensive football boots - the ones that the professionals wore - and think about how good I would be if I had them. I thought that wearing these boots would instantly make me a better player. This showed that I had ...
Views: 1138 - You Can’t Save Your Parents! - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got into self-development, I shared a lot of what I had learnt with my parents. This was partly because I wanted to share what I had learnt and partly because I thought it could help them. I soon came to see that I was wasting my time, and that it was far better for me to keep ...
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