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- “I Was Told That I Was Useless!” - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember listening to Dov Baron in 2006 and thinking about I would love to know as much as he did. At this point, I had already been learning about self-development for about three years, so it wasn’t as though I hadn’t come across anyone like this before. However, although I had listened ...
Views: 1299 - Therapy: What Does It Say About Today’s Relationships When Some People Have To Pay Others To Listen To Them? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to work with a therapist or a counsellor; in fact, it could be said that it is a fairly common occurrence. Even so, this doesn’t mean that someone won’t feel ashamed for needing to be assisted in this way. Yet even if they did feel ashamed at this ...
Views: 1075 - “I Had Severe Learning Difficulties!” - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I had read my first book on self-development, towards the end of 2003, I didn’t really read books. The books that I had read were the ones that I had to read whilst I was at school, and this meant that I didn’t have a choice. Up until this point, I didn’t enjoy reading; which was ...
Views: 1129 - Customer Service: Why Is Eye Contact So Bad? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to apply for a job, they are likely to hear about how important customer service is. That is, of course, unless they are applying for a position that doesn’t require them to deal with customers. This could be something that doesn’t faze them, which could come down to the fact ...
Views: 1375 - True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Be Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone behaves around others can be in alignment with who they are, or it can be a reflection of their false-self. However, even if it is not a reflection of their true-self, it doesn’t mean that other people will realise this. An Act One is then going to behave in a way that doesn’t ...
Views: 1140 - Critical Thinking: Does Focusing On Racism And Sexism Lead To More Racism And Sexism? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone pays attention to the mainstream media, they are likely to have read stories about racism and sexism. And the amount of stories that they have come across can all depend on the news sources that they pay attention to. The reason for this is that there are certain publications that ...
Views: 1147 - “I Was Physically Abused!” - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my sister and I were growing up, we had to do as we were told; if we didn’t, we would often end up being hit by my father. In a lot of cases, this would be something that our mother was behind. So, while my father was physically stronger than my mother, it didn’t mean that he was in ...
Views: 1452 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Have Relationships With People Who Will Make Them Look Good? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that thanks to social media, how someone looks is even more important than ever before. The average person can feel the need to look their best regardless of if they are in the real world or online. Fortunately, it can be relatively easy for someone to look their best ...
Views: 1248 - Intimacy: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that human beings need in order to survive, and the same could be said when it comes to their ability to thrive. For example, food is something that everyone on this planet needs. If someone doesn’t receive the food that they need, their time on this earth will ...
Views: 1336 - Critical Thinking: Has Focusing On Misogyny Caused People To Overlook Misandry? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that in order to define what someone believes about the world, the only thing that the mainstream media needs to do is gain their attention. And once they have their attention, they can define what they focus on. Someone can then see something once and it can end up going ...
Views: 1554 - “I Felt Depressed!" - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of 2012 and throughout 2013, I would often feel flat, and at times, it was a challenge for me to get out of bed in the morning. While this was going on, there was another part of me found it hard to accept how I felt. I believed that I couldn’t allow myself to experience ...
Views: 1840 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People Act Moral In Order To Abuse Others? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there is what one says and, on the other, there is what they actually do. Now, while it is easy for one to say something, it is not as easy for them to actually do what they say. It is for this reason that it is often said that actions speak louder than words, and this is then ...
Views: 1318 - “I Didn’t Feel Safe Enough To Cry!” - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first started to face the emotional pain that was within me, in 2013, I didn’t feel comfortable expressing my emotions. So, when I was working with a therapist, it was a challenge for me to express what was going on for me. What didn’t help was that I had chosen to work with a female ...
Views: 1354 - “I Had Anger Problems!” - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2012, I ended up playing five a side football, and this was a time in my life when I was experiencing a lot of anger. It was during this time that I was involved in an altercation. The person who was there to let the players know when they were going on and coming off lost ...
Views: 1368 - “I Thought It Was All About The Mind!” - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was having hypnotherapy towards the end of 2012, I was told we were all nothing more than a conversation in our head. As a result of this, the way for me to change my life would be for me to change what was taking place in my mind. I remember hearing this and being amazed at what I ...
Views: 1402 - “I Became Extremely Motivated!” - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShortly after I was in a relationship that came to an end in the beginning of 2013, I started to write more often. I remember writing about four articles a week and believing that that was enough. Once I had been doing this for a while, I felt the need to write seven articles a week. When I ...
Views: 1172 - "I Wanted To Rescue Women!" - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember when I was seeing a woman towards the end of 2011, who was going through a challenging time. She wasn’t in a good place, and this meant that I tried to do what I could to help her. This primarily took place through listening to what she had to say and offering advice. I was also ...
Views: 1232 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Put Women On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that in order for one person to have a relationship with another person, they will need to be able to relate to them as another human being. If they see them as being above or below them, it is going to make it harder for them to truly connect to them. When it comes to the ...
Views: 2386 - “I Thought All Women Were The Same!” - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI started speaking to a woman who was a few years older than me on an online dating site and, before long, she called me up. As we hadn’t been speaking for very long this surprised me, and what also surprised me was that she opened up about her own history. This was something that took ...
Views: 1504 - “You Need Therapy!” - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShorty after I left where I was working in 2012, I felt overwhelmed with stress and emotional pain. Due to this, I head back to the spiritual shop where I had had a reading a little while before, and I spoke to the owner. Her name was Sheila, and she was down to earth, genuine and ...
Views: 1044 - “I Felt Worthless!” - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I had left my job in the beginning of 2012, I needed to take a break. I could no longer handle the amount of stress that I was under and this was one of the main reasons why I had to walk away. Up until this point, I had only written about one or two articles a week. Now that I had more ...
Views: 1234 - “She Was Emotionally Unavailable!” - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I met the woman who I would go on to spend a number of months with in 2013, I remember seeing her from a certain angle and thinking about how much she looked like my mother. It wouldn’t be accurate for me to say that this was something that I consciously thought about, though, as this was ...
Views: 1203 - “Stop Preaching!” - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe first book that I read on self development was a by Louise L Hay and, shortly after I had read one of her books, I end up reading another. I bought the first book in a spiritual shop in Australia and the second book at a book shop in England. After I had finished this book, I read a few ...
Views: 1171 - “I Felt Suicidal!” - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWent I went to a new salsa dancing class in the middle of 2010, there was one woman who caught my eye. And while we were dancing together, I asked her about where she was from and what she did, amongst others things. I was pulled in by her appearance, and her easy going and friendly nature ...
Views: 1355 - “This Guy Was Masculine!” - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I started a new job in the beginning of 2010, it took me a while to settle down. One of reason for this was that before I started this job, I had gone on holiday to Bali and Australia and I had been on a healing course in Belgium just before I headed over there. In addition to this, I ...
Views: 1342 - “I Found It Hard To Breathe!” - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I think back to what happened in 2001, I remember that there was a time when I was working out and I ended up finding it hard to breathe. At the time, I just thought that I had a cold coming on. However, after I went to see the doctor, I came to see that it wasn’t a cold. After I had a ...
Views: 1688 - "I Felt Accepted!" - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had got back from Bali and Australia, towards the end of 2009, I was no longer the same person. What had also played a part here were the experiences that I had when I was on a course in Belgium, which took place just before I went away. Ultimately, I wanted to continue from where I ...
Views: 1881 - Male Feminists: Is It A Surprise For Male Feminists To Be Accused Of Harassment? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, a number of women accused a well-known Hollywood producer of raping, assaulting, and sexually harassing them. And, since then, a number of other women have come forward. It hasn’t stopped there, though, as a number of other high profile men have also been accused of the same ...
Views: 1140 - “I Wasn't Just Grieving The Loss of My Father!” - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShorty after I had got to the point where I could contain my emotions, the healer that I was working with said it would be a good idea for me to see if I could cry when I’m by myself. The reason for this was that I hadn’t been able to cry during the sessions that we had had. As even though ...
Views: 1523 - “I Developed Another False-Self!” - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had met a woman who gave readings and did a number of other things, in 2003, I wanted to know more. So, after I had been away for a number weeks, I went to see this woman again. When we got together, my mother and sister would often come along, too, and this was a time when this ...
Views: 1162 - “I Felt Recognised!” - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2012, I ended up having a reading, and this took place at a shop that was about 9 miles away from where I lived. This was a time when I was looking for guidance, and this was partly because I had just left where I worked. I ended up speaking to the owner of the shop before I ...
Views: 1125 - “I Wasn't Good Enough!” - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I finished school I had no idea what I was going to do, so I ended up going to a college to see what courses were on offer. During this time, I thought I would be good to study psychology, yet that was as far as it went. I didn’t get very good grades at school, which meant that I was ...
Views: 1177 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Be An Underachiever When They Don't Value Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone values themselves, they can do what it takes to achieve their goals. Quite simply, they are not going to be willing to settle in life, and this will be what pushes them forward. As a result of this, they could be in a position where they have achieved a number of their goals. ...
Views: 1040 - “I Wanted To Help My Father!” - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of 2009, I had been working with someone for a little while, and this made me think about what it would be like to work with someone else. This was a time when I was doing a lot work around negative beliefs and past life trauma. What also played a part here was that the ...
Views: 1619 - Hollywood: Is It A Surprise To Hear About How Immoral Hollywood Is? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has paid attention to the news recently, they might be aware of the fact that a certain film producer has been accused of sexually harassing, assaulting, or raping a number of women. Then again, this could be something that they are not even aware of. This could show that they ...
Views: 1708 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Change When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can behave in a certain way when they start dating someone, they can end up behaving in a completely different way as time goes by. Therefore, although they are still the same person, it will be as if they have become someone else. Oblivious When something like this ...
Views: 1315 - "She Had A Big Impact On My Life!" - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere was a moment in the beginning of 2013, when I didn’t know why something was taking place. I had been in relationship for a few months and I didn’t completely understand why the woman I was with was behaving in a certain way. I had the need to find out about what might be going on, ...
Views: 1323 - Relationships: Should Someone Change When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes into contact with someone who they like, they can end up putting on an act. This could be something that will happen without them even releasing it, or they might be able to pick up on this. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is normal, and this is due to ...
Views: 1085 - People Pleasing: Is Someone More Likely To Please Others If They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, there are going to be at last two things that will need to be in place. On the one hand, they will need to be aware of their needs, and on the other; they will need to feel safe enough to fulfil them. From here, one will have the ability to ...
Views: 1040 - “You Are Always Happy!” - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the time when my father was in hospital, towards the end of 2011, I did my best to carry on as normal. This would typically mean that I would act as though I was happy and that everything was fine. But as I had been this way for most of my life, it wasn’t as if I was doing anything ...
Views: 1037 - “My Gums Were Bleeding!” - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of 2010, I was all fired up, and this was partly because I had recently been on a course. When I was on this course, I met some great people, and I wrote down some of the things that I wanted to achieve. But after the days and weeks passed, my mood gradually changed; in a ...
Views: 1334 - “This Was Someone Who Was In Touch With Their Emotions!” - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShortly after I got back from Mexico in 2014, I started spending more time with a friend who I had met a few years before. This was someone who I had met whilst I was at a social club. I remember seeing someone who was friendly and outgoing, and I felt the need to go and talk to them. At ...
Views: 1316 - Critical Thinking: If Someone Is Spiritual Does It Mean That They Are Emotionally Developed? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to do yoga, but if they do don’t yoga, they may have tried it at last once in their life. And in the same way that there are all types of martial arts, there also all types of yoga. The Right Fit So, just as one can have a social media profile ...
Views: 1129 - Celebrities: Are Some Celebrities Hypocrites? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a famous actor or singer, for instance, it could be said that their purpose is either to act or to sing. This is then no different to how a plumber or an electrician, for instance, is going to have their own purpose. Now, this is not to say that a singer or an actor won’t ...
Views: 2771 - “You Were Abandoned!” - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter the relationship that I was in at the beginning of 2013 came to an end, I ended up coming into contact with a lot of emotional pain. Although a certain amount of pain had been coming up for a little while, the end of the relationship brought it all up the surface. Fortunately, I was ...
Views: 1230 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Come On Strong And Then Go Silent? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter one has met someone for the first time, they may find that they continue to show a lot of interest in them. And there is also the chance that they behaved in this way before they even met them. Another Option If this was the case, it is likely to show that they met them on an online ...
Views: 1453 - “Mindfulness Was A Waste Of Time!” - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2010 I had tried a healing technique that didn’t really have much of an effect on me, and this made me look for something else. Towards the end of this year, I got in touch with someone who I had met around a year before. The reason for this was that I heard that they had created their ...
Views: 1354 - “I Think You Expected Too Much!” - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few days after my father passed away in august 2011, I went to Ibiza for just under two weeks. At the time I was in two minds about going away: part of me felt I should stay at home, and another part of me felt that it would be good for me to get away. The mentor that I spoke about in the ...
Views: 1172 - “Aren’t You A Bit Young To Be Writing About This Stuff!?” - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2011 or 2012, I was asked if I would like to go to a talk at a university that was on food. I thought that this would be interesting, so I agreed to go along. If I remember rightly, there were a number of people there who spoke, and a number of them worked for big companies that ...
Views: 1177 - "You Have A Way With Words!" - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn September 2005 I ended up studying music technology, and this was due to a number of reasons. Firstly, I was into dance music and wanted to learn how to create my own music and, secondly, I didn’t know what else to do. During this time, I thought I would be spending a lot of time learning ...
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