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- Relationships: Should Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Get Back With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one’s relationship has just come to an end, they could feel relieved and happy that they can now move on with their life. Maybe, this was a relationship that was no longer working, meaning that it had run its course. Disconnected For a number of weeks, they might have thought about ...
Views: 1003 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Alternate Between ‘Bad Boys’ And ‘Nice Guys’? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of women who are only drawn to men who are kind and respectful, for instance, there are also plenty of women who aren’t. As a result of this, their relationships with men are going to be radically different. The Norm Still, when it comes to what a woman’s ...
Views: 1076(1 vote) - Communication: Is It A Good Idea To Have Positive Expectations? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to order their favourite meal, and this was at a restaurant that they have been to before, there is a storing chance that they will be looking forward to the moment when this food arrives and eating it. In this example, it could be said that their expectations won’t have much of an ...
Views: 1672 - “This Woman Is An Inspiration!” - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I was doing a bit of research online for an article that I was going to put together. I was going to write an article about how women are being conditioned to see themselves as victims. During this time, I came across an article titled: 'Victimhood narrative' taught in ...
Views: 1048 - Critical Thinking: Is Someone Self-Absorbed If They Are Always Outraged? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are plenty of people who are offended just about every time they go online, and, the same thing can take place when they are in the real world. This can be because they have seen something has had an effect on them directly, or it might be due to another reason. Two ...
Views: 1342 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stay In Touch With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one’s relationship has just come to an end, they could decide to cut their ties and to move on with their life. As a result of this, they are not going to want to stay in touch with their ex. One Step Back Doing so could be seen as something that will stop them from being able to put ...
Views: 1130 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Expect Too Much From Others? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore one gets into a relationship, they can have a rough idea about the kind of person who they want to be with. Along with this, there can be what they expect to receive when they are with them. If this is the case, there can be what they would like someone to look like and there can be ...
Views: 1012 - Critical Thinking: Does A Woman Need To Seek Professional Help If She Believes That All Men Are Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it appears to be perfectly acceptable for a woman in the public eye to bash men. She can say all kinds of things that will basically amount to men being less-than human and worthless, and absolutely nothing will be done. Now, that’s not to say that both men and women won’t ...
Views: 1079 - "I Was Full Of Self-Doubt" - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I started writing articles, I had been on the path for around seven years. During this time, I had put a lot of effort into trying to understand myself and why my life was the way it was. So, when I started writing, it wasn’t as though I just woke up one day and thought that I would ...
Views: 1314 - “I Wanted To Convert People!” - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had been into self-development for a few years, in the middle of 2005, I learnt about the effect that our thoughts, emotions and beliefs have on how we experience life. I think the first time I had heard about his was when I read ‘The Power of the Subconscious Mind’, by Joseph ...
Views: 1087 - Critical Thinking: Does Someone Need To Develop The Ability To Observe Their Mind If They Are Always Offended? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s time at school, they are likely to have noticed that not everyone responded in the same way when it came to being told off by a teacher. There may have been people who just generally shrugged when this happened, while there may have been others who typically lost control. A Clear ...
Views: 1038 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Act Really Interested? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere could be moments in one’s life when they come into contact with people who don’t act all that interested, whilst there could be others moments when this is not the case. Here, another person could act as though one is the most important person on the planet. A Gradual Transition ...
Views: 1018 - Anger: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a number of people were asked what they think about anger, some of them might say that it is a ‘bad’ emotion. This is then going to be something that is black and white, meaning that it is not open for debate. Someone like this could talk about how this is an emotion that only causes ...
Views: 1239 - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With The Wrong Person If They Feel Low? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find themselves in a position where they feel down, they could feel the need to get in a relationship. They could believe that being with someone else will make their life better, thereby allowing them to feel good about. A Pattern There is the chance that one is used to ...
Views: 1525 - “He Is A Great Teacher!” - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I got together with a friend and he spoke about a video that he wanted to make on domestic violence. This was one of many that he was looking to put together. I think that the video he made after this was on knife crime, with the next one being about the masks that we ...
Views: 1290 - Relationships: Does A Woman Lack Self-Awareness If She Believes That All Men Are The Same? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some women in today’s world who believe that all men are the same, and it could be said that this is nothing new. It might not be inaccurate to say that this is how it has always been, but it has certainly been this way for a little while. However, what is different nowadays is ...
Views: 1532 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Controlling Behaviour When They Are Emotionally Dependent - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people are in a relationship, they can continue to express who they are and to fulfil their own needs. As a result of this, their time together will have a positive effect on both of them. There will be the effect that this has on their relationship, and there will be the effect ...
Views: 1240 - “I Learnt How Dangerous It Was To Have A Closed Mind!” - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got into self-development, about a year I left school, I wanted to share what I had learnt with my family. But although I was extremely curious and wanted to find out as much as I could, my family were not really interested. After talking about what I had learnt and being put ...
Views: 986 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People Alternate Between Being A Victim And A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the words ‘victim’ and ‘perpetrator’, they might have a good idea about what these words mean. Perhaps one of their friends has been in a relationship where they were victimised, for instance. Closer to Home Then again, they might know someone who has victimised ...
Views: 1377 - "I Walked On Eggshells As A Child!" - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf I wanted to ask my mother something when I was younger, I would often wait until there were guests around. The reason for this was that I knew that there was less chance of my mother raising her voice or losing her temper. Through having other guests around or oven just one person, it ...
Views: 1468 - “I Didn't Know What It Was Like To Lose Someone!” - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of my time at school, I would work at a crematorium whenever I didn’t have to go in. There were times when I would tell people about what I did and their responses said a lot about the kind of job that I had. Of course, it wasn’t that these people found it strange that I was ...
Views: 1563 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Move on After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are some people who can generally move on after a relationship has come to an end, there are others who find it incredibly difficult to do so. Nonetheless, when one can carry on with their life, it doesn’t mean that they won’t experience pain. Manageable What it is likely ...
Views: 1195 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Need To Please Others In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of someone’s life, their survival would have depended upon their caregivers. As a result of this, they wouldn’t have had much control during this stage of their life. A Different Scenario However, as the years passed and they grew into an adult, their survival would no longer ...
Views: 1233 - Critical Thinking: Does Identity Politics Disempower People? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s political climate, there appears to be a greater focus on what would be good for people who belong to a particular gender, race, religion or sexual orientation. As a result of this, what would benefit people in general no longer has the same level of importance. An Obsession It ...
Views: 1469 - Free Speech: Is It Dangerous For Someone To Think Critically In Today's World? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone goes along with the status quo, it is unlikely that they will have to worry about saying the wrong thing. Through accepting what they have been told by the mainstream media, politicians, and what they have learned whilst they were in the education system, amongst other things, they ...
Views: 971 - Critical Thinking: Is Being Outraged Another Way For Someone To Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who is outraged about something. But while this is nothing new, there is something that is new, and this relates to the kind of things that people get worked up about. A Mountain Out of a Mole Hill If someone got worked up about ...
Views: 1060 - Relationships: Is Someone's View Of The Opposite Sex Created At A Time When They Couldn't Think Clearly? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that people have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive different countries, they also have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive the opposite sex. There will be some people who generally have good things to say about the opposite sex, whilst there ...
Views: 1094 - “I Started To Develop Boundaries!” - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround 2014, I no longer wanted to say yes all the time and to go along with what other people wanted. Not only this, there were times when I could stand my ground and say no. For a little while before this, I could see what was talking place but I wasn’t able to do anything about it. I had ...
Views: 1259 - “I Thought I Just Lacked Confidence!” - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was younger, I often found it hard to behave how I wanted to behave, and I was often described as being ‘shy’. This was something my mother would say, and there were moments when other people would say the same thing. During this time in my life, my emotions were frequently out of ...
Views: 1032 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1821 - “I Couldn't Believe That He Wasn't Sharing His Views With The World!” - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I met Wain in 2015, I thought that our paths had crossed in order for us to make videos together. For a little while before this, I had been looking for someone who made videos. Not just anyone would do, though, as I was looking for someone who would be able to relate to where I was ...
Views: 1026 - Relationships: Is There A Reason Why Some People Always End Up With People Who Cheat On Them? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one spends a fair amount of time watching TV, there is a strong chance that they have watched programs where people have cheated on their spouse or partner. This is often a common theme when it comes to dramas and soaps, for instance. At the same time, one may have also have friends or ...
Views: 1296 - “What Is Legitimate Suffering?” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, it must have been around 2013, I came across a term that fascinated me. I can’t remember how I came across this term, but what I do remember is that I was part of a quote by Carl Jung. I even ended up writing an article about it around the same time. This was the ...
Views: 3166 - “I Didn't Realise They Were So Insecure!” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I went to Mexico, in the middle of 2014, I ordered a few copies of ‘A Dialogue With The Heart - Part One: A Collection Of Poems And Dialogues From The Heart’. This was a book that I released towards the end of 2013. The reason for this was that I thought it would be good idea to leave ...
Views: 1121 - Relationships: Do We Judge Others In The Same Way That We Judge Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that just about everyone on this planet judges others from time to time. However, one of the main differences is that some people are more judgmental than others. The Difference Along with this, not everyone judges others in the same way. What this means is that one ...
Views: 1004 - “This Guy Was Great At Approaching Women!" - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2007, I started to look for information on how to improve my success with women. After I had been reading about self-development for quite some time, this seemed like the next step. During this time, I heard about a community that existed to help men improve with women. If ...
Views: 1239 - “I Was No Longer As Motivated!” - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years, I felt extremely motivated when it came to writing articles, and I had a strong need to become a successful author. There was no middle ground; it was a case of hitting the big time or nothing at all. When I was able to take a step back and to look into why I was ...
Views: 1452 - ”You Have To Be Careful What You Focus On!” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was with a friend last year, I remember touching upon what was going on with the presidential election in America. I had been paying attention to this, but this friend hadn’t been doing the same thing. I said that it was hard to work out what was going on and he said that there was no ...
Views: 1026 - “This Guy Is An Inspiration!” - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn an article that I wrote a few months ago, I spoke about someone who I met whilst I was at a spiritual shop a few years ago. His name was Ian Baillie, and this was someone who was into past lives. At the time, this was not something that I knew much about, but I was open-minded and keen to ...
Views: 1633 - “This Guy Gets To The Root Of The Issue!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn a previous article, I mentioned someone who I met after I helped a friend move house. This was someone called Wain, and since our paths crossed in the middle of 2015, a number of thought-provoking conversations have been had. It doesn’t end there, though, as what I think about after we ...
Views: 1089 - “I Came to Accept People From Other Cultures!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen our family guest had only just been opened, a lot of the people who stayed were just passing by or on holiday. Yet, as the years went by and our guest house became more well-known, we started to have people stay from all over the world. This also meant that we had students stay ...
Views: 1008 - “I Learnt The Importance Of Self-Discipline!” - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI grew up in a guest house, and this meant that I had to help my family by doing different jobs. However, it wasn’t uncommon for me to stop doing a job and then to go to my room or somewhere else. This was partly due to me not being given much time to do what I wanted and partly due to me ...
Views: 1216 - Social Media: Can Someone Be Addicted To Social Media? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon too see someone who is glued to their Smartphone, and this is something that can take place in just about every context. So, if one was to go into a public area, they are likely to see people of all ages looking down at their device. Tuned Out When this ...
Views: 919 - “What Qualifications Do You Have?” - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of last year I had a few videos made, and one of those videos was about what qualifications I had. What inspired me to make this video was an email that I had received around that time. In this email someone said that they liked my work or that they liked an article, but ...
Views: 1307 - Relationships: Why Don’t Some People Realise They Are In A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone for the first time, they can take the time to get to know more about them. This can then give them the opportunity to find out what they are like as a person and whether or not they would be a good match for them. An Interview Therefore, this is going to be no ...
Views: 1181 - Relationships: What Is The Difference Between A Man Who Hates Women And A Man Who Hates Men? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might not surprise someone is that some men hate women, yet what might surprise them is that there are some men who hate men. It might be hard for them to accept this, especially as they are men themselves. A Different Response Then again, this might be something that they are only ...
Views: 1042 - Relationships: Can A Man’s Unmet Childhood Needs Make Him Want To Sleep With A Lot Of Women? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some men who generally have relationships, while there are others who have absolutely no interest in having one. But even if a man doesn’t want to have a relationship, it doesn’t mean that he has always been this way. No Longer the Same If there was a point in their life when ...
Views: 928 - Projection: Is There A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their life, they may become aware of a time when they saw their own issue in someone else. This could have been a time when they accused someone of having anger problems, when they themselves were the ones who had anger problems. Or, perhaps they accused their ...
Views: 1004 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Expect Other People To Be Unconditionally Loyal? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to be in a relationship, there can be a number of things that they will be looking for in a partner. Firstly, there can be the need to be with someone who has a certain appearance and, secondly, there can be the requirements that they have when it comes to their ...
Views: 1096 - “Are You Happy?” - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere has been times in my life when I have been asked if I was happy, and this has often been followed by me feeling somewhat perplexed. When I have been asked this, part of me has felt as though I should say yes, while another part of me hasn’t wanted to say anything. The reason for this ...
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