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- Self-Love: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Make It Hard For Them To Feel Good About Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is able to talk to themselves in a positive manner, it is going to be a lot easier for them to feel good. This is similar to how one is likely to feel better if they are in the company of someone who treats them well. Through being around this person, they can feel good in their ...
Views: 933 - Victimization: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimized By Others? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there appears to be no shortage of people who have been treated badly by others or by an organisation, for instance. TV programs, newspapers, and websites routinely talk about people who have experienced some kind of discrimination. It doesn’t stop there though, as there are also ...
Views: 841 - Gender Wars: Has The Time Come For Men And Women To Heal Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the mainstream culture, it is not uncommon for men to be put down and to be seen as the bane of the earth. This doesn’t mean that women are not also seen as the problem, but this could be seen as something that takes place underground, to speak. So, while there are plenty ...
Views: 908 - Being Centred: Is It Harder For Someone To Be Centred If They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to stand on the edge of a building, it would be a lot harder for them to feel at peace than if they were in the middle of it. Being on the edge can cause them to feel uncomfortable, whereas being in the centre may allow them to feel at ease. In the same way, someone can either ...
Views: 993 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Associate Love With Drama? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that some car journeys can be peaceful and obstacle free and some can be noisy and full of obstacles, relationships can also fall into one of these two categories. What is clear is that it is going to be far healthier for someone to be in a relationship that falls into the fist ...
Views: 911 - Manifestation: Why Doesn't The Law Of Attraction Work? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEver since a certain film was released over a decade ago, it has resulted in a lot of people being aware of the so-called ‘law of attraction’. At its root, this law basically says that our thoughts create our reality. So, in order for someone to create their ideal life, the only thing they ...
Views: 1175 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want To Divide Men And Women? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of elements that need to be in place in order for a society to not only grow, but to simply exist. For one thing, the people in the society need to have similar values, and they need to be able to stop certain parts of themselves from being expressed freely. So, their ...
Views: 940 - Anxiety: Can Someone Experience Anxiety If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere appears to be a lot of people in today’s world who suffer from anxiety, and while this may be something that only affects certain areas of their life, it may be far more severe. When it relates to the former, there may be times when they are able to settle down and to feel at peace. ...
Views: 956 - Boundaries: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able to Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough every human being on the planet has a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that each and everyone one of them feel connected to both of these parts of themselves. It may be hard for some people to understand how someone can be out of touch with a part of themselves, but, this is how some ...
Views: 1223 - True-Self: Are You Being Guided By Your Ego Or Your True-Self? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTaking action is one thing, but it is another thing altogether as to whether or not the action someone takes is coming from their true essence or their need for approval. One of the best ways for someone to find out is to take the time to reflect on why they are doing something. What this ...
Views: 1016 - There Is A Difference Between Needing Help And Being Ready For Help - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was l watching one of the live video calls that I did with Errol Campbell, there was something that he said at the end that stood out. He basically said that the people who were watching the video were free to share it with those who were ready, not those who simply needed it. Hearing ...
Views: 753 - Are You Relying On Luck To Get What You Want? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I used to go to different bars and clubs on a regular basis many, many years ago, there were often men who would talk about how they hoped to ‘get lucky’. Sometimes I knew the people who would say this and, at other times, this was something that I would overhear. To these men, it was ...
Views: 1038 - Living In The Mind Leads To A Very Unstable Existence - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a conversation I had with someone the other day, it made me think about how different it is to live in the body compared with the mind. In a way, living in the mind is similar to being on a bouncy castle, while living in the body is similar to being a tree. The reason for this is that ...
Views: 1036 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Settle Down If They Have Been With A Lot Of People? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, it was the norm for people to wait until they were married before they had sex, and they would have most likely stayed with the same person until their time on this earth came to an end. Thanks, in part, due to the ‘sexual liberation’ of the 60s and 80s, this has all changed. ...
Views: 1098 - Sometimes We Need To Hit Rock Bottom Before We Can Rise Up - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI recently heard something that made me think about how destructive positive thinking can be. Thanks, in part, due to the self-development world, so many people believe that they need to have positive thoughts all the time. And, if they don’t, something bad will happen; with negative ...
Views: 971 - Social Media: Has Social Media Caused Some People To Trade Intimacy For Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone shares something online, they can end up receiving a fair amount of attention, and this can allow them to feel good about themselves. Even so, what happens online might only be a small part of their life. Therefore, they won’t be completely dependent on this attention, meaning ...
Views: 926 - When The Past Is Present - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the book, ‘When The past is Present’, David Richo goes into how our past can still influence what is taking place in our present This was a book I read in 2012, so I can’t remember any specific details about it. However, I had an experience recently that clearly demonstrated how what took ...
Views: 969 - Are You Using Social Media To Deceive Others? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have written a number of articles that go into the affect that social media is having on the world, and one of the affects that came to my mind again recently was how easy it was for someone to deceive their so-called ‘friends’. This can take place by only uploading certain ...
Views: 995 - Don’t Make Another Person The Centre Of Your World - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was reading the book, ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’, there was a chapter that went into how important it was to have many different areas of interest in life, and not to put all our eggs in one basket, so to speak. The author, Susan Jeffers, pointed out that a lot of people make their ...
Views: 1035 - “A Relationship Shouldn’t Stop Us From Realising We Are Alone” - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI have often thought that even though I can say something to someone, it doesn’t mean that they will actually hear what I’m saying. Or to be more precise, they can hear the words that come out of my mouth, but that might be as far as it will go. Due to the experiences they have had on this ...
Views: 815 - Emotionally Disconnected: Do Some Men's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough both men and women can be out of touch with how they feel, it is undoubtedly something that impacts a lot of men. Therefore, it would be easy to say that more men than women are affected in this way, but that would possibly be a matter of conjecture. With that aside, when a man has ...
Views: 944 - Breathing In Is Masculine, Breathing Out Is Feminine - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year ago I went to a health and wellbeing centre and had a little look around the entrance, but I didn’t go any further. However, a few weeks ago I felt the urge to go to this place again, and this made me look at the website. I found out that there would be a free guided mediation ...
Views: 2004 - Victim Mentality: Does Someone Lack Self-Awareness If They See Themselves As A Victim? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, the self development industry has been doing what it can to make people realise that they are not victims - to allow them to see that they have an effect on the world. But, in recent years, so many people have been conditioned to see themselves as victims. This is ...
Views: 748 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want To Destroy The Western World? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor at least a number of decades, people in the west have been told that they need to stop having as many children due to ‘overpopulation’. This is a message that has been expressed directly and indirectly. Over the years, there have been plenty of people in the west that have heeded this ...
Views: 816 - Dating: Should Someone Be Suspicious If Another Person Acts Extremely Interested In The Beginning? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come across a dog, and this dog was to jump up and down, making it clear that he/she was pleased to see them, there would be no reason for them to wonder what was going on. This is due to the fact that this just what dogs are like; they don’t need a reason to be warm and ...
Views: 928 - Qi Gong Has Many Benefits - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround three months ago I started practicing Qi Gong, and, as I mentioned in a previous article, this was something that I had heard about quite some time ago. When I look back on what I have gained from doing it about once a week since I first started, I can say that it has been time well ...
Views: 915 - Manifestation: Do Some People’s Childhoods Make It Harder For Them To Manifest A Fulfilling Reality? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that it is not just someone’s thoughts that influence their reality; it is also their feelings. Therefore, it is going to be essential for them to pay attention to what is taking place in their mind, along with what is going on in their body, and to make sure that they are not ...
Views: 861 - Critical Thinking: Would The World Be Better If It Was Run By Women? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, numerous people have said that the world would be a far better place if it was no longer run men. In their eyes, a world run by women would lead to a world that is far better for everyone. When someone has this view, they can see men as being one way and women as being ...
Views: 838 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Say Yes All The Time? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to do something, they can say yes, and, if they don’t, they can say no. Both of these words are going to be important; one word won’t be more important than the other. When someone can use both of these words, there will be no reason for them to have the tendency to ignore ...
Views: 965 - Critical Thinking: Should Everyone Be Able To Vote? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEver since it became clear that the United Kingdom would withdraw from the European Union, a lot of people have said that not everyone should be able to vote. Unsurprisingly, this is a viewpoint that appears to be primarily held by the people who wanted the United Kingdom to stay in the European ...
Views: 920 - “You Don’t Have The Luxury Of Giving Up” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading ‘The Power of Others’ whilst I was in London towards the end of 2014, and there were a few things that I made a note of. In the chapter that I was reading at this time, the author touched upon how it is easier for someone to be curious when they are not caught up in trying to ...
Views: 1135 - "What Was Cute In Romance May Become Acute In Conflict” - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I read a few books by David Richo, and this is someone who really knows what he is talking about. Whether it is relationships or self-development in general, his books are packed full of insights. When I read two of his books towards the end of 2013, I had recently gone ...
Views: 1103 - What is Repetition Compulsion? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of the year I spoke about a time in my life when I was speaking to Vijay Rana, an integral therapist, about projection. This article was titled,’ “There Is A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others!” In this article I said that we also spoke about repetition compulsion ...
Views: 862 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Lose Themselves When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together and start a relationship, they can both have their own life. There is going to be how one person likes spend to their life and then there is going to be how the other person likes to spend their life. Through being together, certain parts of their life are ...
Views: 1211 - Emotionally Disconnected: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that if human beings were unable to experience emotions, it would to lead to a very bleak existence. This is, in part, due to the fact that it would cause them to feel dead inside and this would make it hard for them to feel connected to anything. Emotions are what allow ...
Views: 879 - Inner Conflict: Can Someone’s Split-Off Parts Cause Them To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe ideal would be for someone to get a clear idea about what they want to achieve and then to go about achieving it, without there being anything within them that would hold them back. After all, they will have enough to deal with externally without there being anything internally to ...
Views: 809 - What Did Your Parents Teach You About Men And Women? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading ‘Family Secrets’ by John Bradshaw and in this book he said, “it was and is your parents’ actually lives that educated you: not what they said, but what they did”. I took this to mean that what my parents did was far more important than what came out of their mouth. This ...
Views: 878 - Emotionally Dependent: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Dependent On Others? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to express their true-self, it will be essential for them to be an integrated human being. What this means is that their mind (thoughts), heart (emotions) and body (instincts) will generally work together. Through being this way, they will be in touch with ...
Views: 1038 - Critical Thinking: Does The Prevalence Of The Entitlement Mentality Show How Out Of Balance The West Has Become? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media routinely covers stories that go into how someone believes that they should receive something without having to work for it. Yet, if it doesn’t relate to one person, it will relate to a group of people. Thanks to identity politics, just about everyone has been put into ...
Views: 972 - Vulnerability: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Fear Of Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that in order for someone to grow and to develop, they will need to feel comfortable with being vulnerable. The reason for this is that if someone has the need to protect themselves, they are not going to open themselves up to life. Their main priority will be to do ...
Views: 979 - Emotional Awareness: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is emotionally settled, it is going to be a lot easier for them to think clearly. As a result of this, they will be able to decide how they will behave, meaning that they will be able to act like a conscious human being. Not only will this allow them to make better decisions, it ...
Views: 906 - Victim Energy: Do Some People Have A Victim Energy? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe that the whole world is against them, while there are others who have a slightly different outlook. When it comes to the latter, someone will have at least one area of their life where they feel powerless. However, if another area of their life started to ...
Views: 1377(1 vote) - Emotional Awareness: Are Your Split-Off Parts Controlling How You Feel? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions are often seen as an inconvenience - as things that do more harm than good. And, when someone has this outlook, they are likely to experience a lot of ‘negative’ emotions. Consequently, they may alternative between being overwhelmed by how they feel and disconnecting from how they ...
Views: 939 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Preoccupied With Feeling Safe? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often believed that self-esteem is the defining factor when it comes to how someone experiences life. So, if someone has a good amount of it there life will be fulfilling; whereas if they don’t their life won’t be. On one side will be someone who is living a life that is deeply ...
Views: 1268 - True-Self: Is Your Life Being Controlled By Your Split-Off Parts? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who are generally able to achieve what they set their mind on and there are others who aren’t. When it comes to the former, it is going to be a lot easier for them to make progress and to move forward with their life. Their life will change as the years go by - stopping ...
Views: 826 - Do Other People Make Us Feel Stressed? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was out in a populated area, I overheard someone say to another person that they “stressed them out”. I had no idea why they said this to them, but there must have been a reason for it. It would be easy to conclude that the other person was behaving in a way that was ...
Views: 1179 - Self-Image: Is Our Life Defined By How We See Ourselves? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a car, for instance, there is only going to be such much that it can do. So, how fast it can go or where it can be driven will all depend on what type of car it is. If someone wanted to change how fast a car can go or where it can go, it would need to undergo a number of ...
Views: 803 - Critical Thinking: Is Ancestral Trauma Dividing Men And Women? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the things that the mainstream likes to is to do portray all women as victims and all men as perpetrators. There are men and women who are happy to go along with this and there are men and women who are not. And regardless of whether someone is happy to go along with how the ...
Views: 947 - You Don't Come Through The World, The World Comes Through You - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was speaking to Ben Ralston a number of weeks ago, he mentioned something that really made me think. Ben is a therapist and trainer of therapists, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer. We were talking about the self-image and he ended up touching upon a book that he had ...
Views: 848 - Personal Power: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up Believe That They Are Powerless? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperHaving a sense of personal power will be the only thing that some people have ever known; while there will be others who will only know what it feels like to feel totally powerless. Therefore, even though both types of people will live on the same planet, it will be as if they live on separate ...
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