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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Kim...Why Can't I Leave My Narcissistic Boyfriend? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Kim SaeedDear Kim, I have been with my Narcissistic Partner for four years. He’s been cruel, demeaning, and lies to me left and right. I know he’s not good for me, but I keep hanging on to the nice part of him that I know exists. Aside from being emotionally abusive and irresponsible, he has a ...
Views: 5889 - The Trouble With Compromise - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Pat LaDouceurHolidays are supposed to be meaningful, relaxing, and connecting, but they’re often stressful. It’s easy to get caught between travel, family obligations, your own wishes, and tricky negotiations with significant others. If you try to do it all and make everyone happy, it can feel like you’re ...
Views: 2181(1 vote) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #5 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #5 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1918(9 votes) - Four Secrets To A Happy Marriage - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSave Your Relationship With 4 Easy Steps Dr. Romance’s four simple steps to create a successful marriage. 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other. Share your ideas and issues about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of ...
Views: 1654(1 vote) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #4 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #4 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1812(10 votes) - Zen + Sex = Starting Over? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2013 from Tina TessinaReady To Get Back Out There? 3 Must Knows Men and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several ...
Views: 1686(1 vote) - Deal Fell, Back on Market- Online Dating For The Newly Single - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Dominique NicoleI woke up this morning, Sunday at 6:00 a.m., restless from 6 hours of sleep. I crept downstairs hoping to not awaken my 8 year old morning “rooster” to check my email and begin my day. In my inbox, was a potential “match”, from Singleparentmeetup.com. The profile picture, was of a, er, ...
Views: 1723(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is violent, abusive and obsessed with me - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your post on line about 5 signs he isn't over his ex, and it answered a lot of questions that I have about my ex husband. We were married for 10 years. He's violent, abusive and obsessed with me. I have dealt with him for the almost 3 years ...
Views: 4039 - Steps To Recover From Infidelity - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferThe first steps to recover from infidelity are never easy. In fact they may be the most painful steps you will take as an individual or as a couple as you try to rebuild the trust you had in your partner. As the victim of your spouse's affair, there is a lot to deal with right after you ...
Views: 1446 - ***Intimacy With Others Starts From Within - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Margaret PaulHave you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? "Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself." - Thomas ...
Views: 1241 - ***Are You Addicted to the Internet? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you get addictively stuck on the Internet and can't seem to find your way out? ________________________________________ Our society provides many ways we can avoid our feelings addictively. Many people today are addicted to being on the Internet ...
Views: 1340 - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #3 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #3 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1812(19 votes) - Create Meaningful Relationships Using Feng Shui - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2013 from Pat HeydlauffWith the advent of social media, the intrusion of the Internet and media outlets, it is rapidly becoming almost impossible to create and maintain quality relationships – especially face-to-face relationships. Are you putting up with others constantly on their cell phones, texting, being ...
Views: 2114 - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
Views: 2920 - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #2 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #2 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1978(18 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my seventies and he's 25 years younger - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I'm in my seventies, and he is 25 years younger.we met on a senior dating site almost two years ago, and have been living together for over a year. He and my daughter went to the same high school, and he says he was attracted to me then and always compared his other ...
Views: 1558(1 vote) - Lonely leadership (coach to leaders) - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2013 from Claudio ModestoEverywhere in the world we find pastors and leaders by planting churches and most of them think of becoming a great leader known internationally . It is even possible , some succeeded . There are very few compared to the universe of pastors and leaders who have working behind the scenes to ...
Views: 818 - Watch Your Language! How You Can Impact Your Relationships and Your Feelings. - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Melyssa MonizWith just a simple phrase, you can either build someone up, or you can tear them down. And what other people say toyouhas the same effect. While words are only one of the many ways we communicate with each other, they are the most common and the most effective. But what most people often forget ...
Views: 1022 - Are You The One Who Wanted It To Work? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Tina Tessina3 Must Do's + 2 Don'ts That Can Help You Today Are you about to be dumped? Your mate/date is losing interest? The signs are: lack of attention in conversation and being together; irritability -- refusal to talk about it, no sex or less interest. Here's what to do if you ARE dumped. 1. DO ...
Views: 1784(1 vote) - So You’re Having an Affair - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from nancy traversYou didn’t mean for it to happen. It started so innocently, with just a flirty conversation. Then it escalated to an emotional attachment. He so gets you, and you talk into the wee hours, if only clandestinely on your cell. And you feel so wonderful you don’t want it to end. But the fact is, ...
Views: 1013 - Relationships: Are Rebound Relationships A Bad Idea? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone goes from one relationship to another, they are often described as having a rebound relationship. And this can takes place within a very short time of one ending and the other beginning; so there is very little time in between each one. This could be a relationship that has ...
Views: 1940 - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #1 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a lasting love. The key ...
Views: 1948(20 votes) - ***Relationships: Hanging in Through the Hard Stuff - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have the courage to hang in through the hard times and do the learning and healing we all need to do to create a loving relationship? ________________________________________ Are you committed to working through the difficult and painful ...
Views: 1234 - RELATIONSHIP CYCLES: THREE EXPLANATIONS - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2013 from Carol MorganWhy is it that when you first fall in love, you think your partner walks on water? You think they are the end-all-and-be-all of the world. Nothing bad could ever happen to you. You are invincible. You are the perfect couple. You think, “If only everyone could have such a great relationship, the ...
Views: 1986 - Dear Dr. Romance: My husband is curious about sex with men. - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been happily married for 9 years, and we have a good sex life. We love each other very much,and want to grow old together. He served two wars in Iraq. About two years ago, I started being concerned about his sexual behavior relating to men. He used to ...
Views: 2320(2 votes) - Marriage Advice To Make It Last - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferWe did not set out to give marriage advice to any couples, but we had heard just about every imaginable reason why men and women were giving up on their marriages and it was breaking our hearts. You see, my husband and I nearly gave up on our marriage 20 years ago when things got a little ...
Views: 1156 - Dr. Romance: Bored with your Sex Life? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2013 from Tina TessinaPut Spice Back into your Marriage with Tips to Help when the Sex Gets Boring Are you bored with your marital sex life? What can you do about it? Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D, psychotherapist and author of "Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams ...
Views: 1748(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to resent my wife - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article "Attitude Adjustment" and some of the things you said really resonated. In recent years, I have found myself developing more and more resentment toward my wife (who thinks very differently than I do). I want to dissolve ...
Views: 1953(1 vote) - *** "What's The Point of a Relationship?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you sometimes have confusion regarding the value of a relationship? ________________________________________ Jeanine asked me the following question at one of my free webinars: "Hi Dr. Paul, thank you so much for your wonderful work and for ...
Views: 1563 - ***"How Can I Manage Overwhelm?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you often feel overwhelmed with demands, tasks and life in general? ________________________________________ Most of us lead very busy lives and it is easy to become overwhelmed with all we need to do. In addition, about 15% to 20% of us are born ...
Views: 1334 - ***"Why Do I Feel Shame When I'm Being Blamed?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul______________________________________ What's really happening when someone blames and shames you? If you stopped taking it personally, what would you be feeling? ________________________________________ What do you generally do when someone blames you for his or her feelings? Do you find ...
Views: 1493 - The Secret to Creating Great Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Michelle MorandHi all, this article began as a response to a question I received from an on line program member as part of our group chat forum and it’s such a common experience for everyone who uses food to cope I thought I’d turn it into an article and share it with all of you out there in our global ...
Views: 1853(1 vote) - ***Is Marriage Dead? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The institution of marriage is NOT dead! Statistically, there is substantial support for this view. According to the best estimates we can find, there were nearly 45,000,000 marriages worldwide last year. There were approximately 9,000,000 ...
Views: 2020(26 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Resolving Couple Fights over Finances - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video Dr. Romance on MONEY TALKS Money talks need to be a part of scheduling weekly meetings - not just for money, but also for catching up with one another. Bills, social planning, long-term goals and working on your relationship are just some of the issues you'll ...
Views: 1818(1 vote) - Get Your Happy Ever After - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2013 from Eryka SklivasBelieve it or not, a ‘happy ever after’ is possible! Despite the high rate of separations and divorces these days, you really do have a fighting chance at having the fairy tale ending. The good news is your relationship does not have to be perfect for it to work. The bad news is that when the ...
Views: 1230 - Alexithymia: The Inability to Really Feel Feelings - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2013 from Michelle MorandNow bear with me here. I’m going to take you on a bit of a journey in order to explain a very important part of your recovery process. If you were sitting in my office I’d be leaning over and beginning to draw a diagram on my white board to illustrate this piece of information and you’d be ...
Views: 6956(1 vote) - Baby Boomer? Getting Divorced? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaTwo Must Know Tips If You're A Boomer Facing Divorce Divorce is a shock to anyone, but especially older marrieds, who may have been together for a long time. You are likely to be in shock for quite a while, feel numb and lost, and then have delayed grief. Here are two tips to help if you're a ...
Views: 1694(1 vote) - ***Should I Try To Save My Marriage? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving and can be saved, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, physical, mental – many failing marriages and relationships are simply not ...
Views: 2158(24 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I threw temper tantrums, broke things, yelled and demanded a divorce - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ...
Views: 1670(1 vote) - First Comes Love, Then Comes Obesity - Really? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Michelle MorandFirst comes love, then comes obesity: So reads the heading from an article in the July 6th issue of Time Magazine (See the article at this link: http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1907143,00.html). Even though my skin was bristling at the glib headline, I felt obligated ...
Views: 2040(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am worried about marrying him - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was reading your article "When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships" and need your advice. My boyfriend of 5 years is quite selfish and literally a narcissist. He never did anything as a gesture of love except for buying calling cards to call me from ...
Views: 1769(1 vote) - How can you tell a TRUE friend from a FAKE one? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Sam VakninA TRUE friend supports you only when he believes that you are doing the right thing in your self-interest and welfare; A FAKE friend supports you always, no matter what you do. A TRUE friend respects you only when you have earned respect and act respectably; A FAKE friend "respects" you ...
Views: 3104(2 votes) - The Test of Three Rs - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Sam VakninAcquired Situational Narcissism can be induced in adulthood by celebrity, wealth, and fame. But, it may also occur in a variety of other situations. Codependents, aiming to fend off gnawing abandonment anxiety, can resort to and evolve narcissistic and even psychopathic behaviours and traits in ...
Views: 2732 - "I Admire and Support him and He Abuses Me!" - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Sam Vaknin“I admire and support him. I am his biggest fan. I am his right hand and one woman audience. I am his best friend and his only source of succor. Yet, he constantly humiliates and berates me and abuses me in subtle and not-so-subtle ways. What gives?” He may be a narcissist. The narcissist ...
Views: 2417 - Dr. Romance: Spouse's Child - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2013 from Tina TessinaInfidelity: 3 Tips on Finances after your Spouse's Girlfriend Has a Child It’s not the first thing everyone thinks of, but the existence of an out-of-wedlock child will have a big economic impact, and the financial responsibility will grow with the child. 1. Unless you can settle with ...
Views: 1587(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Is your Partner too Selfish? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaRelationships: Tips to Recognize if your Partner is Emotionally Abusive Ever look around at who stays married, and who doesn't? Overweight people far outnumber the thin and beautiful in successful marriages. The svelte and attractive get far more dates, but don't seem as able to close the ...
Views: 1832(4 votes) - Good Listening Is the Greatest Gift - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from nancy traversWhat is the greatest gift you can give your partner? What is the greatest gift that costs you nothing but time and effort? That’s the gift of understanding who she is. The gift of believing in her. Think about it. When your partner knows you “get” her, you are validating her existence to the ...
Views: 1186 - Dear Dr. Romance: He always calls, and we do the same thing over again. - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been with this man over thirty years back and forth. Something always seems to happen and we end up apart again. He endsup getting married and yet though living states apart he always ends up calling and we do the same thing all over again. This time we got closer ...
Views: 1708(1 vote) - ***What Is Narcissism? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are often asked, "What is the best definition of Narcissism of which you are aware?" For us, there is a simple answer. It is our strong belief that the Mayo Clinic has posited the best definition and it follows: "Narcissistic personality ...
Views: 1987(39 votes) - What's Narcissism, What's Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaNarcissistic Personalities & Sociopaths Conscience is a type of judgment, that tells us what is right and wrong. It begins in early childhood, when (hopefully) parents teach a child what he can or cannot do (beginning with "no!"), then gradually how to tell right from wrong. ...
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