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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationships: How Can Someone Know If Their Relationships Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet who are experiencing relationships that are functional and healthy. This might be how it has always been, or it could be the result of them making certain changes throughout their life. On the other side of the spectrum will be people who are currently ...
Views: 1591 - LOVE IS A SHARED ENERGY OF BLESSING - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2014 from Barry HammerLOVE IS A SHARED ENERGY OF BLESSING Love is an expansive connective energy that enables individuals to experience the sublime grandeur of the core of their own being by sharing that relational energy with others. Empathically tuning into what is experientially genuine, naturally good, or ...
Views: 1683 - 7 Secrets for a Happier and Stronger Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2014 from Dr. Patty Ann TublinEveryone is searching for a happier and stronger relationship; but with the jobs, kids, running the household and other mundane responsibilities – it can be really hard to maintain that spark that keeps the love alive! Here are 7 secrets for rekindling the spark & romance for a stronger ...
Views: 992 - Connecting is Vital for Tapping Into Your Synergy - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOne would think that connecting with our partner is an easy feat. After all they are the one person we are supposed to be the most intimate with. This is most often not the case and we are actually not that intimate. I find that couples have a very difficult time connecting, feeling connected ...
Views: 1771 - ***Are You Confused About Boundaries in Relationships? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Margaret PaulMany people confuse boundaries - which are a way of taking loving care of yourself – with controlling behavior toward others. Marilee told me in one of our early phone sessions: "I set a boundary. I told him that he couldn't speak to me that way any more." Jackson said to ...
Views: 1380 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. RomanceI am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. I met someone and we CLICKED. We had sex on the 2nd date, I know you can't unring the bell, and I'm betting that was probably a mistake, but there is a serious physical attraction between this man and myself ...
Views: 1683 - Fair Fight Guidelines - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaThirty years of marriage counseling and twenty-five years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to disagree, but they don’t need to squabble, argue, ...
Views: 1609 - 5 Tips How to Build Confidence with Women - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2014 from Catherine KingThere are countless men who really struggle to attract a woman they are interested in due to the fact that they ultimately do not have enough confidence with women. Given that most women love confident men, this is a trait that many men strive to achieve. It is easier said than done, as you ...
Views: 1023 - Do You Handle Your Arguments Whining, Crying, & Screaming? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Dominica ApplegateHave you ever gotten angry and reverted back to acting like you were five years old? Maybe your partner pushed your “button” and you began whining, defending, shouting, or pouting? Believe it or not, many people tend to act unconsciously when such an opportunity arises and come across as needy ...
Views: 1787 - 5 Personality Types of Women and How To Attract Them - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2016 from Chris ChandraIf you don’t have much experience in the dating field you might make the mistake of believing all women have the same personality types and treat them the same way. Or You might already know that you have to treat different personality types with a unique approach but not know what those ...
Views: 8144(3 votes) - Three “Ice Breakers” For Starting Conversations With Women - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Chris ChandraSo you’re standing at the counter in the grocery store, there’s no one else in line and there’s a really cute girl at the counter. What do you say to start a conversation? Just saying hi usually doesn’t lead anywhere, and if you make it too obvious it’ll be embarrassing if you get ...
Views: 2256(1 vote) - Why She Never Calls You Back - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Chris ChandraHave you ever been in a situation where you get a girl’s number and you think everything went well, but when you get in touch with her she never returns your calls? Suppose she wasn’t a stranger, maybe you met at a barbeque at your friend’s house. Shouldn’t it be easier to get in touch ...
Views: 1673 - Don't Ask A Hot Woman Out Until She Gives You This Signal - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Chris ChandraWaiiit STOP Don’t do it! This will save you a lot of humiliation and rejection if you just read this first. Because women talk. And they’ll talk about how you tried to pick up on them to their friends, and if you have the same circle of friends that could mean somewhat of a ...
Views: 1600(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered he crossdressed - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:When I was 20, I met a man of 37. For many reasons, including what I thought was love, moved in with him 3 weeks later. After getting engaged to my partner, I discovered he crossdressed. I cried, but he said he did it cuz he was alone for so long before he met me. Flash forward ...
Views: 1912(1 vote) - A Good Cry - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaAt the end of a client-packed day, the trash can in my office is often overflowing with used tissues. Richard, seeing this, usually comments; “Good day, huh?” and we both laugh. He knows that, when clients cry, they’re usually breaking through and healing something. I’ve ...
Views: 1598(1 vote) - Relationships: Where Does Someone’s Idea Of The Perfect Partner Come From? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to attracting someone for a relationship or something that involves less commitment, there is the chance that someone can have a certain type that they go for. And then for others, this is not always the case; with them having no set idea of what another needs to be like. ...
Views: 1713 - 10 Reasons For Not Falling in Love - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Tina TessinaAlthough you might think of “falling in love” as romantic; we all fall in love many times in life: with a new lover, a new friend, a particularly cooperative co-worker, an appealing movie or TV star, a caring neighbor, siblings, relatives and even pets. Any close relationship ...
Views: 1888 - ***"If I Move Into My Power, Will I End Up Alone?" - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you have the common false belief that the better you feel about yourself, the more alone you will be? Yolanda asks: "What is coming up for me is -- if I completely move out of self-judgment and fully take the responsibility to actualize the deepest yearnings of my Soul, I ...
Views: 1163 - Sarcasm: Is It Humor or Something Sinister? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI hate sarcasm. It's rude, hurtful, and offensive. Yet I have met many people who insist that it is humorous. "Sarcasm can be funny, " my friend John told me. "I beg to differ", I replied. "There is nothing funny about saying something hurtful to another person." "Yes, but...", he continued, ...
Views: 2278 - What Women Look for in Men – A Man’s Guide to Self Improvement - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2014 from Catherine KingMen are always asking such basic questions: • Where do I find women? • How can I make a girl like me? • How do I get a girlfriend? • Why can’t I ever seem to find someone? All of these questions have the same thing in common: men are not addressing what women want. They are merely ...
Views: 1282 - Dr. Romance Video: Dating after Widowhood - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance discusses advice on dating after widowhood. To view the video, click here. Dr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from ...
Views: 1790 - 5 Ways to Stop an Argument in Less Than a Minute - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Pat LaDouceurThe trouble with arguments is that they don't work. I'm not talking about a good debate, where you have some great ideas, and they clash, and you start a healthy back-and-forth that feels fun. I mean arguments – where tension starts to rise, responses start to get personal, and you go around ...
Views: 1811(1 vote) - Coping with Critics - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaNo one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad I’m not more ...
Views: 1575(1 vote) - How To Not Finish Last If You Are A Nice Guy Or Gal - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2014 from Frank HealyMany people believe that all that you need to succeed in life is to work hard, do what people tell you, and be nice. Unfortunately that is not all you need. It helps, but many people seem to hear the word no often for jobs, promotions, and relationships. They are usually nice hard-working ...
Views: 2100 - ***"Is There Hope For Our Relationship?" - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover what you can do to give your relationship a chance. ________________________________________ Lauren asks: "I have been married for 12 years, our marriage has always been a struggle of various forms. I have gotten to feel so empty and ...
Views: 1191 - ***The Empty Nest Syndrome Is Overrated - by Submitted on May 27, 2018 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The truth is, for many couples, the empty nest is a time of great “re-discovery” of the love for each other. You and your spouse are finally alone after two decades of marriage because the children have all left home. Now what? This is a question ...
Views: 2103(5 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: She started pushing me away and becoming distant - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two ...
Views: 7712 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Look For love In All The Wrong Places? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved. However, just because someone is in love, it ...
Views: 2134 - Get to the Heart of Your Apology: Speak to the Hurt! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Noelle NelsonThe dog ate the cord to your laptop battery, which fortunately wasn’t plugged in at the time--who knows how many volts run through those things, your dog could have been twitching for hours--but meanwhile, you’re without your computer. You have an important presentation at work in a couple of ...
Views: 1658(1 vote) - Tough Advice About Anger - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Janet PfeifferEverybody gets angry, even me. Professionally, I've been helping people understand and reduce their anger for twenty years. And in all honesty, I do practice what I preach. I experience far less anger and frustration than I did when I was younger, perhaps some of which is due to age. People ...
Views: 1473 - Healthy Finances for Couples – How to Have the Money Talk - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Kathy Jo PollackWant to stay married, talk about money. Creating healthy finances when two people join their lives takes effort. Are you having money talks with your spouse or significant other? Many people will talk about anything before money and yet money is the #1 reason for divorce and the driving force in ...
Views: 4592(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Strangely, I still love this man - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Last year, my boyfriend he broke up with me 3 days before my birthday. On the actual day, he didn't even so much as text or call to wish me a happy birthday - or even send me a card. I was devastated, esp because I really made a big deal of his birthday last ...
Views: 1383(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some Breakups Hurt Men More Than Women? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent studies, men have been shown to suffer more than women when a relationship comes to an end. And while some people would not have been surprised to hear this, for others, it was unexpected and even dismissed. Even though men have emotions just like women, this doesn’t always appear ...
Views: 4016 - Four Steps to Success - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaIn my private counseling practice, clients often tell me, “I want to be happy!” We then set about making it a reality. As a psychotherapist, I know that Your habits, your relationships, your environment, and especially what you think about them determine more about how happy you are ...
Views: 1574(2 votes) - Heart Value In Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Moreen DuFermontHeart Value In Relationship Since we are all interconnected through our many types of relationships, this is an article that can be beneficial to anyone. As we come to realize that its necessary to value all our relationships as an integral means to our Spiritual Growth, then they offer us ...
Views: 1323(1 vote) - It Sucks When Nice Guys Finish Last - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Chris Chandra“Nice guys finish last” I’m sure many shy men can relate with this statement. I’ve seen over the years that shy men have an air of “I’ll always be nice no matter what.” They are easily forgiving of others regardless of what the situation is. Overly NICE guys also tend to remember things ...
Views: 1745(1 vote) - Relationships: How Can Someone Know When A Relationship Is Over? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in a relationship that is going extremely well and out of nowhere, it could end up being on the rocks; leaving one in a place of uncertainty as to whether it will last or not. It could also be a relationship that is not going to well either. However, just because something seems ...
Views: 1751 - Is He Really Your Man? 6 Signs He Doesn’t See You As His Lady - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2014 from Lorraine JacksonLet's face it, nothing feels quite like having someone special in your life - a significant other to call your own. But ask yourself this. Are you making the mistake of assuming you're in a committed relationship with a man you're dating? The truth is, just because you're dating, enjoying ...
Views: 2086 - 3 Simple Steps to Ask for What You Need in Your Relationship – and Get It! - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Dr. Patty Ann TublinIt would be impossible for me to tell you how many times I have heard someone say: “I shouldn't have to ask for “it” (whatever “it” might be) from his or her partner. If my partner really loved me, he/she would know what I want.” And I often find myself replying: “Oh really, so your partner is a ...
Views: 1043 - Dr. Romance on Love and Chemistry - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Many of my clients want to know: What is a safe surrender to love? They have been in love before, and have gotten hurt. While we all are aware of the joy and beauty of love, and the profound pleasure of being in love, most of us are also afraid of mistakes, of making a wrong ...
Views: 1467 - ******Filling Up Emptiness From The Inside - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Margaret PaulFor many people, inner emptiness is a big problem. They believe that they can fill their emptiness from the outside, which is a false belief. The cause of inner emptiness is a lack of a loving connection with your inner child - your essence, your true Self, your Being, which then results in ...
Views: 1216 - The High Price Tag of Anger: What is it Really Costing You? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThere's no doubt: anger takes its toll on every facet of our lives. From on the job, to our personal relationships, to our health and overall enjoyment of life, destructive anger can wreak havoc in our daily lives. On the job it cost businesses over $4.2 billion, yes -billion, a year. ...
Views: 2294(1 vote) - ***Don’t Ever Say These Things To Your Spouse - by Submitted on May 27, 2018 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Words Matter! What you say to the one you love is important! Negative and hurtful statements can have the power to cut through the very fabric of the bond between two people in love. Words can damage and potentially destroy the foundation of your ...
Views: 1974(5 votes) - Is it Codependency or Just Not The Right Partner? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Dominica ApplegateAs we struggle with codependency, it’s hard to consider that our current partner really just might not be a good match for us. Sure, I believe that many problems can be worked out in a relationship, but only if both partners want to work on them honestly and openly. For the codependent, ...
Views: 1674(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: It left me feeling like a loveless phony - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just found your article "Without Ego" Omg you are just who I've been looking for. For the past two years I've been reading articles about dissolving the ego and all this hubbub. For those two years I was told that I have an ego that is ...
Views: 1464 - When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaMany people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together ...
Views: 1469 - Friends With Benefits - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaIf you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple. • If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result of the sex, ...
Views: 1604 - ***"My Wife Is No Longer In Love With Me" - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you willing to do the inner work you need to do to possibly save your relationship? Many people, like Aaron who asked the following question, seek my help because either their partner is no longer in love with them, or they are no longer in love with their partner. Aaron ...
Views: 1537(1 vote) - Relationships: Are We Attracted To Our Own Projections? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one first meets another person and starts to feel attracted to them, they will have started to form certain associations around what they are like and what they are not like. This whole process is likely to take place out of one’s awareness and happen fairly rapidly. Once these are ...
Views: 1723 - How to Develop a Loving Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2014 from Nigel St.HillDear friend, happy Valentine’s Day! The greatest gift you can give today is that of self-love and this is not being selfish or egotistical. It is being centered in self. It is only when you can love yourself that you can really love another. As a reminder I invite you to listen to Whitney ...
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