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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: she wanted to still be friends - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I knew a girl for a long time and had a huge crush on her. I'm in my twenties, and she is a year younger than me. I am a very shy person and would freeze up whenever I tried to tell her. We knew each other for more than a year and were good friends, so I told her, trying ...
Views: 1839(1 vote) - ***How Important Is Trust In Marriage? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Successfully married couples literally trust each other with their lives, their wellbeing, and their sacred honor. The words they use to describe the one they love more often than not include words and expressions like trust, honesty, loyalty, ...
Views: 3090(27 votes) - 5 Keys to Find Peace by Placating - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Merna Throne, M.S.To Appease or not to Appease Is placating the answer? By Merna Throne, M.S. I thought this was a good topic to finally write about as I know so many people go through this mental dilemma, but they endure in silence and their relationships suffer ...
Views: 1724(1 vote) - Good Listening Means Good Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from nancy traversHappy people make it a point to listen to others. They like to learn new things, take an interest in others and generally feel good when they listen. In the process of listening, they are also showing respect for others’ thoughts and ideas, and that, in turn, demonstrates their self-confidence. ...
Views: 1028 - Recognizing Your Co-Dependency - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from nancy traversCo-dependency used to be a word reserved for those in a relationship with alcoholics or other addicted people. But the term has been expanded to include people with lopsided relationships—people who are partners, parents, family or friends with dysfunctional people. Dysfunctions can include all ...
Views: 1007 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Relationships To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of reasons as to why someone would want to be a relationship with another person. And yet for some people, they will do everything they can to avoid having one. This can be due to them being fiercely independent and not wanting to rely on another person; having trust issues ...
Views: 1701 - Dr. Romance on Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2013 from Tina TessinaLast month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader: “A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomenon which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a ...
Views: 1658(1 vote) - Resolving the Question of Whether or Not to Have Children - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2013 from Michael BroderFor some couples, the decision to have children is something that was discussed long before marriage---in some cases; I am told, on the first or second date ! But for many couples, deciding whether or not to have children can be one of their most daunting issues. With couples getting married ...
Views: 1611(1 vote) - Caring For Parents = Divorce? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2013 from Tina Tessina7 Tips To Keep Your Marriage On Track When Helping Family Members If your parents are elderly and becoming infirm, or if there are others who require special care in your family, due to disability or illness the situation you will need to figure out how to maintain a balance between your ...
Views: 1778 - Making Relationships Less Difficult - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2013 from William CottringerMaking Relationships Less Difficult By Bill Cottringer “Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.” ~Anonymous. It is not easy to be successful at anything today because of the many obstacles that ...
Views: 1974(2 votes) - Do you need to break your relationship patterns? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2013 from Rhonda RabowOver the past few months, I have been seeing many couples and individuals coming in with relationship issues. The single clients have been complaining how difficult it is to sustain a positive relationship and the couples come in telling me I am their last hope before divorce. How discouraging ...
Views: 1375 - Rebuilding Broken Relationships: Can You Win Your Ex Back? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2013 from Brad BrowningBreakups… heartbreak… we’ve all been there before, and it’s one of the most painful things in life. Sometimes, though, relationships can end prematurely. Whether it’s because one person simply wasn’t ready to commit, or because some external factor -- a job offer, a few years at a faraway ...
Views: 3845 - How to Have Happier Holidays! - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaRichard and I just indulged in our favorite December tradition—we watched our favorite Christmas movie (Scrooge! the musical starring Albert Finney) which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year. No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, this is a ...
Views: 1480 - Creating Holiday Magic - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaRecently, as we were eating in an Italian restaurant, the music being played transported me back to holidays with my Italian/American family. Traditional, sentimental Italian songs were such a large part of our gatherings for the holidays. After a huge, slow, multi-course dinner, Uncle Tommy ...
Views: 1443 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother, and I feel I'm past my prime. - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four yearl old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ...
Views: 1906(1 vote) - ***The Power of Appreciating Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you often feel unappreciated? ________________________________________ "I'm a very nice person. I'm a good guy and I do nice things for people, but they never seem to appreciate me, and I feel angry about that," said Martin in one of our first ...
Views: 1654 - ***"Why Do I Seem to Attract Rejection?" - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you perplexed regarding why you so often feel rejected by others? ________________________________________ Alana asked me the following question: "My whole life I have felt that I don't fit in with others - in my family, school, work - and ...
Views: 1353 - ***"How Can I Not Get Hurt By Others' Judgments?" - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have a misconception about what it means to be a strong and emotionally healthy person? ________________________________________ Do you have an expectation that if you were emotionally healthy, you would not feel hurt in the face of others' ...
Views: 1524 - 6 Signs Your Partner is Love Avoidant - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Jim HallAre you in a relationship with a Love Avoidant? In addictive love relationships, the Love Addict repeatedly attracts individuals with particular signs - and in turn, people with these particular signs are attracted to the love addict. The type of person I am speaking of is the Love Avoidant. ...
Views: 8968(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I love a deaf girl with all my heart - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am confused I am dating a deaf girl and I love her with all my heart. The problem is she likes to party sleeping around and in the community they have noticed it. They keep complaining about deaf gals but sometimes I want to cry coz I love that girl so ...
Views: 2315(1 vote) - Five Conversations to Have with Your Spouse Before the Holidays - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Chick MoormanMany people experience stress during the holiday season. Some get the blues. Others find that the holidays don’t quite turn out they way they had hoped. To make sure your holiday season creates more joy and less stress, have these five conversations with your spouse soon. Conversation One: ...
Views: 1428(1 vote) - 7 Steps to Gain Control Over Your Bad Feelings - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Wale OladipoWe are all creatures of relationship. And as such, we pick up different kinds of feelings as we interact with others. Some are bad feelings while others are good. But what happens when we develop a bad feeling concerning someone or something? How do we handle the left-behind uneasiness and the ...
Views: 1286(1 vote) - How to *Successfully* handle Extended Family Relationships during the Holiday Season - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Rabbi Shlomo SlatkinWith summer vacation recently over and the Fall holidays just beginning, there may be more family time than you can handle! Along with lots of family time can come conflict. Whether you and your spouse disagree as to how to deal with the in-laws or whether you are having an issue with a ...
Views: 3217(1 vote) - Bet You Don't Know How To Apologize - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaThere Are Four Steps. Are You Doing All Of Them? Are you and your partner having a tough time getting over an argument? Here are some tips to help. 1. Surrender to your responsibility. When you become aware that you have made a mistake, admit it and apologize. Use it as an opportunity ...
Views: 1748(1 vote) - Searching for Personhood - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2013 from Daniel PottsStep into her world. She is still there. Sometimes you wonder, don’t you? If she were still the one you knew and loved, why would she look at you that way, so blankly? How could your face and touch be so unfamiliar to her at times, when it used to be so comforting? After all you do to ...
Views: 1738 - True Love - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Eloryia RAHave you been looking for love in all the wrong places and in too many faces; only to end up disappointed again? You don’t need to engage in an endless search for Mr. or Mrs. Right, nor do you settle or compromise for any Mr. or Mrs. Right now. What you really need is your true love. When ...
Views: 1538(1 vote) - 4 Ways To Recover The Care Safe From His Girlfriend - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Michael LoisThe big question How to regain the attention of your girlfriend? This is a topic of discussion among many men. Sometimes, your girlfriend spends most of his time paying attention to every detail of your life, but you. But, how to get the attention of your girlfriend? Regardless of all the ...
Views: 885 - Use Your Absolutely Loved Return To Have Your Ex Couple - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Michael LoisGetting back your partner may seem an uphill battle. You feel that you work hard without even a hint of victory in sight. And then you start looking for tips or strategies – perhaps a bit of charm – or I can help. If only you could find the ultimate solution – something which it acts fast, ...
Views: 803 - 4 Tips To Fix A Broken Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Michael LoisA relationship can be broken by a number of reasons . It may be that the communication and the chemistry between the two lovers is over. It may also be because one or both partners have strong defects . It could also be because a couple mienbro ” sack up to the plate ” . Regardless of the ...
Views: 1061 - 4 Great Tips To Repair The Relationship With Your Girlfriend - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Michael LoisLet me tell you that if your girlfriend things are not going well at this time or do not feel up to the right path , what can you do to get back on track and that you take the time to talk and communicate with you again? Tips to repair the relationship with your girlfriend … Everybody has ...
Views: 961 - Dr. Romance video: Am I too old to date again? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video In today's world, people don't often realize the importance of companionship until later in life. Staying fit and physically and socially active increases your odds of finding someone to date, and also increases your libido and your chances of successful sex. But, ...
Views: 1774 - Simple Truths To Repair The Relationship With Your Boyfriend - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Michael LoisIf at this time things are not great between you and the man in your life for many reasons to be, you wonder how you can repair your relationship with your boyfriend? What to do to repair the relationship with your boyfriend … The girls really do not realize what their boyfriends are ...
Views: 820 - Signs That Let You Want and How to Strengthen Love - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Michael LoisIn a common and current relationship to miss a woman is thinking about leaving a man is something that no man likes to bear. This fact is something that makes you think in most men whether it’s good enough for her. So what is it that can help in such situations? they listen and pay attention ...
Views: 729 - Solving The Problems Of Couple - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Michael LoisIs a fact that couples do not always agree on everything and the fact that at times or in the course of the relationship are disagreements between the parties does not necessarily mean that the relationship is coming to an end . Definitely , it is logical that matches or not always be thought ...
Views: 723 - 4 Keys To Let Your Ex back With You - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Michael LoisRelationships can come to an end for many reasons, but generally the most common cause of why a relationship breaks is when both partners can not see a future together and the relationship starts to become tense , is when there are arguments and fights until complete. Keys to your ex ...
Views: 782 - How to Make an Impression on a Man - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Amy RosenthalyYou can find individuals you have encountered that seemingly have got something in them that make them shine among others. These are people who can casually impress people because they have learned the right way to create a good impression on other people. With regards to finding a soul-mate, ...
Views: 1213(1 vote) - Is He Flirting Or Just Friendly? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2013 from Kara OhOne of my Inner Circle members asked what she should do about feeling unsure because the guy she is dating (not exclusively) is nice to other women. My advice follows, and I would love your thoughts: There is a different way to look at this. If he is a nice man, he will be nice to everyone, ...
Views: 1692(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can I have a life partner? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am living alone. I've been told I am sexually week. Can I have a life partner? How long will it take? I need care and protection, and to know what my choices are. How can I be fruitful to society and mankind? Is my life worth ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - Do You Respect The EX? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Tina TessinaYou're divorced, but you still see your ex. How do you handle it? Here are three tips to help. 1. Treat your ex as politely as you treat your friends or co-workers. Don’t be as familiar as you used to be. A little less familiarity will generate a little more respect. Say “Hello”, ...
Views: 1917(1 vote) - Get Your Ex "Hypnotized" Into Getting Back With You Using This Reverse-Psychological Mind Trick! - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Jeff ThomasIf you are reading this article, you have separated with your partner and your mind is probably dominated by the thoughts of how to get them back with as little heartache and effort as possible. Well, I have good news and bad news. The bad news is that it will require some effort and persistence ...
Views: 6389(2 votes) - Want To Get Your Ex Back In Your Arms Before It's Too Late? Use This Freakishly Effective Strategy! - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Jeff ThomasIf you've recently broken up with your partner, it's understandable if you are in a state of extreme emotional pain and stress. Frustration, sadness and anger probably make up the majority of the emotions you're experiencing on a daily basis. Before you even try to get back together with your ...
Views: 651(2 votes) - Can A Separation Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2013 from Lee BaucomIn the past few days, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones announced they are separating. Reportedly, the reason for the separation is to “take some time apart and work on themselves.” The 13 year marriage has endured Douglas’ throat cancer and Zeta-Jones’ diagnosis of suffering from ...
Views: 2034(1 vote) - A MINI-FACELIFT TO HELP YOU REVILITALIZE AND REJUVINATE YOUR PERSONALITY - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2013 from Marcia CammarataIt is a long standing belief that major personality makeovers are not possible according to most psychologists. We unconsciously follow the script written in our genes since birth. The basic construction of our unique personality is set by our DNA, but we can utilize the cards we are dealt to ...
Views: 1602(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Strange? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a university student majoring in English Translation in a Mid Eastern country. I find it difficult to attract other people's attention and it makes friendship nearly impossible. I love loneliness in a way that most of my friends don't ...
Views: 1883(1 vote) - Communicating with Men in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2013 from Amy RosenthalyMaking a male to be open and exhibit just what they are wondering or experiencing can be challenging. Guys do not generally reveal themselves as much as ladies do, which may be distressing in a relationship wherein individuals are meant to connect with one another. With regards to having your ...
Views: 1185(1 vote) - Surviving An Affair: What The Cheating Significant Other Has To Get Done - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Daryl CampbellCoping with unfaithfulness often means among other issues you are paying for someone's wrong choice. You will discover lots of work to be taken care of after the affair since as a result of your actions you've done quite a lot of damage to your marital relationship which is hanging by a ...
Views: 1487(3 votes) - ***The Importance of “WE” in Great Marriages - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The feeling of togetherness is one of the key ingredients of a successful marriage. It is the feeling of “we are in this together and are stronger because of our relationship.” While the importance of togetherness is easy to understand, for many ...
Views: 1962(24 votes) - Looking For Love After Divorce? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDon't Repeat Past Mistakes. Follow These Three Tips Looking for love after divorce? Here are three tips to help as you begin dating after your divorce. 1. Be suspicious if it all seems “too good to be true” – it probably is. If your subconscious, neurotic needs are running the show, it’s ...
Views: 1770(2 votes) - Digital Dementia Wreaks Havoc on Personal Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Pat HeydlauffWhat you focused on five years, five months or five days ago is what you have in your life today. The relationships you have with your family, friends and contacts are the direct result of how you spent your time in the past and what you decided to focus upon. What you focus on today is what you ...
Views: 2173 - Regain Peace of Mind: Trash Those Unwanted Thoughts! - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou made up. The argument is long over; life with your sweetheart is back to normal. Except for that little nagging thought that keeps running through your brain, with the determined persistence of a hamster on a treadmill: “How could he/she do that? How could he/she say that about me in front ...
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