Self Improvement Site
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
Relationship Advice Articles
Dave Shields is The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to "Relationship Advice". You can find complete information on Dave Shields and his products by visiting Kenosis Center.
SelfGrowth.com Recommended Articles:
Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***Single? What Are Your False Beliefs About Relationships? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ If you are single, do you relate to any of these false beliefs about being in a relationship? ________________________________________ I have discovered that many of the single people I work with have a number of false beliefs about relationships. If ...
Views: 1313 - Relationships: Can Our Friends Keep Us Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about the people in their life who support them, their friends will typically come to mind. Ideally, these will be the people who one can turn to for advice, encouragement and acceptance for instance. So one is able to be themselves around them and doesn’t feel the need to ...
Views: 1916 - Relationships: What Causes Jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen there is an absence of trust in a relationship there is inevitably going to be certain problems that arise. Whereas although there is still going to be problems when trust does exist, there is less chance of jealousy appearing or if it does exist, then its effects will be minimal. As ...
Views: 1954 - Seven Tips to Make The Most Of Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2014 from Bill NieporteCongratulate us! In just about a month we (Jeana Murray-Nieporte and Bill Niepote) will celebrated 25 years of “Success-in-Marriage.” Notice our word SUCCESS. We’ve not just survived 25 years of marriage (as a friend recently said of her relationship with her spouse). On the contrary, we have ...
Views: 1278 - If You Are Still Single Hoping to Have a Relationship, Use the Holidays to Figure Out How to Succeed in Developing Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2013 from Doron GilThe Holidays are approaching! Isn’t it time to celebrate? Not for everybody. If you are single fearing being alone during the holidays, your might want the festivities to pass as quickly as possible. “No time of the year might be so dark, uncomfortable and annoying”, you tell yourself”; “If ...
Views: 1167 - ***The Internet is Full of Fake Experts about Love and Marriage! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Increasingly, there are folks who post lots of vacuous stuff on the Internet who purport to be experts. They imply through their postings that they are all-knowing – that they have actually written widely about their topic, done the research to ...
Views: 2133(12 votes) - Dr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love: 1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship. You can mess around with anyone (if you’re careful and have safe sex) but before you bring someone into your life, or share money or living space, remember they’re ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date! You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes: 1. Pay Attention! You Have Things to ...
Views: 1753(1 vote) - ***Sustaining Love In Tough Economic Times - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past several years the economy has been in decline, the unemployment rate has gone up, and home ownership has taken a dip. Sometimes, watching the Evening News causes one to wonder if the good old USA is in decline, if the financial state of ...
Views: 1728(9 votes) - Can You Really Find Love The 2nd Time Around? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Tina TessinaIf You're Searching And Can't Find Love, Try This Probably the most prevalent question I'm asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can't find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won't respond as they would like, even why ...
Views: 1711(1 vote) - The Holidays are a Perfect Time to Reflect and Contemplate How to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Doron GilHave you ever learned in school how to develop a successful relationship? Have your parents ever given you a good example? And, most of all: what makes you think you know how to succeed in an intimate relationship? Well, if you find yourself failing time and again, you know the answer: you don’t ...
Views: 1033 - ***Bullying Never Works In Love - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBullying Never Works In Love By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Bullies--don’t you just hate bullies! They try to get what they want by bullying you, by intimidating you, and by making you feel inferior to them. If you are like us, this NEVER works! Yet, so many good folks ...
Views: 2004(7 votes) - Are You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAre You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays? The Holidays are always a difficult time of year for people for many reasons. At the risk of adding to the plethora of writing on this topic, I still feel called to share with you how you can use this time as an opportunity for change and ...
Views: 1860(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Feel Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends. There ...
Views: 2030 - Life Is The Way You Make It - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2013 from Cynthia OrtizOne of the biggest set backs you can give yourself is allowing your “outer life” control your “inner life”. Your inner LIFE is who you really are. It is where nothing can break you and all that matters can be found. It is where you are protected, safe, loved and one with Source. When we ...
Views: 1206(2 votes) - Communication Breakdown: Steps To Better Communication With Your Spouse to Avoid Divorce - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferEvery couple has a communication breakdown in their marriage at some point. In fact, most couples have numerous breakdowns in communication throughout their marriage. Communication is really a simple thing, but somehow as humans, we complicate things and blur the lines of communication with ...
Views: 3075(1 vote) - ***"Why Didn't God Stop The Abuse?" - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Margaret PaulHave you ever wondered why God allows so much abuse, so much pain, so much war? "God has no hands but these." - Mother Theresa I am often asked by my clients, "If God is all powerful, why didn't he stop my father (or mother, or brother, or babysitter, or uncle ...
Views: 1656 - Dear Dr. Romance: Every time I think about him it just hurts - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really ...
Views: 1622(1 vote) - Karma: The Pros and Cons of Cheating in a Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Scott & Stephen PetulloThe statistics of recurring studies around the world show that cheating in relationships is far more common than everyday appearances let on; an average of 45% of respondents claim to have cheated in a relationship, and that doesn't include those who haven't admitted to an affair or ...
Views: 5533 - ***The Longest Married Couple in America - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our heartfelt congratulations to Ann and John Betar of Fairfield, Connecticut on the occasion of their 81st Wedding Anniversary! Worldwide Marriage Encounter has verified that the Betar’s are the longest married couple in America. When they took ...
Views: 1918(5 votes) - Relationships: Do Some People Have Sex To Experience Love? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone. But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ...
Views: 1730 - How Not To Be A Wicked Stepparent - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Tina Tessina4 Real Ways To Make It Work Are you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help. 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. ...
Views: 1607(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife is reading romance novels - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance For many many years, i have been the income earner for our 4 kids and my wife while she was home raising the kids. Day in day out I was working sometimes three jobs. I got into a career that took 10-15 hrs per day for the first three years - the money was great and I ...
Views: 7144(1 vote) - *** Succeeding Through Failure - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Margaret Paul"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. --Michael Jordan, Former Professional Basketball Player and ...
Views: 1300 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from ...
Views: 11233 - ***Toilet Seat Love - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we say repeatedly, the little things matter in love and marriage. Do the little things and your marriage or loving relationship will prosper. Charley learned his lesson nearly a half-century ago! He grew up in a rural area of Missouri back ...
Views: 1973(16 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stop Others From Showing Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feeling connected to other people and having a sense of being understood, it is vital that one is not only honest with themselves about what they are going through, but that they are honest with others to. Now, this is going to be more relevant with the people that one is ...
Views: 1732(1 vote) - Are You Stuck in an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship? Here are 3 Routes for you to Consider - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Doron GilThe increasing number of separations and divorce is an indication that many are not satisfied with their relationships. Yet, those who stay in an unsatisfying relationship might have reasons for doing so. Whatever the reasons are, there are at least 3 routes to making a change. Reasons for ...
Views: 1568 - The Blame Game - Stop It - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from WEE DILTSThe Blame Game - Stop It To define Blame, let’s first look to Webster who says it is to accuse others of being at fault; to say or think that a person, place or thing, is responsible for something happening; to put the responsibility for the fault somewhere else. Does this sound familiar? It ...
Views: 1088 - ***Are you in a One-sided relationship with a Narcissist? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Julie Hart“A Narcissist is someone who after taking the trash out gives the impression he just cleaned the whole house” Have you ever got the sense that your partner thinks he/she is generally superior to you, or more entitled to things than you are? Does he/she find a host of ways to devalue you or ...
Views: 7449(1 vote) - ***When is Anger good and when is Anger bad? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Julie HartAnger is the natural emotion we humans experience in response to a perceived threat, frustration, assault or obstruction to our humanity and who we are. Anger can basically fall into 2 categories: - 1. Our native response to not being taken care of properly or our needs being met (which is ...
Views: 2158 - Dr. Romance Video: Holidays with Family and In-laws - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video Dr. Romance on Holidays with Family and In-laws Marriage means relating to in-laws and extended family. This is what "cleave to each other, forsaking all others" in the old marriage vows meant: Once married, you are now each other's primary ...
Views: 1972(1 vote) - Survive His Affair: Steps To Take When The SOB Cheats On You - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferBoom! It hits you hard and rips out your heart. The love of your life has been cheating on you with another woman. That dirty SOB of a husband has done a lot of things over the years to make you angry, but nothing he has done in the past even remotely compares to this. His affair has violated ...
Views: 1548(1 vote) - 3 Tips Single Parents Need To Know - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaHow To Be a Happier -- and More Successful -- Single Parent Are you a single parent struggling with how to make it all work? Dr. Romance offers three tips to happier single parenting. 1. Be a Grownup. I know you’ve probably had a tough time, but you’re a parent, and your child’s ...
Views: 1754(1 vote) - ***Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here’s the rub – being IN love is easy. It expresses an emotion common to those relationships that have transcended the millennia. Being in love is central to the best marriages – to the best relationships between two people. But being in love is ...
Views: 1914(17 votes) - Get The Loving Relationships That You Want And Deserve - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferSuccessful living begins with loving, passionate relationships that are mutually beneficial to both partners. Many people "settle" for just any relationship and never get the love they want and deserve. If you want a loving, passionate relationship with that special someone, then you have to be ...
Views: 1052(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to ...
Views: 4544 - Out with the Old – In with the New - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Anthony DiazDoesn't it seem that life was so much easier when there were no IPhone’s, IPad’s, IPod's, texting , IM’s, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn? Now everyone has smart phones, e-mails and voice mail. Add the pressure from work, the economy, money issues and the housing market and it’s no wonder our ...
Views: 1008 - ***Does Controlling Others Make You Feel Happy? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Margaret PaulAre you aware of the feelings you cause yourself when you attempt to control others rather than love yourself? "I have never been able to conceive how any rational being could propose happiness to himself from the exercise of power over others." - Thomas ...
Views: 1258 - Are you an ADHD “Helicopter” Partner? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Laurie DuparDo you hover over your spouse while they’re doing housework or completing other important tasks around the house? Do you take more than your share of responsibility for things in your ADHD relationship? Do you find it is just easier to get things done if you micro-manage your partner’s schedule ...
Views: 4049(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I find her volatile and aggressive - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name and contact details on a web it whilst trying to find info' to help my relationship. I wonder if you might be able to offer me any advice please ? My girlfriend always wants to take control and the way she speaks to me at times is though ...
Views: 1793 - Don’t Sacrifice Yourself for a Partner and a Relationship: It Will Only Cause You Harm - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Doron GilYou will be amazed to realize what people do for love. Some sacrifice themselves on the “altar of a relationship”, some are involved with dangerous and stupid “adventures”. But whatever others do, what is important is that you know yourself and know what you are willing, or unwilling, to do “for ...
Views: 1882 - Infidelity: Rebuilding Your Marriage After Your Spouse Cheats - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferLet's face it, infidelity causes deep personal pain, but your spouse's affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage. In fact, I hope the information I share with you here will help you save your marriage and help you rebuild the trust you need to fully recover from this painful ...
Views: 1693 - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #7 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #7 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1780(15 votes) - Dr. Romance on Dealing with Disappointment or failure - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: OK, so you're disappointed. Your dream has ended in the trashbin. So, after you get finished with laying on the floor, kicking your heels, and screaming; or going on a drunken binge, or beating someone up, you find you're still disappointed, and all that acting out ...
Views: 2874(1 vote) - How to Handle the End of Your Long-Term Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Scott & Stephen PetulloHow to end a long-term relationship? It's never easy, especially when you've built your lives around each other and you thought it would last forever. Before you end a long-term relationship, make sure you've done all you can to salvage it. In addition to solution-based communication (rather ...
Views: 1084 - Are You Remarried? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDon't Let Divorce Muddy Your Marriage - 3 Tips Are you remarried? Are you trying to make this new relationship work. Dr. Romance offers three tips to help this new marriage work better than the first one. 1. Understand your baggage. You both have leftovers from earlier ...
Views: 1729(1 vote) - What is “A Complete Relationship”? One which is Based on “Positive” & “Negative”. Coming to Terms with is Helps the Intimacy - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2013 from Doron GilSometimes in relationships you want to have only the half – the “good” half, not the “bad”; the “positive”, not the “negative”; the “easy”, not the “difficult”. But “a complete relationship” is based on both the “good”, and the “bad”, the “positive” as well as the “negative”. And when you learn ...
Views: 1172 - Marriage Advice: Work On The Fundamentals - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferMarriage Advice: Work On The Fundamentals It seems everyone wants to provide marriage advice to couples who are struggling, but unfortunately, sometimes that advice is coming from people who are not doing so well in their own marriage. In fact, this advice may be coming from someone who has ...
Views: 1008(1 vote) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #6 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #6 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 2044(15 votes)