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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Does Your Ex Want You Back Or Are You Being Used? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengOccasionally I get calls from men and women who want to know if their ex is using them and before I can even answer, they get into "He/she is really a good person, I really don't think he/she is using me... I guess he/she is looking deep down in his/her heart to find out what he/she really wants ...
Views: 21848 - Will Your Ex Come Back Or Contact You Again If You Use No Contact? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengI have read a lot of articles and even books where people recommend going "No Contact" so that your ex misses you and wants you back. But does going NC really bring your ex back? Sometimes "absence makes the heart grow fonder" but sometimes "out of sight, out of mind" applies too. Sure, ...
Views: 3865 - Attracting Your Ex Back - Getting Past No To Getting Yes - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengToo many attempts at a romantic love-reunion go wrong not because the other person does not want to give the relationship another try but because the confrontational dialogue or aggressive type approach used time and again by many men and women when trying to get their ex back repeatedly damages ...
Views: 6556 - 9 Playing Hard To Get Strategies That Keep Him Or Her Interested - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengOnce you've piqued a man/woman's interest enough for him/her to be attracted to you, how do you keep him/her there? One way to enhance the attraction and keep his/her interest is play hard-to-get. Playing hard-to-get when done right is much more important than most people think, realize or are ...
Views: 7614(1 vote) - Heart Freedom Exercise (3): Wishes Of The Heart - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandOpen your heart. Keep your heart open. Open it again every time it closes. Time for Exercise: one minute Properties Required: none Steps: Imagine the one best thing that could happen for the following people in your life. What if you could grant each of these people one wish? What ...
Views: 623 - Got Jealousy? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2008 from Kristin DentonWhat do humans and the frilled lizard have in common? It's that sometimes, when we’re afraid, we both puff out our faces and ears and try to act really, really scary. It's true! The fear in jealousy is so strong that it can sometimes make us react to situations like a frilled lizard, ...
Views: 540 - Heart Freedom Exercise (2): Novocain - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandNovocain How do you dull your emotional pain? How do you hide from hurting? Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: Identify any strategies you use to dull, deny, avoid, or suppress emotional pain. The first step for healing emotional pain is to ...
Views: 699 - ANY RELATIONSHIP CAN GO SOUTH QUICKLY - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2008 from William CottringerANY RELATIONSHIP CAN GO SOUTH QUICKLY By Bill Cottringer “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~Henry Winkler. Great, good or ghastly relationships can go South in a New York second if they are not prepared ahead of time for the Big “S”—the inevitable stress that challenges ...
Views: 904 - An Introduction To Love - What Kind Of Love Are You In? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Diane BabcockWhat kind of love are you talking about? There are many forms of love that English has only has one word for which is 'love' and it gets bantered about indiscriminately. Greek has five, which are more descriptive: Desire – Attraction (epithumia) Longing – Romance (eros) ...
Views: 7452 - Marriage Was Made For People - People Were Not Made For Marriage. - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Diane BabcockBe glad we don't live in a place where marriages are arranged or we are restricted to certain partners like a religious cult. Been there, done that. The best advice you can ever gave yourself was to discard any lingering baggage from childhood and get to know yourself really well before you ...
Views: 2563 - Relationships - What Makes Yours Tick? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Diane BabcockIf you want a relationship to click...find out what makes it tick. One question you could ask yourself is, "What do I see in another person that excites me to be with them"? You might reply to yourself, I like intelligent conversation and a bit of adventure in spirit. I like someone who ...
Views: 3924 - 7 Personality Traits You Need To Survive A Break-Up - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2008 from Dan And JenniferMany years ago, when I finally overcame my extremely painful break up, I noticed a strong shift in different areas of my life. I'd become stronger, more independent, my relationship to others had improved - I was simply able to enjoy life more. That was the moment when I started to plan how to ...
Views: 5393 - Tips That Will Keep Your Relationship Rockin’ - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2008 from Nicole CalhounMy husband and I are high school sweethearts. We have been together for fifteen years, now. He and I got married when we were only twenty and twenty-one years old. I am now thirty-one and he’s thirty-two. We’re working on eleven blissful years of marriage. It has been an amazing experience to ...
Views: 861 - Why People Lie to Us - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockLying is a kind of "get out of jail free" card. We can do bad things, lie about them, and we're off the hook. Or it seems that we are. But really, we're just setting the hook deeper as we begin to believe that we can get away with almost anything, and our conduct becomes increasingly unwholesome ...
Views: 2749 - How to Handle Visits With Your MIL at HER House! - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2008 from Sally ShieldsThere are a few key things that you need to be aware of, before going over to your MIL’s place. First of all, know in advance that you will be making mistakes, but this is actually good, because you will take specific, and copious notes that will provide you with plenty of material for ...
Views: 1223 - 5 More Magical Modes of Handling Visits at YOUR house with your "MIL!" - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2008 from Sally ShieldsOkay ladies, here are a just a few more tips when preparing for that visit from your husbands other woman. It just takes a bit of effort, but will make all the difference in the world and you can begin to actually look forward (almost) to her arrival. After all, it means a lot less cooking and ...
Views: 1273 - Relationship Breakups How To Cope - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2008 from Michael SkowronskiNo matter how you slice it, relationship breakups are difficult to cope with. For those whose relationships are suffering from problems you may find this relationship advice challenging to say the least, especially if you are/were in a committed love relationship. But stay open and read it all ...
Views: 961 - How To Talk To Girls - Talking Your Way To A Girl's HeartHow To Talk To Girls - Talking Your Way To - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2008 from Michael LeeWant to know how to talk to girls and easily attract them? In this article, you’ll discover some unique conversation tips to warm up and eventually get a woman to like you. Putting her under a romantic spell can be very easy if you follow these great tips on how to talk to girls. Be Calm ...
Views: 657 - Seduction Techniques - 3 Sexy Ways To Seduce A Man - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2008 from Michael LeeIf you want to discover seduction techniques to put any man under your spell, then this article is one of the most useful ones you’ll ever read. There are many ways to seduce a man, but many women found these 3 seduction techniques to be the most effective. Seduction Technique # 1 - Be ...
Views: 1035 - 5 More Magical Modes Of Handling Visits At Your house With Your “MIL!” - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2008 from Sally ShieldsOkay ladies, here are a just a few more tips when preparing for that visit from your husbands other woman. It just takes a bit of effort, but will make all the difference in the world and you can begin to actually look forward (almost) to her arrival. After all, it means a lot less cooking and ...
Views: 1271 - Discover Hidden Opportunities In Difficult People - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2008 from William G Jr CovingtonConflict is inevitable in relationships whether socially or at work. Some are minor, others can lead to severe stress. It may not be possible to eliminate conflict, but learning how to deal with it appropriately can enhance the quality of life by reducing stress and improving relationships. With ...
Views: 934 - Intimacy Tips To Bridge The Communication Gap - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsDo you ever feel like you’re pouring out your heart to a blank stare? When you try to communicate with your love, does it sometimes seem like you're just not speaking the same language? He or she may be trying really hard to figure out what you are talking about, but just can’t ...
Views: 1006 - Marriage & Relationships: Stay Or Leave And Fear Being Alone, Two Examples - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2008 from Scott & Stephen PetulloShould you stay or should you go, and how should you do it? Will you be alone for the rest of your life if you leave? Whether or not to leave an unhappy relationship and strike out alone can be an agonizing decision for many. Viewing it from a different perspective will help you. Below we ...
Views: 2104 - Are You Attracting Frogs Not Princes? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2008 from Debra Brown GordyIs this the year you will attract your prince? Or instead, will you attract frogs? This can be the year that you meet “Mr. Right”. If you haven’t done so, NOW is the time to set the spiritual and energetic foundation for achieving your dream marriage. With every year that passes, the ...
Views: 1467 - Ways To Seduce A Man - 5 Seduction Techniques To Attract Any Man - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2008 from Michael LeeIs there any man that you’d like to have a relationship with? If your ideal man isn’t attracted to you yet, don’t worry. In this article, I’ll reveal 5 proven (and sexy) ways to seduce a man. Men are flattered when they know they’re being seduced, but you have to be ...
Views: 2287 - Mind Freedom Exercise (19): Fantasy Fun - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandFantasy Fun Fantasies provide opportunities to explore all aspects of sexuality with a lover you trust in a situation that is safe, even though some fantasies might involve danger, violence, or taboos. Suggested guidelines for exploring fantasy: No-one gets hurt—no means no, and stop ...
Views: 792 - Losing Interest In A Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2010 from M.Farouk RadwanLosing interest in a relationship He fell in love with her at the first sight He kept trying and trying until one day he knew that she felt the same for him He couldn’t believe himself and felt so happy Then few days later he lost his enthusiasm He started to wonder if she was really ...
Views: 6982 - The Secret To Divorce Proofing Your Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2008 from Judith ShervenDespite hundreds of relationship experts and how-to books, the divorce rate still hovers somewhere around 55%, and the divorce rate for second marriages is even higher -- roughly 70% -- and those divorces occur in half the time. Now, what really causes divorce? Really . . . Most often it's ...
Views: 697 - The Fear Of Being Fabulous – In Love - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2008 from Judith ShervenWhat’s the number one hijacker of love and relationships? Self-rejection. Self-rejection. Self-rejection. What do we mean by self-rejection? Well, you see, most men and women judge themselves as being inadequate, unworthy, unlovable. So, when they’re in a dating situation or marriage, ...
Views: 808 - Who Do You Think You Are - by Who do you think you are?
This is a question that philosophers have been asking for millenniums. How and why did this whole universe begin? Why are human beings here? What is their purpose? We could get very broad and deep about the answers, or we could just probe our own selves and say that we ...
Views: 2132 - Interpreting Female Body Language - 4 Body Language Tips To Know If She Likes You - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2008 from Michael LeeWomen may not tell you how they feel, but you can still decode their inner thoughts and feelings anytime by skillfully interpreting female body language signals. With this ability, you won’t have to guess whether they’re enjoying your company or not. And you can decide right from ...
Views: 829 - Mind Freedom Exercise (18): Delectable Deliberations - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMind Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Delectable Deliberations One of the sexiest turn-ons for men and women is the intellectual stimulation of exploring and disagreeing about ideas. Time for Exercise: the length of a meal Properties Required: none ...
Views: 642 - I Was Wrong And I'm Sorry - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2008 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersBefore taking some much needed time off for the Labor Day holiday, we submitted our last blog post (Would You Rather Be Right Or Happy?) and, as usual, we were almost immediately provided with an opportunity to practice what we preach. The other day, while running an errand, we decided to stop ...
Views: 1596(2 votes) - Workplace Romance - Should You Or Shouldn't You? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2008 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersDear Keith and Maura, Do you think it means anything if a guy you like at work happens to give you his cell phone number out of the blue, or if you ask that guy – joking around – if he can give you a ride home from work and he has a big grin on his face? I work at a grocery store ...
Views: 1575 - How Do You Know It’s Love? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2008 from Judith ShervenReal love and real romance, the kind that lasts a lifetime, that’s what most people want. So why does dating have a bad rap? And why do more than half of all marriages end up in divorce? The answer’s pretty clear when you look at what most people settle for, or worse yet, put up with. ...
Views: 1048 - How To Write a Romantic Online Profile - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2008 from chloe millerYour online profile should be accurate and unique. Take your time to write something that doesn’t make you sound like a superhero. - Read other people's profiles and get a sense of style and add that something unique. Don’t make things up! - Mention your marital status, sexual ...
Views: 954 - Mind Freedom Exercise (17): Posting Priorities - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandPosting Priorities Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: One partner reads the following story to the other. An expert in time management who spent a lot of his time in the countryside, came to town on occasion and spoke to business ...
Views: 2294 - Are Spiritual Relationships Hard? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2008 from Master Coach Hu DalconzoI am blessed that one of my earth plane roles is to be the founder of a spiritual life coaching school called Holistic Learning Centers, Inc. (HLC). I am proud to share with you that HLC’s self-help, life coaching exercises have been clinically proven to work on hundreds of students over the ...
Views: 1540 - Are You Desperate? Then Date Ugly Women! - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2008 from Cordell WallaceIs your love life going downhill fast? Tired of being turned down time and time again by the hotties at your local club? Are women not returning your calls? Can’t get a second date? Not getting past first base... EVER?! Then maybe it’s time to turn to women who will actually ...
Views: 1589 - The Most Dangerous Relationships – Three Signs - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockWhen we fall in love, we are blinded from these three signs. This is Mother Nature's way of making sure that babies happen! After about two years, however, we regain our perspective, and these three signs begin to show up. If you are very aware, you can notice them almost immediately even ...
Views: 895 - Mind Freedom Exercise (16): Completely Committed - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandCompletely Committed Time for Exercise: 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: Explain to your partner what your commitment means. Give evidence that supports your statement and shows your commitment. Below are examples of evidence that commitment is real. The items on this ...
Views: 616 - Baby Doll Lingerie Has Always Been A Lingerie Favourite - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2008 from Amanda CotterillBaby doll lingerie has developed a reputation as classic nightwear. Loyal fans have their favorite styles, and designers regularly release updates and changes. Babydolls have a brief but interesting history, of which many fans are unaware. Provided here is a quick guide to the history of baby ...
Views: 1003 - The 5 Most Common Mistakes That Daughters-in-Law Make! - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2008 from Sally ShieldsLadies! There are a few simple things you can avoid that will save you from repeat D.I.L.Z. (Daughter-in-Law Zings) that we all experience from time to time (some of us more than others!). Although these exercises started off as a tongue-in-cheek coping mechanism, once I began putting a few of ...
Views: 1262 - The Golden Rules Of Successful Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2008 from Marga JeeI am one of those persons who have always been in a relationship, at least since I was 14, and successful ones. They had their natural flow and growth and at a certain point they came to and end, with a little sadness in saying goodbye and the certainty that the emptiness of separation was ...
Views: 1555 - How To Use Modern Technology To Add Old-Fashioned Romance To Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2008 from Dan And JenniferSo, when's the last time you used modern technology to share your romantic feelings with your significant other? The advent of the Internet, cell phones and hundreds of other modern communication tools has indeed made our world a bit more impersonal and fostered an expectation of immediate ...
Views: 1182 - Attract Who You Want - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Michelle GabbeI’m constantly surrounded by helplessness and incompetence. It was a familiar refrain from an executive friend of mine who felt responsible for fixing everyone and everything around him. The women in his life were always emotionally fragile, damsel-in-distress types. His bosses never saw his ...
Views: 839 - Relationships and Marriage: Alternatives to Being Alone vs. Unhappily Involved, 2 Case Studies - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2008 from Scott & Stephen PetulloWe receive many inquiries from people agonizing over the choice between staying in an unhappy, unsatisfying relationship or leaving and potentially being alone. The majority of them are more worried about being alone for the rest of their lives and because of this, remain stuck in ...
Views: 1297 - Mind Freedom Exercise (15): I Changed My Mind - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandI Changed My Mind… And she never gives out, and she never gives in. She just changes her mind. Billy Joel, She's Always a Woman Time for Exercise: 10 to 30 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: Individually select an issue that has been a bone of contention ...
Views: 626 - Heartaches At First Sight - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockWe meet someone, we like them, want to see them again, and soon we are forming a deep relationship. This seems like a very natural, innocuous, and innocent thing to do, and we do it every day. What we seldom realize, however, is that we are also forming a psychological attachment. After we meet ...
Views: 625 - How Do You Define A Successful Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2008 from Audrey ValerianiIn my coaching sessions with clients, I realized that the way many people define a “successful” relationship is limited to only those that result in marriage. Well, I am here to tell you that is not necessarily the case. When you are in a relationship with someone, as you put certain things ...
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