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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Make Your Interactions Successful - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Todd HicksAre you a “people” person? Do you have the desire to become perfect at interaction and develop your interpersonal skills? You will learn what it takes to connect with others. Take advantage of proximity. Start talking with those you see on a frequent basis. Try saying, “Hi. I see you a lot ...
Views: 653 - Mind Freedom Exercise (13): The Whine Cellar - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandThe Whine Cellar Do you catch yourself whining and complaining needlessly about what ails you and what you don’t like? Do you notice your lover doing the same? Whining and complaining rarely elicit compassion from those around us but rather tend to annoy everyone. Certainly it is ...
Views: 631 - How Falling In Love Is Like Having A New Puppy - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2008 from Cherry NorrisThe night before Valentine's Day, my husband, Lorenzo, walked up the stairs carrying a small bundle of fur. Looking up from my computer, I asked, "What's that? Is it stuffed? Is it alive?" Lorenzo set the "fluff ball" on the floor. It barely moved. I couldn't see his eyes for all the ...
Views: 1343 - Attracting The Relationship You Want Instead Of The One You Left - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2008 from Dan And JenniferUnless you have been hiding underneath a rock you have heard about the Law of Attraction in the past couple of years. Since the movie “the Secret” came out it seems that everyone has been talking about it. Basically the Law of Attraction says that you will attract what you ...
Views: 1022 - Mind Freedom Exercise (12): You Go First - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandYou Go First The poet Alta once wrote, “Let’s stop hurting each other. You go first.” Somebody has to go first if things are going to change for the better. Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: none Steps: Identify a contentious issue that ...
Views: 674 - Empathizing With A Wife Beater? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from Dan And JenniferJim was a thirty-something man who was involved in a violent relationship. He was not proud of his part in the violence and had been attending an anger management group. He felt to blame for what had happened and was clearly confused and ashamed that he had behaved this way toward the woman he ...
Views: 1076 - The Top 3 Trickiest Topics To Traverse With Your Mother-in-Law And Just How To Handle Them! - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from Sally Shields1) Advice This is something that all parents give, regardless of in-law status or not. However, when our mother-in-law offers us advice (particularly of the unsolicited persuasion) there is a specific formula that we must adhere to in order to preserve our sanity. And that is to thank her ...
Views: 1823 - What Cheating Boyfriend Test Can I Do? For Quick Results Try This - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from Doug and Chris YoungWhy do you need a Cheating Boyfriend Test? Presumably you suspect that your boyfriend is up to no good because you've already picked up on some warning signs. Typical signs of a cheating boyfriend include changes in his personal behaviour, changes in his online behaviour and changes in the way ...
Views: 1573 - 5 More Essential Newlywed Strategies For The Frazzled Bride - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2008 from Sally ShieldsFor the newlywed daughter-in-law, here are five more simple (but not always easy) strategies to follow. You will soon reap the benefits of this advice. For example - want to lose weight? Forget Atkins! Make friends with your mother-in-law! She'll come over, watch the kids, and YOU can go to ...
Views: 1479 - How To Achieve A Lifetime Of Smooth Sailing with your Husband and "MIL" and Save Yourself Years of Frustration, Anger And Anti-D - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2008 from Sally ShieldsThe Daughter-in-Law Newlywed: What to Do When The Honeymoon is Over (Literally!) So, you’ve just stepped off the bus–do not delay! You must take these 5 rules and place them in your arsenal of weaponry immediately!!! It is often the most vulnerable time for a daughter-in-law (although you ...
Views: 1267 - 5 More Common Mistakes That Daughters-in-Law Make And How To Avoid Them! - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2008 from Sally ShieldsMistake #1 –– Don’t be Objective When Your MIL Criticizes You –– You must always remember your objectivity! Solution: If your MIL tells you your hair looks better the other way, enthusiastically thank her by solidly agreeing how difficult it is to be objective about yourself. Then style it ...
Views: 1760 - Can You Manage (And Make Friends With) Your Mother-in-Law? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2008 from Sally ShieldsYour MIL is coming! As your mother-in-law is due to arrive in a couple of hours, your hands sweat and your heart begins to palpitate as you quickly try to neaten and straighten the house to perfection. HELP! Can you possibly live up to her standards? Will anything you do be to her satisfaction? ...
Views: 1745 - Is My Man Cheating? Whether Cheating Husbands or Cheating Boyfriends, The Signs Are The Same - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2008 from Doug and Chris YoungIs my man cheating, you're wondering. Whether it's cheating husbands or cheating boyfriends the warning signs are the same. You suspect that he's cheating on you. You have that awful feeling that he's up to no good behind your back but you just can't be certain since you've got no proof. ...
Views: 1342 - Anger Management Tips for April Fools' Day - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2009 from Dr. Lyle BecourtneyApril Fools' Day is a day marked by the carrying out of practical jokes of varying degree on friends, enemies, colleagues, and neighbors. While most April Fools' Day pranks are taken in stride, there will always be some that elicit very strong emotional reactions. Feelings of shame and ...
Views: 3368(2 votes) - How To Find Yourself (How To Look Within) - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockUnderstanding oneself, one's drives, one's emotions, the way in which one's mind works, is the minimum requirement for successful relationships. Without this understanding of oneself, without taking the time to learn about oneself, relationships can be merely a tug of war between two independent ...
Views: 771 - Fun Activities That Will Strengthen The Bond Bewteen You And Your Pets - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2008 from brian spilnerIt is always new and exciting to get a new pet. One of the most rewarding aspects of having a pet is getting to know your dog and experiencing the thrill of having man’s best friend in your very own home each and every day. So, once you get a new dog in the family, here are a few ways to ...
Views: 1122 - Smart Men Make Passes At Women With Glasses - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2008 from Gina SteppMeet Christine Whelan—an attractive, 29-year-old woman with a PhD from Oxford University. When I spoke with her she happened to be single, having been dumped two years earlier by a man who told her she was intellectually intimidating. For a break-up line it seems fairly believable. After ...
Views: 1473 - How To Please Your Man And Make Him More Loyal - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2012 from Janet MartinContrary to what many people think, the lives of men do not merely revolve around the hanky-panky activities in the bedroom. If you want your partner to be happy and content, you should do much more than give in to his sexual desires. Although, let's face it, giving him sexual pleasure is really ...
Views: 1461 - Mind Freedom Exercise (11): Two Ways Make New Ways - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandTwo Ways Make New Ways Time for Exercise:15 minutes to two hours Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: Have a conversation during which you identify points of difference, such as ways of thinking or acting, values, and beliefs. Some of these differences might be minor; ...
Views: 668 - Would You Know If Your Spouse Is True To You? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2008 from Bill MitchellSOUTH CAROLINA — It’s hard not to flip on a news channel without hearing another story of a picture-perfect marriage destroyed by infidelity. Mistresses, prostitutes and membership to cheating internet sites are bringing a close on the chapter the great American way of life. A wife and a ...
Views: 1512 - Three Brains And A Partner - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2008 from Gary Brainerd, PhDOne of the most important aspects of the human experience that couples are wise to fully understand is how brain physiology impacts intimate, committed relationships. I see this as a core piece of information that will help you make sense out of what is often both distressing and confusing to ...
Views: 1848 - 3 Styles of Relationships: Which One Is Right For You? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2008 from Cherry NorrisA year after Lorenzo and I were married, we had a difficult time. No matter how much we loved each other, it seemed we were constantly fighting. We couldn't agree on anything. Not only were we challenged with the obvious...he's a man and I'm a woman...we had the added complication of Lorenzo ...
Views: 1085 - How Surviving Infidelity Can Make Your Relationship Even Stronger - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2008 from Doug and Chris YoungIf you look at the statistics you'll see that the chances of surviving infidelity in your relationship or marriage are pretty lousy. With all your emotions in turmoil, the anger, betrayal, guilt, remorse and confusion normally make it impossible to be rational so the chances of reconciliation ...
Views: 2120 - THE INTERVAL - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2008 from Zannah Hackett"The Interval" is an interesting topic of discussion. Formerly referred to over the ages as "The Midlife Crisis", "The Frantic Forties", "The Transition" and the "Red Sports Car", it continues to rear its ugly little head even when we spend thousands of dollars trying to become aware so that we ...
Views: 1531 - Nature's Plan For Emotional Healing - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2008 from Gary Brainerd, PhDWhen two people fall in love, something profound is happening that goes far beyond physical attraction, desire for companionship and even similarity of values and interests. There is an activation of an unconscious agenda that began years ago, rooted in childhood hurts and unmet needs. That ...
Views: 2662 - Mind Freedom Exercise (9): How Do I Love Thee? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandTime for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: Each of you makes a list of things loved and appreciated about the other. Take turns reading your lists out loud. Comments: You can never hear too many times why your partner loves, admires, ...
Views: 671 - Letting Go—Releasing Our Children Into The World - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2008 from Deborah MaragopoulosDriving back home on Southern California freeways crowded with tourists taking advantage of the last glorious summer weekend…an ache in my breast, a dark shadow where the sun once shone, an eclipse in my existence…I left my daughter, my sunshine, at the university in San Diego. How long I’ve ...
Views: 1350 - Seeds of Partings - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockMeetings of yesterday - seeds of tomorrow’s partings Planted as hope - the sadness I know, Growing straight and strong for so long, And now fallen down in an ocean of tears. Had I but known of the heartaches ahead, And if I did, what matter? What escape from this velvet noose, This ...
Views: 764 - Online Dating Advice – 9 Basic Rules - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2008 from K. UrbanThere's all kinds of online dating advice given by self-proclaimed relationship gurus, but it baffles me why the basic rules are forgotten in their advice. When you post your profile online you want to make sure you stay safe and you want to have a successful dating experience. With this ...
Views: 1049 - Honesty And Dishonesty Through Handwriting Analysis - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2008 from Joel EngelIn order to determine dishonesty in one’s handwriting, the ability to recognize honesty is a prerequisite. Honesty In general, the handwriting of honest people has clarity, simplicity and a firm, straight base line. (See Figure 1) The writing in Figure 1 is more or less straight. You can ...
Views: 1568 - You Are Your Soul Mate - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2008 from Richard Singer Jr.Within your own house dwells the treasure of joy, So why do you go begging from door to door As human beings we are consistently involved in an endless search for something external to fill the void within us. We search for the perfect partner or our Soul mate, with the hopes of finding ...
Views: 1700 - Cheating And Self Control - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2008 from Chidi Asika-EnahoroSelf discipline and self control are easier to conceptualize than they are to put in practice. They are wonderful attributes to have but the virtue of being selfless often takes a back seat to self gratification. Most humans tend to want to be gratified before they can think of satisfying ...
Views: 6685 - 4 Ways To Keep Anger From Wrecking Your Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2008 from Julie ChristiansenCall me old-fashioned, but I truly believe that when you marry, it should be with the intention of being with that partner for life. Sometimes I feel like my husband and I are a dying breed of dinosoars who can only stand by as our contemporaries drop like flies. In the year that I got married ...
Views: 1922 - Mind Freedom Exercise (8): Poet's Prophecy - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandPoet’s Prophecy Having something to look forward to is one of the supreme motivators in life. Helping your partner to see and believe that good things lie ahead is one of the great gifts you can offer. When lovers expect the best from each other, they are more likely to get it. The ...
Views: 710 - Eliot Spitzer's Morality Lessons For Sandwiched Boomers - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergThe media spotlight the past few days has been on Eliot Spitzer, the Governor of New York, and his link to the Emperor's Club VIP prostitution ring. Whether his damaging behavior is related to an inflated sense of entitlement, the dark side of his self righteous attitude, a feeling that he's ...
Views: 1318 - Your Winter Wedding Invitation Inspiration - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2008 from Calvin BaileySo you've decided to have your fairytale winter wedding? Congratulations! Now comes the one step that will create an ever increasing anticipation in the hearts and minds of the guests you invite. The step of creating, then delivering your invitations, asking family and friends to share your ...
Views: 621 - Needing Each Other - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond Rock"I need you," is not something we hear too often these days. When we do hear it, however, it touches a very deep chord in the depths of our being. To be needed, to be necessary and important means so much, because as human beings, we will always need each other. When we are not needed, when ...
Views: 654 - Mind Freedom Exercise (6): Mind Puzzle - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMind Puzzle Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required none Steps: Ask yourself the following questions. The first question is the most important one. All the other questions follow from that one. The first question is: “Who am I?” Some common answers might ...
Views: 691 - Communications & Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2008 from Dolly YeoWith all my five years of learning about self development, simply put, it is all about our communications and relationships. Think about it, isn’t it all about our daily communications and our relationships with our boss, colleagues, subordinates, friends, spouse and children and parents? ...
Views: 1314 - How Can He Love Me And Still See Her On The Side? (Video) - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2008 from Dan And JenniferWhat would you do if you started dating a man and the relationship seemed perfect. Except for one little thing... You find out that he hasn't really ended his last relationship. He's still seeing his ex while dating you. He sees her, he takes care of her emotionally and financially, and he ...
Views: 2195 - Why Men Don't Say 'I Love You'... - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2008 from Dan And JenniferYour guy may change your tires, buy you presents and open the door for you at a restaurant, but he has not yet uttered those three words. Does that mean he doesn't love you? Without hearing the utterance, you may wonder what's going on in his skull. Is he just sticking around for the sex? Has ...
Views: 9280 - THE 3 C’S OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from William CottringerTHE 3 C’S OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP By Bill Cottringer We are probably all getting far too overloaded with how-to advice on being successful at things like relationships; and the last thing I want to do is contribute more to the overload. I just want to clarify a few important things I have ...
Views: 12296 - Mind Freedom Exercise (4): Best Friends - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHow well do you really know each other? How much do you take each other for granted? Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: pen and paper Steps: Answer the following questions: What color(s) are your lover’s eyes? What color is your lover’s ...
Views: 659 - Fall Out Of Love With a Married Man - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2012 from Cristina AguilarThere are ways to fall out of love with a married man, once you recognize completely that he is not FREE to love you back. It doesn’t matter how powerful his vibes and feelings may be. I doesn’t matter that he is romantic and tells you things that lift you to the highest highs. I doesn’t matter ...
Views: 39556(2 votes) - The Top 10 Relationship Success Secrets That Everyone Ought To Know - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2008 from Dan And JenniferAs a couple’s therapist, I’ve seen a myriad of relationships styles. People who come in for counseling are clearly looking to change something they see problematic in their partnership. The problems range from the relatively benign tweaks in communication to serious pain and trust ...
Views: 1308 - Heeding Relationship Red Flags - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2008 from Janice BennettThe sport of auto racing traditionally uses a system of colored flags to communicate important messages to the participating drivers. Typically, there is a primary flagman who waves the flags atop a flagstand in the middle of the course. But because many drivers may not be able to see the ...
Views: 4114 - 9 Warning Signs Of A Dysfunctional Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Bill UrellDysfunctional relationships are relationships that create more emotional turmoil than satisfaction. Relationships are part of the human experience. But what happens if one or both partners have never been involved in a happy relationship, or had one modeled for them as a child? Chances are they ...
Views: 16476(1 vote) - How To Set Boundaries In A Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Bill UrellEvery relationship has boundaries, and this can mean a lot of things to a lot of people. Contrary to the popular belief of most hopeless romantics, relationships are not "partners meet and live happily ever after" types of affairs. Real relationships are composed of two individuals with often ...
Views: 2525 - Mind Freedom Exercise (2): What I Notice Today - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMind Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland What I Notice Today Your relationship is like a garden. You must pay attention to it every day weeding a little here, and watering a little there, so that it will thrive. Time for Exercise: two minutes Properties ...
Views: 675 - Conquering Commitment Phobia - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2008 from Janice BennettThe process of creating a life partner relationship typically progresses through various stages. At one important point, a couple will decide to become "exclusive," agreeing not to date anyone else. While being exclusive has its benefits, it is really only one stop on the road to a life ...
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