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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Winners Versus Losers - Why Some People And Couples Just Don't Cut It! - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2008 from Paul HannigIf you are looking for a way and the strategies to save, rehabilitate or enhance your most important love relationship, this is the message you have been waiting for. Let's cut to the chase. I know you want quick answers and I will give them to you. No messing around. No ifs, ands and ...
Views: 1778 - Ten Secrets To Improved Communication With Your Partner - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2008 from Nancy WassonWhen I asked several hundred people recently to name the biggest challenge in their relationship, the number one complaint was “poor communication with my partner.” And in my many years of helping couples stay connected, I’ve seen that poor communication has been a leading cause for couples to ...
Views: 1067 - How To Act On Your First Date? - Part 2 - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2008 from David DeAngeloLet me ask you, what are the most INTERESTING topics to humans in general? Right – drama, violence, scandal, and comedy that is painful to one of the parties involved. Here are a few good ideas for conversation that come to mind: “So what’s with The Osbournes being ...
Views: 778 - Gina Stepp: Wired To Connect - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2008 from Gina SteppPeople who are good at maintaining important relationships in their lives have always instinctively known what researchers are now discovering: good relationships are crucial to our health and well-being. In Social Intelligence: The Revolutionary New Science of Human Relationships, Daniel ...
Views: 950 - Why Sensitivity Training Is Insensitive And Patronizing - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2008 from Simma LiebermanI've often been asked if I "do sensitivity training" I found myself getting irritated by the very term "sensitivity training", and didn't know why I had such a visceral reaction. After spending time thinking about it, and talking to people who professed to be "sensitivity trainers' I realized ...
Views: 939 - Seduction Techniques To Keep The Relationship Alive - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2008 from Michael LeeThe art of seduction aims to captivate and spend passionate moments with your dream person. Without the proper seduction techniques at your disposal, you can just kiss these opportunities good bye. Seduction techniques require a focused mind; you need to be in control of all your actions while ...
Views: 633 - Relationships: Compatibility And Common Sense - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2008 from Linda WielandIn her search of the "perfect relationship," one Israeli woman discovered something important about herself. Hadas met Yaniv at a party. Something about him attracted her immediately and something about her attracted him too. He called her the next day and they went out, and Yaniv turned out to ...
Views: 1311(2 votes) - Magic Of Making Up - Why Women Leave Men - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2008 from JD DeanOne of the toughest things to figure out when you get dumped in a relationship is whether your ex really means they want to break up or whether they'll soon come to their senses and realize they made a mistake. The answer to both questions would normally be a resounding yes and no. Yes they ...
Views: 954 - How Hot Women Test Men They Date and Why - Part 1 - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2008 from David DeAngeloIn my opinion, most women, especially the ‘hotties’, have gone through a learning curve here in our western culture that has on average given them a sort of ‘predictable psychological makeup’. Now, there are differences between these women… some are smart, some are ...
Views: 1136 - Affairs of the Heart, and the Ending of Sorrow - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockWhen we think of heart, we think of our emotions. In the context of this article, however, heart means the summation of all that we are; our emotions, our thoughts, our bodies, and our minds – and the affairs of life that we all share. Affairs of the heart always begin with a solitary ...
Views: 749 - Do You Have Permission To Grieve Well? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2010 from Peter GerlachThough mourning the many losses (broken bonds) across our years is a natural (instinctive) reflex, it can be slowed or blocked. Incomplete or "complicated" grief can promote serious mental, emotional, physical, and relationship problems. Our feelgood, warp-speed society ("Don't Worry - Be ...
Views: 2884 - Your Ex Don't Answer Your Calls? Here's How You Can Make It Happen - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Anna AndersonHello Everyone Is there any trick or wonder words to makeyour ex answer your calls? Though you might think there's no way because he/she is so mad, believe me there is.Your ex is going to want to talk to you, in fact he/she is going to want to call you back. Good thing right? This is one of ...
Views: 4685 - Frustrated With Your Relationships? - It's Not Just About You - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonIt can be easy to feel hurt by the strong words your loved ones tell you. You might find yourself wondering why they would say something like that to you? What have you done to deserve that kind of pain? Anyone who has ever been in a close relationship knows that problems can get out of hand ...
Views: 1346 - The Magic Of Saving Your Love - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Anna AndersonWhat is it that we all want in Life? Love, yes Love, we all want Love. Because Love is what makes us happy, you know those butterflies in your belly, those silly smiles we just can't help, the daydreaming with happy thoughts all the time, when we're in Love even the sun seems to shine a lot ...
Views: 569 - The Path of Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2008 from Mara FisherWe often believe that relationships are supposed to be permanent, yet letting go is a theme throughout life. Somewhere along our path someone dies or we choose to leave them behind. Loss of a relationship plays a significant part in all of our lives. Because many of us define ourselves by our ...
Views: 1105 - What Is Love? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2008 from Rafi PerezIn this day and age it seems that love has gotten confused in the jumble of every day life. We confuse everything in our lives why not love. The best way to describe the simplicity of love I will share a story from my personal life. This story is similar to “The man that did not believe in ...
Views: 2489 - The Key To Happy Relationships (First, Love & Forgive Yourself) - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2008 from Jerry JellisonSETTING the SCENE What a subject…..huge in size & scope & complexity! But is there any other ongoing process in your life that is more important or consequential than our relationship with others? This is particularly so if the relationship in question is the one you have with the person you ...
Views: 2405 - Why Joy, Fun And Laughter Heal Everything Including Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2008 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersRecent research has shown us that when we take the time to relax and play, we will become healthier, happier, more creative, and more resilient to life's little setbacks. When we choose to have fun, to let go and laugh, our physiology actually changes. Our blood pressure drops, our glands ...
Views: 2130 - Learn How You Can Get Over Your Ex With These 3 Tips - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2008 from Daniel AmisIs it taking you along time to get over your ex? Well you're not alone. In fact it's hard for many people to get over their ex. Breaking up with someone isn't easy...but there are some things you can do. First let's identify some of the problems that may happen because of a breakup. 1. You ...
Views: 2033 - How To Keep Your Relationship Happy - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2008 from Mara FisherHow is it that many people expend tons of energy to find their "Soul Mate" and then, once they do their focus changes? Have you noticed this too? People stop putting energy into the relationship they had previously spent years dreaming about. Perhaps there have been disappointments; perhaps ...
Views: 1047 - Long Term Relationships vs. Sexual Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2008 from David DeAngeloHere’s a common problem: A man tries to impress a woman by doing things that show that he’s a good LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP kind of guy, but the woman responds by being stand-offish. I have read some interesting research that shows that women have a few main categories in their minds ...
Views: 895 - Nerds Need Love Too - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2008 from collin rosatiOn a beautiful summer day a couple of years ago, a woman came to me with a simple problem. She wanted to find her true love but she did not want to change anything in her otherwise successful life. She did not belong to any social groups or health clubs, and her only friends lived many miles ...
Views: 1125 - Guys - Why You Should Handle All Arguments You Have With Your Partner - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2008 from Daniel AmisWhen you are having an argument with your partner, it is a test on how strong your relationship really is. Unfortunately, there are many people who just brush off arguments without really knowing the consequences that may result from it. There are two types of arguments: those that seem to ...
Views: 2229 - Eight Low Stress First Date Ideas - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2008 from Laura GilesIt’s always nerve wracking trying to come up with an affordable, appropriate, interesting first date idea. You don’t want to come across as too eager, too cheap, or too dull. You don’t want to be unoriginal and do the same old “dinner and a movie” thing. You also don’t want to over commit ...
Views: 4648 - Jealousy - A Big Issue ` - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2008 from Tony & Nicki Vee (Intimate Relationships - Ultimate Solutions)I thought you may be interested in a coaching session I did yesterday about the issue of jealousy. I have stripped out lots that was confidential and/or may not be relevant to everyone and just left the bare bones. If this issue is prevalent in your relationship either because you or your ...
Views: 1642 - How To Benefit From Anger And Frustration - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2010 from Peter GerlachHave you been taught to believe the myth that some human emotions are "positive" and others "negative"? If someone asked you to name "negative" emotions, which ones come to mind? Terror? Disgust? Rage? Jealousy? Envy? Shame? Guilt? EVERY EMOTION IS USEFUL! Try the idea that every one of ...
Views: 4684 - Avoid *Be Spontaneous!* Paradoxes - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2010 from Peter GerlachCan you define a "paradox" to an average 12-year-old? Try saying your definition out loud, and compare it to this: "A *paradox* is something that inherently negates itself." Paradoxes exist because many things in the world have different levels of meaning, depending on the context. A simple ...
Views: 3941 - Do Go Changing! - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2008 from Laura GilesBilly Joel had it wrong when he sang, “Don’t go changing to try to please me.” It’s nice to be loved for being just the way you are, but not everything we do works forever. Beliefs are influenced by life events. Behavior should evolve as well, especially when we join our lives with someone ...
Views: 1175 - Magic Of Making Up - The Secret Behavior To Getting Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2008 from JD DeanBeing successful in the game of making up relies a lot on how you conduct yourself in the initial stages if you're the one who's been dumped. Being dumped is a strong way of describing someone who is spurned in a relationship but really, there is no other way of looking at it. How you react ...
Views: 967 - How To Know When Someone Is Thinking About You - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2008 from Linda KayeAre you feeling the warm fuzzies for someone? Have you ever asked yourself why it is so difficult to stop thinking about someone? We are all psychic in one way or another. When you connect to another man/woman in a deep way, you are connecting with your souls. Most people don't realize how ...
Views: 28573(1 vote) - How To Romance A Man And Set Him Afire With A Romantic Evening - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2008 from Michael LeeHow to romance a man, and set his affection with you on fire, requires a little bit of seduction and some physical contact to set in the mood. Most males are usually all stiff and proper in the outside world; but in truth, they are kids at heart. You need to bring out the affectionate child ...
Views: 5323 - Communication Advice When Your Relationship Just Seems Stuck - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsIt’s all about you. If you’re like most people, that’s probably not a sentence you feel comfortable reading! On one hand, you were probably told by someone as you were growing up that “the world doesn’t revolve around you” or something to that effect. In ...
Views: 1098 - Boomer Couples: 5 Tips For Fighting Fair - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergAll couples get angry and have arguments, so know that you're not alone. But remember, when resolving conflict, to keep your words sweet - you may have to eat them. When in conflict, you can minimize emotional overload by focusing only on the issue at hand. And try not to blame your partner or ...
Views: 1329 - Relationship Repair (You Don't Have To Be Perfect) - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2008 from Jerry JellisonFACE THE PROBLEM The most important determining factor as to whether your present course of life is happy & successful, or frustratingly disappointing, is the quality of your relationships, especially with your "significant other". If your special relationship is deteriorating, or at a ...
Views: 1551 - Eat Your Way To Passion! - Your Blog Coach x - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2008 from Tony & Nicki Vee (Intimate Relationships - Ultimate Solutions)Something has happened to Tony and my relationship in the past few weeks and it has made it even better! Could the unusual step we have taken, that is not normally associated with finding or improving intimate relationships be the very thing that will help you? So what is it? well it's about ...
Views: 1486 - A Funny Valentine Could Be Serious - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2008 from Stephen Wilson"Love may make the world go around but it's laughter that keeps us from getting dizzy." D Zochert "I kissed my first girl and smoked my first cigarette on the same day. I haven't had time for tobacco since." --Arturo Toscanini "Acting is not very hard. The most important things are to be able ...
Views: 529 - What To Expect In Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2008 from David OttSeduction And Romantic Love We are seduced into relationships for many reasons, for support and approval, to overcome our feelings of loneliness, fear and insecurity, to explore our passion and sexuality, to feel power and control, to be needed, to have fun, to love and be loved, to have ...
Views: 5046 - Relationships: Why Your Relationship Sucks - and What You Can Do To Fix It - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2008 from Pete KoernerImagine the most complicated piece of technology you can think of. Maybe you're thinking of a computer or some advanced weapons or medical technology, or something along those lines. Now imagine that I told you to fix one of those things you're imagining - without tools or instruction. You'd be ...
Views: 1125(2 votes) - Myspace and Meeting People Online - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2008 from Tiffany LardomitaMeeting people online is the surest way to get decapitated and thrown into a ditch. Wait... what am I talking about? I think I just got possessed by my mother for a second... that’s something that she would say. I, on the other hand, know that I am so lucky to have found and connected ...
Views: 1152 - Flirting Body Language - How Flirting With Your Body Can Be A Double-Edged Sword - by Submitted on May 31, 2008 from Michael LeeFlirting is one of the most common social means of communication, wherein men and women engage in the exchange of subtle cues to get noticed and appreciated. Humans resort to display flirting body language to appease themselves with the idea that they are acceptable and desirable. No matter ...
Views: 740 - How To Please A Woman And Make Her Think About You All The Time - by Submitted on May 30, 2008 from Michael LeeA man's nature is primal. It does not require any conscious thought from his end; but instead, he relies on the deep urges that seems to boil out from his inner being. In truth, a man's need is centered on his ego – to get what he wants and nothing else. This causes him to be clueless ...
Views: 982 - Heart Freedom Exercise (10): Lovers' Days - by Submitted on May 29, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Lovers’ Days Asking your lover for what you want and giving your lover whatever has been requested are two sides of the same coin—a yin/yang balance of receiving/giving, and passive/active pleasure. Just ...
Views: 599 - Susan's First Date - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIt was still cool at 6:30 in the morning as we strolled barefoot with Susan down Costa Rica's Manuel Antonio beach. We were in the midst of one of our Costa Rican Self Discovery Adventures that we hold each winter. People come from all over the world to join us and use it as a time to get away ...
Views: 1455(7 votes) - Relationship Advice For Communicating About Money - by Submitted on May 28, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhen you live and love together, that pesky “M” word can become quite the wedge between you and your mate. The romance and intimacy are great but then along comes a question or decision to make and you two feel like you’ve hit a big brick wall. We’re talking about money ...
Views: 758 - Crossroads In Thailand And The Big Question. - by Submitted on May 27, 2008 from Carl Pantejo(Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) During an afternoon with a fellow Farang (Thai: Foreigner) we talked about how our lives were going in the Land of Smiles. As usual, we talked about our girlfriends and the challenges of ...
Views: 1093 - Signs Of A Cheating Wife - How to Spot A Cheating Wife And Handle It - by Submitted on May 27, 2008 from Michael LeeWhen you hug her, she pulls away. She keeps to herself more lately. And she snaps at you when you ask for little favors. Might you be witnessing a few signs of a cheating wife? Unfaithfulness is never welcome in a marriage, even in courtship or in dating relationships. It takes work to sustain ...
Views: 826 - Just-A-Pause : Relationship And Mutual Funds - by Submitted on May 26, 2008 from Arlene ClarenceNow, you must be wondering what do relationships and mutual funds have in common? It’s called ‘Investment” dude and meant only for those who would take the risk of “Return on Investment” (ROI). One has to invest time, emotions and a bit of oneself into a relationship before its starts giving ...
Views: 696 - Did You Know It Was An Inside Job? - by Submitted on May 25, 2008 from Jennifer McLeodPeople come into your life for a reason and being in a relationship provides us with undoubtedly the hardest challenges we face as adults as we are seldom taught to truly love ourselves as children, yet we are expected to know how to love other people as adults in very deep, meaningful, life ...
Views: 1352 - Top 5 Relationship Tips - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Lisa KiftI've written a lot about healthy relationships and what aspects successful couples have that make them unique. As I continue my couples therapy work I continue to gather more information about relationships, the importance of good couples communication, their most significant sticking points - ...
Views: 1677 - Thinking Of Tying The Knot? 5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Dan And JenniferDid you know that love does NOT conquer all? You see, often people get married with the idea that their “chemistry” or undying love for each other will keep them together forever. However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in divorce these days, it’s obvious that this ...
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