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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Being Acknowledged - by Submitted on May 20, 2008 from Gregory DrambourLast week on a Sedona Vortex experience I said something that penetrated deeply through me and my clients: “There is nothing more powerful than an acknowledged human being.” Wow! I am still trying to absorb that awesome statement. Of course, this was coming from the Old Ones so I ...
Views: 2894 - 10 Tips To Infidelity-Proof Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 20, 2008 from Dan And JenniferInfidelity can sneak up on even the most solid partnerships. According to an infidelity poll conducted by WomanSavers.com of 6,330 women, 92% believe that emotional affairs lead to physical affairs, whereas only a mere 7% believe they do not. With the increase in technology, cheating has ...
Views: 2159(1 vote) - Going To Bed Angry: Another View - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2009 from Jennine EstesMany people have heard of the advice to never go to bed angry. This relationship advice has such a great value. It addresses the idea of how couples may feel if going to bed angry, such as feeling emotionally disconnected and unattached, or fear of having unresolved issues getting in the way. ...
Views: 1600 - Magic Of Making Up - Here Is A Method Which Can Get Your Ex To Return Your Calls - by Submitted on May 17, 2008 from JD DeanOne of the biggest issues a spurned lover faces is being cut off from their ex without an explanation. It's a little hard for most to take yet, the reaction is critical to their overall chances of winning back their ex. The magic of making up is a great feeling yet many simply don't experience ...
Views: 949 - You Are Everything To Me - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from M.Farouk RadwanHe is everything to me, life without him is pointless I want nothing except being beside him But now he is gone and my life is meaningless Desperate Girl The problem with making someone everything in your life is that when you lose him you will find yourself having nothing. One of the ...
Views: 963 - Panoramic Views - by Submitted on May 15, 2008 from Karema McgheeWhat would happen if we changed our views on relationships? What type of people would we become if we were less co-dependent in relationships? What if we were less the jealousy less the drama & put less attention on commitment? Could there be more if we were less neurotic? What if we looked ...
Views: 589 - Stop Looking to Find Somebody - by Submitted on May 15, 2008 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, MAY 16, 2008 Stop Looking to Find Somebody If you're single and looking for a partner or just a date, you've probably felt impatient, maybe downright frustrated. I hear from a lot of lonely people who want to know how to find ...
Views: 1247 - The Out of Balance Relationship - by Submitted on May 14, 2008 from Cathy RoysOUT OF BALANCE RELATIONSHIPS Without a doubt one of the greatest hindrances to the health and longevity of our relationships is the balance in the relationship between self protection and extending ourself to foster the relationship. The perfect relationship Detachment Ideally in a ...
Views: 1360 - Heart Freedom Exercise (9): Yin Yang Yes! - by Submitted on May 13, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandYin Yang YES! The familiar Chinese yin/yang symbol suggests a balance and harmony between the yin (feminine energies) and yang (masculine energies) or between any pair of opposites. Examples of yin/yang in relationship are following/leading, surrender/control, opening to the mystery/making ...
Views: 887 - Heart Freedom Exercise (8): Permission Please - by Submitted on May 08, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Permission Please Time for Exercise: one minute Properties Required: none Steps: Ask your partner’s permission to be her lover. Look into her eyes and hold her hand while you speak. Most important is how ...
Views: 671 - Men Are Like Waffles - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardWhy is it so hard to figure out the opposite sex? Because our brains work differently. Men’s brains are really good at focusing completely on just one thought and women’s brains are really good at thinking many thoughts at the same time. This difference can make it hard to figure out what ...
Views: 2740 - Steps For Absolute Honesty – Honestly - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Dan OhlerDefinition of Honest: truthful; trustworthy; genuine; open Soooo, are you an honest person? Your response is likely, “Yes.” However, if we look deeper in our lives, we may find our response is not totally true. And if we are really honest with ourselves, we may find that our lack of ...
Views: 1514 - Why Men Won't Commit - by Submitted on May 08, 2008 from Kim SarrasinThe question I probably get asked the most from my female clients and participants is "Why do men have such a hard time with commitment?". Men actually don't have any problem with committing to a woman. Without women, men really aren't up to much. Yes, they work hard at their jobs, put more ...
Views: 4973(1 vote) - Couple Economics - by Submitted on May 06, 2008 from Rhonda AudiaDON’T LET THE ECONOMY MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP “SUB-PRIME” Rhonda Audia – the “Guru for Two” Your dream house has become a nightmare. Because of great interest rates and an adjustable mortgage, you were able to get everything you’ve always wanted in a ...
Views: 1931 - Teen Sex Is Not About Love - by Submitted on May 06, 2008 from jane margarethThere is no positive side to have unprotected sexual intercourse among teen or young people. The sex is sex, but love is a beautiful opportunity to give two people at a time to come in unison in the body, in which the sex has a meaning. Teen sex, whether in comparison with the mode is ideal if ...
Views: 760 - How to Communicate with Love when You Only See Red - by Submitted on May 06, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsHave you ever been so angry that everywhere you look you see what’s made you so upset? You can just about feel that steam rushing from your ears as cartoon images depict. It doesn’t matter what’s going on around you or what another person is trying to tell you, once you get ...
Views: 2480 - "Experiences from The Flow (24): The Ex Returns! Part 2." - by Submitted on May 05, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“It was a weird dream. I am in bed with Nueng. Her face is nestled into my shoulder and her arm is draped over my chest. She looks like a sleeping angel – mine, my special, lovely angel. I inhale deeply, smile, and silently thank God for all the joy she has brought into my ...
Views: 1101 - Heart Freedom Exercise (7): Three Out Of Three - by Submitted on May 05, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandThree Out of Three “I want you. I need you. I love you.” Could there be any sentences sweeter than these to hear your lover speak? Time for Exercise: 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: Prepare in advance what you will say to your lover for each of these three ...
Views: 609 - The Spouse / Mate / Partner Of The Narcissist - by Submitted on May 05, 2008 from Sam VakninQuestion: What kind of a spouse/mate/partner is likely to be attracted to a narcissist? Answer: The Victims On the face of it, there is no (emotional) partner or mate, who typically "binds" with a narcissist. They come in all shapes and sizes. The initial phases of attraction, infatuation ...
Views: 6716 - Attracting The Love You Want - by Submitted on May 05, 2008 from Francis HoseinHow do you attract the love of your life when all you are doing seems to fail? Is it you or is the universe has fail you? Where you came from? If you came from a difficult relationship in the pass, and you have not done much healing from that relationship you may carry around fears that may ...
Views: 1015 - Grow Old Along With Me: Strategies For A Lasting Relationship - by Submitted on May 04, 2008 from Jacqueline WalesGrow old along with me The best is yet to be ……….God bless our love John Lennon Recently, I was reading an article by my friend Dr. Dorree Lynn of Fifty and Furthermore called Celebrating Sixty Years, and I began to reflect on the many couples I have known in my life who ...
Views: 1524 - “Experiences From The Flow (23): The Ex Returns! Part 1.” - by Submitted on May 01, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“After taking months to recover from a brutal heartbreak, out of nowhere, the Ex returns. She hands me a belated Christmas gift (a small stuffed toy), wraps her arms around me, buries her head into my shoulder and says, ‘I love you.’ Uncomfortably, I accepted her gift and returned her embrace ...
Views: 1041 - Create a Healthy Love Relationship- Hot Secrets to Create Love and Romance - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from Annie LawrenceWant a healthy relationship but don’t have a role model? When is the last time your partner turned off the TV and took you to bed? Heat up your bedroom and get ready for love and romance. Like everyone you probably started your relationship with lots of passion and heated sex, but now ...
Views: 1727 - Heart Freedom Exercise (6): Eye Gazing - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Eye Gazing So through the eyes love attains the heart: For the eyes are the scouts of the heart, And the eyes go reconnoitering For what it would please the heart to possess. Guiraut de Borneilh, ...
Views: 2152 - Magic Of Making Up - 7 Deadly Mistakes Spurned Lovers Make When They Get Dumped! - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from JD DeanThe biggest mistake you can make when trying to get your ex back is to get into panic mode. Panic will only drive you to doing things which are not deemed as natural especially when you've been given your marching orders. So how do you get your ex back? First of all, you need to respect his/her ...
Views: 2219 - Welcome To A World Unfurled... - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzWe all orbit around one another in our own personal little planets. Most of these little planets are completely unaware of each other except when these worlds collide or brush up against each other. Our little universes consist of family and friends, generally in a tight orbit, and coworkers and ...
Views: 1474 - How Emotional States Translate Into What You Create - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzIt seems that the message “what you think about is what you create” is everywhere these days. It sounds great in theory, but for a lot of people it is difficult to translate or put into action. For some it just becomes a harsh reminder of what they are not creating in their lives. When a persons ...
Views: 1568 - Could Loneliness Be The Dawn Of Real Happiness And Romance? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from Dan And JenniferLoneliness is one of the deepest sorrows – at its peak it feels like a quiet desperation, a yearning to melt completely with another, a slow suffocation that we can’t escape no matter what. And it was shocking to see how common it is. The media has begun to describe the spread of ...
Views: 1161 - Stop Fighting And Make Love-Love Rituals To Create Passion And Romance - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2008 from Annie LawrenceDo you want more love and passion in your relationship? What causes you to fight and push love away? Is it old habits learned in your childhood? What is more important your ego and old habits or making love? It took me forty years to learn that I train my mate how to treat me and if I want to ...
Views: 2460 - Stop Fighting --Secrets To Create Love, Passion, And Romance - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2008 from Annie LawrenceIt took me two divorces to learn to fight fair and not shut down and push love away. I now have a wonderful loving relationship and celebrated my seventeenth anniversary on Valentine's Day. Here are secrets that took me over forty years to acquire. Recapture your passion, romance, and ...
Views: 1263 - Agree on the Big Six: Religion, Money, Sex, Children, Recreation, and Acceptable Behavior - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2008 from Robin KMoney At the beginning of a relationship, partners may not know what they can realistically expect to earn or how much they should allocate for housing, clothing, recreation, cars, food, and education. But partners in great marriages say that when both partners regard their contributions to the ...
Views: 2555 - How to Cope with a Narcissist? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2008 from Sam VakninNo one should feel responsible for the narcissist's predicament. To him, others hardly exist – so enmeshed he is in himself and in the resulting misery of this very self-preoccupation. Others are objects on which he projects his wrath, rage, suppressed and mutating aggression and, finally, ...
Views: 2621 - Four Tips To Showing Charisma In Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2008 from Jeannie CrabtreeTo have a good relationship, it needs nurtured and cultivated. Have you ever thought of developing charisma and applying your charisma and charm in your relationships? So many times, we may like someone or even love him or her, but time gets away from us. We never express our sentiments, or ...
Views: 729 - Are You Playing The Blame Game? Do Any Of These Situations Sound Familiar? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2008 from Dan And JenniferRandy was reaching for a doughnut when his wife glared at him. Inside, Randy could feel a defiance surging inside. He reached for the second doughnut and felt smug and happy with himself. Janet struggled to maintain her composure when Jerry joked about her going to spend her morning with ...
Views: 1916 - Creating Red Hot Relationship Spontaneity in the Midst of a Planned-Out Life - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhen you think of passion and intimacy, an image of love-making whenever and wherever the mood strikes you and your partner might come to mind. Perhaps you and your love experience this often. Or maybe you used to have spontaneous red hot moments before you settled into a life together ...
Views: 1399 - Shortcuts to Success - Why Care About Rapport? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2008 from Denise PedersonYou hear a lot about rapport, but how does it affect you and why should you even care? Well, two people in rapport are inclined to give each other the benefit of the doubt, and are more patient and sympathetic towards each other. When there is rapport it is easier to reach understanding, to ...
Views: 1318 - Learn Your Partner's Language - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2008 from Jan DeniseWe can look on as an aunt and uncle berate each other year after year and know that, despite appearances, they love each other. There was the time when he thought he was going to lose her to cancer, or the time when she jumped to his defense when somebody else attacked him. Nonetheless, we ...
Views: 1193 - 7 Ways to Prevent Infidelity - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2008 from Helene RothschildAre you suspicious of your loved one's loyalty? Do you sometimes think about having an affair? Are you feeling guilty for having extra-marital relationships? According to the statistics, if you answered "yes" to any of the above, you are not alone. Reports indicate that 60 percent of men and 40 ...
Views: 1890 - Want to Have Real Romance? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2008 from Judith ShervenThere are two basic and very simple ways to make your relationship the most fabulous it can be. What are these tips? You will be delighted to know that they are so simple, you can begin to experience their magic immediately. First, as basic and common sense as it sounds - you have to ...
Views: 718 - Heart Freedom Exercise (4): Freeing the Fool - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland Freeing the Fool Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: When have you felt foolish, embarrassed, or humiliated? Recall the circumstances of those situations. What if these ...
Views: 703 - Letting Go Of An Ambivalent Man - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2008 from Rhonda FindlingAs an author and psychotherapist with an international private practice, I've often come across women who are involved with Ambivalent Men. An Ambivalent Man struggles with a profound sense of confusion that causes him to repeatedly sabotage romantic relationships (or potential romantic ...
Views: 24061(1 vote) - Setting the Stage For Love - Internet Relationships Part Two - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Kay HutchinsonOriginality, timeliness, depth and authenticity with early stages of of online communications play a role in developing the potential for love through online dating experiences. Let us take a closer look at these factors. Originality, Timeliness and Depth Counts If you want to create an ...
Views: 1232(1 vote) - Setting The Stage For Love - Internet Relationships Part One - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Kay HutchinsonIs it possible to find the love of your life on the internet? Certainly. You can increase your odds of finding love by being mindful of the following tips. Create Mutuality Mutuality involves creating an exchange of like energy. Often times, the skills that people have with expressing ...
Views: 1221(1 vote) - Romantic Conversation Starters - 9 Hot Tips to Start A Conversation When Dating - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Michael LeeOne of the biggest dating challenges is coming up with romantic conversation starters to start the date right. Many people get so anxious that they can’t think of the right words to say. Such situations only bring down their level of confidence in their conversation skills. Worry no more! ...
Views: 1512 - Should You Dump A Commitment Phobe? Not Before You Read This - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengHaving personally suffered from severe commitment phobia for many years, I know that being in love with someone who is afraid of commitment is not fun at all, but does someone's fear of commitment always have to be the end of a relationship? In real life, some people are not really meant to be ...
Views: 2572 - Should You Try To Get Your Ex Back Or Move On? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengGetting back together with an ex must be something you've taken time to think about and not just an impulse decision. You need to be sure you're in it for the right reasons, if not you are just setting yourself up for another painful heartbreak -- and you know what that feels like. Do you really ...
Views: 1465 - How Quickly Do Men Fall In Love? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengThe most asked question by women of all ages is: “Is he in love with me?" I have a different take on what is “love’ and what is not, but for the sake of answering this question, I’ll use the word “love" to mean romantic attraction and sexual chemistry. Romantic ...
Views: 7940 - Did You Know That You Can Make A Man Desire You So Much That He Craves You? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengWe women are very good at making ourselves desirable in the beginning of a relationship but really bad at keeping the attraction after the initial “oh-wow!” wears off and the man you’ve been dating for weeks or months starts to lose interest. How do you make sure that ...
Views: 1847 - Fear Of Commitment And How You Can Defeat It Or Help Someone You Know or Love - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengOne of a growing number of reasons frustrated singles turn to the help of a dating coach is to help them overcome fear of commitment or help them deal with a lover’s fear of commitment. If you’ve been reading my articles, by now you know that for many years I was a commitment ...
Views: 1211 - How To Make Your Ex Miss You Enough To Want You Back - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengTrying to make an ex jealous in an attempt to gain deeper affection is a common playing hard-to-get tactic advocated by some "experts" and practiced by many. I know many men and women who've used this tactic and it's worked in the short term, and many more who have used it and it back fired big ...
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