Self Improvement Site
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
On The Internet! Take the Self Improvement Tour
Relationship Advice Articles
Dave Shields is The Official SelfGrowth.com Guide to "Relationship Advice". You can find complete information on Dave Shields and his products by visiting Kenosis Center.
SelfGrowth.com Recommended Articles:
Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Keep Your Sanity in the Technological World - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Maly SolanIn one of the families I worked with lately, the father, a very successful director has been working about 18 hours a day and was abroad once a month, leaving the mother alone to cope with their two babies. After two stressful years the company he worked for collapsed. He was subsequently ...
Views: 1351(2 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1324(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1324(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1324(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1324(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1324(5 votes) - Relationship Attraction: Understanding The "Game" In The Dating Game - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Nanette GeigerComing from the mindset of the Law of Attraction, the source of what you emanate is projected or drawn directly back to you. If that's so, (which it is) doesn't it makes practical sense to get dressed with a grin prior to leaving the house? It turns into a problem of performing the traits of ...
Views: 2038(4 votes) - The Ultimate Relationship Checklist - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Rachel MohebanEver wondered what happened to the passion and intimacy in your relationship? Remember the days of sparks flying, feeling that you are the only two people in the world? Generally, relationships start in this way, but as time passes and day-to-day life intervenes, many couples find ...
Views: 2207(1 vote) - Why communication skills don’t always work and what does. - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthCouples come into my office saying they don’t know how to communicate. They often escalate into a full-blown argument or end up shutting down and pulling away from each other. The assumption is that if they could learn to communicate well during arguments, they wouldn’t end up hurting each ...
Views: 1351(2 votes) - Working On Your Relationship Alone - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthAs the saying goes, it takes two to tango. It also takes two to make a couple. It takes two to make a relationship and, it follows, two to work on that relationship. But what happens when one person in a relationship doesn’t want to do the work—especially if that work means going to couples ...
Views: 1420(3 votes) - Free relationship advice for attracting perfect relationships and improving existing ones. - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2010 from Jessica PaulkYou have a relationship with everyone and everything in your life. You have relationships with people, objects, concepts, even seemingly insignificant things like food or your TV. If you want to improve your relationships or attract new ones, here are some simple yet effective ...
Views: 1151 - Attracting a Dream Relationship Using a Vision Board - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Barbara PellegrinoAttracting a relationship using a vision board is a hot topic. Today, Mothers day, I was very happy remembering this huge blessing, that manifested for me in 1994, in the area of dream relationships. I still love rejoicing in the "tipping point' / quantum leap that has brought me to this day ...
Views: 10533(2 votes) - 3 Reasons Why Keeping Score is Good for Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Shela DeanYou’ve been told it’s death to your relationship but I’m going to give you three reasons why, when done right, keeping score is good for your relationship. 1. It’s a human nature “lemon” so you might as well make lemonade. Mother Teresa and Gandhi aside, we all keep score. It’s human nature ...
Views: 1863(1 vote) - ***Looking for Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that many folks are afraid of marriage because they read the dire predictions about marriage in the news, they watch way too much television where the focus is, more often than not, on glorifying sex and multiple relationships, and because ...
Views: 5848(38 votes) - Mentorship As An Investment Paying Dividend - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from William G Jr CovingtonAs a professor, it is rewarding when a former student seeks my advice long after they have graduated. True respect is earned, not demanded. Leaders that rely on formal authoritative structures for compliance do not connect with the hearts of their subordinates. They may temporarily have the ...
Views: 1251 - Can I Choose My Friends? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Max-Marc FossouoHello friends, bloggers, facebookers, twitters…no matter how you came across this article, I am glad you made it here and hope that you will share the post because RELATIONSHIP MATTERS. Last night I was inspired enough to write this quote I came up with on my facebook page: “In relationship, do ...
Views: 1569(2 votes) - Conversations with V! ~ Love - Work It Out! - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Val McLeod“There is no excess to love” Ralph Emerson Getting regular exercise is important to our physical and psychological well being. Even though it had been a while since I last exercised, in my desire and determination to continue achieving my fitness goals, I recently started to work out ...
Views: 1494(1 vote) - Conversations with V! - How You Can Enjoy an Enriching, Enduring Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Val McLeodIn consideration of the myriad challenges to having an enriching and enduring relationship, it seems practically oxy moronic to use “healthy, romantic and relationship” in the same context. As a human relations expert, I am often asked, “Is it possible to have an “ideal relationship / ...
Views: 1838(1 vote) - Law Of Attraction Coach: Appearance Isn't Everything - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Nanette GeigerHere are the findings from a study done by a popular dating site. What are the most important aspects in a lover: 1. Appearance 11% 2. Personality 30% 3. Physique 5% 4. Sense of Humor 14% 5. Eyes 10% 6. Popularity 0% 7. Smile 12% 8. Hair 7% 9. Education 7% 10. ...
Views: 2931(4 votes) - Relationships Attraction: Creating Effective Romantic Partnerships - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Nanette GeigerFor the first time in my life, I find myself surrounded by examples of people in great partnership relationships, usually in the form of lasting marriages. Take Don and Barbara. I think they have been together for sixty+ years. I hadn't seen Barbara prior to her quite extensive hospital visit ...
Views: 1022(1 vote) - Christian Marriage Revealed - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Michael Fehlauer1. The Christian marriage is revealed in the creation of man– In the second chapter of the Bible we find God’s purpose regarding the marriage union. In Genesis 2:7 we read, “The LORD God formed man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became ...
Views: 1391(1 vote) - Six Marriage Assistance Ideas You Will not Learn From Your Shrink - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Gerald WeberI was a long time ago so miserably hitched that I planned my husband’s entire funeral, down to the lamb-on-a-stick and the variety of liquor I was going to serve at his very enjoyable funeral. Subsequently I read 12 relationship improvement books. Four months later I renewed my wedding vows. At ...
Views: 2731(1 vote) - Surviving a Breakup – How You Can Survive after a Breakup - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Helena JacksonSurviving a relationship can at first seem like the most impossible thing you’ve ever done. Emotions are deep and intense. Whether you the one breaking off or wanting to stay, it still hurts. Fortunately, this difficult point of your life is doable and can be accomplished, leaving you a stronger ...
Views: 755 - How To Get Back With Your Ex? It’s Actually Easier Than You Think - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Velma MerrickIf getting back at your ex is your desire, what I advice folks is that it could be done in such a way that you are not only getting back at him/her, but the same techniques could yield into a re-union by letting them know how significant you are and were to them. They are as follows; If ...
Views: 1976 - How Self esteem affects your relationships - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from Dr. Mama LovePeople with high self esteem are more likely to succeed in life and be able to find happiness. They have learned to value themselves. self esteem and self confidence go together and is found to be a turn on. People will find it very sexy. When we value ourselves we will also become successful in ...
Views: 1438(3 votes) - How to Forgive and Forget - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from Susan LiddyWe have all heard the phrase, “Forgive and forget,” but how easy is it do either of those things? If only we could forget… maybe it wouldn’t be so hard to forgive. And sometimes we’ll offer someone our forgiveness… but the truth is that the scar of their unkind words or deeds remains. How do ...
Views: 1627(2 votes) - How to Resolve your Relationship Conflicts through Communication - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Susan LiddyRelating with others is a delicate balancing act between having our own wants and needs fulfilled, and making sacrifices on behalf of the other person. In other words: relationships are about give and take. The line where things grow blurry is in the everyday exchanges we have with those we care ...
Views: 1416(1 vote) - Fun Date Ideas for the Daytime - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from Neil SmithNeed some Fun Date Ideas? You've come to the right place. A lot of the fun dating ideas listed below are not recommended as a first date unless you know the person very well or have known them for a long time. But if you have had a few dates and want to really impress, the list below should be ...
Views: 7209(4 votes) - Stop a Break Up – Essential Keys to Help Stop Your Break Up - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Helena JacksonAre you’re worried something may be wrong and you really want to stop a break up? Perhaps you’re starting to see some changes that are making you worry or something reminds you of the last love break up you had. Either way, here are a few suggestions that can not only help you stop a break up, ...
Views: 651 - Finding The Passion In Your Life - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from Susan DerryPassion is not just limited to the bedroom. You can be passionate about many things in your life. The interesting thing is that the more you invite passion into your life, the greater the chances it will find its way to the bedroom. What do you love to do? When do you lose track of time and ...
Views: 2110 - Confront Jealousy in Your Love Relationship or Marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhen Jeff sees his girlfriend, Tami, flirting with another guy, he gets jealous-- really jealous. It can take every ounce of restraint that Jeff has to not storm over and confront the other man, and Tami too. But Jeff has promised himself-- and Tami-- that he won't let his jealousy take over ...
Views: 3429(1 vote) - How to Win Back Your Girlfriend – 4 Quick Steps to Win Your Girlfriend Back - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Helena JacksonAre you sitting around wondering how to win back your girlfriend? Do you find yourself constantly thinking about all the things you could have, would have should have done? STOP! and take a quick breather. By focusing on the past, you’re backing yourself into a corner with no way out. Here’s ...
Views: 655 - Blame - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Bettina GoodwinBlame is one of the biggest issues that we come up against in our daily life. We seem to have gotten the idea that the world is there to make us happy. And when that doesn’t happen we lay the blame out in the world as well, through other people, places or events that we think are the cause of ...
Views: 1518(4 votes) - ***Am I in a Healthy Relationship? - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Margaret PaulFrequently, my clients and members of our website ask me, "Is my relationship healthy? How do I know if it is healthy?"Just as physical health is on a continuum, emotional health and relationship health are also on a continuum. And, like physical health, each person may have different ...
Views: 5421(4 votes) - The Three 'Magic' Questions To Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Greg BakerFor years, as a Pastor and counselor, I've had to figure out how to save someone's marriage. Here is a short formula that I use to find out where the problems may truly lie, and knowing them, I can recommend a plan on what needs to be done to fix the broken relationship. You can follow it for ...
Views: 5933(2 votes) - Our Marriage Is In Trouble But My Spouse Won't Go to Marriage Counseling: 7 Reasons Why Your Spouse May Resist Counseling - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Peggy FergusonThe idea of marriage counseling is usually brought up and pursued by one partner, initially. The possibility of marriage counseling is often an ongoing debate or discussion for sometime before couples actually find their way to the counselor's office. There are a number of reasons why one ...
Views: 2771 - How Can You Control Your Life and Achieve Anything You Want? - by Submitted on May 17, 2010 from Marry BellBasically, our mind is already programmed to give us anything we ask for, and that's a fact. What is left for us to do is to ask for it. But don't get me wrong – it can be tricky, because just asking is not enough. You have to have a deep meaning when you do so. Your subconscious doesn't listen ...
Views: 2152(1 vote) - The Number Three—How to Tell When Relationship is Over—Determining When to Leave - by Submitted on May 09, 2010 from Cindy L. HerbAll of us want love. We will do just about anything to obtain it. Many of you are in dead-end relationships, but remain in those situations despite the fact that there is abundant evidence that the relationship is doomed. Why do you stay, despite opposing data? Furthermore, how can you ...
Views: 1686(2 votes) - Stop seeking validation in relationships - Learn 3 techniques that will empower you. - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from wendy mickleIn relationships, we are always on the lookout for ways to please the other person. Nothing wrong with that, except when you constantly try to seek validation from others and act in a manner that is not the natural ‘you’ then the relationship suffers. Personal empowerment and a belief in your ...
Views: 12662(4 votes) - The First Date Ideas & Rules - by Submitted on May 08, 2010 from Neil SmithThe First Date Ideas & Rules The golden rule is to meet somewhere: public, chilled out & relaxed. A coffee shop is a great venue for this during the day and a wine bar is a great place for the first date idea in the evening. The first date should be kept casual. If you want to fully ...
Views: 2620(2 votes) - Relationships Attraction: Becoming An Energetic Matching To What You Desire - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Nanette GeigerWhen you want something, like a wonderful relationship or financial independence, for example, and you've been wanting this for quite a long time -- 9 months, maybe several years, and it still has not shown up -- then there's resistance preventing you from having what you desire. There's some ...
Views: 1041(2 votes) - We should all live for others - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Wayne Kehl"Life becomes harder for us when we live for others, but it also becomes richer and happier.” Albert Schweitzer Albert Schweitzer was perhaps, one of the greatest minds of the twentieth century. He lived from 1875 to 1965. During the course of his long life he was a doctor, an ...
Views: 7627(2 votes) - Slow Down! Enjoy More - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Susan DerryWe live in a fast paced world particularly in the western hemisphere. There is a song, “I’m in a Hurry” by Alabama that aptly describes many of our lives: “I'm in a hurry to get things done Oh I rush and rush until life's no fun All I really gotta do is live and die But I'm in a hurry and ...
Views: 2106(3 votes) - Three Attributes of Someone Slow to Anger - by Submitted on May 07, 2010 from Greg BakerThe key to control of your anger is to be slow to anger. No one can turn anger on and off like a light switch. But having a very, very long fuse is the key to anger management. There are three attributes that are common, however, to someone that is slow to anger. GRACIOUS People who have ...
Views: 7872(3 votes) - The Main Causes of Your Irrational Anger - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Greg BakerPeople often get angry and many times they don't even know why they get angry. As a counselor, I've dealt with many people who are genuinely puzzled why they got so angry. Have you ever gotten angry over something small, stupid, or just plain silly? Have you ever sat down later and felt ...
Views: 14078(3 votes) - A Sure Marriage-Killer: The War Between the Sexes - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou glare at your husband over the kitchen table, the family checkbook held hostage between you. “Dryer!” you snap. “Carburetor!” he retorts. “Pay down credit cards!” you demand. “Put away for savings!” he insists. And it’s like this all the time. It’s not just that you can’t seem to agree on ...
Views: 1469(5 votes) - Challenging Stereotypical Sexuality - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Shahrazad @ the INNER FIRE TEMPLEOne thing I hear often from clients is that they are afraid to communicate their particular fetish, fantasy, or desire to their significant other. In a perfect world, partners would hold for each other a space of unconditional love within which the couple could explore together like children in ...
Views: 3342(2 votes) - Law Of Attraction Relationships: Are You Vibrationally Paired To Your Desires? - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Nanette GeigerMy husband and I just arrived back from a Miracle Caribbean Cruise. Why the miracle part? Well, it was one hundred percent free and it just came out of nowhere and came into our laps. Not just that, but a bunch of the bigger names in the Self-Improvement world were on it. You may have heard ...
Views: 1844 - The Truth about Being an Entrepreneur - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tricia DyckaWhat exactly is the truth about being an entrepreneur? It boils down to your own perception of what you feel it should mean to you. To me, being an entrepreneur means empowering others by sharing my gifts and experiences and living my life to the fullest. When I decided to travel the path of the ...
Views: 1737(2 votes) - Handling Criticism - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Greg BakerPeople will criticize you for all sorts of reasons. And if you take any sort of stand, good or bad, you will be criticized for it. But how you deal with it is a key to retaining sanity and an even disposition through life. I pastor a Church. I have my own opinions about God, religion, ...
Views: 3256(1 vote) - Top 3 Relationship Communication Tips - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Rachel MohebanWe’re always told how important good communication is to make a relationship work, but what does this really mean? On the surface, it seems straightforward and logical, right? So you and your partner need to talk and express your feelings….to be open, direct and honest Easier said than ...
Views: 1238 - The Great Wise Man - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Tina CrumpackerThere was a great wise man who lived in a tiny village in Tibet. He was constantly sought out for his wisdom by the villagers. He was very kind and patient. His neighbors had a very beautiful unmarried daughter. She was in love with the butcher's son but saw him in secret as she knew her ...
Views: 2032(1 vote) - Overcoming Fear of Hurting Feelings of Others—How to Stop Being a Worry Wart - by Submitted on May 05, 2010 from Cindy L. HerbMany friends that I know are miserable. They are unhappy with a current situation in each of their lives. However, not one of them will ever take steps to alleviate the problem because they are always fearful of hurting others. They base all their actions upon that premise. Each friend keeps ...
Views: 7204(2 votes) - 3 Steps to Improved Confidence in Relationships - by Submitted on May 05, 2010 from Kate IrwinA fulfilling relationship can enrich your life, provide security, contentment, happiness and joy. But what defines a good relationship? Well a relationship based on equality, in which you feel free to be yourself at all times and which also makes you feel good, is a start! Rewarding ...
Views: 1438