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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Signs of a Controlling Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Michael FehlauerThe following are signs of a controlling relationship: 1. Flattery – Flattery is different than a compliment – A compliment adds to a person. It builds within you a sense of confidence free from any ulterior motives. Flattery on the other hand is insincere and selfish in its motive – which is ...
Views: 3912(7 votes) - Sacred Union: Relationship as a Spiritual Path - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Devaa Haley"When two souls have finally found each other, there is established between them a union which begins on earth and continues forever in heaven." -Victor Hugo Sacred Union represents the alchemy between the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine in human form. The symbolism of king and queen ...
Views: 3116(8 votes) - Christian Relationships: Saying No to Your Boyfriend’s Sexual Advances - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Angie LewisMost young women “give in” to their boyfriend’s sexual advances because of peer pressure and fear they will leave the relationship if they don’t give in and have sex. This is precisely why young people today should NOT ALLOW their emotions to lead the relationship. Let me ask you this. If you ...
Views: 5049(4 votes) - ***The Ten Essential Virtues of Love - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This morning, a great friend of ours sent along an article that we were really taken with. For those who have read our book, Building a Love that Lasts (Jossey-Bass/Wiley 2010), you may recall a chapter entitled, “A Tribute to Lasting Love” (pp. ...
Views: 8964(47 votes) - Relationships: Don't Settle For Less Than the Best - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2010 from Gloria ArensonDo you settle for relationships with people because you secretly believe that you can't do better? I once knew a wonderful and loving minister who used to tell a story about one of his parishioners who came to him for guidance. She was a lovely woman who was having trouble financially. She told ...
Views: 5868(1 vote) - Five Things to Avoid to Win Her Love Back - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Andrew HunterSoon after finding yourself dumped, it could be harder for many men to win their exes back. They can not endure the hurt that they are dealing with after being so terribly damaged. Some men around simply want their girlfriends back because they really want to confirm it to themselves and to the ...
Views: 4528(4 votes) - Generation "Y" will soon rule the world! - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Wayne KehlGENERATION "WHY" The world is strangely concerned about generation “Y” these days. I don’t understand it! Generation “Y” is just the current crop of kids that will eventually rule the world. They are the children of Boomers and Generation “X” parents and they were born between 1980 and 1994. ...
Views: 2401(1 vote) - Fathers and Daughters - by Submitted on May 05, 2010 from Shari JonasIt was 13 years ago when I first began asking the question, “What influence did my father have on my life?” My marriage had ended and I took a serious look at why. There wasn’t anything terribly wrong with my marriage, but there wasn’t anything terribly right about it either. I married safe. I ...
Views: 1000 - Closing the Communication Gap in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2010 from Rachel MohebanIsn’t it interesting how even when you and your partner speak the same language, you don’t always understand what he/she is saying? Let me explain by way of example… Wife: I really wish you would come home earlier from work. She means: I feel lonely and neglected and I would love for us ...
Views: 3743 - I Am Tired and Sore (And What That Has To Do With Saving Your Marriage!) - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2010 from Lee BaucomI admit it! I am tired. I am sore. I have discovered muscles I didn't know I had, and ones I didn't know could hurt! Here's the thing: for years, I have been a trail runner. I love being in the woods, seeing the changing seasons, and running with my Yellow Lab, Sunny. We have a blast! ...
Views: 2039(3 votes) - Preparing our Christian Children for a Lifelong Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2010 from Angie LewisAs Christian parents what is our duty to our children? How can we prepare our children for a lifelong marriage? Did you know that 95% of children grow up and get married and have families but no one ever teaches them a thing about how to value and cherish marriage and family! They manage their ...
Views: 1750(2 votes) - Law of Attraction Coach Tells You How to Attract More Of Your Desires - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Nanette GeigerFew of us go around truly knowing how we feel in every moment. Everyone has understand functioning on automatic pilot and going through the motions of life. Actually, putting your efforts on auto-pilot can turn out very useful. Especially if it involves doing a simple project such as cleaning ...
Views: 1091(5 votes) - 5 Ways To Show Appreciation In Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Rachel MohebanI’ve met so many couples whose main relationship complaint boils down to not feeling appreciated by their partner. It’s so easy to take each other for granted and to get caught up in a pattern of not expressing your appreciation of each other. So what can you do to really let your partner ...
Views: 5404(6 votes) - Dr. Romance: Stop Reacting and Start Relating - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Richard and I will celebrate our 28th anniversary next month, and we agree there’s no better delight than sharing life with a loving partner, when you get along as well as we do. Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage is all ...
Views: 1686(5 votes) - Are Your Expectations Too High for Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellWe are all human beings, and as such have strengths and weaknesses. One of the benefits of being human is the ability to work on our own weaknesses and improving our own lives and others around us. There are numerous “self help gurus” whose basic principle is improving how you view yourself to ...
Views: 4992 - Laughter is Good for the Heart - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from A. JuniorIt has been said that laughter is the best medicine. It is true that, through humor, even the ill can forget their troubles, if only temporarily. Humor has the ability to heal the mind, reduce stress and even ease pain. There are many different benefits to being able to laugh and enjoy life. ...
Views: 469 - Relationship Advice - A Few Tips That You Can Apply To Your Situation - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from A. JuniorDo you ever feel like relationship advice leaves you with more questions than answers? Do you wish you could get a few tips that you can actually remember and apply to your situation? Have ever wondered how to catch the eye of that man who makes makes your heart skip a beat every time your eyes ...
Views: 533 - Why Every Married Couple Ought To Date - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Greg BakerFor some reason, many couples find that much of the intrigue and interest in their relationship dwindled after marriage. One reason may be that the effort of pursuit and being pursued as evidenced by dating is no longer a part of the couples’ lives. Dating, at least once a week, will renew the ...
Views: 2277(8 votes) - How to Tell if someone is lying-Hints & Tips - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Justin DouglasAdrienne Rich said “Lying is done with words and also with silence”. The self always shines through and there are many little hints & tips that if you are aware of can show big lying indicators in someone. Signs of lying can be everything from voice tone, body language, changing the ...
Views: 3993(4 votes) - Emotional Intimacy Starts With Touching - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Shela DeanTouch is essential to intimacy. Okay, I know you think I've just stated the obvious but I'm not talking about that kind of intimacy. I'm talking about emotional intimacy and the hand holding, arms around the waist, bear hugging, back rubbing, cheek kissing, fist bumping, high fiving, shoulder ...
Views: 3661(3 votes) - The Difference Between Jealousy, Covetousness, and Envy in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Greg BakerMany relationships have been destroyed over the jealousy issue. However, sometimes it isn't so much jealousy but envy and covetousness that is the real root of the problem. Here is a brief definition of each before we get into a lager discussion of these. Jealousy - The fear of losing ...
Views: 14443(4 votes) - Law of Attraction Coach Shares How-To Tips on Managing Your Vibration - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Nanette GeigerThis is an intermediate to advanced discussion on the Law of Attraction. It's very important to understand the role of your emotions in the attraction process. Let's take the example of a garden hose. When you have the water turned on water flows through the hose. When there's an obstruction or ...
Views: 1077(2 votes) - ***Core Sadness vs. Wounded Sadness - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Margaret PaulVery often, in my work with my clients, when I ask them what they are feeling they say, "I feel sad." Often, they do not know why they feel sad.Sadness comes from two very different sources.Core SadnessCore sadness is sadness that is in reaction to something that is happening or has ...
Views: 6050(7 votes) - Your Emotional Health and Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2010 from Michael FehlauerYour relationships are affected by your emotional health. The healthier you are emotionally the stronger your relationships will be with others. The best thing you can do for your spouse, family and loved ones is to take care of yourself. Here are some tips on how to take care of yourself so you ...
Views: 1652(5 votes) - Biblical Marriage Separation Advice - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2010 from Michael and Wanda CollinsNeed marriage separation advice? Does the thought of separating from your spouse sound like a good idea? Well, unfortunately my friend, everything that sounds good is not good. As a Christian, you must be very careful that you are being led by the Holy Spirit and Godly principals rather than by ...
Views: 3840 - Healing The Wounds Of Conflict - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2010 from Leah FriedmanWith America at war, the United States is faced with a conflict that affects the lives of every citizen. Billions of dollars are being spent and thousands of young Americans are at risk on the front lines. People across the country are fretting about the effects this war will have on them and ...
Views: 1361(3 votes) - Law of Attraction Coach Tells You How To Gain Peace of Mind from Contrast - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Nanette GeigerHave you ever noticed, at times life seems to throw us a fast curve ball? Something unexpected and often undesirable pops up. This unexpected situation interrupts the status quo and can create tension. Depending on the tools we have in our emotional tool box, how we handle these upsets can range ...
Views: 972(4 votes) - You Don’t have to be Married to Get Anniversary Gifts - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Azalea WrightSo many “marriages” these days are not formalized by traditional weddings, or are only legalized years after a couple has been living together for some time, so the etiquette of giving anniversary gifts can be confusing. For instance, my gay cousin and her partner have lived together for ...
Views: 992 - Steps to Make A Man Love You Forever - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2010 from Clifford MacHanterWomen nowadays have so many questions on how they can do so that they will ensure that their man never loses interest and strays. It is very important that you can't chain him so that something in the house to keep him devoted, there are also methods of developing such a strong bond with him ...
Views: 1550 - How to be Happy in Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2010 from Michael Fehlauer1. Don’t look to others to make you happy – The first step in discovering how to be happy in marriage is recognizing the true source of happiness. In most relationships we are initially attracted to another person because they make us feel good about ourselves. Yet, if the marriage is to grow we ...
Views: 1393 - Relationship Quotes for Your Enjoyment - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2010 from Steven SwankSometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it. In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note: "Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks ...
Views: 1345(2 votes) - Get Your Ex Back - A Checklist So You Don't Mess It Up - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2010 from Richard PorrYou see that you screwed up. Now you're gonna lose the most wonderful thing that ever happened to you. What were you thinking? Now that you've come to your senses and are thinking right, your biggest worry is always that you don't blow it. It's possible you have only one opportunity at ...
Views: 3312(5 votes) - Breakup Tips That Minimize the Hurt - Unexpected Outcomes and Spiritual Words - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2010 from Richard PorrWith any breakup, there are plenty of strong emotions and great potential for long lasting harm. But the point of the greatest hurt is also the point of the greatest damage. That's normal. The challenge is to think beyond the pain and supposed consequences of a breakup and give consideration to ...
Views: 2468 - Healing and Transformation through Love - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2010 from Bambi CorsoIn a special room in my house, I have the following saying framed, “Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I need it the most.” I almost cried when I found this piece, knowing that I have been both the one who needed to feel loved, and the one who needed to share love with someone ...
Views: 3017(1 vote) - Tips To Effectively Communicate In Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2010 from Greg BakerINTRODUCTION Communication skills are not necessarily intrinsic to our nature. It is true that some people possess a talent for communication, but everyone can learn to communicate effectively with our without a natural talent to do so. It merely takes knowledge and practice. All of the ...
Views: 2254(2 votes) - How to Keep Your Relationship Resolutions for 2010 - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2010 from Phyllis GoldbergNow that we're well into 2010, how are you doing with your New Year's resolutions? Setting goals in the love department is just as important as losing weight or getting your finances in shape. So even though you may already be working on other resolutions, don't put your relationship on the back ...
Views: 1495 - Dealing With Other People's Anger - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2010 from Greg BakerThere is a very revealing verse in the Bible that helps define the psychology of an angry person. Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: The warning is very poignant. Angry people are exceptionally difficult to deal with. But for many ...
Views: 4306(3 votes) - The Relationship Between Fear And Anger - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2010 from Greg BakerOur greatest fears are the result of what we do not understand. Our minds have the capacity to create the worst scenario possible for a given situation. This creates fear. Fear, more often than not, creates anger. Fear of the unknown is akin to the fear of loss. When we don’t understand ...
Views: 4845(2 votes) - How to Keep Your Girlfriend Happy the Whole Year Round - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Daryl CampbellCertain times of the year allow you to get closer to your family, friends and that special someone. Granted there are probably a few people on your list who will never get any kind of holiday card from you (they know who they are) but your girlfriend is definitely not one of them. You may ...
Views: 699 - ***The Fast Track to Falling in Love - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Falling in love does not have to be complicated. Sometimes it is as simple as meeting someone for the first time, falling head over heals in love with them and spending a lifetime together. It can be just that simple! Several days ago, we ...
Views: 3896(44 votes) - “Independence vs. Dependence: 4 Skills You Must Learn to Have Successful Relationships Now!” - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Dr. Cindy BrownIn my experience as a Behavior Specialist and Licensed Clinician for over 13 years, the amount of independence or dependence you have in your relationships is often an indication of the level of your psychological and emotional health and a predictor of how successful your relationships will be ...
Views: 6324(2 votes) - War Buddies - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Stacey CurnowOne of my clients is haunted by the memory of a former lover. She wonders how she allowed such a "bad" relationship to go on for so long. Of course she did the best she could with the awareness she had at the time. But now she has 20/20 hindsight. We’ve all been in her shoes. We wish we ...
Views: 1723(1 vote) - Anniversary Gifts to Celebrate Any Year, Anywhere - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Azalea WrightIf you’re like me, you’re always searching for new ideas for wedding anniversary gifts for your parents or friends. The more you research the subject the more confused you become. There are traditional anniversary gifts for every year of marriage, modern anniversary gifts, American anniversary ...
Views: 968 - How Nice People Come Across as Insensitive Jerks - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2010 from Andy WoodTake a look in the mirror. There you’ll see somebody you hope comes across as decent, caring, and human at least. Godly at best. Imagine, however, that you could look through the veil at the thoughts of people around you. Chances are, sometime over the last several weeks, you walked right past ...
Views: 1889(1 vote) - Stop Nagging, Draw Him a Picture! - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Noelle Nelson“You’ve already asked me that, a hundred times!” your spouse snaps at you. “Well, you haven’t done it yet!” you retort. “Nag, nag, nag” your erstwhile beloved mutters under his breath. “What was that?” you demand. “Nothing, dear,” he says with heavy sarcasm on the dear, as he stomps out the ...
Views: 1035 - The Secret to What Women Really Want - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Michael FehlauerWhat Women Want was a comedic film released in the year 2000. The film’s main character which is played by Mel Gibson, wakes up one morning with the ability to read women’s minds. With the significant role women play in our society, if it were possible for a man to read a woman’s mind, he could ...
Views: 1298(1 vote) - Two Things That Can Stop You From Getting Back Together With Your Ex - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Daryl CampbellIt's the new year and like the saying goes, "out with the old and in with the new". Yes it is time to take stock and see where your life is headed. You can also evaluate areas of your life that you feel need improvement. But for you that old saying does not apply to everything. Particularly ...
Views: 602 - 3 Steps You Must Take Before Getting Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Daryl CampbellLike a lot of couples you probably thought (or at least hoped) that those feelings of love would carry you through any problems. In the meantime you and your significant other would continue building the foundation to make sure this relationship endured and got better as time went along. ...
Views: 689 - Help With Relationships - Three Things You Need to Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Daryl CampbellNobody has to tell you about the ups and downs of being in a relationship. Sometimes it was a thrilling ride which you hoped would never end. Other times you wanted to jump off and get as far away from your significant other as possible. No big deal. Even the best of relationships can feel that ...
Views: 628 - What Makes An Excellent Flirt? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2010 from Meghan GehanWhat makes an excellent flirt? What do you think of when you imagine yourself in a situation where you are getting ready to flirt with someone? What do you notice inside yourself in those moments? What do you feel self-confident about and where do you feel you need help? Here are some things ...
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