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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Taming the Butterflies! - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2010 from Azzrian VisionsOh that new feeling ... the tummy flutters, the palms are sweaty, heart races, constantly checking email. Its the tale tale signs of a new relationship! But how do we keep our wits about us and know for sure that its really a love connection and not just the excitement of the possibility of ...
Views: 2187(6 votes) - The Last Word - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2010 from Azzrian VisionsDo you like to have the last word when in a debate, argument or confrontation? Are you able to just let it go and let the other person get the final word off their chest, have their say and be done with it? Some people feel a need to have that “last word” while others can simply walk away ...
Views: 18906(2 votes) - Tips For Men On How To Get Back With Your Ex - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2010 from Kevin A. HedstromAt the moment typical guys are trying to devise a method to get their ex wife or girlfriend back in their life, they realize that they are presented with only a handful of obvious options. They contemplate what might have worked before in earlier times and what they assume will work. It’s this ...
Views: 1078(6 votes) - Fair Fighting Rules for Separation and Divorce - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from TR CarderEmotions can run riot during separation or divorce. High value topics such as child custody, property division, child support and security get shuffled with advice and criticism from all corners, to create a mental tangle that can shake up even the coolest customer. Add a couple of divorce ...
Views: 1779(2 votes) - Know When to Fold 'Em - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWritten April 12, 1990 How do you know when it's time to say goodbye? To move on? To go separate ways? There comes a point for many people, whether it's with the true love of your life, the gang at church, your oldest friend, or a group you used to hang with, when something is just not the ...
Views: 2147(2 votes) - ***Are You What's Holding You Back from Finding Love? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWhy do we hold on to the man who isn’t good for us, our feelings of insecurity and being less-than, or our pattern of picking jerks and liars? These are all self-sabotaging behaviors and beliefs, and intellectually we know it. Yet we cling on for dear life, feeling powerless over our unfortunate ...
Views: 2398(12 votes) - ***The 5 Things You Should NEVER Say to Your Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Just as important as saying the right thing to the one you love is to avoid saying statements that have the potential to destroy the foundation of the relationship. Saying just one wrong thing can negate an entire day of good statements and actions. ...
Views: 9402(34 votes) - My Wife and Mother Can't Stand Each Other by Linda Lipshutz, MS, LCSW, ACSW - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from linda lipshutz“My wife and My Mother Can’t Stand Each Other” by Linda Lipshutz, M.S., LCSW Rob W. writes: ”My wife and I have been arguing incessantly and I am beside myself. Stacy and I have been married for five years and the problem seems to be getting worse, not better. I’ve always been very close to ...
Views: 5842(2 votes) - ***Are You Caring or Caretaking? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2010 from Margaret PaulCaring = giving to another from love, for the joy of it - as a free gift Caretaking = giving to get love, giving with an agenda attached, giving yourself upEven though the actions of caring and the actions of caretaking might look exactly the same, the intention is totally different, so the ...
Views: 5278(3 votes) - You Can't Say Yes if You Can't Say No - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2012 from Brenda ShoshannaFear is a great factor in relationships. It confuses our mind, undermines our confidence and prevents us from making choices that would be healthy for all concerned. A great source of fear is rejection by others. Not aware that we have rejected ourselves, we become overly hungry for the ...
Views: 8338(3 votes) - Is Your Partner Married to His or Her Office? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from Rachel MohebanIs Your Partner Married To His/Her Office? The signs are all there… Your partner always seems preoccupied, he/she is getting late-night email alerts, is obsessively checking for new text messages. In the past this could only mean one thing, but in today’s technologically-driven world ...
Views: 1166 - ***Dating Tip: First Decide Whether You Like Him - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerIt’s pathetic how easily I can find my self acting like the insecure kid I was in high school. These days it doesn’t come up too much, but can happen when I meet someone I especially like and admire, and get the sense they don’t return the feeling. I can get to feeling so hurt and undeserving ...
Views: 2204(8 votes) - Did He Really Say "I love you"? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2010 from Christine PembletonHave you ever been in a relationship with a guy that progressed to the “I love you” stage? That’s the stage of a relationship when things are going well; you are enjoying each other’s company, and you believe the other person feels the same way. It’s the point where your relationship can ...
Views: 5082 - When You Aren't Satisfied With What Is Manifesting In Your Life, Open Your Eyes - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2010 from Nanette GeigerYou have an energetic set point at this very moment. If you're not content with what is showing up in your life, you MUST be able to own your intentions – take one-hundred percent ownership and then you can change it. The Universe is not dropping things on your head because of a past life. ...
Views: 1792(12 votes) - Internet Dating Online - What's in Your Wallet? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2010 from Daryl CampbellMatchmaker Carole Shattil is president of CheckMatesInc. She recently told the Mercury News, "There's so many masses of people online," People are frustrated - they meet the person, and they're not who they say they are." Some may be skeptical of this statement since matchmaking in many ways ...
Views: 971(6 votes) - How Your Differences Can Make You Closer - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Kara OhYour relationship cannot be as close as you’d like it to be if you’re not willing to shift your attitude about your differences, i.e. what causes the friction between you. In the beginning, you probably thought his differences were cute, adorable, enchanting even. As you became more familiar, ...
Views: 2230(5 votes) - A Sad Killer of Love - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Kara OhBelittling our partner––or a child, for that matter––either directly or by innuendo, is a direct hit to the heart. Eventually, love is replaced by resentment, loathing or even hate. In the moment, we don’t realize the damage we’re causing when we belittle those we “say” we love. We’re blinded ...
Views: 2009(1 vote) - ***The 5 Things You Should Say to Your Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzNegativism can easily creep into even the best relationships causing a pattern of negative actions and thoughts to overpower the marriage. The question often asked by couples is “How you can build positive interactions with each other on a daily basis so negativism doesn’t take hold of our ...
Views: 6180(28 votes) - Stop Being a Networking Dork - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Max-Marc FossouoWhen I decided to enter the niche of Relationships Coaching, my main goal was to just in lighting up individuals and corporates on the way they handle their business relationships. However, the more I dug into the subject and learned and trained myself through books and practice, the more it ...
Views: 1545(2 votes) - Love Tarot Readings: The Crossroads of our Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Carolyn NaimanOne of the most common inquiries during a Tarot reading typically concerns matters of romance and partnerships. Naturally, people consult the Tarot for answers about love. One would expect that most people would want knowledge about their future love life: who and when that special somebody ...
Views: 12105(3 votes) - ***Why You're Dating and Not Finding Quality Men - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDating can be a real pain in the butt, right? It can be a lot of work that leads to a lot of nothing. I conducted a survey recently and asked women what their biggest challenge was when they date. The #1 response was: I’m not meeting quality men. Can you relate?? I hear this from women ...
Views: 2942(5 votes) - Relationship: 8 Keys to Success - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Susan DerryThere are extreme pressures on relationships today. Fast paced lifestyles can leave little room for developing and maintaining intimate relationships. Yet, a healthy relationship is one of the things that make life worthwhile and helps us live a longer and healthier life. A successful ...
Views: 4197(1 vote) - Monogamy. Is It Worth It? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Kara OhThis is a big subject but I have a few ideas I’d like to share from my workshops and from my studies of cultural anthropology. I believe men’s nature is to have multiple partners. Polygyny (the practice of having more than one wife at a time) is preferred by 85% of the cultures today. Think ...
Views: 2718 - How to Help Someone With a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerYou know someone that has had their heart broken and they are so hurt that they seem to withdraw from everyone and everything. You want to help, but you just don't know what to do. Read on for a few suggestions and tips. Now if you did the heart breaking, that would be an altogether different ...
Views: 3584(3 votes) - How to Prevent a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerIt seems that we've all suffered a broken heart at one time or another. The pain that it causes and brings is horrific. Few, if anyone, ever wants to go through that again. So how do you prevent it? And if we can actually do that, is it a good thing? The only sure way to prevent a broken ...
Views: 5823 - "Why Won't my Partner Have Sex With Me?" - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2010 from Margaret PaulI have worked with individuals and couples for the past 42 years, and I have heard this question countless times: "Why doesn't my partner want to have sex with me?"Over and over, I discover that there is often ONE major reason he or she doesn’t want to have sex.Take Lawrence as ...
Views: 5118(3 votes) - Freedom & Commitment in Relationship: Either / Or? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2010 from Sonika TinkerWhen my wife and I work with people about relationships, one of the most frequent concerns is freedom. Or rather, the fear of losing freedom inside of the relationship. This shows up for singles wanting a committed relationship, but unable get past the fear that it will be the end of freedom. It ...
Views: 7054 - Law of Attraction Help Me Find my Man! - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2010 from Sonika TinkerI was terrified of losing him. He was the most loving, present, sweet, tender, powerful, wise, conscious man I had ever met. I had fallen in love with him the second I met him. It was a soul connection beyond words. I felt at home in his arms, as if I had known him for an eternity. I was ...
Views: 2021(5 votes) - How to Create A Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2010 from Sonika TinkerOur success in the work world is determined not only by how great we feel about ourselves, but by how uplifted, nourished and loved we feel in our intimate relationships. There is nothing that wreaks more havoc with our mood and productivity than discord with a loved-one, nothing more ...
Views: 2094(5 votes) - Family Communication - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2010 from Jo-Anne CutlerCommunication...it is the root of many misunderstandings and conflicts that we experience in our relationships, whether it is with our partner, our parents, our kids, friends, siblings, bosses or anyone! Sometimes we may keep silent because we don’t know how to say what we want to say and ...
Views: 2595(1 vote) - ***Online Dating: How to Get Started and Make it Work - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAs if dating and mating wasn’t hard enough, technology has added a variety of new challenges to the art of hooking up. Not only do you have to master the computer crud, you have to figure out how to actually connect with another human being amidst the volume and the anonymity. Being a ...
Views: 2549(4 votes) - Don't Defeat Yourself With Negative Manipulation - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2010 from Bob LancerWhen you use feelings of disappointment to manipulate someone into giving you your way, you program yourself to relate with your experience as a defeat. This costs you your freedom. There is really nothing wrong with your situation. The present offers you every opportunity. But you bind ...
Views: 3240(1 vote) - How To Win With Impossible People - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2010 from Bob LancerLet's define an "impossible person" as a person who seems unwilling or unable to cooperate with you in some way that feels important to you. From your perspective, cooperating with you makes perfectly obvious sense. But this other person seems impervious to your arguments, inflexible in his or ...
Views: 5764 - Treat your Anger as your stubborn child - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2010 from Angela SmytheAnyone that has ever babysat for their little niece or their baby brother knows how hard it can be to deal with someone that says no just because it is all they know. Little kids know little if anything about self-control so when they see something they want they don’t understand why they can’t ...
Views: 2004(1 vote) - Have fun and live longer! - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2010 from Wayne Kehl“We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” George Bernard Shaw Famed Irish playwright and essayist, George Bernard Shaw lived from 1856 to 1950. He generated many quotes during his long life, but the one above is my favourite. I am drawn to the quote ...
Views: 1625(1 vote) - Love Tarot: What The Fool Can Teach Us About Love - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2010 from Carolyn NaimanOne of the most common inquiries I receive as a Tarot reader is the question of Love: When will I meet Mr. or Mrs. Right? Although the Tarot often refers to future possibilities and potential outcomes, finding love is really up to each individual. The Tarot is a reminder that we are the ...
Views: 3588(4 votes) - Love Tarot: Using the Tarot to find Love - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Carolyn NaimanWithout doubt, the most common inquiry during a Tarot reading is about love. It often seems as though true love is something that is outside of one’s self, that it is an external force or act of fate that we have little control of. In truth, finding love begins within our own selves. Love is a ...
Views: 2399(3 votes) - Law Of Attraction Coach: How To Become An Attractor To Your Desires - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2010 from Nanette GeigerSo now you are feeling expectant, feeling good, and anticipating money coming in. At this point, you're in the RECEIVING mode. As Jesus taught, ASK, understanding you will get it, and you will RECEIVE. That is the receptive or allowing mode. I also speak of this kind of ecstatic anticipation ...
Views: 1557(6 votes) - Getting Back Together With Your Ex - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2010 from Sean FoleyYou have had a fight and quarreled with your ex over something and now you have had a break up..! Was it worth it? You and your partner love each other mad but these quarrels have been getting out of hand and finally the moment came when you called quits. It is only wise that you work on getting ...
Views: 1442(1 vote) - ***Al and Tipper Gore’s Marriage – What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzLet’s face it, long time relationships sometimes end. And the simple truth is there isn’t always a compelling reason or reasons why. The separation of Al and Tipper Gore after 40 years of marriage is a good illustration of the “why” question – why did their love affair end after all these ...
Views: 8136(45 votes) - Three Ways to Bring Playfulness (Back) Into Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Shela DeanRemember when you and your sweetheart first met? You counted the minutes until you saw him again. You called just to hear her sweet voice. The air was alive with the snap, crackle & pop of sexual energy. You couldn't get enough of each other and you were always on your best behavior. It was easy ...
Views: 1627(4 votes) - 5 ways to enhance your Love-Life - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Jessie Louise1) The ten minute catch up Take a crack at varying your nightly routine to allow time. For example, instead of switching on the TV straight after kissing your little cherubs goodnight, spend ten minutes chatting as a couple. Similarly, rather than having dinner on the table at 6pm on the ...
Views: 948(1 vote) - Is Your Partner Overstepping The Relationship Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Rachel MohebanWhen you’ve been together long enough, you pick up each other’s habits, finish each other’s sentences, share a bed, a home, maybe a couple of kids. You become a unit. But have you retained your own identity? Can you define yourself as your own self, or only as one half of a couple? ...
Views: 6783 - Being Heart Smart Part Two: The Inner View - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoOne of my favorite Maryanne mantras is; you have to learn how use this (your head) before you do this (have sex) so you don’t break this (your heart)! And for many of us we can sadly add…again. Sounds simple enough, right? Yeah, well, we all know that when we get the urge to merge it can be so ...
Views: 1715 - Death becomes you - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoWhat if you just let go? Let it all go? All your attachments: your life as you know it, your identity, what you think of other people, of what other people think of you? Any and all ideas you have about who you are, what is and how it supposed to be, vanishing in the distance as you voluntarily ...
Views: 1549(1 vote) - "Why Are My Partners Always Needy?" - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Margaret PaulAngelo had been married to Serena for 15 years before divorcing. In his marriage, Angelo was a caretaker, always trying to please Serena, always trying to get her approval and avoid her disapproval. Serena was a taker - handing responsibility to Angelo for her happiness and often angry with him ...
Views: 5193(2 votes) - Change Your Perception Change Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Susan DerryIf you have difficulties in your relationship, your perspective may be part of the problem. Consider how you are looking at your relationship and how you are looking at your partner? Your perception of your partner and your relationship affects the reality that you experience. Thinking and ...
Views: 6003(3 votes) - How A Low Self Esteem Will Ruin Your Love Life - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Seyi EyitayoA low self esteem will make it difficult for you to accept love from anyone else simply because, someone with a low self esteem already finds it difficult to love or appreciate themselves. Someone with a low self esteem does not know how to receive affection from anyone, especially someone ...
Views: 3615(1 vote) - Transform Your Image at Work - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Max-Marc FossouoSome people were born with the golden spoon and fortunately never had to work truly hard to transform their image. For the majority however, it’s not the case. One has to work hard on his job and also on the image he/she reflects. It can be at work, at home, with friends. How do you manage your ...
Views: 2494(1 vote) - Building Intimacy With Your Network - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Max-Marc FossouoIf you want to create a really dynamite network, you have to really follow through when you say, “I’d like to get to know you.” From my previous post (Make Yourself Unforgettable) I’ve shared the idea stating that each person we meet up with or get introduce to represent a doorway to ...
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