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- There Is More To Trauma Than Just Painful Memories - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2012, I came to the conclusion that if I could change what was going on in my mind my life would change. The outcome of this was that I ended up having hypnotherapy. I was in a lot of emotional pain at this time and I had no idea what inner peace was like. A little while ...
Views: 1015 - The Problem With The Golden Rule - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have heard people say that we should treat others as we would like to be treated, and this is something that I agree with. However, while it is easy to say this, it is not as easy to put it into practice. This is then similar to how someone can say that they no longer want ...
Views: 719 - Sexuality: Can Someone’s Early Years Have An Effect On What Turns Them On As An Adult? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone can believe that the things that arouse them are just the things that arouse them, and that all there is to it. However, what this wouldn’t take into account is the part that their early years may have played in why something in particular has this effect on them. If, ...
Views: 995 - Presence: Can Someone's Inner Wounds Stop Them From Being Able To Be Present? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA lot has been said about how important it is to be present, with there being a number of benefits to living in the moment. For one thing, being present will allow one to embrace what is taking place in the now and to fully show up. Through being able to do this, it will be a lot easier for ...
Views: 667 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Want A Mother Figure? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because a man looks like a man, it doesn’t mean that he feels likes like a man on the inside. What is going on externally is then going to have very little to do with what is going on internally. Still, even though his physical appearance will create the impression that he is a man, it ...
Views: 755 - Energetic Abuse: Can Someone Energetically Abuse Another Person? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was asked to talk about what abuse looks like, they may say that this is what happens when someone is put down, hit, sexually taken advantage of, or emotionally invalidated. When something like this takes place, it will be clear that someone is not being treated in the right way. At ...
Views: 1034 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone's Negative Energy Have A Destructive Effect On The Planet? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a lot has been said about the planet and how it is not in a good way. On one side, there is a focus on what is going on with the weather, and on the other, there is a focus on what is happening on the ground. And although the media has spoken about the weather for a ...
Views: 889(1 vote) - You Are Not Broken - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen Errol Campbell and I were doing live videos about a year ago, he said that it wasn’t just about us giving advice. While this was part of it, he also said that we were there to hold the space so that the people on the call could find their own answers. At the time, I found it hard to get ...
Views: 916(1 vote) - Are Some People Slowly Killing Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people who are ending their life as well as those who have thought about doing so. As a result of what has been going on, there is a strong chance that some people are ending their life right now and there are others who are thinking about ...
Views: 875 - Does The Past Only Exist In Our Head? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I came across a quote that had been placed on a picture, and this was a quote that had received a lot of positive feedback on a social media site. The ‘law of attraction’ was also mentioned underneath it. Part of this quote basically said that the past only exists in our ...
Views: 784 - Relationships: Can Someone Be Emotionally Unavailable Even Though They’re In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt would be easy to believe that the people who are emotionally unavailable are single and the ones who aren’t are in a relationship. Or, if someone is emotionally available and single, it could just show that they are taking a break after going through a breakup, for instance. This is then ...
Views: 857 - Powerless: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Powerless? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why someone would get into self-development is because they feel powerless. As a result of this, they are going to be looking for a way to change how they feel so that they can change their life. Part of them, then, is going to realise that they are not powerless, which is ...
Views: 786 - Do Your Friends Use You As A Free Therapist? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of weeks ago I was talking to someone who was used to having people talk to them about their problems. It was easy to see why this was as they were a good listener, had a lot of empathy, and there was a gentleness to them. Due to this, it would have been strange if this person ...
Views: 919 - Is Past Life Trauma Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was working with a therapist in 2007, I thought that I was working through lot of pain that was from my past lives. However, after working through this pain, my life didn’t really change. As time went by I came to believe that dealing with past life issues was a waste of time and I ...
Views: 871 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Be Made To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship that is abusive, they can find that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. So, through spending so much time around someone who undermines them, the good feelings that they had will have just about disappeared. Before this took place, they may have ...
Views: 806 - Music Can Help You To Grieve Your Unmet Childhood Needs - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt is well known that it is important to grieve after a loved one has passed on, but what is not as well known is that it is also important for someone to grieve their unmet childhood needs. However, in the same way that someone can lose touch with the pain that is within them after another ...
Views: 716 - Let Your Feelings Guide You - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was reading ‘The Integrity Of Personality’ by Anthony Storr, there were a lot of things that stood out. This is a book that came out a few decades ago, but it is full of great information. And one of the things that stood out was when he basically said that a therapist can’t make a ...
Views: 852 - Femininity: Why Do Some Women Criticise Women Who Act Feminine? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are men who are more feminine than masculine, there are also women who are more masculine than feminine. Now, if someone believes that men are an expression of the masculine and women are an expression of the feminine, it can be hard for them to understand why this is ...
Views: 1084 - Femininity: How Can A Woman Be More Feminine? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was to find that she has the tendency to attract men who are not very masculine and/or if she is tired of trying to make everything happen through force, she may look into what she can do to embrace more of her feminine aspect. Still, having a strong masculine element may have allowed ...
Views: 1159 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some Men Criticise Men Who Act Feminine? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may accept that some men are more masculine than others, there is also the chance that this is something that he is not willing to accept. This is something that can define how he responds to men who are not very masculine. If a man can accept this, he may just see men as ...
Views: 895 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Expect Their Parent/s To Give Them What They Couldn't Give Them As A Child? - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone may have received the kind of care that they needed during their early years in order to develop in the right way; there is also the chance that this didn’t take place. As a result of this, their early years may have been a time in their life when they experienced a hell of a lot ...
Views: 698 - Relationships: Is It Possible To End Up With The Wrong Person? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as one can choose something on a menu and end up finding out that it is not very appealing to their taste buds; they can also end up choosing someone to be in a relationship with, only to find out that they are not a good match. However, although one can just stop eating a meal that doesn’t ...
Views: 810 - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With Deeply Wounded People If They Are Out Of Touch With Their Wounds? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one sees themselves as someone who has got it altogether, or is just in a good place, it can be hard for them to understand why they would end up with someone who is not in a good way. This person is then not just going to have a different personality to them; they won’t be as well ...
Views: 797 - Suicidal: Can Self-Hate Cause Someone To Feel Suicidal? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a lot has said about people who are suffering from depression and now, a lot is also being said about people who are suffering from suicidal feelings. There are even people who have taken their own life. One then has to wonder if more people are feeling suicidal than ...
Views: 916 - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Attracted To Unavailable Women? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man may have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with a woman, he may continually end up with women who are not available. Through having been with a number of women who are like this, he may find that this area of his life causes him to experience a fair amount of ...
Views: 907 - Emotional Problems: Does Inner Conflict Cause Some People To Suffer In Silence? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one doesn’t know someone who is going through a tough time emotionally, they may have heard about someone in the media whose inner world is not in a good place. One could even reflect on what they have witnessed over the years and see that this is a common occurrence. Thus, if they were ...
Views: 881 - Dating: Is It A Bad Idea To Have Sex On The First Date? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperMany, many years ago, sex was something that people would typically have if they wanted children. Nowadays, it is something that lot of people have if they want to experience pleasure. In the past, then, it was generally seen as having one purpose and in the present, it is generally seen as ...
Views: 1005 - Listen To Your Own Inner Guidance - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago I was speaking to someone who said that it was time for them to put a book together and to have it out before the end of the year. After having put this off for a number of years, this person knew that it was time for them to take action. When I heard this I just paid ...
Views: 745 - Are You As Curious As A Lamb? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out walking the other day, I came across a load of lambs. Having said that, it might be more accurate to say that a lamb spotted me and after this, I saw the lamb and a number of other lambs. This lamb was looking at me through a fence and I even managed to take a few pictures. I ...
Views: 890 - Siblings: Why Don't Some Siblings Get On? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are people in the world who think about what it must be like to have a sibling, there are others who know exactly what it is like. However, even if someone does have at least one sibling, it doesn’t mean that they are best friends. They may talk to their sibling from time to ...
Views: 700 - Erectile Dysfunction: What Causes Erectile Dysfunction? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a number of challenges that a lot of men are trying to deal with. One thing that a lot of men are struggling with is their own emotions and another thing is erectile dysfunction. To have one of these challenges would be enough, so to have both of them can be a lot ...
Views: 1128 - Aggression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has a head, heart and a body, it doesn’t mean that all each of these parts of their being will be embraced. As a result of this, they can look like a whole human being from the outside but it doesn’t mean that they are whole on the inside. One can then be aware of what is ...
Views: 910 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Try To Make Their Ex Look Bad? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOnce a relationship has come to an end, it could result in two people going their own way. This will then be a clean break, meaning that both of them will be happy to move on with their life. What this could illustrate is that they gradually grew apart, with there being nothing to keep ...
Views: 756 - Chest Pain: Can Chest Pain Be Caused By Trapped Grief? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to find that there is pain and tension in their chest, the first thing that could come to mind is that there is something wrong with their heart. It could also be a challenge for them to breath, which could mean that they will believe that there is something wrong with their lungs ...
Views: 1560 - Critical Thinking: Was George Orwell A Prophet? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, George Orwell or 1984 is often mentioned when it comes to what is taking place in the world. The reason for this is that today’s world is becoming more oppressive as time goes by. In the book, he goes into great detail to illustrate what it is like to live under a totalitarian ...
Views: 1053 - Childhood Development: Are Some People Born To Fulfil A Role That Their Caregivers Had Planned For Them? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn ancient Greece, Sparta was a prominent city-state where boys were trained to be warriors. When a boy reached six or seven, he was removed from his parents home and sent to military school where he began the ’agoge.’ In order for these boys to become fearless warriors, they had to go ...
Views: 991 - Does The Film 'Venom' Show What Happens When Someone Has A Healthy Relationship With Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few months ago a friend of mine said that he had watched Venom and that it was a good film. I ended up watching the film with another friend and I thought that it wasn’t too bad. Shortly after I had watched it I thought that it seemed to lack something, as I found it hard to really connect ...
Views: 894 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That The People Who Talk About Tolerance Are Often The Most Intolerant? - by Submitted on May 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with the word diversity, tolerance is another word that is often mentioned by politicians and celebrities. It doesn’t stop there though as there are plenty of people who talk about how important is it to be tolerant. For example, if someone is at university or has been there, they ...
Views: 771 - Isolation: Why Do Some People Lose The Desire To Be Around Others? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that human beings are social creatures and this is something that is hard to deny. Not only do human beings need others in order to survive, they also need others in order to thrive. Still, this doesn’t mean that every human being on this planet will be able to accept this, ...
Views: 779 - Needs: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them To Disconnect From Their Needs? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is part of the human experience to have needs, it doesn’t mean that every human being feels comfortable with their needs. Along with this, there are going to be people who are rarely, if ever, aware of what their needs are. Due to this, not everyone is going to have the same ...
Views: 667 - You Just Need To Embrace Your True-Self! - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFollowing on from the other articles that I wrote on this theme, I wanted to cover another subject that is often spoken about. So, just as someone can be told that ‘they just need to love themselves’, for instance, they can also be told that they just need to embrace their true-self. When ...
Views: 768 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone can look like a whole human being on the outside, meaning that they have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with the totality of their being. There is the chance that they are aware of what is going on up top, but are unaware of what is going on down ...
Views: 833 - The Healing Paradox - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I remember reading something that said that the more we want to change, the harder it is to change. This was the last thing I wanted to hear as I wasn’t in a good way; it also didn’t make sense. I desperately wanted my life to change; this was something that felt like ...
Views: 2119 - Addiction: Is A Lack Of Connection The Root Cause Of Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a video online titled, ‘Could the Root Cause of Addiction actually be a lack of Connection?’, and this video posits that a lack of connection causes addiction. It also says that “not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but they can all be traced to a painful ...
Views: 1250 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone Save The Planet By Feeling Bad? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for the media to share information about what is happening in the oceans and what certain animals are going through. This type of information can be found on social media too. From what is going on around the world, it is perfectly clear that a lot of harm is being done ...
Views: 964 - Avoidance Mode: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be In Avoidance Mode? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf the time had come for someone to make a big decision, what they may find is that they end up following their heart. In other words, they will go with what they feel called to do as opposed to doing something out of fear. This could typically be how they operate during their day-to-day ...
Views: 802 - Critical Chinking: Does The Education System Turn People Into Narcissists? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, there were only a small percentage of people who went to university and only a few subjects were taught. Nowadays, it is often a case of who hasn’t been and numerous subjects are now taught at these institutions. One way of looking at this would be to say that it is a good thing ...
Views: 808 - Relationships: Is The Purpose Of A Relationship To Trigger Old Wounds? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has just started to date another person, they can find that they feel really good. They are then still going to be on the same planet that they were on before they met this person, but it can be as if they have been taken somewhere else. This area of their life is going to be ...
Views: 919 - Child Abuse: Does Child Abuse Cause Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, it has been said that there are a lot of people who are not in a good way internally. When something like this is spoken about in the media, the words ‘depression’, ‘anxiety’ and ‘suicidal’ are often mentioned. It can then seem as though this is a fairly new problem ...
Views: 915 - Critical Thinking: Does The Sexualised Western World Make It Hard For Men To Focus? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is likely to stand out for someone who has lived in the western world for at least fifty years, is how sexualised it has become. The reason it will stand out so clearly for someone like this is because they would have been around before it was this way. They will be able to ...
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