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The Most Common form of Abuse Experienced by Christian Women in MarriageIs Divorce Harder for Christians than for Everyone Else?What God and the Bible Really Say About Divorce- ***How Do I Know I Am Ready for a Divorce? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from LB WishHow Do I Know I Am Ready for a Divorce? A great question not so easily answered. Research has shown that even happy long-term marriages have rough patches that the couple manages to triumph over, not just survive. Yet, there are truly very bad marriages that often involve behaviors such as ...
Views: 3277 - ***Why Some Long-term Marriages End in Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from LB WishWhy Some Long-term Marriages End in Divorce Ever since the 1970’s, divorce has become commonplace. In fact, the definition of family has changed dramatically. Less than fifty percent of families are intact families with the original mother and father. Families now include single heads of ...
Views: 3967 - ***Last Kiss: Tips for Divorce and Split Ups with Business Partners - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from LB WishLast Kiss: Tips for Divorce and Split Ups with Business Partners Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, Ed.D. When “Janelle Booker” divorced her husband Raymond of fifteen years, it made the front page of the society section of newspapers. Janelle and her husband were the socially prominent and successful ...
Views: 1514 - The 7 Costly Mistakes Domestic Abuse Survivors Make with Their Divorce Lawyers - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Why do domestic abuse victims see the abuse dynamic in their home, but fail to recognize it in their divorce proceedings? The answer to this question is the same answer to the question, “Why doesn’t she awaken to the abuse in her home?” You know the answer: she is part of the very dynamic for ...
Views: 1270 - Divorce Visitation - When Domestic Abuse Revels Itself in the Interest of the Controlling Parent - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.In helping people negotiate child custody and visitation schedules, I’ve come to see a pattern express itself in terms of parents’ desire for their children to have equal access to both parents. The moment I see resistance to equal access to both parents based on what a parent “may” do without ...
Views: 976 - Helping a Friend Through Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraOne of the most painful experiences a father can endure is divorce. Yes, men hurt as much as women, although it is always assumed that women are the only hapless victims. A lot of men going through divorce also feel loneliness, anxiety, disappointment, and depression. There may be feelings of ...
Views: 3186 - Painless Way to Start Healing on the Inside and Out - by Cynthia Rowland, facial fitness expert, announced today that divorce doesn't necessarily mean you have to look older. The Holmes-Rahe Scale, the standard for stressful life events, places divorce as the second most stressful event in one's life just under the death of a spouse or child. But the ...
Views: 1124 - Helping Teens Cope with Their Parent's Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAdolescent years are supposed to be fun, but when adolescents have to deal with their parents’ divorce, it becomes a devastating roller-coaster ride. It is common for teens to assume that their parent’s divorce may be their fault. Feelings of regret for being unable to prevent the parent’s ...
Views: 2467 - Don't Stay in a Broken Marriage "For the Children" - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2009 from Jonathan HuieIf you are clear that you are miserable in your relationship, don't procrastinate on getting a divorce "for the sake of the children." While some experts would argue that having one parent move out of the home increases the stress on young children, consider the likelihood that the benefit of ...
Views: 3000(2 votes) - Life After Divorce: The Power of Acceptance - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileIn Divorce Recovery, as well as any other major loss in life, acceptance is the most important and most difficult step we must take towards releasing the past and beginning a new chapter of life. By acceptance I mean the acceptance of your reality, as it exists for you right now: what is and ...
Views: 1235 - Dating Do's and Don'ts After Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2009 from Thomas MichaelsHeal First, Then Date. Yes, while you were married you probably thought of public speaking as the most frightening activity you could attempt. The very thought of a crowd of strangers looking at you, listening to how you speak, making judgments about who you are and what you know, caused the ...
Views: 1131 - Same-sex Divorce and the Challenge to Undo - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2009 from Thomas MichaelsIf you thought same-sex marriage was a challenge, wait until you hear about the same-sex divorce conundrum. Ending the marriage that was difficult to get done in the first place ends up being far more complicated. As this is writing, the effectiveness of the pro-gay movement sympathetic to ...
Views: 720 - Divorce and Finances in 2009 and Beyond - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2009 from Thomas MichaelsOnce the decision to divorce has been finalized, most people pass through the stages of grief associated with the loss of a loved one. While no two people experience the same journey, we all experience the stages, with some people skipping a stage while others repeat some of the stages. Those ...
Views: 735 - Dating Successfully After Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2013 from Guy FarmerYou've emerged from a divorce and you feel like you're ready to date again. Dating is a fun and exciting part of life and can help with the post-divorce healing process. Your new dating experiences don't have to be a nightmare even if you're a bit out of practice. Think about the following ...
Views: 1565 - The Document Hunt- Start Now - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2009 from Vikki ZieglerIf you are contemplating filing for divorce, or if you are already involved in a proceeding, it is gravely important for your attorney, your accountant and your financial advisor to have a complete financial picture. This includes both your incomes, assets, life insurance, medical insurance, ...
Views: 1123 - Divorce: Problem or Solution? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Kathy MartoneIt is not common knowledge that divorce is actually a social phenomenon in existence since the time of ancient Mesopotamia. This suggests that the roots of our collective disillusionment with the institution of marriage have some deep, and perhaps meaningful, roots. To understand the meaning of ...
Views: 9245 - Separation and Divorce Tips - Riding the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Carolyn EllisDivorce and separation can be quite a ride. Up and down. Up and down. Will it ever stop? Even before the decision to separate or divorce is made, life can feel like it’s spinning out of control. One day you’re up, the next day you’re down. It can feel like you are losing your mind. Divorce ...
Views: 4967 - ***Separation and Divorce Tips - How’s the Ex? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Carolyn EllisDivorce etiquette is often badly needed after separation after separation and divorce. How many times have your family or friends “How’s the Ex”? You know all too well that divorce requires an adjustment in how you see yourself outside your marriage. When you’re used to saying “we” or “ours”, ...
Views: 2512(1 vote) - Different Parenting Styles after Separation - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Carolyn EllisIt’s not uncommon for the difference in parenting styles between parents to become very apparent after separation. Children usually experience some transition time to get acclimated to the unique rhythms of each household. Realizing you have little control over what happens “over there” at ...
Views: 3146(2 votes) - Five Essential Tips for Financial Wellness During Your Divorce - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2009 from lori snyder“The waste of money cures itself, for soon there is no more to waste.” -M.W. Harrison Divorce is a major undertaking and transitional time for many. Your emotions are usually running very high during the beginning of your divorce. There are many mixed feelings; you will feel like you are ...
Views: 1005 - Divorce Support for Parents: A Guided Parent Child Conversation - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2009 from Laura DoerflingerChildren coping with divorce have difficulty because their perceptions of reality are forced to change. To understand their challenge, I have created a concept to help children and parents visualize the dilemma they face when confronted with these changes. It is called the “Lifeline;” that is, ...
Views: 915 - Friendless After Divorce - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraDivorce has many undesirable side effects. Whatever you had, you seem to lose. First you lose your spouse’s love and affection. Then you lose respect for one other. Next is the house, the car—even the kids. Sometimes it feels like you could lose your sanity. And, if that’s not enough, you lose ...
Views: 7150 - Don't Get Crushed by the Divorce "Financial Tsunami" - by Divorce instigates financial and personal changes that dramatically impact your life. Whether you planned or it came as a surprise, you need support to overcome the incredible challenges.
Divorce sets its own rules. If you want to do it amicably, you can. So why do so many seldom prepare for ...
Views: 931 - Divorce in a Recession - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2009 from Mark GourasThere is light at the end of the tunnel, and it isn’t a train. That is what I have frequently told people going through a divorce. Times have changed, however. It may not be a train coming at you in a divorce, but it is probably a house stuffed full of refinanced credit card debts. ...
Views: 670 - Beyond the Grief of Divorce - 7 Steps Toward New Beginnings - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2009 from Jonathan HuieIf you have been divorced, you know it hurts - especially if your marriage had lasted many years. Whatever the circumstances of your relationship, and whatever the nature of its ending, there is always grief and regret - perhaps regret over the ending or perhaps regret over not ending the ...
Views: 2083(2 votes) - Divorce: Selling the Marital Home - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2009 from Annie O'NeillAs if going through a divorce isn’t traumatic enough, it often leads to being forced to ‘downsize’ which is challenging both emotionally and practically. You will usually have chosen the marital home as a couple and often will have raised a family there. Every room holds memories, both happy ...
Views: 1607 - Marriage After Divorce: 5 Tips to Help Children Adjust - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Patzia GonzalezUnfortunately, second marriages have an even worse track record than first marriages. Part of this has to do with the kids, yours, his/ hers. Don't get me wrong, it has nothing to do with the kids as people, the kids are all right. It has a lot to do with our feelings about them. And I mean kids ...
Views: 3063 - Introducing New Partner Too Fast, Too Soon - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Gary DirenfeldEven though a spouse may have contemplated separation for years prior to informing their partner, to the partner, the news comes as a shock, even in view of a tumultuous relationship. For the children, the shock is often even greater. To intensify matters befalling the children, the spouse who ...
Views: 1410 - Bullies in the Divorce Process - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2009 from Marilyn Barnicke BelleghemBullying is about the bully needing to feel powerful. Bullies believe their wants are more important than anyone else's. They have learned to be abusers. Bullying always involves • Intimidation through specific tactics meant to instill fear • Threats of emotional, physical and psychological ...
Views: 8230 - Relationship Breakdown Cause and Effect - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2009 from Lyn McDonaldWhy is it that so many relationships end in divorce? The statistics will vary across the globe from as little as 5% in Macedonia to as high as 68% in Belarus. Regardless of the figure the emotional impact, stress, family split and the monetary heart aches it creates is never pleasant. Yet as a ...
Views: 2926 - Legal Domestic Abuse: 7 Signs Your Attorney Has a Vested Interest in Helping Your Opposition - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Imagine rallying up the courage to leave an abusive partner and find yourself in a relationship with counsel in which you are the same as you were in relation to your partner...only difference is you’re in the seduction/promises phase of the relationship. Far too often we see women seek ...
Views: 815 - Building a New Life After Divorce - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraDivorce can leave a person devastated and broken. It is a major, life-changing event that could shatter your heart into pieces. Accepting the fact that everything just isn’t the same anymore, especially for those who didn’t see it coming, may be a little too hard. Having to deal all ...
Views: 1913 - How to Handle your Emotions During Divorce - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileDivorce brings out the lunatic within us. Rage, anger, depression, sadness, resentment and blame are just some of negative emotions running the show. Your emotional state is hard to pin down from one moment to the next. This is not the best state of mind to be in when you are being called ...
Views: 1489 - Three Tips for Keeping your Sanity & Poise when interacting with your Ex during the Most Wonderful Time of the Year - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2008 from Debra Brown GordyThree Tips for Keeping your Sanity & Poise when interacting with your Ex during the Most Wonderful Time of the Year I remember it well – my first Christmas after my divorce from my children’s dad. I dreaded it coming. Not only were my two young daughters going to be with their ...
Views: 1646 - Divorce Decisions Regarding Real Estate – Questions You Must Ask - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2008 from Lisa DeckerIn working with clients, I find that these are typical issues and concerns when it comes to matters of divorce and real estate decisions. 1. What are the key factors about real estate and divorce that someone divorcing should be aware of? • Identify of the type of real estate and the type of ...
Views: 740 - ***Relationships: 5 Resolutions to Keep to Create Successful Relationships - by Relationships can be our greatest joy, or our greatest challenge. Often they are both! With a world going through significant economic restructuring and transition, many people are re-assessing what is truly important to them. After all, will we assess our lives with the question of "How did my ...
Views: 2389 - Divorce: So-Called Mistakes Are Life Lessons - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileYour divorce is not a failure or a mistake. People miss an incredible opportunity to learn, grow and change for the better when they view their divorce through the lens of failure. A so-called failure is actually a lesson in how not to do something and an invaluable tool for doing things right ...
Views: 1246 - Divorce: You Can't Always Get What You Want - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileThe Rolling Stones were actually very smart. They were dead-on when they sang that you can’t always get what you want but you get what you need… that is if you are paying attention to what is being offered. When we wish, pray or hope for something, what we actually might be gifted ...
Views: 972 - How To Survive Your First Christmas Alone - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2008 from Annie O'NeillYour first Christmas alone doesn’t have to be terrible. Make sure that you plan what you are going to do well in advance and that you arrange to keep busy over the holiday period. Be organised and don’t leave any spare time when you might brood. Don’t worry about what your ex partner is ...
Views: 1821 - Divorce Recovery: Acceptance Of What Was And What Is - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileThe clients who come to me for help in letting go and moving on after their divorces discover that acceptance, a mandatory step in divorce recovery, comes in two stages. First we work to be in acceptance of the end of our marriage and then we move on to accept what our life is now, in the ...
Views: 1195 - ***Divorce: Stop Sabotaging Your Healing Process - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2008 from Carolyn EllisAre you familiar with the phrase “The shortest distance between two points is a straight line?” While this may be true in math or drawing, it is not true in the journey of healing your heart after divorce. When dealing with our emotions, progress is definitely not linear. It’s ...
Views: 3989 - ***Manifesting Your Desires - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2008 from Carolyn EllisManifesting and attaining your goals has become an increasingly popular pursuit. The movie, "The Secret," jump-started the discussion of the law of attraction and manifestation in mainstream culture. People seek out seminars, workshops and gurus to help learn the secrets of manifestation so we ...
Views: 2464 - 4 Words That Changed My Life - "I Want A Divorce" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2008 from Scott Thayer-4 Words That Changed My Life…”I Want A Divorce”- By: Scott Thayer The scoreboard reads the following… bottom of the 9th, bases loaded, 2 outs, 3 balls and two strikes. You are up to bat and the weight of the entire season is on your shoulders. You strike out, the season ...
Views: 1382 - Telling Kids about Divorce? Avoid These 6 Mistakes. - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from Rosalind SedaccaGetting psyched up to tell your children about your pending divorce -- or separation? Not sure what to say? When to say it? How to say it? What to expect after the conversation? What to do next? How do deal with your special circumstances? What therapists, mediators, attorneys, clergy and other ...
Views: 1363 - Divorce Recovery: Beware Expectations! - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileIn a nutshell, expectations are premeditated resentments and disappointments. They are self-sabotaging beliefs we hold that literally set us up to feel bad and keep us stuck in the pain of our divorce. They are in direct conflict with how the world actually works and are based on the phrase, ...
Views: 1125 - Out Of 1,000,000 Marriages Which Split Up, 999,900 Men Do Not Kill Their Wives/ex-wives - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2008 from Cara InocencioA common feminist/domestic violence establishment claim goes something like this--"a third of all women who are murdered are murdered by an intimate partner, whereas only 3% of men are murdered by an intimate partner." From this one would think that men are 11 times more likely to kill their ...
Views: 1005 - 4 Ways To Remain Sane While You Are In The Process Of Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2008 from Danielle TaylorWhen you’re going through a divorce, it can be very easy to feel as if you’re going to go crazy! With so many different things to worry about and all the stress, pain, anger, confusion and other emotions that come along with a divorce, it’s easy to see why you might be worried about your ...
Views: 884 - How To Deal With Your Spouse’s New Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2008 from Danielle TaylorThere are many different things in life that we aren’t usually prepared to deal with. One of them is divorce and the other comes after the divorce. When your ex becomes remarried, it can be a very difficult thing to deal with. Whether your issues are related to lingering possessiveness or the ...
Views: 1293 - Anger Management Tips For Married Couples - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2008 from Danielle TaylorEveryone gets angry at some time or another. The way you manage the anger you feel will make a difference in whether the situation gets resolved sooner rather than later. When you argue with your spouse, there are some compromises that must be made. It cannot just be about ‘I am right and you ...
Views: 2053 - Redesigning Your Life After Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2008 from Annie O'NeillIt is tough when a long-term marriage breaks up but harbouring feelings of bitterness does not serve you well. These negative feelings prolong the agony and hold you back from rebuilding your life. Instead, why not redesign your life? Remember that it will take time to ‘get over’ your partner ...
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