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The Most Common form of Abuse Experienced by Christian Women in MarriageIs Divorce Harder for Christians than for Everyone Else?What God and the Bible Really Say About Divorce- Getting Through Holidays After Divorce - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraHolidays have always been special, joyful times for everyone. That is, until things got rough and you ended up divorced. Celebrating it is always challenging, but holidays after divorce, are without doubt extra-challenging. Some people are quite lucky—not all their friends are in a relationship. ...
Views: 1060 - Suddenly Single: How to Reinvent Yourself After Heartbreak - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanWhether you just got out of a relationship, or have been struggling to heal your broken heart for some time now, figuring out how to move on can be confusing, fear-inducing, and downright uncomfortable. Not only do you have to let go of your past, but you’ve got to be willing to embrace the ...
Views: 9598(6 votes) - After the Breakup: The Do’s and Don'ts of Dealing with Your Ex - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanEveryone knows breaking up is hard to do. But staying in contact with your ex following a breakup? That's where things get really tricky. By remaining in each other's lives, you run the risk of a post-breakup rendezvous, holding onto feelings for your ex, and in general delaying your ability to ...
Views: 12362(12 votes) - After the Breakup: 4 Valuable Love Lessons - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanWhenever I’m at a dinner party and meet somebody new, the inevitable question comes up: What do you do? When I tell them I’m a heartbreak reinvention coach, it always leads to an interesting conversation. Usually, I get to hear the story of Their Big Breakup, and it’s always gut-wrenching, ...
Views: 5674(10 votes) - Can we be friends? The ABCs of Ex Etiquette - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanCan we be friends? After a breakup, this simple question can weigh heavy on your mind. As a heartbreak reinvention coach, I often hear this question from clients. And my answer is always the same — no. Why? Because as hard as it may be to accept, your relationship is over. This person is ...
Views: 2698(4 votes) - Heal Your Heart in Just 21 Days - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanConventional wisdom says it takes just 21 days to establish a new habit. So what if that new habit involves getting over a breakup? Is it possible to exorcise your ex, clear your head, and heal your heart in just 3 weeks? It is when you enroll in a crash course in breakup survival, immerse ...
Views: 3175(3 votes) - Reconnect with the Ex? What You Need to Know Before You Give it Another Go - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanAfter a relationship ends, it's all too easy to second-guess the decision to split up. And while reconsidering doesn't necessarily mean you should reunite, what happens if you and your ex DO decide you'd like to give the relationship another go? Maybe the time away from one another has shown you ...
Views: 9645(3 votes) - After the Breakup: The Do’s and Don'ts of Dealing with Your Ex - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanEveryone knows breaking up is hard to do. But staying in contact with your ex following a breakup? That's where things get really tricky. By remaining in each other's lives, you run the risk of a post-breakup rendezvous, holding onto feelings for your ex, and in general delaying your ability to ...
Views: 3485(3 votes) - Heartbreaker 101: How to Heal Your Heart and Be Glad He’s Gone! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanThere’s no denying it. Breaking up is oh-so hard to do, especially in today’s 24-hour techno-savvy world of Facebook, Twitter, and post-breakup booty calls arranged via sexting. Before you get down in the dumps about getting dumped (or even if you did the dumping), the following five tips will ...
Views: 3319(6 votes) - Freedom is the Reward for Letting Go - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileThe ability to move on after your divorce entails the letting go of the past with its emotional baggage and negative emotions. If you can accomplish this feat then the heavy burdens you have been carrying will lift and you will experience the liberation of freedom: the ability to move unimpeded ...
Views: 1434 - The Joys of Being a Single Parent After Divorce - by Submitted on May 31, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraRaising kids is hard; raising kids alone is near- impossible. It’s absolutely not easy to raise kids when you’re a single parent. However, although it seems awful, (a lot of times it is!) it offers quite a number of astonishing benefits that can make everyday life easier for everyone. According ...
Views: 4569(3 votes) - Joint Custody: Making it Work - by Submitted on May 26, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraParents who want to make joint custody work must do everything they can to put the best interests of the children first. Any divorced couple can attest that co-parenting after a divorce is hard—it requires a great deal of commitment and effort from both parents. While the real desire of a ...
Views: 1022 - Your Spouse's Infidelity Revealed: Getting Over The Shock and Getting To Recovery: Part 2Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Peggy FergusonMarital infidelity can be revealed in a whole host of different ways. Regardless of how the infidelity is revealed, the revelation of the infidelity creates a crisis within the marital relationship and within the faithful spouse. The shock of discovering the infidelity leads to compulsive ...
Views: 2735 - Your Spouse's Infidelity Revealed: Of Course You Are Angry and Scared: Part 1 - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Peggy FergusonInfidelity can be a component of sexual addiction or relational event(s). It is generally enshrouded in secrecy and dishonesty, with great amounts of time and effort spent to keep it hidden. Spouses find out about the infidelity or sexual addiction in a wide variety of ways. Several are ...
Views: 2401 - Ready for Divorce? - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Vikki Ziegler"Recession" may rhyme with "depression," but there are plenty of ways to avoid having the economy write the sonnet on your marriage and — more importantly, your happiness. By an almost two-to-one margin, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers is seeing a drop in the number of divorces ...
Views: 1367 - Divorce and Abuse: 3 Things to Avoid to Improve Your Success in Family Court - by Submitted on May 14, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.If the system is broken, how can you make it work for you? This is a question that puzzles battered women in family court. They show up expecting the court to protect the rights of their children and themselves, only to discover that it becomes an uphill battle to simply defend against losing ...
Views: 1107 - Crazy Making: 3 Signs Your Mental Health Status is "On the Line" in Your Domestic Violence Divorce - by Submitted on May 05, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Domestic violence is hard enough to endure in and of itself. Then there’s the “getting out” part that is in some cases harder. The saddest, though, is the price the victim sometimes pays for her* peace, safety and freedom. For some survivors this is her sanity, for others it may be her contact ...
Views: 1151 - Divorce: Acceptance of Your New Reality - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileWhat do you think of people who are detached from reality? People that are seemingly living in a world of their own making? It’s unnerving to say the least as well as truly sad. Yet for those of us attempting to recover from a divorce, our inability to fully accept our new reality is not too ...
Views: 2269 - Managing Your Finances During Divorce - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2009 from Samantha GregoryDivorce may be considered one of the most stressful time for any family going through it. It can be stressful emotionally and financially. Objectively, any divorce can be settled with less problems and stress. However, due to the height of emotions, both spouses can be unreasonable and ...
Views: 1868 - Divorce Stress? Navigating New Household Routines - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Stress-Relief Author/Expert Susie MantellQ: Dear Susie: I have always been the “go-to” person who can always the job done. Lately I feel off-balance. In our marriage we shared responsibilities for the household, kids, and one another. Over time, as it became clear that we had different goals, our marriage could not survive. Though I ...
Views: 1376(1 vote) - Divorce Stress? Asking for Help During/Following Separation - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Stress-Relief Author/Expert Susie MantellOverworked? Overwhelmed? Divorce can be one of life's most stressful experiences and indeed, starting out again on one's own is about a new kind of Independence. But it’s also a time when friends and loved ones can be a wonderful support network. And even as we are feeling a little lost or ...
Views: 2079 - Divorce Stress? Coping with Loneliness on the Roller-Coaster - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Stress-Relief Author/Expert Susie MantellQ: I’m a little embarrassed to admit this as an accomplished 47-year-old professional, but even though I am relieved to be finalizing our divorce, I think some of the stress I’m experiencing since our separation is actually ...loneliness. How can I get past that? A: Every journey through ...
Views: 2141 - Co-Parenting with Your Ex - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Angie BlackwellDo you still define your ex in terms of your failed relationship, or do you relate to him/her strictly as "the other parent"? How you frame your perception of your former spouse has a tremendous impact on your co-parenting relationship. The two of you may not be friends, but you’ll always be ...
Views: 2510(4 votes) - Marriage, Divorce, and the Economy: No Excuse for Irresponsible Parenting - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Rosalind SedaccaIs our down-turned economy having an effect on divorce in the United States and other nations around the world? While it’s too early for statistical evidence, reports from marriage counselors and divorce attorneys around the globe are in agreement. They’re finding many couples who were ready to ...
Views: 1846(3 votes) - Growing Through Divorce - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2009 from Darlene LancerDivorce is a process of separation and transformation - a process that long precedes the dissolution decree. It is important to understand its stages, the cognitive, emotional, physical, legal and spiritual, which, if worked through, can substantially lessen the painful aftermath. ...
Views: 4004(1 vote) - The Five Obstacles to Agreement - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Ed ShermanThis article and my articles "Overcoming Obstacles to Agreement" and "Negotiating Agreement" are about how to deal with disagreement—from simple difference of opinion to active upset and anger—and some specific steps that will help you reach an agreement. As you will see, the things you can do ...
Views: 1063 - 5 Things You Must Know Before Saying 'I Want a Divorce' - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Ed ShermanThere are ways to go about breaking up that will give you the best chance for a smoother trip through one of life's most difficult passages. This is an exceedingly sensitive time when it doesn't take much to stir things up. Fortunately, because we go through this with other couples a few ...
Views: 1248(1 vote) - The Good Divorce: A Model to Follow - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Ed ShermanExperience and academic studies have helped us identify the basic elements of a successful divorce. “Successful” means completing the process of emotional separation, reaching a new center of balance as a single person, maintaining the welfare of your children, and establishing healthy attitudes ...
Views: 975 - How to Get Divorce Help Without Paying High Attorney Fees - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Ed ShermanSynopsis: It's okay to use an attorney, but most people should never retain one in their divorce case unless there is a clear reason for doing so. You can save a lot of time, trouble and money if you don't retain an attorney. Ignorance is the most common trap in the business of divorce, so ...
Views: 1280 - Divorce—How to Beat the System - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Ed ShermanOf course you want to get your Judgment—that's the goal of your legal divorce—but you don't want to go through the adversarial legal system to get it. You don't want to get all tangled up with lawyers and courts, because the system is designed to work against you. Instead of going through the ...
Views: 1148 - Divorce--How the Legal System Works Against You - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Ed ShermanIf there were no legal system, no lawyers and no courts, divorce would still be difficult and it would still take time to go through it. Divorce is at least a major crossroad in your life, maybe even a full-blown life crisis. So, here you are, you and your spouse, going through your personal ...
Views: 1159 - Anatomy of a Divorce: How it <I>Really</I> Works - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Ed ShermanThe legal divorce vs. your real divorce The legal divorce has very limited concerns: to get a judgment of divorce, you have to make arrangements for your property, your children, and support (if any). If you have a high degree of conflict, it is also about keeping the peace and protecting you, ...
Views: 874 - Power Struggles Are For the Birds! - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Azriel WinnettIf you leave a wet towel on the bathroom floor, it could be somewhat irritating to the next person who uses the bathroom after you, but would anyone start a major fight over it? Most definitely, according to research funded by the US government's health research arm and conducted in the ...
Views: 1493 - 5 Ways to Get More from Your Divorce Attorney - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Ed ShermanYou can have a better divorce and get more from your attorney by following this advice from award-winning author and divorce expert attorney Ed Sherman, founder of Nolo Press. Start with the right information. Before your first visit with your attorney, find out about the rules and procedures ...
Views: 1313 - Cure for the Divorce Blues - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Ed Sherman8 Things You Can Do to Make Any Divorce Better Divorce is enough to give anyone the blues, but based on my experience with success in over 45,000 cases I can give you the following eight tips that will definitely help make things go more smoothly and easily. Not only that, if you follow my ...
Views: 1470 - How to Bounce Back from Divorce - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Ed ShermanDivorce may be one of the most difficult transitions in your life. You can expect to go through alternating cycles of shock and denial, anger and depression, and understanding and acceptance. Eventually acceptance becomes stronger and lasts longer. Here are 10 things you can do to help bounce ...
Views: 2303 - Advantages to Doing Your Own Divorce - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Ed ShermanThere are many advantages to doing your own divorce. Three significant ones are: you'll get a better divorce, you'll save a lot of money, and you'll be able to keep things simple. Getting a good divorce Studies show that active participation in your divorce is the single most important factor ...
Views: 1346 - Recently Divorced Finances - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Cindy MorusApril 8, 2008 This is part of our Financial Literacy Month Question and Answer series Question: What advice can you give recently divorced women on how to manage their finances now that they are facing life as a single mom on a limited income? What should be their first priority? Lisa A. ...
Views: 1445 - Divorce & Parenting: Bashing Your Ex is Bad News for Your Children - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Rosalind SedaccaWe all do it from time to time. Make a sarcastic comment about our ex, criticize something they did or didn’t do, gesture or grimace our faces when referring to our former spouse. When we do it in front of, near or within hearing distance of our children, we set ourselves up for a hornet’s nest ...
Views: 3522(2 votes) - Is it Time to Get a Divorce? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraMaking a decision whether to get a divorce or not is an awfully difficult choice that a person must make in his/her lifetime. One has to think about a lot of important factors, like children, the number of years you’ve been together, the major differences, and the possible effects of divorce on ...
Views: 1853 - Spousal Emotional Abuse During Divorce--What You Can Do - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Ed ShermanIs your spouse violent, abusive, harassing? In cases of harassment or violence there are legal remedies and there are practical things you can and must do for yourself. This is not about reaching agreement--these are strategies for self-defense. Mental and physical abuse must never be tolerated. ...
Views: 1650 - Divorce: Getting Your Children Through a Tough Time - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Ed ShermanGoing through a divorce is no fun for anyone, but children are especially vulnerable. Divorce expert Ed Sherman reveals in his book "Make Any Divorce Better" the following 10 things you can do to make a big difference in how well your children survive. 1. Tell children the truth in simple ...
Views: 973 - Divorce--Avoid These Common Traps - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Ed ShermanIs there a way to make your divorce easier and cheaper? Absolutely! The right information can put you in control and make your divorce smoother, faster, cheaper, less aggravating and less painful. Here are four traps and how to avoid them when going through a divorce. IGNORANCE is the most ...
Views: 1085 - 5 Facts Lawyers Don't Want You to Know About Divorce - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Ed ShermanDivorce is one of the most difficult things you may ever go through, but after more than 30 years of helping millions of people get better divorces, I can tell you with certainty that there are several things you can do to reduce the pain, conflict and cost. Unfortunately, the legal system, and ...
Views: 1290 - Dating After Divorce: How Can You Tell That You're Ready? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsIn many cases, immediately after going through a divorce, a person is not too interested in getting into a relationship with someone new. Hurt feelings, sadness, grief, even anger are quite common. These emotions need to be dealt with and moved through before the person can truly open up to ...
Views: 1900 - 4 Words That Changed My LIfe - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2009 from Scott ThayerThe scoreboard reads the following… bottom of the 9th, bases loaded, 2 outs, 3 balls and two strikes. You are up to bat and the weight of the entire season is on your shoulders. You strike out, the season is over, you get a hit and the run scores from 3rd sending your team to the World Series. ...
Views: 1165 - Give Yourself a Fabulous Divorce Party - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraA divorce is a life-changing event that is usually filled with pain and sorrow. Although a person going through a divorce will have to undergo the process of grieving, there always comes a time when one would feel a great deal of relief knowing that he/she came out of the bad situation in one ...
Views: 996 - Why Fathers Matter to Their Kids - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2009 from Judy WrightThe family is the foundation of life. It is the basic organization and where family members learn what is expected of them in life and their part in the scheme of things. It is in the family setting that children understand their external environment. Young children and teenagers figure out ...
Views: 1582(3 votes) - Separating from an Abusive Partner - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2009 from Gary DirenfeldIf you are in an abusive relationship and are seeking to separate or divorce from your partner, your safety may be at risk and your ability to achieve a reasonable separation agreement may be compromised. Abusive relationships are characterized by one party seeking power and control over the ...
Views: 1359 - What I Need from Mom and Dad, Now That They're No Longer Together - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Lucinda GreyI need both of you to stay involved in my life. Please write or text me, make phone calls and ask me lots of questions. When I don’t hear from either of you, I feel as if I’m not important and that neither of you really love me. Please stop arguing and work hard to be friends. When you argue ...
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