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The Most Common form of Abuse Experienced by Christian Women in MarriageIs Divorce Harder for Christians than for Everyone Else?What God and the Bible Really Say About Divorce- COMING TO THE TABLE - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Sadie SheafeOften couples carry baggage from relationship-to-relationship. They do not realize that their new relationships fail as a result of the previous baggage. In any new relationship there is always one constant…themselves! Often, problems first arise with the couple's intimacy. These can have ...
Views: 1815(2 votes) - Thinking of Leaving? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Adele CornishI regularly receive emails from men and women worldwide who are seeking advice on their blended family. These come to me here in New Zealand, a small but famous country southeast of Australia. Sometimes these emails are from individuals saying they want to leave their relationship. Here I ...
Views: 1939(6 votes) - Survive A Break Up The Easy Way - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2009 from Tim RyanThe majority of people at some point in their lives will go through the ugly experience of a break up. This is always a difficult time and the stress can cause physical symptoms such as nausea, sleeplessness, over or under eating to name but a few. So how can you get yourself from feeling all ...
Views: 1310(2 votes) - Dealing With Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2009 from Pat BurnsDivorce is traumatic. Having been through it personally, I can speak to the fact that even if you are ending a terrible marriage, there is still trauma and grieving. You may not be grieving the reality of your marriage, but rather grieving the death of all your hopes and dreams..what you hoped ...
Views: 2430(2 votes) - Broken Heart Advice: Coping Tips When You Just Can't Let Go - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsBreaking up or getting a divorce might have been your idea. It could be that you, your partner or both of you were caught in destructive behaviors that could only be stopped by ending your relationship. Maybe there was abuse of some kind involved. Or perhaps the troubles in your ...
Views: 5650(7 votes) - What's The Purpose? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2009 from Mike PrudhumeWhat's The Purpose? Maybe you ask yourself this! At least I did, until I was sitting there wondering, can there be anything I can do to change the way my relationship is going? I am going to share a little about my own current situation and what I am doing to make my relationship work. Maybe ...
Views: 1070(3 votes) - How to forget your old relationship - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2010 from M.Farouk RadwanHow to forget someone you love Long ago when it used to take me more than three days to forget about someone I used to do the same wrong practices people do when they get into a relationship but as I read a lot about psychology I discovered that forgetting someone you love would take a maximum ...
Views: 3674(1 vote) - Using the Married Filing Joint Status during Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2009 from David KaneAn area that needs to be examined while you are going through the divorce process is determining the tax filing status that will be the most advantageous to you. During the pre-divorce year(s), you have a couple of options that can increase or reduce your tax liability depending on which filing ...
Views: 1851 - How To Stop A Divorce - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2009 from Sean CauzeeYou may see that a divorce is right around the corner. You are thinking of learning how to stop a divorce before it happens. You may think that your alone in this type situation; but your not,there are many. You have tried everything you know how to do to keep the relationship from falling ...
Views: 955 - Is it possible to stop hating your ex so you can co-parent in peace? YES! - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Rene Ashton1. Do you want to change? You need to answer this honestly. Do you want to change? If you’re thinking, “Of course I want him/her to change!” That is not what I asked. You cannot change your ex. Try as you may. Manipulate as you may. Punish, kick, scream, whatever your tactic, it ...
Views: 5766(1 vote) - HOW TO GET OVER YOUR PAST (AND PAST YOUR HURT) By Mort Fertel - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2009 from Mort FertelHas your spouse neglected you? Rejected you? Emotionally abused you? Are you struggling to get over the pain of an affair? If you're having marriage problems, the chances are good that you need to put some hurt behind you. It's one of the most common questions I get. "Mort, I want to ...
Views: 3218(3 votes) - Does Divorce Have To Have A Negative Impact On Our Kids? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley StileGoing through a divorce where there are children involved is an anxiety-provoking scenario with much worry on the past of the parents as to what negative effects the divorce will have on their kids. I firmly believe that it isn’t so much the divorce but how you choose to handle the divorce that ...
Views: 1475 - Finding the Truth in the Unexpected Happening - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from ray borjaLet's face it, throughout our lives we do the best we can do based on what we feel we are capable of. We do our best to get things right. We ate our vegetables, studied hard in school, learn to love, got married to our sweetheart, went out and got a good jobs. We then raised smart kids, and ...
Views: 1621(3 votes) - Are You Ready for Love Again - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Meghan GehanAfter a divorce or break-up of a significant relationship, you may wonder when the time is right to “get back in the game” of dating. Begin too soon and you will destine yourself to repeat the mistakes of your past. Wait too long and you may find yourself settling for the familiar (but ...
Views: 4157 - Dating after Divorce: The first steps - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Annie O'NeillThe first and most important thing to do before you start dating again is to learn to love yourself. If you are not happy with yourself you cannot expect someone else to be able to make you happy. Happiness comes from within. If you do not love yourself, ask yourself why and make some changes ...
Views: 1765(3 votes) - Life after Divorce: Will I Ever Love Again? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Annie O'NeillThe short answer to this question is probably yes. However you have to adjust to your situation and work your way through the emotions of splitting up before you will be able to move on. The end of a relationship is always tough whether or not it was your decision to end it. You may need ...
Views: 2434(2 votes) - Alimony versus Child Support Payments - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from David KaneWhat is Alimony? Alimony is also often called spousal support. Alimony payments are used to provide the spouse that is making a lower-income with funds to cover expenses that are not provided for through child support or through the division of property. Many factors come into play when ...
Views: 1718(1 vote) - Life’s been giving us wake up calls - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from ray borjaSo here we are caught up in the midst of an upheaval in our lives. Our marriage is dissolving. Our house is no longer our home. The light of our relationship that once was a beacon in our lives leading us into the safe shores of contentment, has burnt out. And we are left alone, arms crossed ...
Views: 1296(4 votes) - Functional and Dysfunctional Families - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Carl H. Shubs, Ph.D.Let us consider the functional family as one that works. It works for everyone in the family, not just some of the people. It is not perfect, but it is good enough. It is good enough so that the people in the family feel loved, valued, recognized, and appreciated. In the functional, good enough ...
Views: 8139(3 votes) - Dating After Divorce – What to Do - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Dr. Dar HawksIt is daunting to consider dating after experiencing divorce, especially after spending ten or more years with someone. By implementing the tips in this article, I am certain you will become more comfortable and even enjoy dating because dating is a process and can be structured to fit your ...
Views: 2642(3 votes) - Couples Splitting Up Should Try Mediation First - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Erin JohnstonMost couples separating or divorcing find that they are in a period of high conflict. Some have experienced constant arguments and fights for months or years; some are reacting to a sudden change of heart. Regardless of the circumstances and presentation conflict between the between the ...
Views: 1379(2 votes) - Recipe for Healing a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Katy AllgeyerYou’ve heard the expression “love sickness”? The term goes back a long way and many greater writers than I (Shakespeare's Sonnet 147 comes to mind) have covered the symptoms brilliantly. It hits most of us at some stage of life--we think we're in love and we've found "the one", the relationship ...
Views: 4040(3 votes) - Divorce Preparation – Assessing Your Financial Condition - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from David KaneOne of the situations that we see in many family situations is where one spouse is the primary caretaker of the financial obligations for the family. That person may have been in charge of paying the bills, setting up the investment accounts, making investment decisions (stocks, bonds, real ...
Views: 1351(2 votes) - How To Get Relationship Counseling - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Sara ApplesEveryone of us at one point or another may need relationship counseling. Some people think that relationship counseling is for couples, while in reality all couples-to-be, family members, employees with their employers, and clients with their professionals can make use of it during troubling ...
Views: 950(2 votes) - Splitting Individual Retirement Accounts During Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2009 from David KaneAn area where many individuals get into tax trouble is when splitting their Qualified Retirement Accounts (QRPs) and Individual Retirement Accounts (IRAs). Once you have come to the revelation that your assets must be split you may be tempted to start the process by making pre-divorce transfers ...
Views: 1990(3 votes) - Pitfalls Parents Should Avoid When Telling Kids About Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Rosalind SedaccaFacing divorce and stymied about how to tell your kids? Wondering how it will affect them? Worried about hurting them with the news? When’s the best time to talk? What to say and not say? What they will say? Not sure just what to confide? Well you’re not alone. There’s no doubt this might ...
Views: 1569(4 votes) - Moving Beyond Mind Games - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I am single, and ever since college I have been in love with a girl whom I have tried to be with through the four years since graduating. Even though she married someone else, she would say she still wants to be with me and be intimate with me. I believe her, but have thought ...
Views: 897(1 vote) - But I Just Need Some Closure! - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Patzia GonzalezThe grief you cry out from draws you toward union. Your pure sadness that wants help is the secret cup. Rumi One of the hardest things for someone going through a breakup is fighting those relentless urges to contact the ex. "I just need some closure. I need some answers; I ...
Views: 1581(1 vote) - Breakups and Divorce from the Perspective of Family Constellations - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Patzia GonzalezHappiness has a very short attention span, it forgets what came before. Unhappiness, on the other hand, has a very long memory. Bert Hellinger “Sexual relations create a deep and binding bond. When a man takes a woman as his woman; and a woman takes a man as her man, sexual ...
Views: 2652(1 vote) - Pain from a Break-up Resolved with EFT - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Patzia GonzalezAs part of her ongoing "Life Makeover" psychotherapy process, Mia brought up her severe neck and shoulder pain in a session. I asked several questions regarding the pain, including when it had started. She said ten years ago. I then asked: What had happened ten years ago? Mia's eyes immediately ...
Views: 2472(3 votes) - Stepfamilies: The Difficult Ex and the Issue of Badmouthing - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Joan SarinThe “difficult ex” - I think every divorced couple goes through at least a stage of complaining about this. I hear it in nearly every couple I work with, and I had my share of this pain too. It seemed to me for years that my husband’s ex-wife looked right through me as if I didn’t exist, and ...
Views: 2329(1 vote) - Why Leave it Too Late to Save Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Nicole BaikieThis is a question I have given a great deal of thought too. Why is it that the minute someone hears a strange noise coming from their engine they immediately take their car into the mechanics for an expert opinion but their relationships can run itself into the ground for years and they will ...
Views: 1848(2 votes) - Are You a Survivor or Enhancer? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Meghan GehanWhen Theresa’s husband of 15 years announced he wanted a divorce, she was devastated. She says, “I couldn’t believe Alex threw our life away. But I’m strong- I got through it. I’ve moved on and put it behind me.” But has she? Six years later, Theresa and Alex “parallel-parent”, each doing as ...
Views: 1613(1 vote) - But I Didn't Want to Hurt You - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Meghan GehanI often hear this from clients: “I didn’t tell my wife I was unhappy because I didn’t want to hurt her.” “I haven’t told my children I’m sick because I don’t want them to worry.” “I can’t tell my boyfriend I want to see other people because he’d be upset.” In other words: “I can’t tell ...
Views: 1588(1 vote) - “I Deeply Want to Find a Love that Will Last. But I'm still Hurt from a Cheating Ex? ” - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Nanette GeigerNanette Geiger, Relationship Expert , writes... ... Donna from North Carolina wrote me to ask me that question As a Law of Attraction relationship coach, here's the relationship advice I have for her. Donna, I'm so glad that you know that you definitely need to let go of the past before you ...
Views: 1112(1 vote) - ***The Impact of Divorce on Families - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanAs a licensed mental health professional, I work with many individuals, couples, and families who are affected by divorce. I see the devastating effects that breakups can have and am dedicated to helping people develop the skills to cope with experiences like divorce. Major Disruptions The ...
Views: 1389(2 votes) - Marriage and Relationships: 6 Tips to Help the 90% of Couples That are Incompatible - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Scott & Stephen PetulloMany generations ago, marriage was about survival, property, money, securing family dynasties, and pragmatism, not love or sexual intimacy. Marriage remained popular largely because of the stigma attached to sex outside of marriage. Now “love” is the main reason given for tying the knot, but ...
Views: 1614(5 votes) - Consider Separation as a Part of Your Marriage Counseling Process - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamCan a marital separation save a marriage? Usually my opinion is: it depends… Whether the separation will help or hurt the marriage is unknown, unless you know the couple, have listened to them and assessed their mental state. Needless to say, a professional marriage counselor should ...
Views: 8224(3 votes) - How Your Children’s Divorce Affects You - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from rita morganIt started out to be a nice visit from my son. We spent a great deal of time talking about our jobs and how our family members were coping with every day trials and tribulations. When we moved on to his family, he dropped the bombshell. I felt as though I had been kicked in the stomach when the ...
Views: 1458(1 vote) - Attempting a Better Relationship After Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.Better relationship? The Chicago Cubs? You may be asking what the two have in common. Back in 2003, it was extremely disappointing watching the 7th game between the Chicago Cubs and the Florida Marlins. The game started out great and somewhere along the way, it headed south. There were many Cub ...
Views: 1654 - From a Bird's Perspective - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Chrissy KohlerWho’s not scared of love? I mean whether you are scared that it will or will not find you, that it will or will not last, that it can or cannot exist – in some theory we are each scared of love. Scared of getting our hearts broken – scared of taking a risk – scared of putting ourselves out ...
Views: 1504(6 votes) - MARRIAGE: This is amazing... did you know this?! - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2009 from Holly BoydI'm sure most of us are aware that the stats for marriages ending in divorce are at least one out of two in America! These stats are the same whether you go to church or not! What? How can the divorce rate be the same for Christians?! Then... I heard Dr. Phil confirm what I used to wonder ...
Views: 2711(2 votes) - Pregnancy, Childbirth & Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Michael PaulYou've just given birth to the most precious gift imaginable. This gift will portend the future of the world. Certainly you hope this precious gift child will have a life filled with excitement, wonder, and happiness. But what if the excitement and wonder bring this child a world of ...
Views: 922(3 votes) - Life After Divorce: Living with Change and Uncertainty - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Shelley Stile“If we can recognize that change and uncertainty are basic principles, we can greet the future and the transformation we are undergoing with the understanding that we do not know enough to be pessimistic.” -- Hazel Henderson (Economist, writer and syndicated columnist) Fear of our future ...
Views: 3102(1 vote) - *** How Positives Changes for the New Year Can Help You Rebuild After Divorce - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Dr. Tolu AdeleyeWhy do we make New Year’s resolutions? Because we desire change for the better. But, for those dealing with divorce, resolutions may offer much-needed hope for the future. Resolutions are meant to give us a boost and promote positive change. However, if you think back to your past ...
Views: 2981(2 votes) - *** Divorce Support While Your Children Are in School - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Dr. Tolu AdeleyeA number of things can shake up a person's life, but divorce is definitely one of the biggest. Whether you initiated it or not, dealing with the aftermath takes a great deal of emotional fortitude. Most people start to identify themselves in conjunction with their spouse, especially after ...
Views: 2407(3 votes) - How to Divorce-Proof Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Martin Phillips-HingI am writing this article while flying over some spectacular snow-covered mountains in Northern British Columbia, Canada. In fact, I just read that these mountains have been featured in Hollywood movies as substitutes for the Himalayas.The view is of large peaks and deep valleys. At the bottom ...
Views: 1255(2 votes) - Early Signs a New Relationship Won't Last - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Gregory SmithThe following article originally appeared on www.midlifebachelor.com on June 14, 2009 ... Choosing to invest in a new relationship directly affects your own level of personal happiness especially in the near-term ... and so it is extremely important to keep your eyes and ears open, and be ...
Views: 7325(5 votes) - You Can Only Be Replaced If You Let It Happen! - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2021 from Dr Rick GoodmanIt was 1994 when the papers were delivered to my apartment; I had just joined the ranks of 50% of the population when my wife filed for divorce. As a single father my biggest fear was that someone would come in to my ex-wife's life and that person would eventually replace me as the figurehead ...
Views: 1447 - How to Choose a Couple Therapist - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Mark KauppWith couples divorcing and splitting up at the highest rate modern time, quality couple therapy is a must. And, finding a qualified couple therapist is essential. Only 14% of therapists in the United States that state they do couple therapy have actually had training in how to do couple therapy. ...
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