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- Free Speech: Are People With Emotional Problems Being Used To Control Others? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt seems that there is a not a moment that goes by when someone isn’t offended about something. In fact, it could be said that this has become a competition for some people, and the person who is the most offended is the one who wins the prize. This might not be completely accurate though, ...
Views: 1225 - Relationships: Are The People Who Try To Do Everything By Themselves Developmentally Stunted? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who realise that they can’t do everything by themselves, there are others who have a different outlook. When someone can relate to the former, they are going to accept the fact that they are an interdependent human being. Reaching Out As a result of this, there ...
Views: 1203 - Celebrities: Do Certain Celebrities Normalise Attention Seeking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a number of ways for someone to become famous, and this has opened the door to people from all walks of life. Said another way, it is no longer necessary for someone to have real talent; they can end up in the public eye for other reasons. Reality TV What has ...
Views: 1195 - Boundaries: Does Someone Lack Boundaries When They Don't Let Other People Speak? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to have a conversion with a friend or a family member, for instance, there will be what they say and what the other person says. What this comes down to is that one will talk and they will listen. Two Parts This doesn’t mean that they will speak for a certain amount of time ...
Views: 1107 - Social Justice Warriors: Are Social Justice Warriors Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one stays up to date with what is taking place in the world and/or if they use social media, they may be familiar with the term ‘social justice warrior’ or SJW for short. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is someone who is trying to make a difference in the ...
Views: 1144 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Rescue Another Person? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a friend who was going through a challenging time, they might look into what they could do to assist them. This could be a time when they will listen to what is going on for them and offer their advice. Then again, this might not be enough, and they could offer to take them out ...
Views: 940 - Emotional Expression: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Expressing How They Feel? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to explain something to another person, there are a number of ways for them to do so. It could be said that the most important thing will be for them to use words, as this will allow them to be understood. In addition to this, they can use their body and their emotions. ...
Views: 1115 - Porn: Does Porn Have A Negative Effect On Men And Women? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to relieve themselves sexually in the past, they may have had a magazine or a paper to look through. This probably would have meant that at least one person would have seen them buy it. There is the chance that this was not something that bothered them, or it might not ...
Views: 1483 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To See A Psychic/Tarot Reader? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is going through a challenging time or if they are just confused about something, they might end up asking a friend/family member for advice. This could be because they see them as someone who can help. A Special Bond At the same time, it might come down to the fact that they ...
Views: 1153 - True-Self: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Express Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the term ‘true-self’ is mentioned, it can sound a bit air fairy, and it could be said that this it to be expected. One thing that can come to mind for someone is that human beings don’t have a self that is fixed. It Doesn’t Exist It is then not as of it is going to be possible for ...
Views: 1120 - Migrant Crisis: Is It Easier For Celebrities To Show Compassion To The Migrants? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one pays attention to the mainstream media and/or uses social media, they may have heard about a number of celebrities who have shared their views on the migrant crisis. In fact, they may have heard a number of them talk about this on more than one occasion. Connected What this shows ...
Views: 1096 - Free Speech: Is The Western World Walking On Eggshells? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one lives in America and they are against Donald Trump, or if they live in the United Kingdom and they were against Brexit, it could be said that there would be no reason for them to keep their views to themselves. They could share their views with their friends and online, and there is a ...
Views: 1119 - Child Abuse: Do Some People Go From Being Abused By Their Parents To Abusing Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that not everyone is brought up by parents who treat them in the right way, and this can have a big effect on how they will experience life as an adult. For some people, this would have been a time when they were abused on a regular basis, for others, this would have taken place ...
Views: 1422 - Relationships: Can Being Tolerant Cause Someone To Be Abused? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where they want to start a new relationship, they could have a clear idea about what they are looking for. In fact, they could say that they want someone who is perfect. Short-Lived One might believe that it is only a matter of time before they will meet someone ...
Views: 1211 - Offended: Can Being Sensitive Set Someone Up To Be Offended By Just About Everything? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there are people who are rarely, if ever, offended, and on the other, there are people who are offended by just about everything. This is something that is going to have a big effect on how they experience life. One Side When one can relate to the former, it is going to ...
Views: 982 - Discrimination: Is Discrimination Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear about someone who is being treated unfairly, they could end up feeling angry about what is taking place. This could relate to someone who, because of their gender, was turned down from a job. Alternatively, this person may have read the job description and found out that ...
Views: 1209 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them To Close Their Heart? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that while there are people who are in touch with how they feel, there are those who are not. As a result of this, there is going to be a big difference when it comes to how they experience life. A Whole Human Being When one is in touch with how they feel, it is likely ...
Views: 975 - Critical Thinking: Is It Normal For Children To Have Gender Identity Issues? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about children who have gender identity issues. It doesn’t end there though, as a lot of exposure has been given to adults who are also going through the same experience. Confusion If one has heard a lot about this, they could wonder what is going on, ...
Views: 1246 - Emotionally Sensitive Body: Do Some People Have An Emotionally Sensitive Body? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they spend a lot of time feeling drained, they might end up looking into what they eat. Along with this, they could take the time to see if they are getting enough sleep. The Logical Approach One way of looking at this would be to say that this is the kind ...
Views: 1203 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Feel Inadequate Around People Who Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around the people in their life, they may find that they generally feel good about themselves. And through feeling this way when they are around them, it is likely to mean that they will feel good when their time together comes to an end. Another Outcome Yet, if this ...
Views: 1022 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People See The President/Prime Minister As Some Kind Of Parental Figure? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperBefore an election takes place, each candidate will do what they can to get people to vote for them; with their intention being to be the next president/prime minster. This is not to say that every candidate has a chance though, as it is not going to be this black and white. The ...
Views: 1095 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Feel Worthless When They Lose Their Looks? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what the modern day world values, beauty and youth may come to mind. And even if other things cross their mind, it will be only too clear how important these things are. One Step Further While it has been this way for quite some time, it could be said that this ...
Views: 1092 - Relationships: What Can Happen When Someone No Longer Feels Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to take a step, so to speak, they may find is that there have been moments in their life when they haven’t feel too good about themselves. This is then going to be the exception as opposed to the rule. Now and Then When they do feel this way, it could show that they have done ...
Views: 1129 - Social Media: Is A Tragedy Another Way For Someone To Gain Attention Online? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something bad takes place in today’s world, it might not be long until millions of people know about it. This is because something can be shared on a social media site, and within a matter of minutes, it can be seen by people from all over the world. In the past, people would have had ...
Views: 978 - Relationships: Are Friends The People We Have In Our Life Who Try To Change Us? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about the people in their life who they are close to, they may find that these people accept them as they are. Consequently, this will allow them to feel at ease when they are in their presence. True-Self Through being this way, one will be able to express who they ...
Views: 1325 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Believe That Their Partner Will Leave Them? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one starts a new relationship, there is no guarantee that it will last for a certain amount of time. It could last for a few months, a few years, or it could come to an end when their life comes to an end. Two Sides Now, this is not to say that this is something that is completely ...
Views: 1110 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some White People Hate Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one pays attention to the mainstream media and/or spends time on different social media sites, they may have come across at least one white person who blames their entire race for all the problems in the world. It is then going to be clear that they are ashamed of the colour of their own skin ...
Views: 1470 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Rejection Cause Some Men To Please Women? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how men behave around women, there are two types of behaviour that are often spoken about. On one side, there is the man who acts as though he doesn’t care and, on the other, there is the man who cares too much. Two Sides There is then a spectrum, and a man can be on ...
Views: 2268 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Always Talk About How Good Other Children Are? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a parent can offer encouragement and acknowledge what their child is good at, they can also behave in a different manner. Instead, they can criticise their child for what they can’t do and overlook what they can do. A Negative Effect The child is then going to be brought up by ...
Views: 1266 - Boundaries: Can Someone Let Other People Walk Over Them When They Hate Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that will make it easier for one to live a fulfilling life, and having boundaries is one them. It will then be possible for one to be able to stand up for themselves and to be around the right people. Protection One is then not just going to be able to spend ...
Views: 1172 - Relationships: It Is A Good Idea To Put Someone On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can see other people as being on the same level as they are, they can also see them as being on another level. When this happens it is not going to matter that someone is simply another human being, as they will be seen as being far more. Two Levels One is then going to be on ...
Views: 1103 - Social Media: Does Social Media Allow People To Create Their Own Shrine? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go into a populated area in the west and to ask a number of people if they are religious, they may find that a common theme begins to appear. This could be a time when they will that see that not many people believe in or worship a god or a number of gods. A Strange Reaction ...
Views: 1120 - Child Abuse: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone Who Was Abused As A Child From Getting The Help That They Need? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn an ideal world, perhaps every child would receive the level of care that the need in order to develop into a well adjusted adult. Still, this is not to say that genetics don’t play a part; what it comes down to is that is that it will be a lot easier for someone to develop in the right way ...
Views: 1420 - Victim Mentality: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimised By Others? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that that are moments in everyone’s life when things don’t go to plan, or something ‘bad’ happens. This is just part of life and not something that can be changed. A Different Reality However, while there will be plenty of people who will be able to relate to this, ...
Views: 1050 - Online Dating: Should Someone Take It Personally If Another Person Goes Silent On Them? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they wanted to start a new relationship, they might decide to join an online dating side. This could be seen as the best way for them to find someone to be with. No Shame In the past, online dating was frowned upon, and this was partly because it was ...
Views: 1254 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Walk On Egg Shells When They Are Around Others? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are on alert from time to time, there are others who are more or less always on alert. And even though these people will have a radically different experience on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they won’t come into contact with each other. A Passer-By So ...
Views: 1098 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do When Another Person Projects Their Issues Onto Them? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to walk through a puddle, and another person was standing close by, there is the chance that both of them would get splashed. So even though one won’t have gone out of their way to do this, it would have happened anyway. Part of Life In the same way, what is taking place within ...
Views: 1151 - Relationship: Why Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is not currently in a relationship, they may find that this doesn’t have effect on how they see themselves. It is then still going to be possible for them to feel good about who they are, and this is going to make it easier for them to function. A Whole Human Being Ultimately, one ...
Views: 1090 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Always Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side of the spectrum there is total responsibility and, on the other, there is total irresponsibility. And while it might sound as though the ideal will be for one to be on the left side of it, it is not going to be this black and white. Pros and Cons This is then no different to ...
Views: 1361 - True-Self: Can Someone Lose Themselves When They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are two worlds: the inner world and the outer world. When it comes to the inner world, it is going to relate to what is taking place within and, when it relates to the outer world, it will relate to what is going on without. A Fine Balance Even so, this doesn’t ...
Views: 1063 - Self-Worth: How Can People Who Are Attractive Act Confident Even Though They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their inherent value, it is going to be a lot easier for them to act in a confident manner. For one thing, they are not going to feel as though they have anything to hide. The Truth Deep down, they will realise that who they are is enough, and this will allow ...
Views: 992 - Relationships: Does Someone Have A False Sense Of Importance When They Always Expect Others To Change? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where someone else’s behaviour was having a negative effect on them, they could look into why this is taking place. This can then be a time when one will reflect on what is going on externally and what is going on internally. Two Parts What this can show is that ...
Views: 935 - Boundaries: Does The Fear Of Rejection Stop Some People From Saying No? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one can stand their ground, it is going to stop them from having the need to please others. One will have the ability to say yes when they want to do something and no when they don’t. But even though both of these words have a part to play in their life, it doesn’t mean that they both have ...
Views: 1085 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Have To Do What Other People Want In Order To Be Accepted? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is part of human nature to want to be accepted, and this is something that human beings need during the beginning of their life. When this takes place, it is likely to be a lot easier for them to function when they are older. Self-Acceptance The reason for this is ...
Views: 1029 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Attach Their Value To What They Do? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to observer how the people around them behave, they may find that a lot of them have something in common. What could stand out is how so many people are always doing something. Always On the Go And even if these people were to go on holiday or to take some time off work, it ...
Views: 1037 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Take It Personally When People Criticise Their Work? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the only way that one can avoid being criticised is if they don’t do anything. When this happens, one will be in the shadows, so to speak, and it will be normal for people to overlook them. Black and White However, even though this can sound accurate, it could be ...
Views: 1096 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Find It Hard To Relax When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to have a very busy life, and this can stop them from being able to just be. During the week, there is likely be the amount of time that they are at work each day and, once they get home, they may have other things to do. Another Job This ...
Views: 1086 - Terrorism: Why Are People Told Not To Get Angry When It Comes To Terrorism? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, terrorist attacks have become a regular occurrence in the west. But while the majority of people who live in this part of the world are going to remember what it was like before, there are going to be others who will have been brought up in an country where this was a normal ...
Views: 981 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Act Like A Victim When They Have Done Something Wrong? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are going to be moments in everyone’s life when they do something wrong. When this takes place, one could see if there is anything they can do to put it right. The Next Step If it becomes clear that they can do something about what has taken place, they might ...
Views: 1550 - Victim Mentality: Do Some People Only Feel Loved When They Act Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s self-image, there is the chance that it is having a positive effect on their life. How they see themselves is then going to allow them to feel good about themselves and to fulfil their needs. Two Parts What this shows is how much of an effect one’s view of ...
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