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- Early Deprivation: Is A Man Wasting His Time If He Is Trying To Be Seen And Heard By His Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that, when he is around his mother, he becomes someone else. So, he can lose touch with his needs and how he feels and focus on her. As for his mother, she can typically talk about what she has been doing and what is ...
Views: 3 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Conditioned To Sacrifice Himself? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man acts as though he is an extension of his mother and spends a lot of time meeting her needs, what can be clear to an outsider is that he is out of balance. The reason for this is that he is a separate human being who has his own needs, feelings and life to lead. Therefore, by behaving ...
Views: 3 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Feel Unworthy Of Being Seen And Heard If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they have the tendency to be in the background in life. So, this can mean that they will spend a lot of time by themselves. Then again, they might not spend much time by themselves and could spend a lot of ...
Views: 3 - Manifestation: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Manifest Something If They Feel Unworthy? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to attain a thing, meet a certain type of person, or have a certain experience, they could do what they can to manifest what they desire. So, what they can do is use a visualisation technique where they imagine that they have already achieved what they want to achieve. This ...
Views: 3 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Brought Up To Feel Responsible For His Mothers Moods? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that when his mother feels down, he usually does what he can to make her feel better. For example, he might call her if he is not free, but if he is free, he might go and see her. If he does go and see her, this could be ...
Views: 3 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Doesn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Mother Respect His Boundaries? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is not at work, and even if he is, there can be moments when his mother expects him to be there for her. After she has contacted him, he could soon be on his way to see her and do what she wants. What this is likely to show is that his mother's needs come first, and his needs are of ...
Views: 3 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Feel Worthless If They Were Treated Like An Object During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the inclination to feel low and be depressed. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Assuming that this is so, it can not only seem as though they were simply ...
Views: 9 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man's Mother Not Realise Her Son Has A Self/Soul? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is caught up in his mother’s world, were to reflect on how he lives his life, he could see that it’s as though he is nothing more than an extension of his mother. He could see that he spends a lot of time doing things for her and very little time, in comparison, doing things for ...
Views: 10 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have Sex To Receive The Love He Missed Out On As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have spent a fair amount of time learning about how to please a woman sexually. So, he might have watched videos, read articles and books, and had numerous conversations with other men in order to improve this area of his life. Along with this, he might have had sex ...
Views: 10 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Look For A Mother Figure If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to describe the type of woman that he is looking for, he could say that he is looking for a woman who is understanding, affectionate, caring and feminine. Over the years, he might have been with a number of women who were like this. Or, to be more precise, he might have been ...
Views: 10 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Look For A Father Figure If She Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to describe the type of man that she wants to be with, she could say that she wants a man who is emotionally strong and can lead, protect and take care of her. Over the years, she might have been with a number of men who were like this. In fact, the last man that she was with ...
Views: 13 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A ‘Not Good Enough’ Program Running If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that it doesn’t matter what they do, as they don’t feel as though they have done enough or are good enough. Thanks to this, they are likely to spend a lot of time doing and giving, but very little time being ...
Views: 14 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have Two Selves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone looks like one person on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they will be one person on the inside. The reason for this is that there can be the self that they are aware of, their conscious self and then, there can be the self that they are not aware of, their unconscious ...
Views: 15 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Feel Vulnerable After Her Abusive Father Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a woman’s father may have passed, and this may have left her in a very bad way. However, thanks to what her relationship was like with her father, she might not just be grieving his loss. No, in addition to this, she can also feel exposed and as though she is no longer as safe a ...
Views: 16 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A Withdrawn True Self If They Had A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate human being who has their own needs, feelings and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically come across in this way. In general, they can come across as though they are merely an extension of others. Assuming that this is the case, when they are ...
Views: 17 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Need To Hide How They Feel If They Had A Narcissistic Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has a wide range of feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will come across in this way. Instead, they can typically come across as though they only experience a few feelings or only positive feelings. So, they can have the inclination to come across as though everything is fine ...
Views: 18 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Idealised View Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is entangled in his mother’s world and his life largely revolves around her needs, he might not see it. However, if he were to end up dating a woman, the woman could soon see that he is out of balance. Not only this, but she could see that his mother is not grateful for what he does ...
Views: 19 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Sexualise Herself If She Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may find is that she has the tendency to present herself as an object that exists to be desired by men and perhaps women. As a result, when she is out in public, she can typically not wear much or wear clothes that are very ...
Views: 20 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man See Some Women As Sexual Objects If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that when he is attracted to a woman, it doesn’t occur to him that she is a human being. She is then not going to be someone who has her own needs, feelings, preferences, insecurities and fears, for instance. Instead, he ...
Views: 18 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Was Sacrificed By His Father To Appease His Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a man’s formative years, he needed to feel safe and secure and be loved. This would have allowed him to stay connected to himself and connect to his mother and father. Thanks to this, he would have been able to gradually go from a dependent to an interdependent human being. This stage ...
Views: 22 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have Unrealistic Relationship Expectations If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, someone may have been in a number of relationships that were not very fulfilling. So, they might have gone in with high hopes at the beginning, only to end up feeling frustrated and angry as time passed. If they have spoken to at least one trusted friend about this area of ...
Views: 23 - Child Abuse: Why Would A Narcissistic Parent Believe In The False Memory Syndrome Theory? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone who was abused as a child were to speak to their abusive parent about what happened, they might not get very far. This parent could deny what they say and even accuse them of making it all up. If this is the case, they will continue to behave in a way that is very similar to how ...
Views: 22 - Child Abuse: Why Won’t A Narcissistic Parent Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they may have the need to speak to the parent or parents who abused them. They can hope that this will be a time when what they say will be validated and they will be supported. However, while this is what may happen, it might also be a time when the opposite ...
Views: 23 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Fear Of Being Seen If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may see, if he steps back and reflects on his behaviour, is that he has the inclination to play a role when he is around others. So, he can see that when this happens, he comes across as though everything is fine. It then won’t matter if this is actually the case, as he won’t open ...
Views: 25 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Grew Up With A Father Who Had Been Emasculated By His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man steps back and reflects on his life, what he may see is that he has the tendency to be passive, put up with bad behaviour and be depressed. Assuming that this is the case, he can see that he has been this way for most of his life. What he might wonder is why he lacks energy, rarely ...
Views: 29 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Feel Comfortable With Emotional Distance If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of weeks, months or longer, a woman may have been with a man who is overly focused on his mother. Due to this, he can seldom be physically available, let alone emotionally available. She is then rarely going to see him, and when they do spend time together, they typically talk ...
Views: 30 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Associate Receiving Attention With Being Humiliated If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he does what he can to avoid attention. As a result of this, he can typically stay in the background and not be seen by others. He might see that it doesn’t matter if he is around men or women, or he might see that he ...
Views: 31 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Find It Hard To Leave A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a while now, a woman may have been with a man who is emotionally unavailable and is often physically out of reach. As a result of this, she can not only experience a fair amount of anger and frustration, but she can often feel exhausted. However, although she might have been in this ...
Views: 29 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Negative Self-Image If His Mother Abused his Father During His Early Years? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on how he sees himself, he may find that he doesn’t have a very positive or empowering self-image. He can see that he sees himself as being worthless and unlovable. After he thinks about this, what can enter his mind is that he is this way because of ...
Views: 35 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Trapped In His Mother's Reality? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man is physically separate from his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. Instead, he can have the sense that he is merely an extension of his mother. And, while he will have his own inner world, it also doesn’t mean that he will realise this either. The reason for ...
Views: 32 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Attracted To Abusive Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been in a number of relationships where the woman was anything but supportive, loving and kind. Instead, the woman might have done just about everything that she could to undermine him. However, it is unlikely the woman was like this at the beginning, as she ...
Views: 35 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Take On The Suffering Of The World If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone could pay a lot of attention to what is taking place in the Levant. Along with this, they can pay a fair amount of attention to what is taking place in Eastern Europe. They might not just see and hear about what is happening, feel a variety of different feelings ...
Views: 40 - Early Deprivation: Can A Woman Believe That She Is Not Enough If She Had A Critical Father? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her love life, she could think about how this area of her life is not very fulfilling. This is because she might have been with a number of men who were not really into her and were distant. She could think about how she did a lot to try to make ...
Views: 36 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Emotionally Unavailable If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman can be with a man who is overly focused on his mother and has very little time for himself, let alone her. And, when she does spend time with him, he could be largely out of reach. Due to this, she will be in a relationship, but it can be as if she is single, as very few of ...
Views: 37 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Need To Adapt To Others If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone could be in a relationship with someone who is not right for them. But, although this is the case, they can have a strong need to stay with them. What they can also find is that when they are with their partner, they have the inclination to lose themselves. They ...
Views: 41 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Tendency To Erase Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about what they were like when they last spent time around others, what might enter their mind is that they didn’t show up. What they can find is that it was as though they were wearing a mask and acted as though they were not a separate human being. The reason for ...
Views: 41 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Wouldn’t A Woman Be Able To See That A Mother-Enmeshed Man Is Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of weeks or months, a woman may have been with a man who is overly focused on his mother. Then again, she might have been in this position for over a year. Either way, as a result of this, he is not going to have much time for himself, let alone have much time for her. So, if she ...
Views: 35 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Associate Self-Expression With Being Disconnected If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to hide their needs and how they feel. What can then be normal is for them to do what they can to please others. However, this is not to say that they constantly think about what they can ...
Views: 42 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Turning His Back On His Mother If He Breaks Away? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has been focusing on his mother and doing what he can to please her, and this has been going on for as long as he can remember, it is not going to be a surprise if he is unable to just live his own life. Due to how long he has lived in this way, living in this way is likely to be what ...
Views: 38 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Find It Hard To Be Motivated If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a while now, someone might not have been able to do something that they want to do. When it comes to what it is that they want to do, they might want to join a gym, travel or move to a different area, for instance. Now, they might have wanted to do something for a few weeks, months or ...
Views: 38 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone might want to do something, it doesn’t mean that they will take the next step. Instead, they can continually put it off; with them wondering what it would be like if they do do it. There might not just be one thing that they continually put off - there could be a number of ...
Views: 43 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Outsource Their Assertiveness? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, they may find that it is hard for them to stand up for themselves and take action. Consequently, it can be normal for them to keep their views to themselves, do things that they don’t want to do and be walked over, among other ...
Views: 38 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Lose Touch With Their Survival Instincts? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to make good decisions, they will need to have access to all parts of themselves. So, they will need to be connected to not only what is taking place for them at a mental level, but also what is taking place for them at an emotional and instinctual level. This will mean ...
Views: 37 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone to Lose Touch With Their Survival Instincts? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to make good decisions, they will need to have access to all parts of themselves. So, they will need to be connected to not only what is taking place for them at a mental level, but also what is taking place for them at an emotional and instinctual level. This will mean ...
Views: 32 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have An Outer-Directed False Self If They Had A Narcissistic Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they have the tendency to focus on others and do what they can to please them. This can be something that just takes place without them having to think about it. So, when they are around another person, they ...
Views: 36 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Environment Where They Had To Appease Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s childhood, what they needed was an environment where they felt safe and secure and were loved. However, they might have grown up in an environment that wasn’t anything like this. If so, if both of their parents were around, one of them might have been abusive, while the other ...
Views: 43 - Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis cover all aspects of human transformation; including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, enmeshment, inner child, t - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man can want to freely express himself and live his own life, he can find that he is unable to do so. Instead, he can have the need to focus on his mother and meet her needs. As a result of this, he will act more like an extension of her than a separate human being who has his ...
Views: 43 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have An Identity Crisis When He Breaks Away From His Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is behaving as if he is an extension of his mother and is ignoring a number of his own needs, he can feel a strong need to do less for her and do more for himself. Then again, it might go further than this, as he might not want to do a great deal for ...
Views: 49 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Believe That He Is Not Desirable If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been attracted to a number of women who were not interested in him. Along with this, he might have dated a number of women who lost interest in him before long. Also, he may have been in at least one relationship that came to an end because the woman was no ...
Views: 49 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Be Emotionally Dependent On A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man doesn’t have a woman in his life that he is seeing or in a relationship with, he may feel as though he is missing something. As a result of this, he can feel a strong need to be with a woman. He can believe, for instance, that he is meant to be with a woman, and this is why he ...
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