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- Critical Thinking: Can A Child's Need For Approval Make Them Want To Change Their Gender? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, a lot has been said about adults and children who don’t feel comfortable with their gender. And what can define what something thinks about all this can be their age. A Different World If someone is at the beginning of their life, for instance, they might not ...
Views: 934 - Being Seen: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Stop Someone From Wanting To Be Seen? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that whenever one spends time around others, they are going to be seen. Therefore, the only way for one to not be seen by others will be for them to spend time by themselves. Black and White This is then something that is not hard to understand; in fact, it is perfectly ...
Views: 1359 - "I Felt Invalidated By My Therapist!" - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it became clear that I felt the need to be loyal to my father, towards the end of 2015, and that this was holding me back, I knew that I needed to do something else. The emotional processing work that I was doing at this time wasn’t having much of an impact on this issue. The Wrong ...
Views: 1429 - Self-Development: Can Someone Get Into Self-Development To Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be aware of why they are doing something, they can also be completely out of touch with this reason. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Two Levels One can have a clear idea as to why they want to do something, and this ...
Views: 993 - Projection: Can Someone Suffer When They Project Their 'Good' Traits Onto Others? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for the word ‘projection’ to be heard when it comes to the world of self-development and psychology. Yet even if one doesn’t spend time reading books on these areas, they might still have heard about this word on more than one occasion. A Negative Occurrence And if one ...
Views: 908 - Critical Thinking: Can A Weak Sense Of Self Cause Someone To Be Drawn To A Political Movement? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is at university, or has been to one in the past, they could be part of some kind of movement. When it comes to someone who is still studying, they may be part of at least one society. A Big Interest This could be something that is a big part of their life, which could mean ...
Views: 1209 - Free Speech: Why Does The 'Silent Majority" Exist? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, there have been a number of surprising results in the political realm, and this is often put down to the fact that there is a ‘silent majority’. At the same time, it wouldn’t be accurate to say that everyone was taken aback by these results. The Difference What this comes ...
Views: 1146 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Pictures Of Children And Animals To Manipulate People? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the tendency to buy a newspaper, they will have probably seen a picture of a child on the front cover at least once. And even if one simply looks at the front covers of newspapers and doesn’t buy them, they may also have had the same experience. Just a Picture There is the ...
Views: 1020 - Critical Thinking: If Someone Is Psychic Does It Mean That They Are Self-Aware? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in the world who have the ability to pick up information about others without needing to use their five senses. It is then as though part of them tunes into another person’s field or energy and shortly after this, their conscious mind is aware of this information. A Good ...
Views: 1425(3 votes) - Relationships: Why Are Some People Emotionally Dependent On Their Partner? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to say that they need to be with another person in order to feel complete. Yet, even if they don’t say this explicitly, their behaviour could say this implicitly. Popular Culture When it comes to films, music and TV shows, this is a theme ...
Views: 936 - "I Was Attacked Twice!" - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember being with a friend and doing some pad work; we were both taking turns to punch and kick the pad. After a while we both needed something to drink, so we headed over to the shop. Interestingly, my friend said that if we waited a little while, his mother would be back and then we ...
Views: 1395 - Free Speech: Has The Term 'Hate Speech' Been Created To Silence People? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to share their thoughts about ‘hate speech’, they might have a number of things to say. Firstly, they could say that it has no place in today’s world, which is why it is a good thing that it is banned. The Main Benefit On top of this, they could say that it will be a ...
Views: 1003 - “I Could No Longer Play The Same Role!” - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI grew up in a family where everyone had a role, and each person rarely stepped out of that role. My mother was the one who was in control, and this generally took place through making the decisions and keeping people inline through losing her temper. My father, on the other hand, was ...
Views: 1125 - True-Self: Can Being Agreeable Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the ability to go along to get along, it can be a lot easier for them to get on with others. By not having the desire to rock the boat, so to speak, they are unlikely to rub other people up the wrong way. This is likely to mean that they will have a number of friends, and ...
Views: 900 - Terrorism: Is 'Terrorism' Being Used To Take Away People's Freedoms? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last month, there was thought to be another terrorist attack in London; fortunately, it turned out that this wasn’t the case. After what was said to be “an altercation between two men on a platform”, one thing lead to another and the police triggered their protocol for terror ...
Views: 868 - “I No Longer Wanted To Play A Role!” - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA little while before a relationship came to an end, at the beginning of 2013; I had got to the point where I no longer wanted to behave in the same way. Up until this point, I was easy-going and generally came across as happy. It wasn’t that I no longer wanted to be easy-going or to come ...
Views: 1165 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Some Women Who Were Abused As Children End Up As Porn Stars? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a porn star committed suicide, and this was said to be due to the abuse that she received online. Based on this, it could be said that the people who abused her online were responsible for her death. The Trolls This is then an example of what can happen when someone is treated ...
Views: 1326 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Try To Fix Others When They Open Up? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the best thing that someone can do for another person, when they are going through a challenging time, is to simply be there for them. So, when one is in the other person’s presence, it will be vital for them to be completely present. No Agenda This means that one is ...
Views: 1427 - “I Had A Fear Of Being Seen!” - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was growing up there was generally one person who did all the talking when we were around others - my mother. And, as time went by this would include my sister, which meant that my father and I didn’t get the chance to say much. It was no different when we were at home, either, as my ...
Views: 1052 - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Feel Comfortable With Their Own Emotions In Order To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, there could be moments when they share how they feel, and this could mean that they are also able to be there for their partner. As a result of this, this area of their relationship is going to be in balance. A Close Bond Through sharing their inner ...
Views: 1178 - “My Life Had No Meaning!” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember lying in bed as a child feeling overwhelmed by my emotions and wanting my life to end. This wasn’t a one-off, though; as this was something I went through on numerous occasions. I had a father, mother, and a sister, but I felt as though I was all by myself; that’s not to say that ...
Views: 1009 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Neglect Their Own Needs When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could pay attention to their own needs when they are single, this could be something that changes when they are in a relationship. It could then be said that one will have a sense of self when they are single and end up losing their sense of self when they are not. Two ...
Views: 1443 - “This Guy Knew How To Listen!” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn November 2017, I had the opportunity to meet someone called, Geoff Hudson-Searle, who was an author and the managing director of a company that helps businesses to succeed. Our paths crossed after I sent him a message on a social media site and he suggested that we meet for a coffee. I ...
Views: 1085 - “Their Mission Is To End Child Trafficking and Exploitation!” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I felt the need to write an article about customer service, and when I was looking for information on a search engine I came across an interesting article. This was written by someone called Geoff Hudson-Searle. For some reason, I ended up doing a search to find out more ...
Views: 1106 - "You Need To Be Able To Handle Your Own Emotions!" - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThrough reading books on self-development, taking courses and changing what was taking place in my mind, amongst other things, I started to settle down mentally and emotionally. This was something that often stood out when I was out socialising, as I generally felt as though I was in control of ...
Views: 1247 - “I Couldn’t Get In Touch With My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2009 I did a Reference Point Therapy course in London, and the purpose of this course was to heal trauma. In the beginning, the person who was leading the course, Simon Rose, spoke about boundaries, the effect that our time in the womb can have on us and a number of other ...
Views: 1059 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some Men Say That All Men Are Bad? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone hasn’t been living under a rock for a number of months, they are likely to be only too aware of what has been taking place in Hollywood. After a producer was accused of harassment and rape, a number of other men were accused of the same thing. What is interesting about all this ...
Views: 1094 - “I Kept Having Nightmares!” - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the beginning of my life, I remember having two reoccurring dreams. In one of the dreams, I would be at the top of a flight of stairs and shortly after, I would fall down the stairs. And in the other dream, or should I say nightmare, it was as though I was surrounded by everyone on ...
Views: 941 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Expect Their Partner To Meet All Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a few hundred people were asked about what the purpose of an intimate relationship is, there is likely to be more than one answer. For some people, being in an intimate relationship could be a way for them to fulfil their basic needs, to have someone to share their life, and to grow. When ...
Views: 1012 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs far as some people are concerned, the purpose of life is to be happy; whereas for others, it is to live a meaningful life. When it comes to the former, it is going to be all about feeling good. Pleasure or Pain So, when someone has this outlook, they may believe that the alternative is ...
Views: 1129 - Relationships: Do Some Men's Childhoods Set Them Up To Please Women? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there are men who do what they can to fulfil their own needs and, on the other, there are men who do what they can to please others. What this can bring to mind is someone who doesn’t give a damn about others, or someone who cares too much about others. More Than Two ...
Views: 978 - Free Speech: Does The Attack On Free Speech Show How Feminized The Western World Has Become? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile men are a physical expression of the masculine and women are a physical expression of the feminine, it doesn’t mean that each sex only has masculine or feminine traits within them. Now, this is not to say that each person on this planet is made up of half of one side and half of the ...
Views: 994 - Critical Thinking: What Does Positive Thinking Have In Common With Empathy? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that one is likely to see clouds if they look up to the sky - they are also likely to come across ‘positive thinking’ if they read about self-development. This is because this kind of thinking is often seen as an important part of being successful. One Approach One can ...
Views: 1121 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Some Presidents/Prime Ministers Have Personality Disorders? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the recent presidential election, the mainstream media portrayed one candidate as being good and the other as being bad. And up until a new president was announced, there were a number of people who thought that America would have a female president for the first time. For some people, ...
Views: 1010 - “My Mother Lacked Empathy!” - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt was not uncommon for my mother to act in a destructive way when I was younger, but that doesn’t mean that she spent a lot of time apologising. Shortly after she had done something, she would generally act as though nothing had happened. I would then similar to dropping a plate of food on ...
Views: 1164 - “I No Longer Had A Purpose!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperGrowing up in a guest house meant that there was always something to do; therefore, there wasn’t much time to relax. If I didn’t get up at a certain time or disappeared when I was supposed to be working, I would often be in a lot of trouble. Sometimes I would go out when I got home from ...
Views: 910 - “I Felt Guilty After My Father Died!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my father had to go into hospital for a heart operation in 2011, I dropped him off at the hospital. And although there was a greater risk due to his age, I thought that he would soon be out. Before he went into hospital, it was clear that he wasn’t in a good way, but as he had been ...
Views: 1633 - Emotionally Disconnected: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone feels like a whole human being, they are going to be in tune with what is taking place in their head and what is going on in their body. One is then not going to be dead from the neck down. Connected As a result of this, one will be able to utilise the information that is in ...
Views: 1082 - “It Wasn't Safe For Me To Express My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was about 12 years old, I remember being told to “stop moaning” by my mother. And based on how she responded in this moment, it was as though I was actually making a fuss over nothing. However, this couldn’t have been further from the truth; I was simply speaking out about something. ...
Views: 1188 - “I Was Completely Out of Touch With My Own Needs!” - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I had finished studying sport and leisure at college in 2003, I had absolutely no idea about what I was going to do next. I had only taken this course because I enjoyed working out and I didn’t know what else to do. So after it was over, I soon had to face what I had been able to avoid ...
Views: 1187 - Critical Thinking: If Someone Is Always Offended Does It Show That They Are Self-Absorbed? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne only needs to pick up a paper or to go on social media see how common it is for people to be offended in today’s world. Nowadays, it is often said that offence is given, not taken; whereas in the past, it was typically seen as something that was taken, not given. A Lot Has Changed ...
Views: 1461 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Want To Be Worshipped? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is relatively easy for a woman receive attention; the only thing that she needs is a social media account. And if one is not enough, then she can join a number of different sites. A Big Audience Once she has uploaded a few pictures of herself, it might only be a ...
Views: 3356 - “I Was Brought Up To Tolerate Abuse!” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember sitting at the dinner table, after I had come back from school and having an argument with my mother. This soon came to an end, though, as she ended up leaving the table and going to her room. I can’t remember exactly why we had this argument as it was a long time ago, but I think ...
Views: 1396 - “I Felt Completely Violated” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my mother was in hospital recovering from her stroke, towards the end of 2010, it was just me and my father at home. But even though my mother wasn’t there, it was so much more peaceful. And this was something that became clear when my mother came out of hospital; the energy of our ...
Views: 1756 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Always Say That Other People Are Sexist? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of problems in today’s world, and it could be said that some of these problems are more important than others. Still, that doesn’t meant that the amount of attention a problem receives will depend on how important it is. In the same way that the person with the loudest ...
Views: 1266 - “Are You Gay?” - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year before I finished school, I remember bringing a girlfriend home for the first time. Before this took place, I wasn’t sure about if it was a good idea, and this was primarily due to how I thought my family would respond. Shortly after this I came to see that my concerns were ...
Views: 1311 - “I Was Terrified of My Mother” - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2010, my life was going in the right direction; I felt confident, I had a relatively fulfilling job, and I had a plenty of good people around me. It was as though my life could only get better. Unfortunately, my life was about to get worse, a lot worse, and everything changed ...
Views: 1333 - Social Media: Has Social Media Made It Harder For People To Deal With Conflict? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that have changed since the advent of social media, and one of the things that it has done is changed how people communicate with each other. Instead of having to be around others, one can now ‘socialise’ online. One can then message someone who lives just down ...
Views: 893 - “I Was Told That I Was Useless!” - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember listening to Dov Baron in 2006 and thinking about I would love to know as much as he did. At this point, I had already been learning about self-development for about three years, so it wasn’t as though I hadn’t come across anyone like this before. However, although I had listened ...
Views: 1232 - Therapy: What Does It Say About Today’s Relationships When Some People Have To Pay Others To Listen To Them? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to work with a therapist or a counsellor; in fact, it could be said that it is a fairly common occurrence. Even so, this doesn’t mean that someone won’t feel ashamed for needing to be assisted in this way. Yet even if they did feel ashamed at this ...
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