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- “I Was Carrying A Lot Of Grief!” - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2014, I felt a lot better than I did in the beginning of 2013, and what also played a part here is that I had recently been away. I had gone to Mexico for my sister’s wedding in June that year. Going away gave me a lift and, when I came back, I wondered why I didn’t go ...
Views: 1394 - Relationships: If Someone Is Still Attached To Their Ex Can It Stop Them From Being Able To Embrace Their Current Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just experienced a breakup, they may decide to take a break and to spend some time by themselves. Through taking this route, it will also give them the chance to face how they feel and to work through it. A Grey Area If they were with this person for a long period of time, ...
Views: 1150 - “I Was Completely Ignored!” - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA little while before I headed to Bournemouth for New Years Eve, in 2012, I had been texting a woman I had met online. At this point, I didn’t know a great deal about her, but I was keen to meet her. I think it was just after New Year’s Day that we arranged a time to meet and, when I met ...
Views: 1405 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Harder For Someone To Handle A Breakup? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can cause one to experience a lot of emotional pain. In fact, it can feel as though their whole life has come to an end, and one might then wonder how they are going to cope. Two Extremes How they feel at this point in their life can then be ...
Views: 1187 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Believe That They Need To Be Good At Everything? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if someone wants to be good at something, they will need to put the work in and to be patent. In addition to the time that they need to put in each week, there can be moments when they will need to change what they are doing. The Next Level Through doing this, it ...
Views: 1043 - The Media: Is It Easy For The Mainstream Media To Control What People Believe? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who listen to the mainstream media, there are others who pay attention to the alternative media. It hasn’t been this way for long, though, and this is due to the fact that there only used to be one option. The Main Source If someone wanted to find out about what ...
Views: 840 - Mental Health: What Does Society’s Approach To Mental Health Problems Have In Common With Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperFor a long time, mental and emotional problems were typically overlooked, and this has changed in recent years. A lot of money is now being spent to help people who are suffering in this way. A Mixed Response Still, this is not to say that everyone is happy with what is taking place; ...
Views: 1382 - “I Knew That Everything Would Be OK!" - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter my father had been moved to a closer hospital, towards the end of 2011, we were pleased that it would be a lot easier to visit him. Even so, this was a time when he was on a life support machine, so it wasn’t as if we could have a conversation with him. There were times when I would ...
Views: 1605 - Body Confidence: Is It A Good Idea For Women To Use A Celebrity's Body As Inspiration? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman wasn’t very happy with her body, there are number of things that she could do. And the approach that she takes can all depend on what kind of personality she has. One Option When she looks at her body she could end up feeling bad about herself, but that doesn’t mean that she ...
Views: 1500 - “We've Had A Complaint!” - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my father was in hospital, towards the end of 2011, I was working somewhere where I had the opportunity to speak to a lot of people. When I first started working there, there were a number of things that I enjoyed. There were a number of people who I got on well with, and then there ...
Views: 1123 - “I Don’t Care If Your Father Is In Hospital!” - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs I have said in a previous article, my father had to go into hospital in the middle of 2011, and this was a time when I was under a lot of stress. My mother had had a stroke the previous year and soon my life would change once again. During the time that my father was in hospital, I would ...
Views: 986 - Relationships: Why Doesn't It Always Work When Someone Ends Up With The Person They Were Having An Affair With? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship that is no longer as fulfilling as it used to be, they could take the time to talk to their partner about what is going on. This can then give them the opportunity to look into what needs to take place in order for their relationship to improve. Another Option ...
Views: 1488 - "This Guy Has Good Boundaries!" - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs I look back on my journey, I can see that there have been a number of moments when what I was doing no longer worked. And, when this has happened, it has caused me to look for something else. One of the moments that comes to mind is in the middle of 2009, as this was a time when what I ...
Views: 1197 - Relationships: Has Someone Moved On If They Are In A New Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationship comes to an end, it can be a sign that it has run its course; consequently, each person can be happy to move on with their life. What this could show is that they had been having problems for quite some time. It was then only a matter of time before their time together ...
Views: 1124 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Have Boundaries? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that when someone has boundaries, their life is going to be a lot better than it would be if they didn’t have them. The reason for this is that one has their own needs and feelings. So, while one is an interdependent human being who needs other people, that doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 1330 - Superiority Complex: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can believe that they are better than other people at doing certain things, they can also believe that they are better than others at just about everything. When it comes to the former, there is the chance that one is telling the truth. An Expert Perhaps one has been doing ...
Views: 1130 - “You Are Wasting Your Money!” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing Dov Baron speak about how important our beliefs are, through an interview I listened to in December 2006, I searched for more information on this topic. Ultimately, I was looking for a way to change or remove what I believed. I spent a little while going over the information ...
Views: 1044 - True-Self: Is It Harder For Someone To Express Their True-Self When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to fulfil their needs, they will need to be in touch with them. But that’s not to say that this is all there is to it, as one will also need to feel as though it is safe enough for them to fulfil them. The Two Levels It could be said that, as a human ...
Views: 990 - “You Seem Super Strong!” - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of 2011, my father had to go into hospital in order to have an operation. I drove him there and expected to be bringing him home in the not too distant future. At the time, I thought that this was just a routine operation and that he would soon be out of hospital. What also ...
Views: 1357 - “You Shouldn’t Have Asked!” - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn early 2000, I started to learn a martial art, and for a little while before this I had thought about doing something. What had a played part here was that I had been watching films with Jean-Claude Van Damme in. And while I ended up learning a different marital art to the one I had in ...
Views: 1004 - “I knew it was over!” - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had got back from Australia and Bali in 2003, I started to change quite rapidly. Before I had been away, I had only read a few books, and these were books that I had to read for school. But after being drawn to a book whilst I was in Australia, I was now reading on a regular basis. ...
Views: 1187 - Relationships: Should Someone Ask Themselves Why They Want To Cheat? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way as there are thoughts that one shouldn’t follow through on, there are also going to be urges that they will need to overlook. As if one tried to fulfil every need that was within them, it would end up causing them a lot of problems. A Big Difference For example, one could ...
Views: 1276 - “I Need To Write About That!” - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the middle of October 2010, a friend and I had decided to go out for the night in a city nearby. There were a number of places where we had gone in the past, and tonight we were likely to go to the same places. The first place that we went to wasn’t very busy, and so we soon left and ...
Views: 1066 - “Do You Ever Experience Anxiety?” - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was reading a book that was written by M.Scott Peck, and this caused me to think about a number of different things. For some reason, I started to think about doing some kind of course at college. As a result of this, I had a look at what courses were on offer at a college ...
Views: 1125 - Anxiety: Does Someone Have Mental Health Problems If They Experience Anxiety? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there is a strong chance that someone will reach out for support if they have mental and emotional problems, and there are at least two reasons for this. Firstly, it is more acceptable to talk about these kinds of things. This is not to say that everyone who they come into contact ...
Views: 1201 - “Don’t Just Be Another Brick In The Wall!” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2003, I went to a number of different countries, and one of the countries that I visited was Australia. But while I was going to another country, it wouldn’t be completely accurate to say that I was going on holiday. The reason I was going away was to mark the first ...
Views: 1006 - "Why Do You Want To Do That?" - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few years ago a friend of mine asked me if I was able to help them move house. I asked them when they were moving and I came to see that I was available on that day. I think I had already helped two friends move house already that year, so I was well-prepared. Shortly after I had been ...
Views: 1266 - No One Will Listen To You! - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have had a number of mentors, and one mentor that has had a big effect on me is one that I met at a charity event in 2003. This person was offering readings there and it turned out that this was not the only thing she did. If I remember rightly, my mother and sister had a ...
Views: 1068 - Social Media: Can A Lack Of Real Relationships Cause Someone To Crave Attention Online? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to spend more time speaking to people online than they do in the real world. And when one uses social media, they are going to be socialising online. The New Way One might even believe that they don’t need to spend much time talking to people in ...
Views: 1322 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are going to be moments in someone’s life when they will need to be serious, they won’t need to behave in this way all the time. Along with this, one will need to be easy going at times, and at other times, they will need to be firm. Multifaceted Ultimately, how one will ...
Views: 986 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Other People? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile every human being has an inner world and an outer world, it doesn’t mean these two worlds are completely separate. What is taking place internally will have an effect on what is going on externally and vice versa. A Lens It is then not possible for someone to simply observe what is ...
Views: 1165 - The Media: Is Someone Naive If They Believe That The Mainstream Media Exists To Inform People? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what the purpose of a supermarket is, they may say that it is to sell people food. This could be seen as a fairly accurate assessment, and what they could add is that these places often sell house related items. It Goes On Alternatively, one could think about ...
Views: 910 - Relationships: What Can Happen When A Woman Rejects Her Feminine Side? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperMen and woman look different, but that doesn’t mean that they haven’t got anything in common. First and foremost, they are human beings; thus, despite their differences, they have a lot in common. A Closer Look Due to how they look, it could be said that men are an expression of the ...
Views: 1520 - Therapy: Can Someone End Up Working On The Wrong Area When They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are unable to handle life, it could be said that it will be a good idea for them to reach out support. What this could show is that one feels depressed, or they might suffer from fear and anxiety, for instance. A Number of Things Or, there is the ...
Views: 1255 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are going to be times when it is possible to please others and times when it isn’t. But while this is just part of life, it doesn’t mean that everyone is able to accept this. One Experience When someone can accept this, it doesn’t mean that they won’t try to ...
Views: 1135 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a situation that doesn’t serve them, it is going to be in their best interests to move on. Nevertheless, it might not be possible for them to walk away and to put this all behind them. The Next Step The reason for this is that one could be in a job that is paying them ...
Views: 1023 - Relationships: Is Someone More Likely To End Up In An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship, and they might be aware of what all of these reasons are. If they are, it will give them the chance to see if they are being driven by the right needs. For Example One could find that they are at the stage ...
Views: 1159 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Feel Worthless When They Experience Rejection? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are certain things that are part of life, and this means that it is not possible to avoid them. Still, this is not to say that some people won’t try to make sure that they don’t experience something. Rejection For example, there are going to be moments in ...
Views: 1090 - Blame: It Is Normal For Someone To Blame Others When They Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one stays up to date with what is taking place in the world, they may have heard about people who blame others for what is taking place in their life. Along with this, they may have heard about certain groups that blame other groups for the challenges in their life. The Norm When this ...
Views: 1309 - Relationships: Do Some People Only Listen So That They Can Talk? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one says something to someone, it doesn’t mean that they will listen to what they have to say. What they could do is focus on what they have to say and wait until one has finished talking. In One Ear and Out the Other As a result of this, one may as well have been talking to ...
Views: 1205 - Relationships: What Can Happen When Two People Put On An Act During The Start Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people get together for the first time, it will give them the chance to see how they get on. This will also give them the opportunity to find out about each other, to see what their values are, and what they hope to achieve it the future, for instance. The First Step What happens ...
Views: 1200 - Racism: Why Do Some People Always Say That Other People Are Racist? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one reads the paper or watches the news on TV, they may come to the conclusion that racism is getting worse. When it comes to what has played a part in this, it can be the result of what has taken place in their own country, as well as what has taken place abroad. One Thing after ...
Views: 1091 - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media More Deceitful Than Ever Before? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are, of course, a number of ways to find out about what is taking place in the world, and this is why it is no longer necessary to look towards the mainstream media. Someone can now find out about what is taking place by looking towards the alternative media. Old Habits Die Hard ...
Views: 1033 - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Feel Extremely Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel as though it is safe them to exist, there are others who don’t. Even so, this could be something that someone is not consciously aware of; how they experience life could just be what is normal. Part of Life However, if they were asked about what they do each day, ...
Views: 1187(1 vote) - Relationships: When Someone Tells Other People How To Live Their Life Does It Show That They Lack Empathy? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time with the people they are close to, they may find that they are happy to listen to them. This is likely to show that they are there to support them, and their life is then going to be a lot easier than it would be otherwise. The Perfect Scenario Through being treated ...
Views: 1034 - Sexualized Emotions: Can Someone Sexualize Their Own Emotions? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, someone can mistake thirst for hunger, and there are a number of reasons as to why this tales place. As a result of this, one can end up eating when they are not even hungry. The Outcome If one finds it easy to gain weight, and this was to happen on a regular basis, they ...
Views: 1612 - Free Speech: Are Facts Too Offensive In Today's World? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the need to say something, it doesn’t mean that they will say what is on their mind. And what can define whether or not they speak up is if what they have to say is politically correct. A Risk Now, what they could find is that it is safe for them to express what is on their ...
Views: 1180 - Emotionally Reactive: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could hear something and respond in one way, and another person could hear the same thing and respond in a completely different manner. Consequently, this is going to show that they have interpreted it differently. One Response After hearing something, one person could soon ...
Views: 1315 - People Pleasing: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why someone would get into self-development is because they have the need to please others. What this will show is that they are aware of what is wrong and this is then why they have been able to take the next step. One Step Behind Yet, if one hasn’t reached this ...
Views: 1072 - Emotional Regulation: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the ability to regulate their own emotions, they are not going to be used to being overwhelmed by them. And even if they were to find themselves in a position where they were unable to handle what is taking place within them, it doesn’t mean that they would suffer in silence. ...
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