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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Relationships: Should Someone Look Into What Is Taking Place Within Them If They Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a fulfilling relationship with someone, there is also the chance that this is not the case. This could come down to the fact that they don’t want to be in one, and this might be a sign that they have just broken up with someone. If this is the case, they might want to ...
Views: 1282 - Sexual Communication - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Addison BellMy cheeks are flushed, my body is radiating heat, and little moans escape my lips. His breath is heavy on my neck as we dive deeper and deeper into a state of passion. The little moans escaping my lips tell him that I am enjoying his touch and he sporadically shares little insights of enjoyment… ...
Views: 1512 - Relationships: Can Someone Have A Healthy Relationship With Another Person If They Have A History Of Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone they like, they might not look into what their past relationships were like. In this case, the only thing they could be concerned about is what the other person is like around them. Point of Focus This could also be a time when one will spend a lot of time thinking ...
Views: 1221 - Letting Men Lead - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Addison BellScenario 1: We have just come out from an extraordinary concert that has my heart dancing from the beautiful music. As we walk down the sidewalk, he grasps my shoulders and pushes me to the right, and I get jokingly scolded as he explains that he needs to be between me and traffic. In this ...
Views: 2088 - ***Expert List for Narcissistic Survivors - Youtube Video - Laney Zukerman Empowerment & Relationship Coach, Best-Selling Author ~ Lessons for an Urban Goddess & The Urban Goddess Lesson - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachHi Selfgrowth Friends, Since I have been receiving a high volume of readers who are interested in more information on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Surviving Relationships with Narcissists, I have created a brief Youtube Video. I have spent many hours reviewing experts on Narcissism and ...
Views: 4048(1 vote) - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Get In Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go out for a meal with a friend, it is likely to show that they both have the need to do so. This will not only allow them to fulfil their need to eat something, it will also allow them to fulfil a number of other needs. A Match Therefore, although they are both ...
Views: 1376 - The Importance of Maintaining a Healthy Distance in Relationships that Matter the Most - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2017 from Suzanne St. John SmithAs a psychotherapist, I often meet individuals, couples and families who at first describe the relationships that matter the most in their lives as ‘very close’, ‘tight’, and supportive. But later, after understanding the issues that brought them to my office, I view them more as insular systems ...
Views: 1466 - Intimacy: Do Some People's Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can have the need to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to fulfil this need. As a result of this, this area of their life is not going to be the same as it will be for others. Normal This is not to say that they will be the only ones on the ...
Views: 1487 - A Man’s Guide To The First Night of Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2017 from Randy SkiltonThe build up to ‘The Big Day’ is generally dominated by the female of the species and her chosen band of merry women – bridesmaids, mother, mother-in-law to be, sisters, aunts – basically any woman with a relationship or blood connection to the bride. Don’t be fooled. Weddings, their ...
Views: 1586(1 vote) - How to Not Lose Everything in a Divorce - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2017 from Randy SkiltonWell gentlemen, this subject may be lumped into the ‘too tough to answer basket’ along with – ‘How to jump out of a plane at 20,000 feet without a parachute and survive’ and ‘How to get a politician to give you a straight answer’ Nevertheless, let’s take up the challenge - How do you ...
Views: 1363 - Is Your Wife Falling Out of Love With You? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2017 from Randy SkiltonIt's a tough place to be. When love and a deep connection are not shared, the feelings of emptiness, anger and frustration take over and your ability to function in other roles suffer. ⦁ Why did she fall out of love? ⦁ Who changed? You or her? ⦁ Was there a specific event that brought ...
Views: 3972 - ***Loving Yourself in the Face of Others' Expectations - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD February 07, 2017 How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? You can learn to love yourself instead! I was staying at a friend's house on one of my teaching trips. I walked into the kitchen early one morning to find my friend ...
Views: 1210 - Dating: Do Some People Have Sneaky Ways To Leave A Date If It Isn't Going Well? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to dating, the world is radically different to how it used to be in the past. Now, one can still meet people in the real world, and there are a number of ways that this can take place. Everyday Life If one was to go shopping or if they had to do something whilst they were ...
Views: 1513 - Relationships: Can Someone Put Up With Bad Behaviour When They Don't Value Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be for one to stand their ground when they meet someone, and not to put up with anything that will have a negative effect on them. Through being this way, they won’t allow another person to bring them down. Give And Take Thus, when they do meet ...
Views: 1308 - The Valentine’s Day Gift That Keeps On Giving: What’s Right With Your World? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from Noelle NelsonSo much of our time is spent fixing problems: problems at work, issues with our loved ones, concerns with our health, our weight, our finances. You name it, 90% of our waking hours (and so many of our sleeping ones as well) are spent in having yet another problem brought to our attention, with ...
Views: 1486 - ANGER and our DARK SIDE ~ Do Not Fear It ~ Embrace It - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAnger and Our Dark Side ~ A force to be Reckoned With In my first book, Lessons for an Urban Goddess, I describe the importance of being in touch with both the light and dark sides of our nature. In order to live your life authentically and mindfully, it is imperative to regulate the ...
Views: 2357(1 vote) - 5 Ways You Are Practicing Self-Hate Without Knowing It - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from Kemi SogunleWe all experience pain in some form but not knowing how to move “Beyond the Pain,” may result in self-hate. Here are 5 ways you may be practicing self-hate without knowing it: 1. You believe everyone is against you. You cannot seem to accept anyone who tries to show you love or care but allow ...
Views: 1595 - Is Love Enough? 3 Truths about Romantic LOVE… - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from Nicola BeerI hear people say all the time… I love my husband/wife but I’m not “In Love” with him/her. I’m just not sure if I love them anymore. I love them but he/she said I don’t love you anymore, is my love enough? These kinds of statements can be extremely confusing not to mention painful ...
Views: 1475 - Should you become friends with your ex? Consider the different perspectives - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2017 from Emma LawsonYou have been together for months or years. You have made so many lovely memories together. There was a time you thought you were inseparable but then the breakup happened. It shattered your present and made the future look bleak. Somehow you got over it through sheer mental strength but now ...
Views: 1553 - Relationships: Is There Less Need For Someone To Develop Their Personality When They Are Attractive? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one drives an old car, and this is a car that is not in good shape, it is unlikely that many people would spend much time looking it. But if this isn’t the case, it would simply come down to the fact that they would find it hard to believe how bad it is. On the other hand, if one drives ...
Views: 1090 - The Selfish Act of Kindness by James Mapes - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2017 from James Mapes“Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.” -Franklin D. Roosevelt Are you a kind person? Do you like to be treated with kindness? Why should you be kind? What if I told you that ...
Views: 1501 - Letting Go: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Feminine Nature Is They Always Need To Be In Control? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to move something, they would pick it up and then put it down once they have found the right spot. While it was in their hands, they would have held on and, when they put it down somewhere, they would have let go. Two Sides It could be said that there are times in life when ...
Views: 1058 - Relationships: Is Being Indifferent A Great Way To Destroy A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wants to develop the ability to do something well, this is generally not going to happen overnight. In order to get to this level, they will need to put in the right effort, and they will need to be persistent. Nature For example, if one was to plant a number of tomato plants in ...
Views: 1639 - Do you want your ex back? Consider these things before taking any step - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2017 from Emma LawsonIt’s heartbreaking. It’s devastating. It brings the whole world down and you see your dreams crumbling into pieces. Yes, we are talking about the breakup and its effect on people. If the relationship has been a long one and you had gotten too close, the breakup hurts more. Most people in such ...
Views: 1658 - Relationships: Should Someone Find Out About Another Person's History Before They Start A Relationship With Them? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the desire to be in a relationship, they could end up going out and/or they could join an online dating site. They could be clear about the kind of person they are looking for, or this could be something that they are not too clear about. In this case, they could believe that ...
Views: 1234 - Is Guilt a Reason to Stay in a Relationship? Marriage Advice - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2017 from Nicola BeerLast week a lady I’m supporting in the in the US said: “Nicola, I want out of this marriage but I feel too guilty to leave.” Many men have shared the same with me. Staying in a relationship because of guilt alone can be a miserable way to live. If this is really all that is keeping a couple and ...
Views: 1719 - Boundaries: Why Don’t Some People Realise When They Are Picking Up On Another Person's Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are often seen as being independent, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Now, this is not to say that they don’t have their own life to lead; what it comes down to is that everyone is connected. Therefore, although everyone has their own physical body, this ...
Views: 1345 - 3 Things We Can All Learn From Barack and Michelle Obama’s Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2017 from Kemi Sogunle1. They supported each other’s mission and growth Supporting your partner’s vision and growth is essential to building a healthy and stronger relationship. Barack in his farewell speech stated,” For the past twenty-five years, you have not only been my wife and mother of my children, you have ...
Views: 1250 - COMMITMENT ~ The reasons why couples commit and how you can get there too. - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachToday's world is filled with hookups, casual encounters, and fast and furious flings. Summer romances and brief passion may be exciting to read about in romance novels, but living it may be a short-lived thrill that ultimately disappoints you, especially if you want something ...
Views: 1429(2 votes) - Relationships: Is Femininity Good And Masculinity Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear about an abusive relationship, there is a strong chance that this would involve someone who uses force to cause harm. This could mean that they use their body to do this and/or they might only use words. Either way, this is going to mean that the other person is going to ...
Views: 1400 - 10 Tips to Get Over Your EX - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2017 from Muhammad AzeemBreak-ups are among the most painful experiences that many of us have to undergo. The pain of losing someone whom you shared your love with and looked forward to a future with – gone. This can be a devastating feeling to many and each of us has to cope somehow in order to be able to move ...
Views: 937 - How to Be Mature About Your Sexuality - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2017 from Alex ReddleSexuality is a touchy subject these days, and people love the conflict of it. So how can you embrace who you are while still being mature about it? --- We’ve come far beyond the days where heterosexuality was the only accepted game in town. Orientations and tastes range far and wide, and ...
Views: 1942 - Depression and the Three-Legged Stool - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2017 from Gary DirenfeldNot all depressions are the same and getting it right matters. Broadly speaking, depression can be divided into two types, exogenous and endogenous. This is not to say that any particular depression is necessarily one or the other. There can be factors of both at play and to different ...
Views: 1675 - ***Loving Yourself Creates Loving Connection With Others - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD January 10, 2017 How often in your life have you felt that magical feeling of deeply connecting with another? Learn how loving yourself leads to having much more of this in your life. As humans, we are hard-wired to want to connect with each other. Until 10,000 ...
Views: 1188 - Can Prayer Really Help Relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2017 from Marcia Naomi BergerPersonally, I grew up with no encouragement to pray. I used to have a vague sense that prayer was for simple, naïve folks, that it was the “opiate for the masses.” So I do understand if you don’t relate to the concept. But perhaps you do. Most Americans Pray Daily. According to a Pew ...
Views: 1573 - Christmas Reflections - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2017 from Joan Marie WhelanAt this time of year, we all go shopping to buy gifts for our loved ones and we try to make a point of making that gift memorable. Have you ever thought of the gift that you receive daily from your Creator? It is a gift of life, of abundance and riches that no material object can improve upon ...
Views: 1278 - ARE YOU DEALING WITH A NARCISSIST? RED FLAGS & HOW TO COPE... - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachAre you dealing with a Narcissist? RED FLAGS & HOW TO COPE From the books: The Urban Goddess Lesson~How to Spot the Bad Boys and Lessons for an Urban Goddess Are you dealing with a true Narcissist? If you believe that you may have a Narcissist in your life, there are specific traits ...
Views: 2304(1 vote) - Relationships: Are Some People More Interested In What People Say Than What They Do? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that what people do is more important than what they say, and this going to come down to the fact that actions speak louder than words. As while it is easy for someone to say something, it is going to take a lot more effort for them to do something. In The Beginning ...
Views: 1290 - Break or Breakup? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachBreak or Breakup? I recently had a discussion with a couple of friends about the controversy of “taking a break” from a relationship that may be heading south. It seemed that the consensus was if it was basically meant to be you wouldn’t need a break. “If someone wants a break, it is ...
Views: 1498(2 votes) - ***Do You Long to Feel Significant? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2017 from Tom KingA number of scholars and authors have written about our primary human needs. Perhaps the most well-known is Abraham Maslow who wrote about the hierarchy of needs. Another related framework that I find useful is described by Chloe Madanes in her book Relationship Breakthrough. This framework of ...
Views: 1711 - 5 Reasons You Need a Backbone to Divorce (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownNo one plans on getting divorced when they get married, and yet that is a possible outcome for some. If you have spent your life mastering people pleasing, always saying yes, being diplomatic, and putting everyone else's needs before yours, you will suffer tremendously if you are confronted with ...
Views: 1299 - Therapy: Can The Need To Be Loyal Stop Someone From Being Able To Change Their Life? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one’s life is not going as they would like it to go, they can do something about it or they can act like a victim. If they were to do something about it, it will naturally give them the chance to change their circumstances. Yet, if they were to act like a victim, there is a strong ...
Views: 1191 - How to be a better person in life and in a relationship - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2017 from Huyen My“Take what you have learned about yourself and become a better person” – Kushandwizdom Everyone wants to have a happy life and live up with wonderful moments. However, what does the happy life mean? I have looked for the answer to this question for a long period of time. What is happiness? ...
Views: 1479 - 7 Tips to Stop Work From Harming Your Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from Nicola BeerIn the current market, long working work hours and high levels of stress seems to be the norm rather than the exception. It used to be entrepreneurs and executives running round fire fighting and answering emails 24/7, now most of my expat friends and clients are doing the same. There is no ...
Views: 1633 - Online Dating: Can Someone Increase Their Chances Of Being Rejected When They Edit Their Pictures? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s uses online dating, the can have the need to create the perfect profile. And as they want to create a good impression, it could be said that this is to be expected. Fortunately, it is not going to need to take them very long to create the right profile. They might have rough ...
Views: 1502 - The Urban Goddess Secret - An Emotional Beauty Toolbox - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachThis article was featured in the Huff Post: In today’s hectic world we often seem to forget the importance of taking the time to restore ourselves and the essence of who we are. Outer beauty may be a head-turner but inner beauty rules. Though beauty can be reflected in our fashion style, ...
Views: 1167(1 vote) - Social Media: Can Social Media Stop People From Having The Ability To Delay Gratification? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there is instant gratification and, on the other hand, there is delayed gratification. When it comes to the former, one way of looking at it would be to say that this is something that comes from the child part of them. The reason for this is what when one was younger, they ...
Views: 1150(1 vote) - Social Media: Why Do Some People Look Towards Social Media To Give Them Approval? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning, it could be said that people generally used social media to get in touch with their friends and family; the people who they actually knew. But as time has passed, this is no longer why a lot of people use it. As for the people who only use it to stay in touch with their ...
Views: 1223 - Relationships: Why Do Some Relationships Come To An End When One Person Has Therapy? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of a relationship, everything can be going fine, and then as it progress certain issues can appear. This can then cause one of them to wonder how the other person could have changed so much. In fact, it could be as if the other person has ended up becoming someone else, and ...
Views: 1484 - Online Dating: Do Some Peoples Profiles Reveal What Kind Of Person They Attract? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go out into the world with the intention of finding another person to be with, it is going to be important for them to come across in the right way. Now, this is not to say that there is only going to be one way for them to behave. For one thing, it can be necessary for them ...
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