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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Love and Relationships - a Feng Shui perspective - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Mariko FisherAll of us love to be loved and most of us appreciate the opportunity to share our love with others. People have been using Feng Shui for centuries to encourage stable and loving partnerships in their lives, induce harmonious family relationships and reduce conflict in the workplace. Many people ...
Views: 2590(3 votes) - Words for Lovers: Erotic Appreciation - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Bonnie GabrielWith Thanksgiving drawing near, I believe this would be an ideal time to discuss the role of gratitude, validation and appreciation in the art of lovemaking. Of course, when we feel validated and appreciated in any aspect of our lives it deepens our sense that we truly matter in this crazy ...
Views: 5711(4 votes) - Teenage Relationship Breaking Up - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2009 from Francis HoseinTeenage relationship break up is not always easy, matter of fact most break ups are not easy as a young person as well as an older person however as an old person they may have experiences of break up. For many teenage, break up can have a very lasting effect on your future life and ...
Views: 1847(1 vote) - Happy Family at Holidays? Not So Fast - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantFor many people, family gatherings during the Happy Holidays aren't so happy. While most of us enjoy getting together at holidays, mixed feelings of love, anxiety and confusion often collide. But why in the world would family holidays cause consternation or anxious feelings? Why would family ...
Views: 2103(5 votes) - Thoughts Become Your Reality - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2009 from Nanette GeigerPerhaps You've seen it said, "Emotional Vibration directly become things"? It's has been said that we have about 60,000 thoughts per day. Can you conceive that with sixty-thousand thoughts every day, all of those thoughts really materialize into your life experience? Don't worry, about ...
Views: 1549(13 votes) - ***On the Road to Love in Morocco - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past five days we have been in two remarkable cities – Tangiers and Casablanca, Morocco. We came to Morocco by boat from Tarifa, Spain – a distance across the Mediterranean Sea of just nine miles. In many ways, however, the short distance in ...
Views: 4226(31 votes) - Controlling Jealousy Before It Controls You - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2009 from Roseanna LeatonJealousy is a dangerous and destructive emotion which can override logical thought and motivate one to act in irrational ways. When you are feeling Jealous you can feel like you are caught up in a tornado which twists its way through your life, destroying everything in its path leaving you and ...
Views: 1415(2 votes) - Always Stay In Love - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2009 from Lilly WhiteAlways Stay In Love New Love is exciting, fun and just comes easy, it seems to flow. After the new wares off and couples settle into the relationship they begin to go about life. What they fail to understand is being in love can always stay through out the relationship and last. Do not ...
Views: 1198(6 votes) - You're Just Not Worth It - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2009 from Deborah HillSorry, you’re just not worth it. It’s nothing personal. I’d say this to anyone. I do love you and don't blame you at all. Still, no matter what you do or say, you’re not worth me getting upset or hurt over. You see, like you I have a light that burns within me. It is fueled by my essence. ...
Views: 4834(2 votes) - Older Women Younger Man - 3 Mistakes Older Women Should Avoid - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2009 from Daryl CampbellYou've come a long way baby. That was the declaration of a certain cigarette commercial in the 1970's basically telling women they had arrived. This was in the midst of the movement to get society to not only recognize the contribution of women but more importantly to extend equal rights and ...
Views: 1437(2 votes) - Why is Your Relationship Not Working - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2009 from Francis HoseinIt is very easy to say to yourself that if only you could change something’s about your partner then everything in your relationship will work out fine for you and maybe that is why your relationship is not working. Entitlement You may not want to say out loud that you blame your partner ...
Views: 1641(1 vote) - 3 Easy Tips To a Better Sex Life - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2009 from Dingane .The sex usually starts off great. It’s fresh, it’s exciting and you worship your partner. Why then does this excitement fade away? Why does the sex and the relationship fade out over time? Well, there are many reasons but keeping your sex life healthy is all about self growth. As a guy, the ...
Views: 1520(5 votes) - ***Love Like A Rock On Gibraltar - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our ongoing search for the world’s best marriages took us to Gibraltar today, or as some refer to it – the Rock of Gibraltar. Doing interviews with happily married couples there seemed like a nice transitional thing to do since we are on our way to ...
Views: 4087(34 votes) - Is Rebound Relationship Any Good - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2009 from Francis HoseinYou have just broken up and it is difficult to deal with, you are questioning yourself as to what went wrong because to you everything was alright, not great but things you felt that needed work with time you will both would work through. Comforting You realize that you are hurting and ...
Views: 1686(1 vote) - Mirror Reflects Hunger Within - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2009 from Jan DeniseMirror Reflects Hunger Within Two out of three Americans are overweight, making obesity the second leading cause of preventable death. Instead of eating less, we spend $35 billion a year on weight loss products. We're not stupid; we're in pain. We have an emptiness, a yearning, a hunger … ...
Views: 1589(5 votes) - Marriage advice: Why love is not enough--does your partner still like you? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhy is it that we have no problem lounging around in our favorite sweatpants (with the hole in the knee) and our favorite threadbare T-shirt (with the rip in the sleeve) in front of our spouse/partner, but if our friends/co-workers were on the way over, we'd change into something "decent" in a ...
Views: 1378(3 votes) - Law of Attraction: 7 Steps to Create a Fulfilling, Loving Relationship #3 in a series - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2009 from Lorna Sophia LevyGet yourself a nice notebook – one that you can write in and make notes. Let it be one that makes you feel good when you look at it. Then follow the steps below. 1. Make a list of all the qualities you want your partner to have – looks, personality, job, attitudes, etc. Make it as long as ...
Views: 1359(3 votes) - "Pre-Wedding Jitters VS. Second Thoughts" - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2009 from Pamela Smale Williams LPC, LMFT, AAMFT, AASECT"Pre Wedding Jitters VS. Second Thoughts" C. 2009 by Pamela Smale Williams LPC LMFT AAMFT AASECT The ring has been chosen and placed on the bride-to-be’s left hand, a symbolic representation of the circle of love that will follow and is accompanied later by the glorious wedding band that ...
Views: 18636(1 vote) - Learn how to Feel Secure and Seek True Love - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2009 from Nanette GeigerA lot of people transfer over trust issues from past relationships, or sometimes childhood events and traumas. The strong emotions from these memories can be a real factor in our ability to create and keep a lasting loving relationship. This was absolutely true in my case, and I was not able to ...
Views: 2478(5 votes) - Toxin-free relationships: How to prioritize the people in your life. - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2009 from Whole Person Balanced LifeOne of my favorite quotes of all time is "Don't make people a priority who only make you an option". I often repeat this quote to myself and have it posted in several areas of my house, as well as my daily planner. It's something I try to remember on a daily basis. We talk a lot about the ...
Views: 12246(5 votes) - Setting Boundaries - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsHave you ever walked away from a person, event or situation and felt resentful or violated? If some of your experiences are making you uncomfortable, then it may be time to set some boundaries. Setting good boundaries is healthy. It is not rude, bad or wrong. It is not bad or rude or wrong! ...
Views: 3004(6 votes) - The truth about marriage advice and why you should be skeptical - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2009 from Richard NicastroAny couples counselor will tell you that not all marriages or relationships are salvageable—despite my best efforts (and my pro-marriage and pro-commitment attitudes), some of the couples I've counseled will still make the painful decision to end their marriage or relationship. A sad fact is ...
Views: 1300(3 votes) - What Can We Do to Improve Our Relationship? Answers from "Ask Peggy" - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2009 from Peggy FergusonCommunication is not only the life's blood of a marriage, it is the cornerstone that the foundation of relationship skills rest on. You have to have good communication skills to be able to convey your love, affection, and commitment to your loved ones. You can not effectively problem solve ...
Views: 3094(3 votes) - Six Super Simple Guidelines for Developing Your Communication Skills By Improving Your Ability to Listen - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Peggy FergusonBuilding a solid foundation for the development of good communication skills involves learning how to listen effectively. There are several elements of effective listening. These elements include attention, reflection, ability to tolerate tension, and ability to challenge the assumptions that ...
Views: 4002(4 votes) - You CAN Mend Pain from the Past and Create the Love of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Nanette GeigerYou have ended a non-functioning relationship that does not work for you anymore. It was difficult to stop the relationship, because it wasn't horrible, although your heart wished to be truly fulfilled in love. Currently you find yourself being lonesome and have a difficult time shutting the ...
Views: 939(4 votes) - Marriage help: Are your arguments helping or hurting your marriage? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Richard NicastroQ: "I need some marriage advice. Is arguing bad for a marriage? My husband says it's healthy to argue from time to time but I try to avoid marital conflict at all costs. Can you shed some light on this for us?" A: Relationship conflicts are a natural part of marriage or a long-term ...
Views: 1303(3 votes) - Positive Parenting: Rediscovering the fine art of redirection and substitution - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Dr. Ken PollockChildren live in an adult world where they are constantly told what NOT to do. Parents and teachers fill their day with “don’t touch that,” “stop doing that”, and there is always the old standby that simply says “NO!” Honestly, as a parent of three children myself I agree that many times it ...
Views: 1451(1 vote) - How To Sky-Rocket A Poor Self-Image and Create Love - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2009 from Nanette GeigerA typical problem for friends of mine is their assumption that you have to lose 50 pounds and/or be financially secure prior to being able to attract long-standing love. This is of course a myth. This is just low self-esteem blocking you from being truly whole. It is wonderful to want to ...
Views: 851(1 vote) - ***The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors – Part 2 - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzContinued from The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors – Part 1 By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. 4. Making marriage too difficult to understand when, in fact, “simple things matter.” We have been saying this for years – our 26+ years of research on ...
Views: 8308(38 votes) - Why REAL Love Goes Beyond Falling in and Out of Love - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessMAIN QUOTE You'll discover that real love is millions of miles past falling in love with anyone or anything. When you make that one effort to feel compassion instead of blame or self-blame, the heart opens again and continues opening ~ Sara Paddison DR. LISA LOVE REFLECTIONS Once ...
Views: 3764 - What’s Scary About Being in a Relationship? Part 1 - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Dr. Cindy BrownWhat’s scary about being in a relationship? I’ll tell you! There are many things we hear from our friends, we see in the news, on TV, or in the latest movies such as “Why Did I Get Married?” AND despite the age-old myth of “you live happily ever after... in bliss,” being in a relationship ...
Views: 1496(12 votes) - Waking Up By Yourself - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockWe know when it's not working; it's like a slap in the face. We thought that it was working but then something happens to remind us that nothing has fundamentally changed at all, and we find ourselves back at square one after all these years. We were smug for awhile, even bragging to friends ...
Views: 1575(1 vote) - How to Bring Out the Best in Others - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Marta HiattFran’s husband had a habit of tossing his dirty socks into the laundry basket, but frequently missing by a few inches and having them land on the floor, where they would usually stay. It really frustrated Fran when she had to pick up his clothing and place it in the basket, even though she’d ...
Views: 1936(11 votes) - ***The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors - Part 1 of 2 - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have studied successfully married couples for over 26 years on six of the world’s seven continents. We have traveled in more countries than we can remember. And while our focus has been on those who have made their marriages work; we are also ...
Views: 5936(38 votes) - Life Coach Teaches How To Create Money AND Love - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Nanette GeigerPat from Washington DC deeply wants to share her life with a love life partner but is worried about being financially stable before attracting her ideal relationship. I truly understand your concern and you're not alone. That's a very understandable emotion for men and women. However, if ...
Views: 972(10 votes) - Men and Intimacy: Is It Really a Fear of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhat is a fear of intimacy? The term "fear of intimacy" is often used to describe someone who has difficulty creating a close connection with their spouse/partner. Typically, the phrase highlights a person's struggle to become physically and/or emotionally close, and we often describe this ...
Views: 1367 - Marriage advice: Your marriage needs this simple communication strategy - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Richard NicastroArguments are a regular part of Lindsey and Hector's relationship. During a recent couples counseling session, they volleyed insults back and forth with such intensity that I almost stopped the session. But then something remarkable happened: Lindsey said, "Our marriage is too important to me ...
Views: 1139(4 votes) - Why Do Those Migraines Keep Messing With Your Life? - by Submitted on May 27, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondThe cures don't last, but it's nice to have care and concern! Bonnie was a hostage to migraine attacks. They lasted for hours and she was unable to do anything but lie down in bed until it passed. Sometimes her migraine was accompanied by nausea and other times by cramps or acid reflux. ...
Views: 1488(2 votes) - What Money Can’t Buy In a Marriage, Laughter Can - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2009 from Noelle NelsonFinances are tight, you hardly go out anymore, so dinner at a restaurant with white tablecloths and candlelight is a BIG deal. You get this great coupon, finagle reservations, get yourself all dressed up (OK, so it’s last year’s fashion, or the year before, who cares), ready for a super night ...
Views: 986(1 vote) - How to Deal When She Plays Hard-to-Get - 5 Ways to Make Her Go After You Instead! - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2009 from Mark TaylorMost women have the tendency to play hard-to-get and the more you try to pursue them, the stronger they'll try to resist you. Although this doesn't necessarily mean they don't like you or that you're simply dumped, this is the part where you have to prove yourself worthy of their attention and ...
Views: 9383(1 vote) - What's The Best Way of Expressing Your Anger? - by Submitted on May 27, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondDo you feel ashamed when you lash out at the people you love the most? Do you wish you could erase it for ever and be free of this beastly emotion? That’s because there is a taboo against feeling and expressing anger, particularly if done in a loud, over the top and explosive way. We don’t ...
Views: 2481(7 votes) - Relationship Help for Single Working Mothers - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Nanette GeigerSusan from North Carolina came to me because she's afraid that she'll never get a new husband because she thinks nobody wants to walk into an already established family. If this rings true for you or a person you know, you may believe that, but it is just not so. I know of women who have ...
Views: 1376(2 votes) - Q&A RE: Wanting vs. Having: Disabling Hypnotic Language - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Jack EliasSeveral questions and concerns came in regarding my article ‘Wanting vs. Having: Disabling Hypnotic Language.’ Regarding my statement, " 4) When we stop wanting and start acting as if we have it, the subconscious mind notices our interest in having and stops denying access to the experience ...
Views: 1659(1 vote) - Divorce to Remarriage: What Happens When You Rush to Wed The Second Time Around - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Alyssa Johnson50% of first marriages end in divorce. 75% of those divorcees will remarry. At least 60% of those remarriages will end in a re-divorce. Sobering statistics aren't they? But why are they this high? 50% of first marriages end in divorce I'm not even going to make a guess at the reason for ...
Views: 8254(1 vote) - Divorce to Remarriage: Meeting the Kids - How to Impress Them Not Depress Them - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Alyssa JohnsonDating after divorce can be tricky. But introducing that special someone to your children is even harder. Let's cover the 4 most important steps to take in that first meeting between your new partner and your children. 1. Don't introduce them too early - Be sure this is a committed ...
Views: 1811 - ***Women Who Wish Their Spouses Would Die - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2009 from Margaret Paul"I feel awful saying this," Mary told me during one of our phone counseling sessions, "but I often wish my husband would die. I feel like a terrible person saying this, but I think about it a lot.""I hear this fairly often," I responded. "You are thinking this, ...
Views: 4771(4 votes) - How to Know If She's Thinking About You? 4 Signs She's Actually Into You! - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2009 from Mark TaylorWe all know how it feels when we get stung by the biting venom of attraction --- all that butterfly thing inside our stomach and that warm feeling we can't deny --- it feels all good, right? However, it also entails that dreaded feeling of being rejected or what if all she thinks about you is a ...
Views: 15641 - How to Get to Know Yourself Better than You Do Now - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2009 from Jan AshbyWe often meet new people, whether in a work setting or a social one. Whether we interact with them or not, there is a tendency to make a judgment - to develop a like or dislike, instinctively. This has much to do with personality; you may detect something in another which attracts you, or ...
Views: 1204 - 5 Great Ways To Feng Shui Your Bed - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2009 from Ken LauherDuring Feng Shui consultations, clients frequently ask me to evaluate the Feng Shui of their bed and share the key factors to look for when purchasing a new bed. I've found some common mistakes that people make or are making that may be having an impact on their relationships, health, wealth and ...
Views: 1697(2 votes) - Tolerating Poor Behaviour from Others - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsWithin the article, I don’t plan to go into all the details of why some people tolerate poor behaviour more than others, but I do plan to give you a few key concepts which may help you put appropriate boundaries in place when dealing with such people. On the whole, we often attempt to be kind ...
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