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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Disadvantages of Debating and How To Avoid It For Better Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2010 from J. AcobArguments - what's it good for? Debates are rarely "won." When you think you won an argumentation, what did you gain? The "loser" at least learned something, right? But what did you get? arguing practice, ego satisfaction, and diminished Brain power. Argument Decreases Brain Power? At ...
Views: 5075(1 vote) - The Woman In A Man’s World: Communicating With Men - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraMen- “Can’t live them, can’t live without them.” Communicating with men can be tricky. Yes, we speak the same language yet we have different interpretations when we converse. We live in the same environment yet we see things differently. They are creatures of unfathomable depths (or ...
Views: 1419 - Aligning With Your Desire With the Law of Attraction - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2010 from Nanette GeigerIf you are not aligned with your desire, the law of attraction will be working against you in terms of achieving that desire. Remember the Law of Attraction is always happening. The LOA matches vibration. It mirrors back what you're sending out - whether you're deliberately vibrating or stagnant ...
Views: 821 - How to Free Your Real Desires Using the Law of Attraction - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2010 from Nanette GeigerI can't understand what is blocking my intention. How do I remove what is in my way so I can attain that which I truly desire? Have you ever read the philosophy of Hermeticism? "As above, so below. As within, so without". This ancient phrase essentially just voices what many New Agers, ...
Views: 833 - Good Conversation Starters: Questions that Get Conversations Rolling - by Making conversation, or "small talk", at a party, work function or other social event can sometimes be frustrating. There is a skill and an art to speaking with people in a casual or fun way.
Avoid those awkward conversational lulls with these tips and sample conversation starters. ...
Views: 2275 - Making Up with Your Ex - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2010 from Andrew HunterIf you are like most people, you probably want to get your ex back after getting dumped. You find yourself wondering if it's even possible to ever get that relationship back. I want you to know, from personal experience, that it is absolutely possible. But Let me first warn you that this isn't ...
Views: 1892(1 vote) - How to Avoid a Breakup - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2010 from Andrew HunterA lot of people out there today don't know what to do to keep a breakup from happening. You got to agree that it's not easy to prevent a breakup from occurring. Schools don't provide classes on how to have great and meaningful relationships. I'm getting off topic here..but these are the most ...
Views: 1469(2 votes) - The Perpetuation and Termination of Low Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2010 from David SamuelThis article is directed towards people with low self-esteem and so is one sided to that view. A child is born very intelligent with an excellent learning capacity. This is based on the fact of how quickly a child learns to speak possibly several languages, walk, etc. The child is ...
Views: 1377(1 vote) - What You Must Do to Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2010 from Daryl CampbellIt's no fun being alone for the holidays. In all honesty being alone after the holidays is no great shakes either. This weighs particularly heavy if you have just recently broken up with your ex. You don't need them as some kind of crutch to get through this time of year. That's where ...
Views: 689(1 vote) - ***"I Just Want to Explain" - Explaining as a Form of Control - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2010 from Margaret Paul"My husband never lets me explain anything to him. It's so frustrating! He makes these statements that are blaming and attacking and then he won't listen to me when I'm trying to explain.""Why do you want to explain?""I NEED to explain because he is not seeing things ...
Views: 3814(3 votes) - Dealing with Jealousy in a Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2010 from Gregory SmithDealing with jealousy in a relationship can be an incredibly challenging endeavor because jealousy is among the ugliest of emotions, and can cause the worst of behaviors in people. Your best bet is always to recognize jealousy early in a new relationship, and then immediately address that ...
Views: 3448(5 votes) - Three Tips to Mending a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2010 from Andrew HunterAre you suffering heartache from a broken relationship and you can't seem to move on? Do you want to know how to stop feeling miserable and continue living your life? Read these three best secrets that can help heal your pain and help you move on. First, you need to spoil yourself. Feeling ...
Views: 1012(2 votes) - Are you “Abandoning” yourself in your relationships? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2010 from Marshall ZaleOften I see couples or hear the sadness of friends who commonly complain about their mates and wish for a paradigm shift. I hear them echo “If they can only be this way” or “If they were more like that.” When I pose the question: ” Why are you in the relationship?”, the answers vary but they are ...
Views: 3445(3 votes) - ***Make Love Your New Years Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This is the time of the year when so many of us make promises to ourselves and to others that we rarely ever keep! These so-called “New Year’s Resolutions” sound good when we make them but, all too often, we ignore them by Valentine’s Day. You ...
Views: 3697(36 votes) - 3 Blaring Signs Your Ex Wants You Back - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2010 from Andrew HunterBreaking up is not something I wish upon anyone, even my worst nemesis. It can cause you to have all sorts of emotions. It happens a lot to people, wanting to know if your ex wants you back or having second thoughts about you. Especially if you there weren't any signs of a breakup. These clues ...
Views: 7908(8 votes) - Engagement Anxiety Relieved: A Media Diet - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2010 from Sheryl PaulTransitions render us more vulnerable emotionally and psychologically than during other times in our lives. Being in a transition means that we are between stages and identities: no longer single but not quite married; no longer a non-mother but not quite a mother. These in-between zones are ...
Views: 4665(2 votes) - Amazing Ways for How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2010 from Jessica AndrewsBeing separated from your beloved partner who's company you're used to can be very tough to adjust yourself to. A lot of things can put a physical distance between a couple, such as a job in a different city, and it may not be long before one or both of you are asking how you can Make a Long ...
Views: 953(2 votes) - Powerful Steps for How to Make a Relationship Work - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2010 from Jessica AndrewsIf we had all the wisdom of what makes a relationship tick, our first love would probably be our one and only. But it just doesn't work out that way. For some people years of painful experience and heartbreak are required to learn How to Make a Relationship Work. It's not to say that the ...
Views: 1256(1 vote) - NOT ATTRACTED TO MY HUSBAND – BIG PROBLEM? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2009 from Diana Weiss-WisdomThe Birds, the Bees, and Blended Families Dear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom, This is my second marriage and it’s the second marriage for my husband too. My first husband was very good looking and we had great chemistry. I was very attracted to him but within a couple of years it was clear that we were ...
Views: 2385(2 votes) - What Choice Do You Have? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2009 from Rebecca MoreheadDid you know that you are ten times more likely to make a change in your life by setting a New Year's resolution than someone who does not set one? That gives you pretty good odds to stack against making no resolution this year at all. You are even more likely to achieve your goals if you write ...
Views: 1234(2 votes) - The Art of Intimacy - Part Two - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellHaving a close relationship with the love of your life is both easy and challenging. If you start off your relationship being close it is much easier to continue this as your relationship grows, but it is never too late to get closer. A key element of a happy and rewarding relationship is ...
Views: 1096(3 votes) - Make Every Moment a Special Moment - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellWe all want to have those special moments with our partner. We want, sometimes desperately to make them experience the greatest nights of their lives. We plan, we try, and we spend a fortune trying to produce that once in a lifetime event. If only we realized that the true ingredient for special ...
Views: 7172(3 votes) - Stop Throwing Spears - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Michelle GottliebSometimes when we are scared, frightened, startled, we react with anger. It is a very natural reaction, probably based back in our cave man times. If something big and scary was approaching us, we had better react with a strong offense or we would get eaten. Unfortunately, that natural ...
Views: 1515 - Find Your Perfect Anniversary Gift by Year - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Jimmy WagnerOver the years several traditions have developed for anniversary gifts by the year. There are lists for every year, with the most well-known remaining the silver 25th Anniversary and the golden 50th Anniversary. Husbands can find wonderful gift ideas by using both the time honored lists as well ...
Views: 537(1 vote) - For Women Only: How to Have the Relationship of Your Dreams - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from MONICA FRANKIf women could just change one thing, they would find that they could have almost everything they want in a relationship. Of course, I'm talking about women who are married to the average decent non-abusive man. I don't know how often I've heard a woman say, "But I shouldn't have to ask." ...
Views: 1344(3 votes) - What to Do When Your Jealousy Threatens to Destroy Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from MONICA FRANKWHAT IS IRRATIONAL JEALOUSY? Frequently, I am asked how to handle irrational jealous feelings. Usually, the individual recognizes that her feelings are unreasonable with no valid evidence but feels incapable of controlling the jealousy. In addition, the person usually recognizes the ...
Views: 3674(3 votes) - 3 Secrets to Manage Breakups - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2009 from Andrew HunterAlright, so something happened and now you find yourself alone again. If you are feeling lost and lonely, you likely want to know how to survive a breakup. It is typical for you to feel depressed and hurt after a breakup. It might sound trite, but it will take time to come back from the breakup. ...
Views: 1421(3 votes) - Five Simple Things You Can Do to Make a Relationship Work - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2009 from Andrew HunterRelationships can be very difficult. Simply taking two completely unique people and tossing them together all their habits is bound to result in at least a little friction. Learning the secrets of making a relationship work is very key. You can always work things out no matter what stage things ...
Views: 3114(3 votes) - How to Avoid the Most Common Problems People Make When Getting Back Their Ex - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2009 from Andrew HunterIt is actually really easy to get back with your ex after breaking up, but most people will find it very difficult due to some pretty typical mistakes that they make from the start. They typically end up harassing him with constant phone calls, e-mails, and text messages. This sort of ...
Views: 1817(1 vote) - Breaking Up Tips - The End of Dating or Love - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2009 from Bob PiersonBreaking up a relationship is always going to be tough and is never fun but with some Breaking Up Tips you can make the process a little more bearable and smooth for the both of you. Breaking up is usually the result of coming to the realization that the other person is just “not the one” or ...
Views: 883(3 votes) - The Conscious Groom: What Men Really Feel - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2009 from Sheryl PaulWhile I was researching and writing “The Conscious Bride” thirteen years ago, I simultaneously took notes and interviewed for the obvious sequel, “The Conscious Groom”. But when I presented the idea to my publisher they said that there simply wasn’t a male market for that kind of book. Perhaps ...
Views: 3493(5 votes) - Does marriage counseling work? Yes! - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2009 from Norman CsarniYes! Marriage counseling works. However, is seeking professional marriage counseling necessary? Some people would recommend marriage counseling. Most often advise marriage counseling is not necessary. What is indeed marriage counseling? How does marriage counseling work? Most urge to ...
Views: 1665(5 votes) - 2010 Marriage Resolution: Break Free of your Him-and-Her Pattern Prisons - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2009 from Noelle NelsonAh, the joy of a New Year! The endless possibilities, opportunities to set new goals, to achieve new heights! To break old patterns that no longer serve you, like nixing the danish and choosing fruit, actually going to the gym rather than just donating your membership fee as if to charity, ...
Views: 1419(3 votes) - ***Parents, Love, and the Holidays - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This Holiday Season again reminds us of the importance of being with those you love as you celebrate the joy of the season. We have heard repeatedly during our many interviews with successfully married couples around the world the importance they ...
Views: 3599(37 votes) - How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back in 8 Steps - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2009 from Ram GunjalBreakup with your boyfriend is painful, especially if until now you could not forget him. So, how to get your ex boyfriend back? There’s so many ways and here I will explain to you the 8 steps to get your ex back. 1. Find Information You’ll try to find out about how the ex (former boyfriend) ...
Views: 2867(2 votes) - Aphrodisiacs: For A More Satisfying Sex Life - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraSex is essential to a marriage or any other romantic relationship. Without it, no matter how much you love each other, you will feel there’s something missing. Sex is an expression of your love and it releases tension and makes you feel good afterwards. But no matter how much you love to have ...
Views: 1044(1 vote) - Engagement Anxiety Relieved: Daily Journaling - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2009 from Sheryl PaulWhen my clients are struggling with engagement anxiety and marriage fear, they often ask what they can do between sessions to help alleviate their suffering. I offer a variety of specific exercises depending on the details of the client’s story, but there is one exercise I suggest to all my ...
Views: 5827(2 votes) - Surviving the Break up of a Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2009 from Ryan D'eathSo you’ve been dumped, most of us have been there, so you’re not alone. This is the first article, of several, that will provide the most effective methods of surviving a break up, and help you either get on with your life, or eventually get your ex back. - For starters, and I know most break ...
Views: 1026(4 votes) - Growing in Wisdom and Love - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2009 from M.J. RyanIf there is a through line in my life, both personally and as a writer, it is to identify and develop those qualities that help us grow individually and collectively in wisdom and love. That’s ultimately why I’m so interested in self trust. “Wisdom,” Buddhist monk Khandro Rinpoche says, “is ...
Views: 1678(4 votes) - The Huge Capacity of Intention and the Law of Attraction - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Nanette GeigerDid you know that your emotions are vastly more universally influential than your intellect? Maybe you realize that in some way. Your heart's magnetic field and energy field is 5000 times more powerful than your brain's. Why is that important? It's important to realize that since when you want ...
Views: 881(2 votes) - How to successfully survive the holidays when you are single! - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Rhonda RabowAs you know, the holiday season is quickly approaching. For many people it is a time of joy, celebration with family and friends and a whirlwind of activity. For others, it can come with a lot of mixed feelings. For those who are single, and don’t want to be stay that way, it can be a time for ...
Views: 1064(2 votes) - 5 Unique Anniversary Gifts That Will Spice Up Your Marriage - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Jimmy WagnerEvery couple knows that even with deep love, affection, and a strong devotion, a marriage needs the occasional new spark. Passion has its ups and downs, but a little spice, change, and spontaneity are sure to help. Take a look at a few unique anniversary gifts or any day of the year gifts that ...
Views: 557(1 vote) - THE SUBTLETY AND VARIETY OF EROTIC TALK - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2009 from Bonnie GabrielMany people initially think of "talking dirty" when they hear the words "erotic talk". But as I explain in my book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite and Enchant Your Lover with Words (Random House), the phrase means so much more than that.: "Words are wonderful ...
Views: 4235(2 votes) - Secret Influence In Submission - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2009 from Vonzel SawyerI was moving along with one of the most important things I do on a daily (okay every 4-5 days) basis. This is something I can’t do without and gives me the greatest of pleasures. Yes, I was cooking chili and baking cornbread. Eating is a pleasure especially when you place a personal touch on the ...
Views: 1575(3 votes) - How To Attract Happiness and Contentment In Your Life - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2009 from Joanna VaiouWe all know that most of the people desire to be happy and healthy in body and mind. That is absolutely true. What most of the people do not understand is how to produce happiness in their life instead of letting despair lead them to the garden of misery and depression. Here are some ...
Views: 3041(5 votes) - The Ultimate Holiday Gift: Nurture your marriage this holiday season - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2009 from Richard NicastroIf it's the season to be jolly… …then why am I seeing so many stressed, beleaguered couples walking around? Is it more apt to say, 'Tis the season to feel tense, frustrated and constantly on the go? Whether you're feeling totally overwhelmed or slightly frustrated, it's easy to lose ...
Views: 1154(5 votes) - Power Partner's, Intimacy In Top Form - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2009 from Lori SnyderThere's one sad truth in life I've found while journeying east and west - The only folks we really wound are those we love the best. We flatter those we scarcely know we please the fleeting guest, And deal full many a thoughtless blow to those who love us best. ~Ella Wheeler Wilcox Many ...
Views: 1316(1 vote) - The Right Way To Get Your Ex Back Without Messing Up - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2009 from Tim RyanOccasionally relationships come to a natural conclusion, maybe you both simply drifted away from each other and maybe you had different goals in mind. It is not so bad in these situations when it just feels like time to move on. It can be extremely difficult however if your relationship does ...
Views: 1563(2 votes) - Getting Your Ex Back - Making These Two Mistakes Will Destroy Your Chances - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2009 from Daryl CampbellThe relationship is over. Sure you and your significant other have said that to each other on more than a few occasions but neither you ever really believed it let alone actually went thru with it. Not This time. After once too many rides on the emotional roller coaster both of you have ...
Views: 1113(1 vote) - Keeping The Fire Burning: Romance For Busy People - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraRomance for busy people can be quite tricky. Aside from juggling career and family, they have to give extra effort for romance in the relationship. Unlike before when it’s just the two of you, it is so easy to have leisure time for romance after work. But now, with the kids and household chores, ...
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