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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Understanding Your Pre-School Child - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraIf your child is in the pre-school stage this only means one thing- you are done with the terrible 2’s and 3’s. Now, comes a new world for parenting, the pre-school age. This is now a whole new different ball game. This is the time when your precious ones are starting to explore. Pre-school ...
Views: 744(2 votes) - I Do But Not With You - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Delete DeleteWhy your man is stalling commitment, and what you can do to set him straight. As a spiritual counselor, I've been asked this question many times: How can I make my man commit? The cold truth is that you can't. You can't make someone do anything that they don't want to. Well, you can, but ...
Views: 1577(3 votes) - My Guide on How to Fix a Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Andrew HunterThere are no 100% perfect relationships. It doesn't matter how many people you date, there will always be a few issues that come to light. Whether or not you know how to fix a relationship is often the determining factor in determining if your relationship with make it. Don't panic if you think ...
Views: 1151(4 votes) - Reach Out and Connect - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Terrie AndersonThis is the first in a series of articles to help you improve your communication skills and establish stronger relationships at all levels. A lot of stress and angst can be removed from our lives if we can learn to effectively communicate. Communication is far more than words; it involves ...
Views: 2495(3 votes) - He's Rich, She's Hot! So What? - Beyond Appearances and Towards Real Love - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessIt's the stereotypical trade - sex objects for success objects. Attractive women (or men) for wealthy men (or women). This barter of status (looks and wealth) is ancient and deeply ingrained in the human psyche. And, it is pitched to us as the ideal over and over again in the media (television, ...
Views: 2878(2 votes) - The Ultimate Gift; Choosing How You Feel - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Layne SchmidtI grew up hearing that moods were something that came from God. I’m not sure how anyone came to that conclusion but that was what was passed down to me. Something, somewhere along the line got interpreted into the idea of a heavy or dark mood was a “gift” that you needed to go through in order ...
Views: 1458(2 votes) - Understanding You – Utilizing A Few Quick Tools to Increase Your Vibration - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Nanette GeigerSo you have been practicing being a meaningful attractor and now you have seen how powerfully the Law of Attraction will function in your experience. Life tends to roll along pretty well. The inertia of what's going on just sort of takes the reigns. And then you simply do not remember to be ...
Views: 1011(1 vote) - "We Can't Communicate" - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat are couples really meaning when they say, "We can't communicate"?The issue with understanding what this means is what they mean by "communicate."All too often, when a partner states, "We can't communicate," what he or she means is "I can't get my partner ...
Views: 10316(6 votes) - Relationship Breakthrough: Free Teleclass Provides Couples with Tools to Conquer Conflict and Gain Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Rachel MohebanNew York, – December 4, 2009 Relationships can be challenging at the best of times, especially if you don’t enter them with a clear head and the right “tools” to grow together and learn from one another rather than grow apart. Obtaining these tools and learning how to effectively communicate in ...
Views: 1248(1 vote) - 5 Simple Tips to Keeping the Romance Alive - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Rachel MohebanRelationships take work. They don’t just magically happen and fairytales are never true. The truth is that being in a positive and healthy relationship requires attention from both ends in order to make it grow and work for the long term. If you, as a couple, have taken a turn for the worse, ...
Views: 1321(2 votes) - My Personal Advice on Breaking Up - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Andrew HunterBreakups can be very difficult and painful. Here is some advice I've picked up over the years on how to help you move on, get closure about the breakup or even giving your relationship a second shot. The reasons behind the split up don't matter, all relationships that end have either one or ...
Views: 1209(2 votes) - Love Myth: Love is Blind -- Love Truth: Love is Consciousness - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessIt’s a common saying, “Love is blind.” And, it’s a phrase that has been stated by numerous well known people. Many movies also proclaim it. Yet, is this really true? Or, is it just another myth about love that prevents us from knowing what love really is, and therefore, stops us from attracting ...
Views: 6790(1 vote) - Relationships: What Others Love & Remember Most About Us - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Krystal KuehnPeople will forget what you did; people will forget what you said; but they won’t forget the way you made them feel. ~unknown We all love to be around people who make us feel good. They may make us laugh and not take life too seriously. Their attitude and perspective may encourage us. They ...
Views: 1717(3 votes) - THE TIGER WOODS AFFAIR: WHY NICE GUYS CHEAT - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2009 from Lisa DailyBy now you've probably heard the sordid details of Tiger Woods alleged affairs with cocktail waitress Jamiee Grubbs, New York city nightclub hostess Rachel Uchitel, and Las Vegas party planner Kalika Moquin. The scandal comes as a bit of a surprise to his many fans, especially considering his ...
Views: 2925(2 votes) - The Good, The Bad, and the Beautiful - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellEvery day of our lives we are confronted with the good and the bad. Our work, our friendships, commute, relationships, everything has its ups and downs. When in a relationship, whether it is a marriage or boyfriend/girlfriend, we can be flooded with warm feelings that make us secure and feel ...
Views: 1011(3 votes) - The Secret to Successful Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2009 from Gary JordanHave you ever been in a conversation where it was obvious the other person couldn't wait for you to finish talking in order to say something? We all have I’m sure, and it’s not a great feeling. You see, relationships are like lengthy conversations. There is a back-and-forth quality that ...
Views: 1087(1 vote) - My Guide for Dealing with Breakups - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2009 from Andrew HunterDealing with a breakup is no small task to do. Upon first being dumped, most people will tend to go a bit crazy for a while. I know I've had to experience all that myself. I've made phone calls and written e-mails that I wish I hadn't. This is obviously not the correct way to deal with a ...
Views: 1443(1 vote) - There Goes Happily Ever After - 5 Reasons Why Couples Get Divorced - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2009 from Daryl CampbellThere may be a difference of opinion on the exact number but there is no doubt that the divorce rate in this country is outrageously high. It's so out of control that one person in California is gathering signatures in an effort to have a referendum on banning divorce. Will it work? Not ...
Views: 890(1 vote) - You Do Not Need to Re-Make the Wheel - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2009 from Nanette GeigerThere are specific steps to bringing about your desire. You do not need to re-invent the wheel. Think of the Universe as a gigantic intention-fulfilling machine. The Universe is designed to work with your desires, not against you. Because it fulfills your desires every time you wonder ...
Views: 908(1 vote) - When Change is Wrong - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2009 from Lori SnyderWe all know that to change and grow, to have an open mind and be flexible with the daily and not so-daily changes in our life is a must in order to flourish, however there is one area where, when we expect change, it is an absolute recipe for disaster. You may be able to already guess which ...
Views: 1415(1 vote) - May December Affair: Older Women Dating Younger Men - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraMay December affair is a romantic affair between two people having significant age difference. The age gap can range between 5- 40 years. May December affair have been going on since the dawn of time. We are usually use to seeing men with younger women. It is a perennial occurrence when men go ...
Views: 5649(3 votes) - Love And Lust: Setting The Record Straight - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraSometimes, when the passion in the relationship is intense knowing the difference between love and lust can be misleading. The lingering effect of great sex chemistry can blind the couple into believing they are meant to be. You get to wonder sometimes, is great sex enough as basis to have ...
Views: 852(2 votes) - ***Healing the Fear of Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhy would someone be afraid of intimacy? Don't we all want to feel close and connected with someone?Yes, of course we want that, but there are very real fears that keep us from opening to emotional intimacy in a primary relationship.The FearsWhat is the first fearful thought you think when you ...
Views: 6485(4 votes) - How To Give Yourself What You Want and Stop Getting Mad - by Submitted on May 27, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondI do what you want, but you never let me do what I want! Justin had his heart set on the new BMW sports car, but Bernice wondered whether it was the best way of spending money at this point. There were other more important priorities like her business start up, the kids school fees and house ...
Views: 1864(2 votes) - Relationship Travel Tips: 5 simple ways to avoid upsets! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Dr. Cindy BrownThis article was inspired by many of my own personal traveling discoveries and by the many complaints my clients have shared with me after their traveling journeys. I coach couples to be sure they get to know each other as a traveling couple and discuss all the details with each other before ...
Views: 1831(2 votes) - Inside The Liar’s Den: Catching A Liar - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraIn this day and age of survival, everybody would go to extra miles to get ahead. May it be in romantic or professional relationship, everybody wants success, to have that people go to extra lengths to reach the top. Some people would deliberately pull other people down if it will benefit them. ...
Views: 1685(3 votes) - How to Experience The Perfect Now - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Nanette GeigerI just told my husband “this is not the best part of the day for sparking my creativity.” It's later in the afternoon when my mind will turn to caffeine or sugary delights. He said: “But you can make it your best time now”! And I wondered ... hmmm, yes, I could. So that's the thing I am doing. ...
Views: 1010(2 votes) - How to Get Back Your Boyfriend After He Dumped You - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Andrew HunterSo something happened and you find your relationship is suddenly in turmoil. I can't say exactly how you got here, but I'm will to bet that you want to reconcile with your boyfriend. Maybe you made some sort of mistake. Maybe he is at fault. Or maybe you two made a mutual agreement. All those ...
Views: 5176(1 vote) - The Three Myths of Flirting - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Meghan GehanANYONE can be successful at flirting and dating, however there are certain misconceptions that you must overcome in order to flirt effectively and naturally. After all, isn’t the goal of flirting to improve not only the number of dates you have ahead of you…but also the quality, strength and ...
Views: 2171(1 vote) - 5 reasons marriages end in divorce - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Richard NicastroQ: "I'm getting married in a month and want to know why so many marriages end in divorce. What should I look out for? How can I prevent divorce?" ~Sandra, Houston TX A: Understanding why a marriage or relationship might fail can alert couples to their own unique relationship ...
Views: 2162(3 votes) - How To Commemorate The Wedding Anniversary - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraI know a couple who take note of their engagement anniversary monthly. Surely this couple gives much more meaning to the celebration of their wedding anniversary which finalized their vows and made them into one. They are just happy to remember the memorable times of their lives. Taking note ...
Views: 956(2 votes) - Context is Everything - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Gregory MorganTrue Love involves loyalty, humility, commitment, fidelity and honor. Ideals that form the fundamental context of life long relationships. Context is the environment of relationship: The framework of ideas, assumptions, traditions and beliefs that form a certain perspective. Some are ...
Views: 2235(1 vote) - A Myth in our Midst - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Gregory MorganThere is a myth in our culture that is so prevalent it may ultimately decide the future of our species. The law of sexual attraction is parading in a lover’s mask. When so many songs, poems and stories wrap love and romance together as a single item no wonder there’s confusion. The line ...
Views: 1137(1 vote) - Addictive Love - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Gregory MorganWhat could be more intoxicating than the delight, anticipation, adventure of romantic love? It has the power to awaken our highest spiritual worth and fulfill our deepest need for belonging. As a culture we are infatuated with the drama of Romance and addicted to the adrenalin. Yet with ...
Views: 1234(1 vote) - Men give Advice - Spirit gives Guidance - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Gregory MorganA teacher told me long ago, "Never lead others without being led yourself." Pause for a moment and ask your heart, "What is guiding me?" We realize that your relationships can work for you or against you. They can stop you in your tracks or transform your life. Do you have the courage to ...
Views: 1181(1 vote) - Romantic Love - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Gregory MorganRomantic Love began as a spiritual aspiration. Instinctively, we seek a world that is beyond the reach of our day-to-day mentality The word aspire means “breath” aspiration means to “breath life into” Spiritual aspiration means to seek after, to reach for, and to rise above the smallness of ...
Views: 1089(1 vote) - Holiday Season... A time for Gratitude or Unsolicited Advice/Ridicule - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Tricia DyckaThe Holiday Season is a wonderful time for us to reconnect with our family and friends. We might have seen some of them just yesterday, and for others, many months or years have passed. We gather together enjoying a variety of delicious foods and beloved company, hopefully sharing a peaceful ...
Views: 1384(2 votes) - Why It Rains When it Pours - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Bella ShingEver noticed how when bad things happen, they seem to come tumbling in and that the same is true for good things? I have a friend who had everything break down in a single week, her phone, her car, she's filing bankruptcy and she lost everything on her hard drive (5 years of precious projects ...
Views: 1352(1 vote) - What brings us to a point of change?: Words to Encourage You - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Janice Brooks,What brings us to a point of change? The answer to that question can be extremely complex when we explore all the events that occur in our personal lives and the impact of society and the environment and a hundred other variables outside of our control. It is human nature to ask the question, ...
Views: 1274(3 votes) - Get Your Views Across Confidently and Clearly - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Bette Lawrence-WaterThis article provides tips on effectively expressing your views. Doing so will vitally improve your ability to enjoy satisfying relationships with others. These simple strategies will help you to express your ideas confidently and purposefully. You will also gain the respect of others ...
Views: 2771(3 votes) - Promises, Promises, Promises - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2009 from Cheryl PetersenMary Poppin’s comeback, “That’s a pie crust promise, easily made, easily broken,” echoes in my head as I listen to partners repeat marriage vows to one another. Weddings may be impressive, but statistics have it; human beings are not good at keeping their promises. The divorce rate is such that ...
Views: 1394(1 vote) - Meet Six Needs and Bond for Life - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 27, 2009 Meet Six Needs and Bond for Life Relationships make for a happy, fulfilling life or a miserable existence. So, why didn't our parents sit us down early on and teach us to do relationships well? If you think about ...
Views: 1597(5 votes) - How to Fix a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Andrew HunterIt just seems to come out of the blue. That "Let's take a break" moment when it seems like your relationship is in danger. Your life seems to be caving in on you and your heart is left in ruins. Sure your friend and family are trying to comfort you and make you feel better, but they really don't ...
Views: 2178(2 votes) - Money, What Is Your Story? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2013 from Laura YoungMany of our cultural beliefs about money are confusing and conflicted. In addition to cultural pressures, we have familial beliefs, that are unexamined, “hand me downs.” In the book “The Road Less Traveled”, Scott Peck alleges that parents give children a second hand God to worship, a God in ...
Views: 9594(7 votes) - When Does Giving them a Hard Time Pay Off? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Gina GardinerWhen Does Giving Them a Hard Time Pay Off? One of the fundamental principles of modifying behaviour you don’t want is that you reward the behaviours you most want to encourage. Yet many partners of workaholics work against this principle. Picture this;- A wife or husband wants to ...
Views: 1648(1 vote) - Are You Guilty of Horsetrading - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Gina GardinerPure love is very simple. You love the person for who they are – right now, whatever they are doing or not doing. In its simplest terms, you love them and give your love unconditionally. Many of us believe that is what we do, ye, the reality is, we love them, but we want something in ...
Views: 2363(1 vote) - ***Avoiding Your Feelings by Focusing on Your Partner - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Margaret PaulWe all have many addictive ways of avoiding feeling our painful feelings and taking responsibility for them. Some of the ways are obvious, such as using substances and processes. Some of the ways can be very subtle.Leon often struggled with feeling empty inside. Inner emptiness is a symptom of a ...
Views: 5553(3 votes) - How do I get that which I desire, even though I have never been successful at the Law of Attraction in the past? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Nanette GeigerTo begin, I would say that you certainly HAVE been manifesting for your entire life. Maybe you've been getting what you DON'T desire, but you have manifested. Bear in mind that your feelings create and eventually become events in your life. With the help of a Life Coach, you can speed up the ...
Views: 993(1 vote) - What *Sign* Are You Wearing? The Truth About First Impressions - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Janice BennettIt’s not uncommon for singles to ask, “What’s your sign?” when meeting someone new. Depending on the extent of their belief in astrology, knowing someone’s astrological sign can aid in making assumptions or conclusions about someone’s personality, character, and consequently, their potential ...
Views: 2250(3 votes) - Tips for Getting Your Ex Back After a Breakup - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Andrew HunterTrust me, I know how bad it feels to be dumped. It feels like you are getting hit by a bucket of cold water. You suddenly find yourself lost and uncertain about everything--especially if the two of you where together for a while. It can feel like you've lost all your will to live. This is why I ...
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