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Here's practical advice for meeting women (or men). You're waiting for an elevator or you're squeezin' the Charmin at the market when you spot someone intriguing. You break the ice with a smile. Even a slight chin or eyebrow lift can get his or her attention. Next comes the fun (or scary) part: ... Views: 4587
Dear Doc:
I've known this girl for about a year now and I like her a lot. To cut a long story short, I've lost her twice now because of my lack of confidence which stops her from seeing me as more than a friend. She knows I'm interested and we almost had something but I pushed her away ... Views: 3380
Everyone at some point in their lives is faced with the cold hard facts that in some area of their life change needs to occur - big time! For many people, their whole lives are about avoiding the changes they need to make. However, life has a funny way of catching up with you, and when it does ... Views: 2252
Who’s not scared of love? I mean whether you are scared that it will or will not find you, that it will or will not last, that it can or cannot exist – in some theory we are each scared of love. Scared of getting our hearts broken – scared of taking a risk – scared of putting ourselves out ... Views: 1556
Abuse can come in many different forms – physical, emotional and even financial. If you are not sure if you are in a bad situation, review the different types of abuse and warning signs to see if you need assistance.
1. Physical abuse – This does not only apply to women or men who are bruised ... Views: 2607
We all have history. For many, history forms our present views of relationships. From our past, we determine what we liked in relationships and what we didn’t like. This becomes, in part, the basis for forming new relationships when we have had the experience of ending one. One might think ... Views: 1204
Some people end up living very lonely lives, with few friends, and no loving partner. Why? Because their fear of being rejected is so powerful that they can't find the courage to approach others socially. Learn what you can do to increase your confidence and improve your social ... Views: 4605
There is no denying that it takes a substantial blast of mojo to walk up to a complete stranger and introduce yourself. Fear of rejection is a definitely a mindset that will debilitate even the heartiest of seasoned singles. However, having stated the obvious, at the end of the day what have you ... Views: 2990
It can feel shocking when the man you were in a long-term relationship with starts dating again, while you are still getting over the loss of the relationship and being alone. It opens up new wounds of betrayal and heartache. Here are some tips on how to handle the challenges of bouncing back ... Views: 737
Knowing the warning signs of a controlling relationship is crucial because it helps you avoid being manipulated and controlled by a potential partner. If dealt with correctly, you can re-establish a balanced relationship in which both parties participate fairly in the decision-making process and ... Views: 3125
Dear Coach Yvonne,
I met a very nice man 3 months ago and we're enjoying getting to know each other but here's the thing, we live 3,000 miles away and neither of us wants to move. We've seen each other a couple of times since meeting but that's about it. I'm wondering if I should pursue this ... Views: 1617
Are you one of those people who finds it difficult to start up a conversation with somebody new, or someone you barely know?
This is a very common problem. Most of us find it a little bit challenging to start conversations with strangers. When we first meet someone, we don’t know much ... Views: 2063
I love this question: "How do I get a girlfriend?" Fundamentally, this question is inefficient and leads to a dead end. It's the same when someone "wants a family" or "wants lots of money". It is the perfect example of asking the wrong question while at the same time not knowing what you really ... Views: 2260
It has been commonly thought that pleasing a man would require tons of research, experience, and a lot of other factors that you need to be good at. Well, you can take it easy. Just like any other skill; the more you do it, the more you become better at it; however, there are views on how to ... Views: 4862
Success in the world of business is one of the greatest achievements you can attain. How do you create success in love as you have in business? By delegating this job to a love hunter. Those who know how to delegate jobs and surround themselves with professionals, become really successful. You ... Views: 1013
Hi!
I was wondering if you have to have stuff in common with the person you're dating? I was told that it doesn't matter how different you are, as long as you're happy when you're with the other person.
I'm 18 and I recently dated a guy who only cared about finding stuff we have in common. ... Views: 1168
In case you haven't heard of this new phrase, a "Cougar" is named used to refer to an older woman who dates men much younger than her. Cougars come in all types and the reasons for their particular fetish with the boys are varied. Some are content with having fun and others seek more in the ... Views: 2426
In my years as a therapist and Stress Management Coach I have spoken with a lot of single men and the subject that has them stressed out more often than not is the dating 'game'. While they have their lives together for the most part, good jobs, a vehicle, their own place to live, leisure ... Views: 5390
I know you must be wondering what on earth do I mean by "Conscious Dater" you are thinking yes I have had some lousy dates but I honestly can't remember falling asleep on any of them!
With the understanding of how stress impacts our overall health and well being, it would only be wise to ... Views: 2132
Having a green lifestyle in general is very important to most of us, so why not take it a step further and make sure that your dating lifestyle is also green.
Here are 10 great, green dating ideas:
• Green Volunteerism! Spend time learning and talking about causes or issues that are most ... Views: 2605
When do you want to find out that the pilot flying your plane has no license—or, worse, does not know how to fly—before or after the flight? When do you want to know the person performing open-heart surgery on you has never been to medical school, or is drunk—before or after the operation? How ... Views: 1404
The Menu
Dinner:
Artichokes with Basil-Lime Dipping Sauce
Lobster Tails with Butter
Dessert:
Chocolate-Dipped Strawberries
Drinks:
A rich, buttery Chardonnay such as Bryon Chardonnay, or Franciscan 2002 Chardonnay. Champagne works too
Whoever you break out ... Views: 2574
While dating is a good exercise to meet different people and weed out those who may not be worthy of your time, it can also brings with it the complications of pressure from the person you are dating and also peer pressure from friends and family. A classic example of dating peer pressure is the ... Views: 4787
One of the most universal desires we have as human beings is to find love.
Most of us want to find romantic love. To find a soul mate, someone with whom we can share our innermost thoughts and feelings. Someone to share the joys and sorrows of our daily lives and to walk beside us in this ... Views: 1376
Have you ever been tongue tied at the thought of approaching an attractive person and introducing yourself? What about feeling awkward and out of place at business or social gatherings? How about hesitating to raise your hand in class or pick up the phone to make a sales call?
Before we go ... Views: 2478
I believe the growing preference for texting has a lot to do with its impersonal nature. It’s much easier to launch a new relationship by exchanging texts than it is to talk. It’s also very easy to say and do things over a screen that one would never have the nerve to do face to face (or say ear ... Views: 10437
Dear Lisa,
I am a man, and I would like to know why my girlfriend dumped me! Women also do the dumping! Why do you NOT have a WHY WOMEN DUMP MEN column on your site? Is it only a figment of the mind that men are also human?
–Representing
Dear Representing,
Yes, men are human.
Most ... Views: 2684
Dear Lisa,
I started seeing this great guy for about a month. He made me feel pretty special and I liked him a lot. After I slept with him, he never called me again. I called him a couple weeks later and he says he’s emotionally unavailable. I feel duped and hurt, but I still want him to ... Views: 4831
Dear Lisa,
Why is it that when two people start dating for the first four to six months the relationship is fine, and then it falls apart? In the beginning, you’re calling each other all the time, emailing, spending time together, and then things start to go downhill and the man stops calling ... Views: 2640
1) “We Need to Talk.”
Nothing puts up a guy’s defenses faster than those four little words. Why? No woman ever says , “We need to talk — I’ve been thinking you should play golf more often.” or “We need to talk — my hot supermodel friend is going to spend bikini season in our spare bedroom.” ... Views: 1887
Dear Lisa,
I broke up with my boyfriend back in January. I was going through a lot of personal problems and he was working a lot. We lived almost 1,000 miles apart. I felt like he didn’t care anymore and thought I’d dump him before he dumped me.
The thing is, I don’t know why I thought ... Views: 3514
Hi Doc,
I've liked this girl for between 3-4 months. Initially when I got to know her, she was really nice and we were really close. We used to message and talk almost every day. For example, there was once when she went overseas and I told her I would miss her. She said “awww…” and that I ... Views: 1291
Have you ever felt ugly or unattractive? Sometimes people can feel that way if they put on a few pounds, if someone rejects them or after they acted out in anger.
No matter what society determines as being attractive, I believe everyone is beautiful in their own way. They key is that you must ... Views: 3195
There is a point in every single woman’s life when she pauses and asks herself, “Why is everyone else finding a match but me?” She gets advice from her coupled girlfriends and is assured that she is desirable and there must be something wrong with them. Or, perhaps they have an intervention ... Views: 3326
Love should come naturally, right? We should not have to rely on experts to give us dating tips, be more attractive or make better dating decisions. Isn’t that what our girlfriends are for? Unfortunately, most of the dating advice you get from others is incorrect or, worse, damaging to your love ... Views: 3249
The following article originally appeared on www.midlifebachelor.com on June 14, 2009 ...
Choosing to invest in a new relationship directly affects your own level of personal happiness especially in the near-term ... and so it is extremely important to keep your eyes and ears open, and be ... Views: 7394
Dear Dr. Neder:
I have conflicting thoughts about whether or not it is okay for a female to initiate the conversation with the male.
Many people that I know and even those on this board swear by the fact that it is the wrong thing to do. They say it will scare the man off or make him less ... Views: 4305
"Man's greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman" so writes Napoleon Hill in his iconic book, THINK & GROW RICH.
According to Hill, men who accumulate large fortunes, gain power and fame do so to satisfy their desire to please women. If this is so, you have to consider: If a ... Views: 1737
Lisa,
I believe that a large part of my problem is that I am what you referred to as a “nightmare girl.” I don’t know how to be one of those “dream girls.” I can hold it together for anywhere from a few days to a few months, but I get sooooo incredibly insecure that I end up losing it. I ... Views: 2851
Dear Lisa,
I just got jacked around pretty good by a gal. I’m too nice, as people say, I just don’t want to play games. I haven’t done anything yet that can be construed as being a jerk about it. (Just an email venting a little, but nothing mean.)
I have never been able to play the game ... Views: 1722
If you’ve ever said something you considered to be completely innocent, only to have your wife or girlfriend flip out, you may have stumbled on to one of these taboo topics:
1) “Relax”
You may think you’re being helpful, but to us, it feels like you’re being dismissive of how we’re feeling — ... Views: 2212
You like him, but does he really like you? Is there any way to tell how well a first date is going?
1) What day of the week did your date ask you out?
It’s generally a good sign if your date asks you out with a few days notice — it means he’s thinking about you and wants to lock in weekend ... Views: 6582
Dear Lisa,
I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years. I moved back with my parents temporarily because we were fighting a lot. While I was home, he was seeing this girl he works with. I was really upset about everything even though she said she never slept with him. She assured me that she ... Views: 4720
Gina is a great coach. She's smart, beautiful and successful. She's well traveled and well respected. She has great friends. Gina's life is full.
Gina loves to make people feel special. She loves sharing ideas and giving advice.
When Gina meets a man she likes, she gives him phone calls, ... Views: 2270
What are the signs he is in love? Is there a blinking neon sign above his head? Should you watch out for heart-shaped eyes? Well, those indicators don’t really exist in real life. Not literally anyway.
However, there are ways to find out whether a man is in love with you or not. If you ... Views: 9290
The dating world can be an exciting place where people meet, hook up and form relationships of various kinds. On the other hand, it can be a daunting and challenging place too. First off, an individual has to know how to look around and find the right person to date. As the relationship goes to ... Views: 3999
Finding the Love You Want by Healing the Inner Child with EFT
Many people find themselves in an endless and frustrating search for love. They either have an very hard time finding a partner or end up having a series of unhappy and unsuccessful relationships.
Why is finding love so hard ... Views: 4468
We’ve all done it. We’re smack in the middle of a ho-hum, so-so, not going anywhere relationship. But, we don’t break up.
We stay. We go out for linguini and clams every Friday night, have a sleepover every Saturday night, and continue on as though we might actually want to be with this ... Views: 1932
Question:
I have very low self esteem which makes it hard to meet guys. How do I gain enough confidence in myself to overcome this issue.
Sherri's Answer:
I have worked with all types of people, and I can assure you that even models and C.E.O's have some type of insecurity, oftentimes ... Views: 1192
Most people identify who they are with what they do. This seems to work until the day arrives and one is out of work. Not only is there a loss of income, but there is a loss of identity. Unfortunately, the recession has destabilized many with sudden job loss or in the case of recent graduates ... Views: 851