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- Child Abuse: How Can Someone Move On If They Have An Emotionally Unavailable Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may have come to see is that their parent wasn’t emotionally available during early years and, now that they are adult, this parent is no different. As a result of this, the pain that they experienced as a child could continue to this day. It then won’t be a case of what took place ...
Views: 816 - Intimacy: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that human beings have a strong need to form deep and meaningful connections. These are then not the type of connections where only surface level things are spoken about and an emotional distance is kept. With this type of connection, someone will share what is taking place ...
Views: 831 - Is Ancestral Trauma Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn some people’s eyes, it is someone’s formative years that will have had the biggest effect on what they are like. For others, someone’s DNA that will have had the biggest effect on how they turned out. There are then those that believe that it is not one or the other, it is actually both. ...
Views: 887 - Self-Expression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Their Truth? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s truth, this could be seen as their thoughts, beliefs, feelings and what they sense, among other things. It is then something that relates to what is actually taking place inside them. In other words, this will include the things that are part of their own experience ...
Views: 754 - Survival Mode: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Live In Survival Mode? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone heard a loud bang, they could end up experiencing a strong reaction. Their whole body could end up freezing and they could stop breathing, that’s if their breathing doesn’t become very shallow. Before long, they could end up getting out of this state and going to see what exactly ...
Views: 818 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Raise Her Son To Be A Surrogate Spouse? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some men are able to form healthy relationships with women, there are others that are unable to do so. There are, of course, a numbers of reasons as to why this is. For those that are unable to do so, it can be because they lack confidence or are emotionally disconnected. Then again, ...
Views: 853 - Self-Expression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a strong need to please others, it is going to be difficult for them to express themselves. Their main priority will be to do what they can to do what other people want and what they think they want. Therefore, instead of being aware of what their needs are and doing what ...
Views: 717 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Stop Someone From Being Able To ‘Move On’? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the loss of a loved one is one of the hardest things to experience on this earth. This can relate to a family member, a partner, a friend, and even a pet. When this takes place, someone can end up being mentally, emotionally and physically floored. It can be as if their ...
Views: 1251 - Self-Neglect: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People’s Needs First? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone focuses on other people’s needs and does what they can to make sure that they are taken care of, they can end up being seen as a ‘good’ or ‘selfless’ person. One can behave in this way when they are at work and when they are around their friends and family, for instance. By ...
Views: 911(1 vote) - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Traumatised So That They Will Accept Their Own Enslavement? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about mental health and how so many people are not in a good way. Now, although some people are not in a good way due to something that they have personally been through, it could be said that there are others are not in a good way due to what the modern day ...
Views: 743 - Sense Of Safety: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause Them To Attach Their Sense Of Safety To Others? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of safety, it will be possible for them to pay attention to what is taking place inside them and to utilise this information. In other words, one will be able to act like an individual. Ultimately, they will feel comfortable being in their body and safe to exist, ...
Views: 753 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Control People By Keeping Them In A State Of Ignorance? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to find out about if something is true or not, it will most likely be vital for them to have access to a wide range of information. When this takes place, it will be possible for them to come to an accurate conclusion. Simply having access to a lot of information won’t be ...
Views: 771(1 vote) - The Media: Is It Important For Someone To Be Sceptical When It Comes To The Mainstream Media? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to read a newspaper or to watch a news station, they might keep a mental distance (psychological distance) from what they are exposed to. Said another way, they won’t let what they hear to go straight into their mind. Through being this way, they will be able to take a deeper ...
Views: 604(1 vote) - Emotional Development: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Put People On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might appreciate what another person does, it doesn’t mean that they will end up elevating them to a high position. One might realise that no matter what they can do, they are still a human being. Therefore, this person might be able to do something that they themselves can’t ...
Views: 811 - “The World Is Designed To Depress Us!” - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I came across a post that had been shared on a social media site that went into how ‘the world is increasingly designed to depress us’. This was something that had been written in a book and the page that this had been written on had been shared. It went on to say that ...
Views: 949 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a problem to be solved, two things need to take place. Firstly, it needs to be clear that there is a problem, and secondly, it needs to be clear what the problem actually is. For example, ones car might not be running properly but, until they become aware of this absolutely ...
Views: 932 - Therapy: Can Someone Look Towards A Therapist To Fulfil The Needs That Their Friends/Family Should Fulfil? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to reach out to a therapist if they have inner problems. This can be seen as a good thing as it is far better for someone to ask for help than it is for them to suffer in silence. If they have a relatively minor problem, they may find that they only ...
Views: 750 - Reiki Healing Can Ease Your Pain - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperI was looking through a newspaper the other day and one thing that caught my eye was an article about the opioid crises. In this article, addiction specialist Dr Robert Lefever, spoke about how so many people are hooked on drugs that are designed to take pain away. When this happens, someone ...
Views: 710 - What Can Someone Do To Be Highly Stressed? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt might seem as strange as to why I used the title above as it is not as though anyone would consciously look for a way to become highly stressed. Even so, this doesn’t mean this won’t take place unconsciously. Without realising it, someone can do just about everything that they can to ...
Views: 936 - People Pleasing: Can Someone Have The Need To Please Others If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they have a strong need to please others, making it hard for them to live their own life. Or to be more accurate – this can stop them from being able to live their own life. So by having the need to do what other people want as opposed to what they themselves ...
Views: 654 - Feeling Safe: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Stay In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their body, they will be aware of how they feel and what their needs are. Through having this connection, they will be able to make use of the information that is inside them. So, if they feel tired or as though they are not at their best, they will be able to ...
Views: 926 - Worry Is A Misuse Of Imagination - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I looked through a booked called ‘The Art Of Peace’ by Philip Dunn. This book was full of great advice, and there were two things that I ended up noting down. The first thing I made a note of was what he said in regards to the education system. He said that, ‘we ...
Views: 923 - Success: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Associate Being Uncomfortable With Death? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may find, if they are into self-development, is that they have been told on a number of occasions how important it is to get out of their comfort zone. Still, even if this is not something that they are into, they may have still heard it. Perhaps they have heard that their comfort ...
Views: 1202 - Sense Of Safety: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Unsafe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a house or a tall building to stay in place, it will need to have firm foundations. Through having firm foundations, the support that the structure needs to exist will be provided. Not only will the building stay in place, but the people that go into the building will also feel ...
Views: 1198 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Develop An Adult Self In Order To Move On From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused during their early years, they may find that it is not possible for them to put the past behind them. A number of decades may have passed since that time in their life, but it could be as if very little time has passed. And although their caregivers didn’t treat them ...
Views: 854 - "People Haven't Got Time To Have Years Of Therapy!" - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, when I was online, I read something that really stood out. The general gist was that due to how busy people are in today’s world, they haven’t got the time to have years of therapy. As a result of this, they need to be able to transform their life in a much shorter period ...
Views: 897 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse A Form Of Indirect Revenge? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by one or both of their caregivers during their early years, it can be hard for them to understand why this was. One question that can enter their mind is: why would the people who were supposed to love and care for me treat me so badly? This can be a question that they ...
Views: 841 - Critical Thinking: Why Would A Woman Want To Put Fillers In Her Face? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, dermal fillers were only used by a small amount of women but, as time has passed, this has changed. Far more women use them than ever before and there are undoubtedly a number of reasons as to why this is. One important distinction that needs to be made here is the difference ...
Views: 1012 - Being Triggered Can Allow You To Become More Integrated - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, the word ‘triggered’ is routinely used in the real world and online. When someone has been triggered, it is likely to mean that something or someone has reminded them of something that took place in their past. It doesn’t stop there, though, as they will have been reminded of ...
Views: 712 - Trying To Change Others Is A Waste Of Time - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in an intimate relationship that is not going well or they could have a friend who is having a destructive affect on their life. Then again, one of their family members could be living in a way that is not healthy or they could be toxic. Irrespective of who it relates to, one ...
Views: 722 - Do You Want To Understand Yourself Or To Simply Feel Better? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they experience a fair amount of anxiety or don’t feel good about themselves, they can go one of two ways. Either they can look for a way to change how they feel or they can look into why they experience life in this way and what they can do once they have found ...
Views: 819 - Do You Have The Need To Perfect? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is a perfectly imperfect human being, it doesn’t mean that they won’t believe that they have to be more-than human. What this can result in is the need to be perfect and to never make a mistake. Through being this way, one can experience an extreme amount of pressure ...
Views: 926 - Do Your Emotions Control You Or Are You Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it is a challenge for them to handle how they feel. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to be overwhelmed by their emotional self and to lose their ability to think clearly. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. If this is ...
Views: 832 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Traumatise People? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where in the world someone is or what time it is, the mainstream media will be there to inform them about what is taking place. This source of information will tell them about what is going on around them and that is going on further afield. The main reason for this is that one no ...
Views: 659 - Love Bombing: Are Some People Easy Targets For 'Love Bombers'? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was single and they were to meet someone who showed a lot of interest in them, they could find that they end up being drawn to them. And what might also play a part here is that one may be physically attracted to them. Through being in this person’s presence, one could start to ...
Views: 825 - Survival: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause Them To Attach Their Survival To Others? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a lot of what one needs to survive, and even thrive, will come from others, it doesn’t mean that their survival is dependent on one person or a group of people. What this then means, is that one is not going to need to please one person or a group of people in order to survive. One ...
Views: 778 - Your Inner Child Is Waiting For You To Listen - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne could find that they often feel down or angry and/or that they have the tendency to overreact. Regardless of what is going on for them, they may look into what they can do to experience life differently. Before long, they could try to change what is going on in their mind - with what is ...
Views: 784 - Masculinity: Why Do Some Men Have A Strong Need To Be Desired By Women? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is straight, it could be said that it will be normal for him to have the need to be seen as desirable to the opposite sex. And while this could apply to women in general, it could have far more to do with the type of women that he finds attractive. Through being seen as desirable, a ...
Views: 1244 - How Deep Do You Want To Go? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets into self-development, it could be because they have mental and emotional challenges. As a result of this, they can look for a way to change how they experience life. One thing that they can end up being told is that their thoughts create their feelings, which can give them ...
Views: 1172 - Relationships: Can Someone Look Towards Others To Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that they won’t need the same things that they needed when they were a child. This comes down to the fact that they will have grown out of a number of these needs. As a result of this, what they look for from others is going to be different to what ...
Views: 813 - Emotionally Weak: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Weak? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that someone’s life would be a lot easier if they were unable to experience emotions. The primary reason for this is that they would no longer experience emotional pain. As a result of this, they would never feel sad, powerless, helpless, or hopeless, and fear and anxiety ...
Views: 648 - We All Judge Others - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a strong chance that someone will have heard, at least once, that they shouldn’t judge others. If they are into self-development/spirituality, they may have heard this more times than they can remember. One way to look at this would be to say that this is sage advice. For one thing, ...
Views: 781 - Self-Worth: Can Someone’s Inner Child Cause Them To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people that are in touch with their inner value and then there are people that aren’t. If someone is in touch with their inherent worth, they are going to know that they deserve to receive things and to be treated well. As a result of this, their life is going to be far more ...
Views: 787 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Drawn To Politics? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt would be easy for someone to come to the conclusion that more people are into politics than ever before. One reason for this is that so much of what is spoken about on social media relates to this area. If someone was to engage in black and white thinking, they could even believe that ...
Views: 801 - Inner Child: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self In Order To Heal Their Inner Child? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be aware of their inner child, it doesn’t mean that it won’t be having an effect on their life. Their inner child, or their inner children to be more precise as there is more than one child, can be causing them all kinds of problems. And if one is aware of the term ...
Views: 868 - Authority Figures: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Trouble With Authority Figures? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on how they behave when they are in the presence of an authority figure, they may find that they are typically able to hold their own. This will mean that, in general, they won’t retract and neither will they have the need to take up too much space. In other words, ...
Views: 1029 - Emotionally Shut Down: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Cause To Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to go through a challenging time, is that they end up losing touch with their emotional self. Perhaps they have just experienced a break up or lost a loved one. This wouldn’t have been something that one chose to do; it would have been something that ...
Views: 749 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Who They Are? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat allows one to have their own life on this planet is not just their physical body; it is also the fact that they have their own needs and feelings. If they didn’t have their own needs and feelings, it wouldn’t matter if they had their own body – or vehicle. The reason for this is that ...
Views: 743 - Meditation Will Help You To Become More Aware - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is so much going on in today’s world that it can be easy for someone to lose touch with what is taking place within them. Regardless of whether they are around others or by themselves, there can be at least one thing that will consume their attention. One can then be drawn this way or ...
Views: 748 - Relationships: Can A Past Life Connection Cause Someone To Stay In A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that they are in a relationship that is not very healthy, they could look into what they could do to change it. Through taking this approach, it will give them the chance to see if anything can be done. There will most likely be what they will need to ...
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