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- Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Change His Perception? - by Submitted on May 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is “enmeshed” to his mother, it is likely to mean that he didn’t receive what he needed to receive during his early years. Therefore, he hasn’t simply chosen to become entangled with his mother as an adult; he has always been this way. What this means is that it is not just about him ...
Views: 380 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Put Their Mother Before Their Partner? - by Submitted on May 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that his primary relationship will be with his partner. No, there can be someone else, and this person will take up a lot of his time and energy as a result. What could come to mind at this point is that he is having an affair, with this ...
Views: 482 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Are Some Men Unable To Live Their Own Life? - by Submitted on May 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of the fact that a man is an individual, it will mean that he will be on this planet to live his own life. For this to take place, he will need to be in touch with his true self – his feelings, needs, and preferences – and feel comfortable enough to express these parts of ...
Views: 500 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Getting Close To Others With Being Annihilated? - by Submitted on May 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one will have the need to form close connections with others, it won’t have been possible for them to do so. Thus, the need will then be there but they won’t have been able to fulfil it. What they could find is that their life has been this way for as long as they can remember. And, ...
Views: 423 - Inferiority Complex: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Develop An Inferiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they don’t feel capable and see themselves being less than others, it might not occur to them that this could be due to what took place whilst they were at school. There is even the chance that they are not consciously aware of this, with it being something that ...
Views: 456 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Do Some Men Feel Responsible For Their Mothers? - by Submitted on May 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could stand out, if a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has felt responsible for his mother for as long as he can remember. He could see that this doesn’t just relate to her physical wellbeing but also relates to her happiness. Therefore, he will feel the ...
Views: 393 - Disconnected: Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Emotional Pain If They Live In A Disconnected State? - by Submitted on May 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf one spends most of their time on this planet living in their head, it will naturally mean that they will rarely inhabit their body. In general, then, what is taking place in his part of their being will be a complete mystery. As a result of this, they are not going to have a good ...
Views: 321 - Self-Expression: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Guilty For Living Their Own Life? - by Submitted on May 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is on this planet to express themselves, so that their life can be an expression of their true self, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable doing this. Instead, what can feel comfortable is going along with what other people want. Therefore, they are going to be ...
Views: 359 - Trust: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Trust Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAccording to Erik Erikson, the first developmental stage that someone goes through relates to whether they can or can’t trust others. Now, providing that their primary caregiver, who is likely to be their mother, is consistent with their care, this stage should go well. This will mean that ...
Views: 331 - Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Live In A Disconnected State? - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to live a life that is in alignment with who they are, they will need to have a good connection to their own body. The reason for this is that this part of their being will provide them with the guidance that they need. Their feelings, needs, preferences and desires will be found ...
Views: 353 - Conditional Love: What Can Happen If Someone Experienced Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on May 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that there are at least three types of love that a child can experience during their early years. There is value love, outcome love and love that is promised but never delivered. When it comes to the first type of love, a child will only be loved when they adopt certain ...
Views: 415 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Sabotage His Life If He Has The Need To Be Loyal To His Father? - by Submitted on May 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is finding it hard to move forward in life, he might find it hard to believe that this could be due to what took place during his early years. As far as he is concerned, what took place at this stage of his life could be in the past and that’s the end of it. The reason why his life ...
Views: 325 - Father Wounds: Can A Be Difficult For A Boy To Grow Into A Man If His Father Was Abusive? - by Submitted on May 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a boy to not just grow into a man but to act like one, it will be essential for him to receive the right care and guidance. For this to take place, both his mother and father will play an important role. His mother will provide him with the care that he needs to emotionally ...
Views: 402 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Have A Disempowering Self-Image If His Father Wasn’t A Good Role Model? - by Submitted on May 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of himself. For a large part of his life, this may have been something that was just under the radar, so to speak. Consequently, the view that he has of himself would have just been ...
Views: 337 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on May 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for someone to look at relationships would be to see them as a vehicle that will allow them to become more whole and complete. The reason for this is that when they are with another person, some of the material that is held in their unconscious mind will be brought to the ...
Views: 426 - Father Wounds: Does A Man Need To Heal His Father Wounds In Order To Embrace His Masculinity? - by Submitted on May 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is very much estranged from his masculinity, he might not wonder if this is due to the issues that he has with his own father. In fact, he might not even be aware that he is out of touch with this side of his nature. It could seem strange that he wouldn’t be aware of this but this ...
Views: 351 - Self-Sabotage: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Realise That They Are Sabotaging Their Life? - by Submitted on May 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone hasn’t been able to move forward in at least one area of their life, they could believe that it is due to what is going on “out there”. What is taking place in the external world is then going to be the reason why their life is the way that it is. This can be backed up by the fact ...
Views: 338 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Search For A Mother Figure If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man didn’t receive the love and nurturance that he needed from his mother during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will have simply been able to move on from what happened. Physically, as well as mentally, he will have grown, but emotionally, he is likely to be ...
Views: 343 - Critical Thinking: Do “Conspiracy Theorists” Need To Understand The Law Of Resonance? - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone spends a lot of time looking into what appears to be happening behind the scenes, so to speak, they are not going to happy to go along with the narrative that the mainstream media sells. They are likely to be a deeply curious person who has the need to know what is actually going ...
Views: 441 - Father Wounds: Can Man Fear His Own Aggression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way for a man to view his aggression would be to see it as both a source of fuel and as something that will keep him alive. This means that, inherently, this part of him is not bad or “negative”. This doesn’t mean that this part of him can’t be used in a destructive manner. The key will ...
Views: 333 - Imposter Syndrome: Why Do Some High Achievers Feel Like Imposters? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could be in a position where they have achieved a lot in one area of their life or a number of areas, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable with their current level of success. What they may find, that’s if they were able to take a step back, is that it’s as though they are ...
Views: 380 - Emotional Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Needs? - by Submitted on May 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the needs that someone has, there will be at least three areas; their intellectual, emotional and survival needs. In order for them to live a fulfilling life, it will be essential for them to take care of each of these areas. This is not to say that this is something that ...
Views: 370 - Fear: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear What Has Already Happened? - by Submitted on May 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone was to take a step back and reflect on what they fear, they may find that a number of things enter their mind. They could find that they have a fear of being abandoned and rejected. Alternatively, they could see that they have a fear of being harmed and their life coming to an ...
Views: 490 - The Mirror: Is Someone’s Outer World A Reflection Of Their Inner World? - by Submitted on May 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone’s ego-mind will do is allow them to have their own experience on this planet. As a result of this, it is possible for them to fulfil their own purpose or mission whilst they are here. In other words, this part of them creates the impression that they are separate from ...
Views: 579 - Emotionally Stunted: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stunted? - by Submitted on May 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can look like an adult, it doesn't mean that they will feel like one. In fact, a lot of their feelings and needs can have more to do with a child than an adult. Even so, it doesn't mean that they will be aware of this as how they experience life can just be what is normal to ...
Views: 414 - True Self: Can Someone Believe That They Need To Hide Their True Self In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to express themselves. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for them to behave in ways that are not in alignment with their true essence. In general, then, how they act ...
Views: 362 - Relationships: Do Relationships Allow Someone To Come Into Contact With Their Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind; however, the latter is largely overlooked. Not only does mainstream society ignore this mind but a lot of people in the helping professions, those who are doing what they can to help peoples “mental health”, also do the same ...
Views: 384 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Emotionally Shut Down Around Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may be in tune with his feelings when he is by himself and even around a man, this may seldom be the case when he is around a woman. What will be normal, then, is for him to be out of touch with his body when he is in their presence. This could be something that he is acutely ...
Views: 482 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he generally finds it hard to be himself around women. There are then going to be moments when this is not the case, but this will be the exception as opposed to the rule. Upon closer inspection, he may see that this is how ...
Views: 349 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Activate Himself If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will have both a masculine and feminine element inside him, he may find that it is hard for him to connect to the former. Consequently, it will be hard for him to express himself and to take action. From the outside, it will probably look as though he has the ability to do ...
Views: 354 - Self-Activation: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Activate Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the term “self-activation”, they could wonder what it actually means. One way to understand this would be for them to imagine that they have a vacuum cleaner that can either be pushed around a room or it can go around a room by itself. When it is being pushed around a ...
Views: 562 - Critical Thinking: Is The Virus Known As The Victim Mentality Undermining Peoples Mental Health? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, both the mainstream media and the government have said a lot about “mental health” and how people need to look after this part of them. Mainstream society offers a number of different ways for someone to do this. One option that is often put forward is for them to talk about ...
Views: 358 - Success: Can The Fear Of Being Unloved Stop Someone From Being Successful? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have the need to grow and develop, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. One could find that they have been working hard and doing the “right” things but that they haven’t been able to get very far. As a result of this, they could believe that, unlike others, ...
Views: 393 - True Self: Can Someone Believe That They Have To Hide Their True Self In Order To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go for a drive, they would be able to go wherever they wanted. So, if they wanted to go left, they could go left, and, if they wanted to go right, they could go right. Quite simply, they would have the ability to go wherever suited them and to adapt if it wasn’t possible for ...
Views: 523 - False Self: Can Someone Feel Like A Child Below Their False Self? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, it can primarily be the result of what is taking place in their body or what is taking place inside their head. In order words, it can be a reflection of their true self or their false self. Therefore, in order for one to express their true self, they ...
Views: 338 - Needs: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Ashamed Of Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is simply part of the human experience and is not something that is bad or wrong. However, although this is the case, it doesn't mean that everyone on this planet feels comfortable with their needs. When someone doesn't feel comfortable with them, their life is going to be a lot ...
Views: 399 - Critical Thinking: Would The World Be Different If “Conspiracy Theorists” Focused On Creating A Better World? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are a lot of people who spend a fair amount of their time looking into what appears to be taking place behind the scenes. Thanks to modern-day technology, there is no shortage of information when it comes to this topic. The only thing that someone like this will need is a ...
Views: 351 - Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Face Their Darkness If They Want Embrace Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, there are feelings that are seen as “good” and feelings that are seen as being “bad”. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone to deny certain feelings and to embrace others. To go one step further, they could view themselves as a “good” person who only experiences “good” ...
Views: 342 - People-Pleasing: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be A People Pleaser? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the need to please others, it can stop them from being able to live a life that is in alignment with their true-self. Through being this way, their priority will be to do what other people want and what they think they want. It is then going to be normal for them to be focused ...
Views: 522 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Passive If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a car to move, it will need to have a power source; without this, it will simply stay in the same place. If it does move, it will only be because it is being pushed by someone or something that has power. In the same way, for a man to move and to take action he will also need to ...
Views: 381 - Inner Darkness: Can Someone Run Away From Their Own Inner Darkness? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that planet earth is the plane of duality and this can be noticed by the fact that there are usually two parts to everything. For example, there is hot and cold, up and down, and fast and slow. There is also “good” and “bad” in the world, and, just as these two things exist ...
Views: 353 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Wear An Invisible Straight Jacket If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many needs and one need, a need that is a key part of what will allow them to live a fulfilling existence, is their need to express themselves. This need will include being able to behave how they want to behave, to say what they want to say and to be creative. Each of these ...
Views: 433 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Suffer From Depression If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFeeling heavy, low and deflated could be an inner experience that a man is accustomed to. For as far back as he can remember, he may have had the tendency to experience life in this way. Consequently, he may typically see life as something that has to be endured, not enjoyed. In general, ...
Views: 401 - Father Wounds: Can A Mans Masculinity Be Knocked Out Of Him If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could see, if he was to take a step back and to reflect on his life, is that he finds it hard to get things done and is often passive. Along with being this way, he could find that he spends a lot of time feeling depressed. So, instead of being able to ‘take life by the horns’, so ...
Views: 376 - Father Wounds: Can Man Be Disconnected From His Body If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a man’s childhood years, he may have had a father who was physically abusive. If this was the case, this would have been a time when he was regularly harmed by someone who was supposed to do the opposite - protect him. Therefore, instead of being able to feel safe and secure in his own ...
Views: 380 - Law Of Resonance: Will Someone Manifest More Of What They Are Trying To Avoid? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where one area of their life is not going as they want it to go and they experience a lot of “negative” feelings, they can end up doing what they can to change their life. This can be seen as the right approach to take; after all, simply putting up with what is going ...
Views: 392 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Womb Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to truly embrace life, they will need to be connected to their emotional self. The reason for this is that, through having this connection, they will know what they need to do and they will be able to connect to others. Without it, then, they will struggle to know what it ...
Views: 411 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Slowly Kill Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperA lot has been said in recent years about the number of people who are taking their own life and how this has got worse over time. Along with this, there are the people who often think about calling it a day. With this in mind, it would be easy to assume that if someone wants their life to ...
Views: 384 - Fight Instinct: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a source of energy or fuel that exists in each person on this planet, and this can be seen as their fight instinct. Another way of looking at this part of someone would be to say that it is their aggression. In addition to giving them the energy that they need to take action and to ...
Views: 395 - Feelings: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter getting to the point where they can no longer continue to live in the same way, someone could take a step back and reflect on their life. During this time, they could come to the conclusion that their life is not in alignment with who they are. This is not to say that there won’t be ...
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