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- Mother Wounds: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust If They Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s developmental needs were rarely if ever met during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thanks to how painful this stage of their life would have been, their brain would have ended up blocking out what took place. This would have been something that ...
Views: 360 - Human Doing: Can Someone Be A Human Doing If They Received Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do ...
Views: 353 - Disembodied: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to be able to take life in, to receive, they will need to be able to inhabit their body. This will allow them to be in the part of their being that truly experiences life as opposed to the part that simply observes it. To use an analogy: it will be the difference between someone ...
Views: 341 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to go to sleep at night and to leave his bed in the morning, he will need to have a sense of trust. Without this, he won’t be able to let go and fall asleep and he won’t be willing to leave his home and go out into the world. However, although he might be able to do this, ...
Views: 394 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See His Needs As A Burden If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that, in general, he is out of touch with a number of his needs. As a result of this, he could typically be aware of his physical needs but that could be about as far as it will go. Therefore, his emotional needs are going to largely be overlooked and he might rarely ...
Views: 546 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Sexualise His Emotional Needs If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has a high sex drive, he might not be too concerned about being in a relationship. His priority could just be to share his body with other women and this could be something that he wants to do on a regular basis. Then again, sharing his body with an endless amount of different women ...
Views: 684 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That A Woman Will Complete Him If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could often spend time thinking about what it would be like to be in a relationship, with this being a time when he feels good. This is not to say that he hasn’t been in one before, though. If he has, he could see that when he has been in a relationship, he has felt whole and complete. ...
Views: 423 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Helpless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that he has the tendency to feel helpless and as though he has no control over his life. By being this way, his life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be and it is unlikely to be very enjoyable. However, although simply being aware of this is not going to ...
Views: 363 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Fear Human Contact If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that he has been able to fulfil this need. What he may find, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he has only been able to get so far when he has been in a relationship. He could see that he has been with a number of women ...
Views: 696 - Mother Wounds: Does A Man Need To Heal His Mother Wounds In Order To Become A Man? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what it means to be a man, there are a number of different views. For some people, it will relate to someone who is mentally strong, is able to provide and can lead, while for others, it will relate to someone who is in tune with his feelings, cares about others and takes ...
Views: 451 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Imprisoned By Their False Self? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can appear to be free to express who they are. However, although this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they can actually relate to. And, to make matters worse, there is the chance that they are not fully aware of the fact that ...
Views: 344 - Sibling Wounds: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life To Please Their Sibling? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is finding it hard to move forward and this is how their life has been for as long as they can remember, the last thing on their mind could be that this has got anything to do with their sibling. This is assuming that they have one, of course, and are not simply an only child. As ...
Views: 406 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Emotionally Unavailable If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is a challenge for him to connect to how he feels. This is not to say that he was fine before this, though, as he may have struggled to connect to his feelings before. However, now that he is in a relationship, ...
Views: 342 - Child Abuse: Why Would A Parent Deny That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused during their early years, it doesn’t mean that what they went through will be validated by the parent who mistreated them. No, what they went through as a child could end up being denied. To take one step back, though, they may have suffered for a ...
Views: 481 - Intimacy: Can Someone Have A Dysfunctional View Of Intimacy If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about the relationships that they have been in, they may find that they have generally not been very nurturing or full of love. In most of their relationships, they may have experienced a lot of pain and might not have been long before they felt the need to cut their ties ...
Views: 299 - Repressed Pain: Can Repressed Pain Cause Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn many countries around the world, the mind is often the focus when it comes to dealing with mental and emotional problems. If, then, someone is not in a good way internally, they are likely to end up trying to change what is going on up top. This can be due to what they have learned online ...
Views: 479 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Attracted To Unavailable Women If His Mother Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to look back on his life, he may see that he has often been drawn to women who are not available. In fact, he could find that he is primarily drawn to women like this and is rarely if ever is drawn to women who are available. When it comes to the relationships that he’s had, ...
Views: 652 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Believe That It Is Not Safe To Exist If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man doesn’t feel safe enough to exist, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. However, being this way is going to have a massive impact on his life. Through being this way, he can typically be out of touch with his body and/or he can isolate himself from others. ...
Views: 498 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lack A Sense Of Safety If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man has a felt sense of safety, he will be able to be in his body and to freely express himself. As a result of this, his body will be his home and he won’t need to live in his head. By being this way, he will be able to feel at ease and experience inner peace. In other words, his ...
Views: 438 - Emotional Wounds: Can Someone Unconsciously Look For Love If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone’s early years were a time when their developmental needs were rarely if ever met, it doesn’t mean that they have well and truly put this stage of their life behind them. Nonetheless, there is the chance that they have completely forgotten about this stage of their life. Or ...
Views: 442 - Father Wounds: Would An Emasculated Father Emasculate His Son? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was brought up by a father who was physically and verbally abusive, he might not be in a good way now that he is an adult. In fact, he could be in a very bad way and each day could be a challenge. However, if he is in a bad way, it doesn’t mean that he will realise why he is this ...
Views: 616 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry Lot Of Repressed Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to describe himself, he could say that he is easy-going, tolerant, and laid-back. When it comes to his mood, he could find that he often feels flat and sometimes he feels very low. As a result of this, he is not going to spend a lot of time feeling energised and alive. If he ...
Views: 375 - Happiness: Can Someone Find It Hard To Be Happy If They Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is incredibly difficult for them to be truly happy. In general, this can be seen as something that is just outside of their reach. And, if they are happy, it might not be long until they go back to how they were before. ...
Views: 357 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Relax If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could find that it is hard for him to relax and just be. As a result of this, he is going to spend a lot of time on the go and this is going to mean that he is often in doing mode. Now, this could mean that he is a workaholic but there is also the chance that this is not the ...
Views: 349 - Relationships: Can Someone Fear Human Contact If They Had An Intrusive Caregiver? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could often struggle with is feeling alone and isolated from others. During this time, they could be desperate for human contact and hope that they will soon spend time with another or a few others. However, if this was to take place, it doesn’t mean that their whole ...
Views: 687 - Helpless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can have the inclination to feel helpless, and this is likely to make it hard for them to live a fulfilling life. What this comes down to is that they won’t feel as though they are able to do anything to change their life. This is likely to show that this is more than just ...
Views: 426 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about their last relationship, what they may find is that they started to lose themselves when they first started meeting the other and had more or less completely lost themselves once they were together. There is the chance that this has taken place on more than one ...
Views: 1018 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they are often out of touch with their needs. Or, perhaps, to be more specific, they are often out of touch with certain needs. This can mean that they will typically be aware of their survival needs ...
Views: 345 - Workaholic: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Become A Workaholic? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people work to live, there are others that live to work. Naturally, these people are going to have a radically different experience on planet earth. When it comes to the former, someone’s life won’t revolve around their work and they will typically only work at certain times. ...
Views: 358 - Emotional Wounds: Can Someone Use Hope To Defend Themselves Against Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is not going well, it can be normal for someone to hope that things will soon change. If they didn’t feel this way, they could feel helpless, and this is not going to allow them to feel good or to see a way forward. However, it wouldn’t be right to say that experiencing hope is ...
Views: 435 - Developmental Trauma: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Lose The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to be motivated. Therefore, if they do feel the urge to do something, it might not be long until this is no longer the case. Thanks to this, it is going to be a challenge for them to stick to things and ...
Views: 443 - Parentification: What Can Happen If Someone Had To Meet Their Caregivers Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on their life, they might wonder what happened to their childhood. The reason for this is that this may have been a stage when they had to act like an adult. Instead of being able to have fun, to play and have very few, if any, responsibilities, they may have been ...
Views: 398 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lose The Will To Live If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man has been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that he sees life as a gift. If he was asked to share his thoughts on life, he could say that it is more like a curse than a gift. But, even if this was not something that was to come out of his mouth, it could be what would come ...
Views: 408 - Inner Feminine: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Reject Their Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at someone’s development would be to say that at the beginning of their life, they only had a feminine aspect, and, as time passed, their masculine aspect was built on top of it. They were then not born with both aspects and this will be the case regardless of whether they are ...
Views: 472 - Inner Feminine: What Can Happen If A Man Is In Conflict With His Own Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average man was told that he has an inner feminine, a big frown might appear on his face. After this, he could make it clear that this is not something that he possesses and that there is nothing feminine about him. He could even say that this is something that is airy-fairy and only ...
Views: 734 - Intimacy: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Show Up In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to end up in a relationship, is that it is far harder than they expected it to be. There will then be what they thought it would be like and what their experience is actually like. Now, this is not to say that they won’t have had a relationship before, ...
Views: 721 - Self-Ownership: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, it could be said that their early years are well and truly behind them. In other words, they are an adult now and what took place in the past is irrelevant. However, although it may seem this way, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. There is a chance ...
Views: 458 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Domesticated If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that an animal can be someone’s pet, a man can be in a very similar position. He will then, like the animal, be just about out of touch with his instincts and it won’t be difficult to control him. The difference is that while the animal will primarily be controlled at home, ...
Views: 380 - Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Sovereignty? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone would say that they own their phone or their shoes, for instance, they could also say the same thing about themselves. When it comes to who they are, this will be their mind and body. By owing themselves, no one else will have the right to use their mind or body. ...
Views: 419 - Emotionally Stuck: Can Development Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will physically look like an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. Consequently, how they look won’t match up with what is taking place inside them. By being this way, their life is likely to be far harder than it would be otherwise. In fact, just about ...
Views: 641 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to isolate themselves. At other times, when they are around others, they could lose themselves and end up going along with things that are not in alignment with who they ...
Views: 495 - Rescued: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear. Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware ...
Views: 370 - Rescued: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear. Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware ...
Views: 398 - Self-Awareness: Can Someone Be Very Self-Aware And Out Of Touch With Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to experiencing change, it is often said that self-awareness is essential. The reason for this is that if one is not aware of what is going on for them, how will they be able to change their life? Through being aware of what is taking place both internally and externally, they ...
Views: 301 - Therapy: Is Exercise A Replacement For Therapy? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for exercise to be seen as something that is not only far more effective than therapy but as something that is far cheaper too. Like mindfulness, then, it is often seen as a panacea. Based on this outlook, no matter what someone is dealing with or what is ...
Views: 641 - Critical Thinking: Is The Mainstream Media The Real Virus? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been paying a lot of attention to the mainstream media over the last two years, there is the chance that they will have a certain view of the Coronavirus and all the variants that have and are likely to appear as time goes by. As far as they are concerned, this virus and its ...
Views: 344 - Critical Thinking: Is The Coronavirus Being Used To Divide People? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperBefore the contagion came onto the scene, it wouldn’t be right to say that, as a whole, there was harmony on earth. There were numerous things that a number of people were fighting over. For example, there was the battle between some men and women and between those who belong to one religion ...
Views: 321 - Fear: What Can Someone Fear If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were brutal, to say the least, it is not going to be a surprise if they are in a bad way now that they are an adult. This could mean that they find it hard to function or they might be able to keep it all together. Either way, living in this way can be what is normal, ...
Views: 588 - Receiving: Can Someone Find It Hard To Receive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that it is often hard for them to receive what they need to survive, let alone thrive. So, when it comes to money, they may rarely have enough. Keeping a roof over their head is then going to be a challenge ...
Views: 358 - Fear: Can Someone Be Very Fearful If They Had A Traumatic Childhood? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life. They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t ...
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