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- Critical Thinking: Can Someone Rebel By Raising Their Consciousness? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to change their society or even the world, there are a number of things that they could end up doing. For example, they could take part in a protest, sign a petition and/or vote for a certain politician/party. Alternatively, if they were happy to break the law, they could ...
Views: 342 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father An Enabler? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being able to see that his mother used him during his early years to meet some of her adult and unmet childhood needs, a man can end up experiencing a lot of anger and rage towards her. What can make this even worse is that this can be what has also taken place throughout his adult ...
Views: 387 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have A Fear Of Overshadowing His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man spends most of his life doing things for his mother and overlooking his own life as a result, he is unlikely to have much of a life himself. He will be an individual with his own life to lead but that will be as far as it will go. So, as opposed to being the leading character in his ...
Views: 327 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Engaging In Repetition Compulsion? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in touch with their own needs and does what they can to fulfil them, it will probably be hard for them to comprehend why a man would be so focused on his mother and her needs. To them, it will be clear that he is neglecting his own needs and living a very watered down life as a ...
Views: 387 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have A False Self? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, he can come across as though he has no needs. Unlike a lot of people on the planet, then, he will be a selfless human being. By being this way, not only can his mother provide him with a lot of approval, plenty of other people can ...
Views: 332 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Is Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man is on this planet to live his own life, if he is emotionally entangled with his mother, this won’t take place. Instead, just about his whole life can revolve around her, with him neglecting himself in the process. This whole scenario can make absolutely no sense whatsoever to ...
Views: 421 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Are The Real Needs Of A Mother-Enmeshed Being Covered Up By His Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be hard to understand why a man would be overly focused on his mother’s life and overlook his own life in the process. This will mean that he will do what he can to take care of her needs and spend very little time taking care of his own needs. Now, this is not to say ...
Views: 359 - Critical Thinking: What Will The Future Be Like For Humanity? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what has been taking place on the planet for almost two years, a lot of people are thinking about what the future holds. If some of these people were asked a number of years ago about what they thought would completely disrupt the world, they would have probably mentioned climate change ...
Views: 371 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will be an individual, with their own needs and feelings, when they are around others they could have the tendency to lose touch with these inner aspects. As a result of this, they will act more like an extension of others. Instead of expressing who they are, then, their true ...
Views: 414 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Grow Up? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is in a relationship with a man who is enmeshed with his mother, she can be incredibly frustrated and fed up. Perhaps she has been with the man for a number of months. Then again, she may have been with him for a number of years. Either way, she is likely to have a strong need for ...
Views: 378 - Boundaries: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Having Boundaries With Being Disconnected From Others? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way a fence protects a garden, boundaries protect a human being. Not only will they stop someone from taking on responsibilities that are not theirs but they will also stop them from being mistreated. Unlike walls, they will allow one to let the right people in and experience ...
Views: 325 - Emotional Support: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Feeling Emotionally Supported? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone’s emotional self will allow them to feel connected to life and others, and to feel supported. Clearly, then, this part of them will serve a very different purpose to their mental self. This part of them will give them the ability to think, plan, reflect and understand how they feel. ...
Views: 357 - Critical Thinking: Is A Large Part Of Humanity’s Mental Health Being Destroyed By The Media? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor a lot of people, paying attention to the mainstream media is a normal part of life. Throughout their day, they will look towards this source of information to tell them about what is taking place in the world. Providing they have a Smartphone, someone like this can do this no matter where ...
Views: 350 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Deprive Himself? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to gain an understanding of what it is like when another person deprives themselves, they will simply need to pay attention to a man who is overly focused on his mother. By doing this, they will probably find out what it is like when someone stops themselves from receiving what ...
Views: 453 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why a man would be so focused on his mother. He can spend most of his life doing things for her and even if he isn’t, he can be thinking about what he can do for her. By being this way, naturally, he is going to severely neglect himself ...
Views: 360 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have A Lot Of Unmet Childhood Needs To Grieve? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man, who is entangled with his mother, behaves, it can be as if he is his mother’s parent. So, regardless of whether or not he is actually a parent, he will certainly act like one. As a result of this, he will spend a lot of time and energy doing things for his mother and ...
Views: 430 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Realise That He Can Live His Own Life? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is overly caught up in his mother’s life and neglects his own life as a result, he is unlikely to have much of a life. This is because most of his time and energy will be directed towards his mother. However, although his life is unlikely to be very ...
Views: 384 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience A Conflict Between His Thoughts And Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor as long as a man, who is entangled with his mother, is not aware of the fact that he is this way, he is likely to be out of touch with most of his needs and feelings. By being this way, he will have no trouble being there for his mother and focusing on her needs. This is likely to just be ...
Views: 342 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Emotionally Underdeveloped? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was to end up in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she could struggle to understand what is going on. It could seem strange as to why a grown man is so focused on his mother. As he is a man, not a boy, there is going to be no reason for him to ...
Views: 411 - Critical Thinking: Can A Crisis Allow Humanity To Connect To Their True Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that an individual can go through a challenging time, humanity as a whole can also go through a challenging time. When it comes to what can unsettle an individual, it can be a breakup, a loss, or some kind of setback. On the other hand, when it comes to what can unsettle ...
Views: 334 - Emotionally Shut Down: Is Childhood Trauma The Reason Why Someone Is Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are emotional beings, it wouldn’t be right to say that every human being on the planet comes across as one. There are those who are in tune with how they feel and there are those who are typically out of touch with how they feel. Consequently, there are those who appear ...
Views: 404 - Critical Thinking: Is It Time For Humanity To Realise They Are Walking Creators? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of the pandemic, a large part of humanity has spent a lot of time feeling powerless and hopeless. Fortunately, as time has passed, some people have been able to move beyond this experience. Sadly, there are others who haven’t been able to move beyond this experience. Still, even ...
Views: 396 - Willpower: Can Someone Rely On Willpower If They Have Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is willpower and, on the other, there is emotional power. The former can be seen as something that comes from the mind, while the latter can be seen as something that comes from the body. At times, someone won’t feel like doing something that they know is good for them, so ...
Views: 352 - Superiority Complex: Can Someone Believe That They Are Superior To Others If They Are Carrying Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are certain feelings that someone can acknowledge, there are others that they can avoid. For example, if they were to experience anger, they could allow themselves to feel this feeling. However, if they were to experience toxic shame, they could end up pushing this feeling out ...
Views: 424 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Ashamed Of Not Being Able To Act Like A Man? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt can take a while for a man to realise that he is emotionally entangled with his mother; this could be something that will take place after he has been on this planet for many decades. It could seem strange as to why it would take him so long to find that he is overly focused on ...
Views: 371 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Can It Be Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Realise That His Mother Used Him? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt might take a relationship for a man, who is emotionally entangled with his mother, to see that he is living in the wrong way. Still, even if he was to come to his senses and to see what is going on, it doesn’t mean that this will be a straightforward process. So, before he is able to ...
Views: 588 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Man’s Mother Have A Fear Of Being Abandoned? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is overly involved with his mother and neglects his own life, it could be said that while one of them will be getting something from this arrangement the other person won’t be. The man’s mother will have someone there to take care of her needs and her son, the ...
Views: 390 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is Mother-Enmeshed Mans Sense Of Self Dependent On His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man will be a separate being, if he is enmeshed to his mother, it will be as though he is merely an extension of her. He will then look separate from her but he won’t act like he is separate from her. This could be something that hasn’t even crossed his mind, which will show now ...
Views: 570 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Out Of Touch With His Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should be normal is for a man to be connected to his own needs and to do what he can to take care of them. But, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, what can be normal is for him to be connected to her needs and to do what he can to meet them. Being there for her in this ...
Views: 445 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Learnt To Be Helpless? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if a man is in a position where practically his whole life revolves around his mother and he is focused on her needs, he is not going to be empowered and feel as though he has control over his own life. He is likely to feel as though he is his mother’s possession and has to ...
Views: 447 - Critical Thinking: Are “Primitive” Parts Of The World An Expression Of What Is Held Inside The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about different parts of the world, they might think about how there are certain places that are “civilised” and certain places that are “uncivilised”. When it comes to the countries that are, over the years, some of these countries have tried to change the countries that ...
Views: 377 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Unconsciously Look For A Masculine Woman? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a mother-enmeshed man’s life is likely to revolve around his mother, it doesn’t mean that he won’t end up getting into a relationship. When this takes place, he might spend less time doing things for his mother. But as time goes by, he could end becoming more focused on his mothers ...
Views: 475 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have Trouble Feeling Supported? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, he is going to spend a lot of time being there for his mother and supporting her. It will be as if his sole purpose is to be there for her and to take care of her needs. He could create the impression that he doesn’t have needs, or has a few ...
Views: 406 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is It So Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Express Himself? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that one of the greatest needs that someone will have will be to express themselves and to live a life that is in alignment with who they are. Now, if someone is in a position where the above is taking place and their life is in alignment with who they are, living in this way ...
Views: 587 - Critical Thinking: Does Humanity Need To Explore The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about space exploration and how important it is for the survival of humanity. There are those who believe that although human beings didn’t evolve to live in space, it can provide them with somewhere else to live if the earth is no longer inhabitable. In ...
Views: 611 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man A Fallen Man? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of if a mother-enmeshed man comes across as strong and appears to have it all together, it is unlikely that he will feel strong and capable on the inside. Behind the mask that he may wear is likely to be someone who feels the complete opposite. He could, of course, come across as ...
Views: 444 - Working Through Emotional Pain Is A Lot Like Weeding A Garden - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, it occurred to me that when it comes to working through emotional wounds, it is very similar to weeding a garden. At this point, you might wonder how the former has got anything to do with the latter. Perhaps the reason why I was able to see this connection is that I have removed ...
Views: 325 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Disloyal For Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat should feel comfortable is for a man to pay attention to his own needs and to live his own life. However, although this is what should feel comfortable, it doesn’t mean that it will be. Instead, a man can have the tendency to be there for his mother and to do what he can to meet her ...
Views: 346 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Avoid Relationships After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother and does what he can to take care of her needs, it will mean that his life revolves around her. It won't matter that he will have his own needs and life to lead. Nevertheless, although this is what will be going on, the man might not even be aware of the fact ...
Views: 476 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Will A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Free After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAs a man, who is entangled with his mother, can be like his mother's slave, it may seem as though he will only be free if she passes on. Based on this, once this has taken place, he will be free to live his own life. Now, there is the chance that a man in this position will also feel this ...
Views: 577 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Been Beaten Down? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone comes into contact with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother and thus, is focused on her needs and neglects himself, it can be hard for them to comprehend why he would be this way. As they are on the outside, so to speak, they will be able to see clearly that he is ...
Views: 404 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lost Touch With His Need For Autonomy? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperSo, if a man is in a position where he is entangled with his mother, he is not going to act as an individual; it will be as though he is an extension of her. Quite simply, his whole life will revolve around his mother. He will then have his own body and, thus, the ability to live his own ...
Views: 621 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Too Close To His Mother To Have A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is emotionally entangled with his mother, was to get into a relationship, it is likely to be as though he is with two people at the same time. This is because there will be the energy and attention that he directs towards his mother and the energy and attention that he directs ...
Views: 626 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Develop A Healthy Sense of Entitlement? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that a mother-enmeshed man will probably need to do is to get back in touch with all of his needs. The other part of this is that he will need to realise that his needs are not bad and that they are important. Currently, he can be in a position where he is not even aware of most of ...
Views: 337 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman could soon find, if she is with a man who is enmeshed to his mother, is that he is emotionally available. When she first met him this might not have stood out but it will now be crystal clear. At this point, she might not say anything to him, hoping that it will only be a matter ...
Views: 435 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Mans True Self Gone Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to live a life that is in alignment with who he is, he will need to be connected with his true self and feel comfortable expressing who he is. When it comes to his true self, this will relate to his needs, feelings and wants and most of these will be found in his ...
Views: 357 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Depressed? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the mask that a mother-enmeshed man is likely to wear, he can create the impression that he is happy and is pleased with his life. Behind the facade that he presents to the world, though, will be what is actually going on for him. If he was to be with himself and embraced how he really ...
Views: 390 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Is It Hard For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Break Out Of His Mother’s Mirror? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDeep down, a mother-enmeshed man will want to be in tune with and to freely express himself. However, although this is so, he will feel compelled to focus on his mother needs and to behave how she wants him to behave. He will then appear to have the ability to behave how he wants to behave, ...
Views: 364 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lost Touch With His Masculinity? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may realise, if he was to take a step back and reflect, is that he is not very balanced. The reason for this is that he may see that he finds it hard to stand his ground and take action. In general, he may find that he allows other people to walk over him and he only does things if ...
Views: 429 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Drop His Nice Guy Mask? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he focuses on his mother’s needs and neglects most of his own, he is unlikely to have a strong connection with his own feelings. What this comes down to is that he will probably be out of touch with his own body, which is where most of his needs and feelings will ...
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