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- Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Being Alone? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will feel lonely. To be on their own and away from others could be something that they enjoy; with one feeling energised by it. However, there are other people who can be by themselves and this makes them feel ...
Views: 2082(2 votes) - Childhood Abandonment: What Are The Consequences Of Childhood Abandonment? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the first few years of one’s life, they are emotionally dependent on their caregivers. And so it is vital that they are not left alone for prolonged periods of time, because if they are left it can be extremely overwhelming and therefore traumatising. But this doesn’t mean that one’s ...
Views: 1864 - Boundaries: Why Do Some Men Let Women Walk All Over Them? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t matter whether one is a man or woman, as they can both be walked over by the same or the opposite sex. And while this could relate to someone being physically walked over, in the majority of cases, it is not that extreme. But that is not to say that the damage is therefore less ...
Views: 7342 - Bringing Up Children – A Sacred Involvement - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2013 from Gopalakrishnan ChandrasekaranAwareness of our relationship to the child can help our inner transformation as part of our soul-search. It would also ensure that the child grows in an atmosphere of love unsullied by the grownup’s emotional attachment and self-interest. All in all, it is a sacred involvement. ...
Views: 1561(5 votes) - Helping Your Rigid, Anxious Child with Gift Giving and Receiving - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2013 from Carolyn StoneIs gift-giving stressful at your house? Do you try to find things that your child would like, hoping to surprise her, but then learn that it was not what she had in mind at all? Gift giving for children who are inflexible in their thinking can be a disappointing exercise in miscommunication. ...
Views: 1134(2 votes) - Regression: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Regress? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf defence mechanisms were mentioned, it is likely that regression would be spoken about and this is because it is one of the more common ones. But no matter what defence mechanism is used, they all have the same purpose. With the purpose being that they allow one’s mind to avoid the emotional ...
Views: 1826 - Masculine And Feminine: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Embrace Both Sides? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPhysically men and women are very different; with a woman being an example of the feminine and a man being an example the masculine. But while this much is true, on the inside they are both made of masculine and feminine traits. And for a long time, men generally behaved in ways that were ...
Views: 1938 - Relationships: What Causes Jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen there is an absence of trust in a relationship there is inevitably going to be certain problems that arise. Whereas although there is still going to be problems when trust does exist, there is less chance of jealousy appearing or if it does exist, then its effects will be minimal. As ...
Views: 1862 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Feel Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends. There ...
Views: 1945 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Sex To Experience Love? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being a human being, there are certain needs that each one of us has. And while there can be certain differences between people, these are ones that apply to more or less everyone. But while needs are something that each one of us have, it doesn’t mean that one always feels ...
Views: 1637 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from ...
Views: 11120 - Helping Grieving Children in Your Life during Christmas and the Holidays - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Ask Mary Mac(excerpts from the book Holiday Grief: How to Cope with Stress, Anxiety and Depression After a Loved One’s Death) Since I’ve been involved in helping grieving children for most of my career, it is very important to me to help you learn about the needs of young people when the holidays and ...
Views: 1358(2 votes) - Mirroring: Is Mirroring Important To Someone's Development? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is a baby and then a child, they are completely dependent on their parent’s responses to them. Through their caregivers responding, one will be able to have their need for food and nurturing to be met. And this also goes on to include one’s self image and how they view themselves. ...
Views: 1766 - Emotional Needs: Do Our Unmet Emotional Needs Control Our Lives? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that one has needs and these cover a wide range of different areas. For instance, one has: physical, mental and emotional needs. And although each of these are important when it comes to experiencing a level of wellbeing and a sense of fulfilment, it doesn’t mean that one will ...
Views: 5074 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to ...
Views: 4449 - Emotional Regulation: What Is Emotional Regulation? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions and feelings are something each one of us has, it doesn’t mean that they are easy to handle or manage. For some people, they generally don’t cause too many problems, unless there is a major challenge in their life. And then there are other people who find it incredibly ...
Views: 1982 - Reality: Can Trapped Emotions Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one attracts and doesn’t attract into their life, thoughts are often the primary focus. And when someone has this point of view, they are seen as the key to one attracting what they want and repelling what they don’t want. So here, one needs to become hyper vigilant ...
Views: 1695 - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
Views: 2817 - Self Talk: How Do You Talk To Yourself? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile we talk to other people in the external world, we are also talking to ourselves in what could be described as the internal world. And this is a dialogue that takes place from the moment one wakes up and until they go to sleep at night. But in many ways it doesn’t stop there, as one can ...
Views: 1579 - Emotionally Disconnected: Why Are Some People Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile emotions are often seen as a distraction and an inconvenience, they are a vital part of being human. Without them, life would be pretty meaningless and while there wouldn’t be any lows, there also wouldn’t be any highs either. It would lead to a life that is very empty and although one ...
Views: 3115 - Dealing with Child Anger and Aggression - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2013 from Tali Shenfieldby Dr. Tali Shenfield, Clinical Psychologist Every parent wants to protect their children, teach them to protect themselves, and help them redirect their own outbursts before they become dangerous and aggressive. We want to know that when our children become angry, we can discipline them ...
Views: 2422(6 votes) - Shame: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Shame? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that we are emotional beings and there are many emotions that we can have. Shame is one of them and this can stop one from acting in ways that are inappropriate for example. And yet this emotion can also end up taking over one’s life. It is then no longer something that is ...
Views: 1682 - Ten Books for Parent's Of Highly Sensitive Children - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Brenda Dronkers10 BOOKS FOR PARENTS OF HIGHLY SENSITIVE KIDS by brendadronkers I have compiled a list of great books for Parent’s of Highly Sensitive Kids.. enjoy! THE HIGHLY SENSITIVE CHILD Dr. Elaine Aron 41j5VAZIS8L._SY344_PJlook-inside-v2,TopRight,1,0_SH20_BO1,204,203,200_ With the publication ...
Views: 1856 - Needy: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this is something that cannot be changed. One might pretend that they don’t have any and yet this is nothing more than a facade and an act of self denial. And then there can be other people who come across as extremely needy and there is no confusion ...
Views: 1687 - Empathy: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many different things that make someone human and therefore allow them to have a human experience and one of these things is empathy. This is something one can have for themselves and something that can extend outwards and towards other human beings. It enables one to mirror ...
Views: 1912 - Siblings: Do Our Siblings Shape Our Lives? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and sees themselves for instance, childhood development is often cited as a primary factor. This will include how ones father and mother treated them during their formative years as a child and a baby and even ones time in the womb. And while the ...
Views: 1745 - Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a balanced sense of worth is healthy and conducive to someone realising that they deserve to receive and to achieve in life. The problem is that not everyone has this experience and this can cause them to believe that they are worthless and therefore deserve very little, if anything, ...
Views: 7238 - Relationships: Do Some People like Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control. So ...
Views: 2200 - WHY CAN'T LITTLE BOYS SKIP? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Tom KrauseWhy can't little boys skip? I was recently told of a parent of a three year old child who just started preschool. The parent was upset because her son was told because he didn’t know his ABC’s that he was behind and should consider after school tutoring to get caught up to the school’s ...
Views: 3318 - Teen Suicide - COULD THE PROBLEM BE US? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Tom KrauseCOULD THE PROBLEM BE US? When speaking with a friend about teenage suicide, I asked her if it would surprise her that every classroom I walked into over 90% of the students know someone who has had a suicidal thought? I went on to tell about a time I spoke to a student body of 400 high ...
Views: 960 - Truth: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Speak Their Truth? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough everyone has their own truth on this planet, it doesn’t mean that each one of them finds it easy to express their truth. And this includes what one says to others and what one says to themselves. There will be things that one needs to say to another or others and there will also be ...
Views: 1873 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Find It Hard to Identify Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile what is going on externally can be easy to see and describe, the same is not always true for what is taking place on the inside. And this can relate to ones: thoughts, emotions, feelings and sensations. This has the potential to lead to all kinds of challenges and these can depend on ...
Views: 3350 - Relationships: Do Some People Have Relationships To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of reasons as to why someone would want to be a relationship with another person. And yet for some people, they will do everything they can to avoid having one. This can be due to them being fiercely independent and not wanting to rely on another person; having trust issues ...
Views: 1630 - Computer Flash Games Are Beneficial For All Ages - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2013 from Charles MutrieFlash games are a source of big fun for people of all ages. Since online games don't require expensive software they are particularly attractive in today's down-trending economy. Free computer flash games are easy to find on a wide range of interests from fishing to fashion or ...
Views: 2560 - The Seven Key Characteristics of Well Balanced Kids - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2013 from MaryEllen TribbyTeaching our kids certain skills and personal habits just isn’t good enough. We need to lead by example and live the skills and traits we teach. Not only when it is convenient, but all the time. Here is a list of what I believe to be the seven most important characteristics and skills we ...
Views: 1705(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Find It Hard To Say No? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for women to be in positions of great power and responsibility. They often have more control in their career and relationships and are not as limited as previous generations were. This is not to say that this sense of inner empowerment has become the norm for ...
Views: 1976 - Intellectual Boundaries: Why Do Some People Believe Anything? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperInformation can be empowering and disempowering and what one person finds useful might not be seen in the same way by another. But with personal opinion aside, information is vital for the growth of an individual and for humanity as a whole. Without it, very little would change and regression, ...
Views: 3096 - Dependency: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Dependency? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the area of self development and recovery the term co-dependency have been used for many years. And this generally describes someone who is not interdependent or independent; they are completely dependent on others or on certain substances. This is something that can relate to every need ...
Views: 2130 - Attention: Why Do Some People Avoid Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is wide spread exposure when it comes to people who are attention seekers and these people can be labelled as having certain unhealthy narcissistic traits. One can come into contact with people who are like this in their local area and as well as in the mainstream media. It is only ...
Views: 7055 - Did You Grow Up Too Fast? The Myth of Premature Maturity - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2013 from Jennifer Harvey SallinThe little girl with no needs. The little boy who takes care of mom. Premature maturity, is in fact, no escape from having needs or needing to be taken care of. It is not an escape from being a child, and it is in fact, not often maturity at all. Premature maturity is something else more ...
Views: 1957(1 vote) - Do Lies Make You See Red? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2013 from Carolyn StoneMany times a year parents come to me for guidance about dealing with their child’s lying. Usually the situation is that the child has been involved in some activity that she knows her parents disapprove of. It could be sampling the frosting on a birthday cake before the occasion, or talking to ...
Views: 1245(1 vote) - Emotional Support: Is Emotional Support Important? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are either independent or dependent and while it can look this way, ultimately we are all interdependent. No one is their own island and each one of us is reliant on others in some way. This is not to say that everyone has this outlook: Some people can ...
Views: 3976 - Role Models: Who Are Our First Role Models? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment one is born, one is exposed to different people. And at the beginning of their life, these people are typically caregivers. So in the majority of cases, ones first role models are their parents. This can then go on to include siblings, other family members and family friends. ...
Views: 2734 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Sabotage Healthy Relationships with Men? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a woman can say to herself and others that she wants to be in a relationship with a man who is healthy and functional, it doesn’t mean that she will be attracted to a man who is like this. This can relate to woman who can’t seem to attract a guy that is healthy and for women who do attract ...
Views: 3977 - Relationships: Where Do Men’s Expectations Of Women Come From? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what a woman is going to be like, a man will have a set of expectations. And sometimes these can be consciously known and at other times, they can be completely unconscious. However, no matter whether these are conscious or unconscious, they will still have a massive impact ...
Views: 2235 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a relationship with another person, ideally, their body, heart and mind will be shared. This means there will be a physical connection, an emotional sharing and an intellectual exchange. But this doesn’t always take place and this means that one could have a relationship ...
Views: 8471 - Needs: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach one of us has wants and needs and yet that doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with their wants and needs. It is also possible for someone to have wants and needs that are second hand and have nothing to do with what actually matters to them. It could be that one actually believes ...
Views: 1893 - Anger: Why Do Some People Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges in the world today and some of these challenges are to do with emotions; from depression, to suicide and a whole myriad of other things. And emotions cannot simply be ignored or dismissed. They deserve and need as much attention as ones diet or physical health. ...
Views: 3859 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away When Things Get Serious? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man and a woman first get together it can be going along nicely and as soon as things start to become a little more serious, a man can begin to pull away. This is naturally going to be confusing for the woman and may make no sense whatsoever. And it can depend on how connected the ...
Views: 7993(2 votes) - Motherhood: The Ultimate Transition - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2013 from Beate CheletteAll these years later, I still think about what kind of mother I used to be. It took me three years to become a real one after the birth of my daughter. Motherhood is much harder than most will tell you or admit to. I couldn’t understand why people said that it was so worth it. I was 32, ...
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