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- True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Hide Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there will be how one will behave when they are in touch with their true-self and then there will be how they will behave when they are not. When it comes to the former, one will be aware of their needs and feelings. These elements will have a big effect on what they do ...
Views: 836 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Hot And Cold Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where their romantic relationships have not been very fulfilling, what they may find is that it’s because they have the inclination to end up with people who are anything but reliable and consistent. If so, this will mean that they have been with a number of people who ...
Views: 668(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Someone Push Other People Away If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a key part of someone being able to function at their best is for them to have fulfilling relationships. And, as they are an interdependent human being, this is not exactly a shock. Taking this into account, it will be vital for one to have strong bonds with ...
Views: 706 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When A Relationship Comes To An End? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has just gone through a break up, they may find that it is hard for them to focus on other areas of their life. Due to how much pain they are in, everything else could fade into the background. Perhaps they were with someone for a long time and they may have even had a strong ...
Views: 768(1 vote) - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Hide Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on their own behaviour, they may see that they generally act in an authentic manner. Therefore, irrespective of whether they are with their friends or are around people they don’t know very well, they won’t put on an act. What this is going to show is that one will ...
Views: 725 - Self-Sabotage: Is Your Inner Child Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find is that even though they want to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to make any progress. It could seem as though what they want to achieve is out of their reach. Perhaps they have been trying to achieve something for months or maybe ...
Views: 838 - Social Media: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Compare Their Life With Others Online? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhenever someone spends time on social media, they could end up looking through what their friends have been doing. Furthermore, they could look into what certain celebrities have been doing. When this takes place, there could be times when they end up feeling happy and times when they end ...
Views: 633 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Have An External Locus Of Control? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that the mainstream media likes to do is to give exposure to the bad things that happen in the world. It can seem as though the events that they cover are chosen randomly, but they are generally events that play into a certain narrative. Anyway, a lot of what they cover relates to ...
Views: 855 - Child Abuse: Did Your Parents Make Out That You Were Perfect? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to talk about what takes place when a child is abused, they could say that they will be physically harmed or verbally put down. Alternatively, they could say that they will be neglected. Then again, one could mention all of these things, meaning that it won’t just relate ...
Views: 744 - Locus Of Control: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Develop An External Locus Of Control? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people that believe that they have control over their life and then there are people that don’t. Due to this, these people are likely to have two very different experiences on this earth. When it comes to the people that fit into the first category, it could be said that they are ...
Views: 641 - Are You Sabotaging Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the desire to achieve something it doesn’t mean that they won’t also do things to hold themselves back. The trouble is that they might not be aware of the things that they are doing to undermine themselves. As a result of this, they can end up blaming other people for ...
Views: 802 - Are You Victimising Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperQuite some time ago I came across a post on social media where someone was basically lamenting the fact that although they were there for their friends during tough times, their friends were not there for them when they were going through a tough time. From what they said, it would be easy to ...
Views: 896 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Allow Someone To Become More Integrated? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone first starts to spend time with another person, they may find that they only experience good feelings. If there are moments when they don’t, these moments may soon pass. The same could also apply when they are not in the other persons company, with this being a time when they ...
Views: 683(1 vote) - Emptiness: Why Do Some People Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone looks whole on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they feel whole on the inside. How they look is then going to have very little to do with how they actually experience life. Based on how they experience life, it will be as though they are missing something. As a result ...
Views: 664 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Lose Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to whether someone does or doesn’t do something, it could typically depend on if it is right for them. In others words, they won’t have the inclination to do along with what other people are doing. What this is likely to show is that they have a good connection with their needs ...
Views: 639 - “I’m Being Ignored!” - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on I was waiting in line for something and the person in front of me asked the cashier a question. They didn’t receive an answer, though, and this made them turn to me and say that they were being ignored. A few seconds later, this person asked the cashier the same question and once ...
Views: 792 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Bring Up Emotions That Were Frozen? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a relationship, they may find that they are generally settled. What this can mean is that they are rarely emotionally flat and are rarely overwhelmed by their emotions. Being this way is naturally going to make it easier for them to function at their best and to enjoy ...
Views: 772 - You Need To Learn How To Receive! - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is given a gift, it might be hard for them to accept what has been given to them. Instead of feeling happy about what they have received, they could end up feeling guilty. Consequently, they may tell the other person that they can’t accept what has been given to them and offer it ...
Views: 662 - Emotional Problems: Would You Know What To Do If You Had Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what they would do if their car started playing up, it is unlikely that it would take long for their mind to come up with an answer. In this case, it would be pretty obvious what they would need to do. It would be clear that they would need to take their car to a ...
Views: 670 - Psychic Protection Is A Load Of Rubbish! - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst I was reading a book about psychic protection, someone basically turned their nose up when they saw the cover. It was clear that this person believed that what I wasn’t reading anything worthwhile. I didn’t think much of what they said and carried on reading the book. After a while, ...
Views: 662 - Offended: What Can Someone Do If They Have The Tendency To Be Offended? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether one is online or offline, they may find that it is not uncommon for them to get worked up about something. They could read or hear something and, before they know it, they could experience a strong emotional reaction. When this takes place, it could take a little while ...
Views: 816 - Self-Absorbed: Can Someone Suffer If They Only Focus On Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that social media has done is made it easy for someone to focus on themselves. So regardless of if it relates to how their pictures look, how people respond to what they share or how many friends they have, it is all going to be about them. In the past someone would have only have ...
Views: 608 - You Are Depressed Because Your Life Lacks Meaning! - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years I have heard a number of people say that the only reason someone would be depressed is because their life lacks meaning. I even heard a yoga teacher come out with the same view. But before I go into what my thoughts are on this, I will go along with what these people ...
Views: 807 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For A Man To Only Confide In His Partner? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is single, he may find that there is no one is his life that he can share certain things with. This can relate to how he feels, the challenges that he is going through and the things that he has done that he is not too happy about, for instance. He can then have a big family and ...
Views: 1033 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Be Controlling? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone starts to spend time with another person, they might not even think about trying to control what they can or can’t do. In fact, this could be the last thing that is on their mind. What could primarily interest them is getting to know the other person and enjoying the time that ...
Views: 793(1 vote) - Success: Why Do Some People Get Anxious When Their Life Is Going Well? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has spent a lot of time and effort building up their own life, it can be hard for them to understand why they would feel uncomfortable now that their life is going in the right direction. Yet, even if only one area of their life is going as they would like it to go, they could still ...
Views: 700 - Belonging: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Don’t Belong? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that when someone feels as though they belong to something else, it will have a positive effect on their mental, emotional and physical health. When it comes to what they belong to, this could involve being part of a family, a group of friends or to a religious group. This ...
Views: 782(1 vote) - Don’t Waste Your Time Tearing People Down! - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that social media has given people is somewhere where they can share their thoughts on just about anything. For some people, this is somewhere where they can tear other people down. Someone like this can pull another person down and they won’t need to worry about getting into ...
Views: 766 - Relationships: Is It Important To Be Able To Hold Space For Others? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a friend who is going through a tough time, they could end up telling them what they need to do to get through it. This is then going to be a time when they will try to fix or rescue this person. Simply being there for this person is not going to be enough; they will need to ...
Views: 641 - I Can’t Live Without You! - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago, I heard someone say that they couldn’t live without their partner. Now, this wasn’t because this person was disabled and therefore, needed this person in order to be able to handle life. No, this was someone who was perfectly capable of handling life by themselves. ...
Views: 783(1 vote) - Masculinity: Does A Man Need To Heal His Father Wounds If He Is Out Of Touch With His Masculinity? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, that’s if he was to take a step back and to reflect on his life, is that it is a challenge for him to assert himself. As a result of this, it can be normal for other people to walk over him. It is then not that other people will physically walk over him; it is that they ...
Views: 970 - Are Your Possessions Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be easy for someone to ignore the effect that their belongings are having on their life. Instead, they can spend a lot of time thinking about the effect that their beliefs and the people in their life are having on them. Consequently, the stuff that they own can end up owning them, ...
Views: 697 - You Need To Take Action!You Need To Take Action! - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a lot of information available that goes into how important it is to take action and what someone can do to get themselves moving. This could be seen as a sign that a lot of people don’t realise how vital it is to take action and find it hard to get the ball moving, so to speak. ...
Views: 598 - The World Needs More Love! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day I saw a paper bag that said something like, ‘the world needs more love.’ This is something that is hard to deny, considering how much suffering and destruction there is. One only needs to watch the news or to pick up a paper to hear about something negative that ...
Views: 1009 - Communication: Where Can Someone Improve Their Conversational Skills? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may have the desire to improve their conversational skills, it doesn’t mean that they will know what to do next. If they were to think about what they can do to make progress in this area of their life, their mind could end up going blank. One thing that they could do is to ...
Views: 979 - Is Your Environment Having A Negative Effect On Your Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to mental and emotional health, what is taking place internally can often be the point of focus. This will include: the thoughts that someone has, what their beliefs are, and their brain chemistry. So if someone is not operating at their best, and they were to get into ...
Views: 647 - Conflict: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Avoid Conflict? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is not possible for someone to always agree with another person or to go along with the ideas that they put forward, for instance. With this in mind, it is going to be essential for them to be able to speak up when they disagree with something and to stand their ground ...
Views: 781 - A Problem Shared Is A Problem Halved - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they have the inclination to keep their challenges to themselves, and perhaps they have been this way for as long as they can remember. They may believe that sharing what is going on for them would make them look weak or incapable, for instance. Therefore, even ...
Views: 852 - Vulnerability: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, but this doesn’t mean that a being from another planet would be able to see this if they came down to earth. This being may come to conclude that although there are some people that are, there are others that aren’t. This could be ...
Views: 641 - Boundaries: Do Other People Walk Over You? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of elements that make up ones experience of reality, and these include what they see, hear and smell. What also play an important part are their feelings and thoughts. When it comes to what they see, hear and smell, these are going to be things that other people will also ...
Views: 707 - Your Body Is Not A Dustbin! - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the body is a temple, but while this is the case, it could be said that there are plenty of people that don’t view their body in this way. For some people, their body is basically a dustbin. Now, this can mean that someone will put just about anything into their body - ...
Views: 697 - True-Self: Do Some People Use Labels As A Substitute For Finding Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, some people have used different labels to describe themselves. This is something that can be observed by looking at the profiles that some people have created on different social media sites. When it comes to the labels that someone might use on social media, it ...
Views: 566 - Emotional Self: Can It Be Too Painful For Someone To Embrace Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to place their attention on their own being, they could come to see that there are many different parts. What will be clear is that they have a physical self, and then there is going to be their mental and emotional self. This could be as far as they will go, or they could say ...
Views: 643 - Don’t Compare Yourself With Others - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to find out how well they are doing in life, they could end up looking around them. One is then going to compare themselves with the people they are close to, along with the people who they know. Alternatively, one could think about the people in their life who are around ...
Views: 899 - Social Media: Is Social Media Bad For People's Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a lot of people, social media is as much a part of their life as breathing is. When it is a big part of someone’s life, they can have a number of different accounts online. Through having these accounts, it will be possible for them to stay in touch with their friends and family. ...
Views: 539 - Mental Health: Is It Important For Someone To Be Curious If They Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a problem with their car, they would probably take it to a garage to be fixed. There is then no need for them to take a deeper look into what is going on, as another person will do that for them. However, if someone had mental and emotional problems, it is unlikely that ...
Views: 839 - Service: Are Some People Too Undeveloped To Be Of Service To Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone’s younger years are a time when their caregivers are there to serve them and their adult years are a time when it is down to them to serve others. This could be seen as something that makes sense. As a child, someone is in an undeveloped state and this is why ...
Views: 599 - Repressed Emotions: Can Someone Experience A Lot Of Pain If Their Repressed Emotions Are Triggered? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperPractically from the moment that someone is born, they can end pushing their emotions out of their awareness. After a little while, they can have very little, if any, connection with this part of their being. However, even though they will have lost touch with a big part of who they are, it ...
Views: 664 - How To Develop Self-Compassion - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat you may find is that although it is relatively easy for you to be compassionate towards others, it is not as easy for you to be compassionate towards yourself. So if another person makes a mistake, you could offer words of support; but if you were to make a mistake, it could be a very ...
Views: 762 - Relationships: Can Someone's Need To Save Others Have A Negative Effect On Their Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear that their friend is going through a tough time, they could give them a call or go to see them. No matter what they do, this could still be a time when they will listen to what they have to say and offer their support. Conversely, if they are in a relationship and ...
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