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- Relationships: What Can Someone Do If Another Person Is Triggered? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhether one is at university, reading a self-development book, or talking to a friend about what has been taking place in their life, there is a phrase that they could end up hearing. The words that come before or after it could be different but there will be one word that is the same. This ...
Views: 710 - Healing Toxic Shame Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that shame is the hardest feeling to tolerate and it is not hard to see why. This is because when someone experiences shame, they will feel bad and as though there is something wrong with them. One can then experience guilt, with this being a sign that they have done ...
Views: 626 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Saying ‘No’ If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, one thing that they may struggle with as an adult is saying no. Thanks to this, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather not do something. This is going to mean that they will go along with things that they don’t really ...
Views: 708 - Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to engage in the grieving process, it could show that they have lost someone in their adult life. Then again, what it could illustrate is that their childhood was a time when their needs were rarely, if ever, met. Consequently, one is going to be grieving a time in their life when ...
Views: 816 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Assertive If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find, that’s if they were abused and/or neglected as a child, is that it is hard for them to stand their ground. In other words, it will be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, it will be normal for other people to walk over them and for them ...
Views: 679 - Are You Letting Society Define Whether You Are Successful Or Not? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I was reading a story about someone in the public eye who felt a lot of pressure now that they had reached a certain age. This person said that there were a number of things that they should have achieved at their age. These were things that society told them that they needed ...
Views: 687 - What Can Someone Do To Understand Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having emotions is a normal part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that someone is born with the ability to understand them. In the same way that someone will need to be taught how to speak, they will also need to be taught how to understand their own emotions. Therefore, ...
Views: 563 - Being Present: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often spoken about in self-development is the importance of being present. In some cases, this is seen as the answer to every problem and, in others, it is just seen as something that will allow someone to function better. So when someone is present, they won’t be caught up ...
Views: 764 - Meditation Can Help You To Develop Self-Control - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at the current age would be to describe it as the age of impulsivity. Unlike the past, there is less pressure on people to keep things in and to control their thoughts and feelings. Nowadays, people are often encouraged to express how they feel and to allow their inner ...
Views: 795 - Are You Buying Into Someone Else's Narrative? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch the news on TV or to read a paper, they are likely to hear about what is taking place in the world. It can seem as though the channel or paper is simply passing onto them what is taking place; nothing more, nothing less. This whole process will then be very similar to ...
Views: 914 - Jealousy: Why Do Dome People Have The Tendency To Feel Jealous Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they feel bitter about what someone else has or what they have achieved, there can be others that have a very different experience. For someone like this, this can be something that they experience on a regular basis. It might not ...
Views: 652(1 vote) - Letting Go Of The Fear Of Being Seen Won’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, after being on the path of self-discovery for a little while, is that they have a fear of being seen. This is not to say that they will isolate themselves from others and never leave their home. No, what it is likely to mean is that they will spend time around others ...
Views: 901(1 vote) - Support: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Will Only Be Loved If They Need Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to support themselves as an adult, it is likely to cause them to experience a fair amount of frustration, to say the least. This could mean that they don’t have a job or that the job that they have doesn’t pay them enough. If this is how their life has been for a ...
Views: 758 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Needs If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne outcome of early abuse and/or neglected is that someone may find that it is hard for them to fulfil their needs now that they are an adult. What could be normal for them is taking care of other people’s needs. As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time being there for ...
Views: 684 - Is Social Media Making You Do Things That You Wouldn't Usually Do? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was reading a paper, I came across a story about someone who said that they became a sex addict thanks to social media. This person said that they had got sucked into a social media site and this caused them to go down a path that they wouldn’t have gone down ...
Views: 703 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Intimacy If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, it could be hard for them to get close to others. Their early years would have been a time when the people that were supposed to love and protect them crossed their boundaries on a daily basis and violated them in a number of other ...
Views: 835 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Control People By Keeping Them In A State Of Confusion? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a very long time, the establishment was able to control what most people could or couldn’t find out about. There were many ways that this took place, with some being more obvious than others. One way was via the creation of a school curriculum that only taught certain things. Two other ...
Views: 1150 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Seen If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected when they were a child, it may be hard for them to reveal who they are now that they are an adult. What could feel comfortable is hiding from others and hiding when they are around others. However, even though this is what can take place, it doesn’t mean ...
Views: 911 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About The Opposite Sex If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that early abuse and/or neglect can do is set someone up to have serious relationships problems as an adult. They could be used to having relationships that are dysfunctional. Then again, it could be far worse, with them having had a number of relationships that were abusive. They ...
Views: 1069 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Survival If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that child abuse and/or neglect can do is stop someone from developing in the right way. The years will then pass and there will come a point in time when they will look like an adult, but that can be as far as it will go. Behind their appearance can be someone who feels more ...
Views: 692 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, there is the chance that their life is far harder than it would be otherwise. They can have mental and emotional problems, health problems, and their relationships could be in a complete mess. However, while what took place ...
Views: 809 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Define How Someone Sees The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone can see the opposite sex as being one way, or they can see them as being another way. A very black and white way of looking at this would be to say that they can see them in a positive light or they can see them in a negative light. However, regardless of what view they ...
Views: 999 - Self-Worth Is Not Something That Is Developed Overnight - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, they can look for a way to change how they feel. They could be in a very desperate place, which may mean that they will try just about anything if it promises to change their life. So if they were to come across a book that said that their life ...
Views: 738 - Are You Wasting Your Attention? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are so many things to focus on; in both the real world and the virtual world. If someone lives in a big city, practically as soon as they leave their house their senses could be overloaded. There can be adverts on the side of taxis, buses, above buildings and on billboards. ...
Views: 719 - Being Seen: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Hide In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can cause someone to get into self-development is if their life is not very fulfilling. What this can mean is that they haven’t been able to make much progress in life or perhaps they have made progress, but they have only been able to get so far. Either way, they will be ...
Views: 977 - Self-Awareness: Is Self-Awareness The Antidote To A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR Cooperf someone has a victim mentality, they are unlikely to see themselves as playing a part in how they experience life. Whether something does or doesn’t happen to them is going to be out of their hands. One will be nothing more than an observer of their life, with life being something that ...
Views: 647 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Will Be Rejected If They Don’t Please Others? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone will have their own needs, it doesn’t mean that they will pay attention to them. Instead, they can have the tendency to do what other people want and what they think they want. As a result of this, their life is not going to be an expression of who they are. Living in this way ...
Views: 627 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a traumatic childhood, they may be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Their early years would then have been incredibly difficult and now that they are an adult their life won’t be much better. What this could mean is that this was a time in their life when they ...
Views: 801 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can make it more or less impossible for someone to feel comfortable in their own skin and to be grateful for the life that they have been given is if they feel worthless. Through feeling this way, their life can be unbearable and being alive can feel like a curse, not a blessing. To say ...
Views: 859 - Therapy: Why Would Someone Say That The Type Of Therapy That They Are Having Is The Best? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has worked with a therapist for a little while, they may find that their life has started to change. As to what caused them to have therapy in the first place, there can be a number of reasons. For example, their mind may have been out of control and their emotions may have ...
Views: 622 - How Do You Develop Courage? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was looking through a book called, ‘How to Survive Without Psychotherapy’ by David Smail. From what I read, it was clear that this was someone who was not too keen on the type of approach that is often taken when it comes to mental and emotional problems. He didn’t like the ...
Views: 763 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Feel Smothered Whenever Their Partner Expresses Their Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship, there are going to be needs that they will want their partner to meet and there will be needs that their partner will want them to meet. And while some of their needs will be different, a number of their needs will most likely be the same. They will probably ...
Views: 707 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Shut Down If Their Partner Is Not Responsive? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of a relationship, one may find that their partner is fairly or even extremely responsive. What this means is that this person will listen to what they have to say, stop doing certain things if they have negative effect on them, and be open to feedback, amongst other things. In ...
Views: 987 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Affect Someone’s Life Even If They Can’t Remember What Happened? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone was abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. What happened during their early years could be a mystery to them or they could make out that their childhood wasn’t that bad. Still, while they won’t remember much of what actually ...
Views: 784 - Therapy: Do You Need Therapy Or Do You Need To Change Your Environment? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone came to see that their mood has dropped, are experiencing heightened levels of anxiety and/or that they are not as confident as they usually are, they might think about reaching out for external support. Fortunately, they will have had the ability to detach from their ...
Views: 677 - Critical Thinking: Are Some Celebrities Hypocrites When It Comes To Climate Change? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFairly recently, a number of celebrities have spoken out about climate change (the current phrase). Along with this, a number of them have even taken part in some of the extinction rebellion protests. In general, these people have said that more needs to be done to protect the planet and ...
Views: 678 - Illness: Do Some People Believe That They Need To Be Ill In Order To Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, it is believed that if someone gets ill it is not because they want to be ill. What this then means is that not one part of their being will want to experience life in this way. If someone wanted to prove that this is the case, they could put forward at least two reasons. Firstly, ...
Views: 868 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk On Eggshells Around Women? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a man may typically feel comfortable enough to be himself when he is around another man, this might rarely be the case when he is around a woman. When he is around a woman, he could have the tendency to become someone else entirely. During this time, then, he is not going to behave how ...
Views: 703 - Therapy: Why Don’t Some People Heal? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are, of course, a number of reasons as to why someone would end up having therapy or working with a healer. For example, they could be in a position where they have mental and emotional problems, their relationships might not be going as they want them to go and/or they may have only been ...
Views: 680 - Overwhelmed: Is It Easy For Someone To Be Overwhelmed If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they can handle a fair amount of stimulation without feeling washed out. So, one could wake up and check their phone, spend most of their day around others, and even go out in the evening, and everything could be fine. Along with this, there can be all the time ...
Views: 571 - Mental Health: Are Mental And Emotional Problems Part Of Life? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, mental and emotional problems receive a lot of coverage in the media and there are plenty of people that talk about them on social media. Therefore, what is taking place is a far cry from how things used to be. In the past, mental and emotional problems were rarely spoken about and, ...
Views: 710 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Good Idea To Tell Another Person That They Are ‘Unlucky’? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to find out that a friend or a family member was going through a challenging time, they could end up reaching out to them. This could be a time when they will ask them about what has been going on. The other person could tell them that their partner is not treating them very ...
Views: 720 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Be Disconnected From Themselves So That They Can Play God? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the answers are within and that ‘who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes’ (Carl Jung). Based on this, it could be said that there is a lot going on internally. Therefore, if someone is connected to their inner world, they will have access to their truth and ...
Views: 704 - Does The Film ‘Joker’ Show What Can Happen If Someone Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I had the chance to watch ‘Joker’ and I must say that this was an intense film. I thought the story was solid, the acting was stupendous, and the score worked nicely too. Unlike so many of the other superhero films, this was very lifelike. I would even go as far as to say that ...
Views: 922 - Drama: Are Some People Addicted To Drama? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in the world that almost always have something taking place that prevents them from living a peaceful and harmonious existence. For these people, their life can have a lot in common with a soap opera. Now, unlike soap operas, these people might not have people in their life ...
Views: 699 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse One Of The Reasons Why So Many People Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people that are not in a good way mentally and emotionally. Alongside this, a number of solutions have been put forward. One thing that is often recommended, if someone is not in a good way, is that they open up to friends or family ...
Views: 1057 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If They Are Triggered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has only just started to spend time with someone, they can find that just about everything runs smoothly. So whenever they are with the other person, they can feel good and even relaxed. During this stage, they could believe that this is how it will always be and that they won’t ever ...
Views: 760 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Did A Man’s Father Play A Part In Why He Is Enmeshed To His Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR Cooper. If a man’s life basically revolves around his mother and, therefore, he has the tendency to neglect his own needs, there is a good chance that he is a mother enmeshed man. He is then not going to act like an individual; he will act as though he is an extension of his mother. If he has the ...
Views: 1109 - Child Abuse: Is It Clear To See That Abusive Parents Were Also Abused By Their Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused as a child, they can struggle with two questions. Firstly, they can wonder why their own parents treated them so badly, and secondly, they can wonder why their parents would repeat what was done to them. These two questions can consume their mind a ...
Views: 703 - Healing: Can Someone’s Adult-Self Heal Their Wounded Child-Self? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone is likely to find is that there are times in their life when they react. When this takes place, something inside them will have been triggered and they will do something that they wouldn’t usually do. Therefore, instead of responding to something; it will have been as though they ...
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