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- Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Have An Idealised False Self? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they might have the need to talk to their abusive parent or parents about what happened. Now, assuming that it was one parent who mistreated them or that one of their parents has passed on, they might not get ...
Views: 138 - False-Self: Can Someone Have A Needless False Self If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have a number of needs, they could typically act as though they only have a few needs. They can then come across as though they merely have basic and mental needs, for instance. Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is very independent and doesn’t need ...
Views: 184 - Football: Did Cristiano Ronaldo “Cry Like A Little Girl” During The Portugal vs. Slovenia Football Match? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSince the match between Portugal vs. Slovenia in the European football championship, a lot has been said about the emotion that Cristiano Ronaldo expressed after he missed a penalty. Some people have criticised him for crying after he missed a penalty, while others have been supportive. When ...
Views: 190 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Will Be Free After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be free to live his own life, it doesn’t mean that he will feel this way. Instead, he can feel as though his mother owns him and is then in control of what he does or doesn’t do. From this, it will be clear that he doesn’t feel loved and supported by his mother. She is ...
Views: 156 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Responsible If His Mother Becomes Ill? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man does a lot for his mother and neglects a number of his own needs in the process, it doesn’t mean that he won’t end up in a position where he de does even more for her. This is something that can take place if his mother was to become unwell and less capable of looking after ...
Views: 168 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Very Guarded If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to experience it. So, they might have spent a fair amount of time on their appearance and spent time socialising but not been able to make much progress. This could be something that has been going on ...
Views: 189 - Procrastination: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Procrastinate? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their behaviour, is that they have the tendency to put things off. So, this can relate to one area of their life or it could relate to how they are in general. If this relates to how they are in one area of their life, it might have much of an ...
Views: 178 - Being Seen: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Seen If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they typically feel, what they could soon notice is that they often feel invisible, ignored and lonely. They can show that when they are around others, they seldom feel seen and heard. It is then to be expected that they would often feel ...
Views: 168 - Lack Mentality: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Lack Mentality? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on what often goes through their mind, they could come to the conclusion that they have a scarcity mindset. They could see that they often think about how there is not enough. This can relate to there not being enough money, opportunities, ...
Views: 179 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man In An Emotionally Collapsed State? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he has the tendency to do what his mother wants and neglects a number of his own needs, it could be said that he needs to assert himself. However, although this is what he will need to do, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. Firstly, he might not be ...
Views: 175 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Owns Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear, if a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, is that he has the sense that his mother owns him. Nonetheless, this is not to say that this is something that he will be consciously aware of. Therefore, if it was put forward to him that he is behaving as though ...
Views: 182 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Abandoned After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around his mother and has been this way since he was a boy, it is naturally going to be difficult for him when she passes on. However, he might rarely if ever think about her passing on. This can be because he is so caught up in her world that he doesn’t have time to ...
Views: 163 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That His Feeling’s Don’t Always reflect Realty? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man typically acts as though he is an extension of his mother, behaving in this way is likely to allow him to avoid certain feelings. Thus, as deprived as he is likely to be by living in this way, it will allow him to keep it together and function. This is not to say that he won’t ...
Views: 139 - Child Abuse: Will Someone Be Controlled By Their Abusive Parent If They Hate Them? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter thinking about some of the things that they experienced during their formative years, someone could find it hard to understand why they were treated so badly. But, if they were treated as though they were their parent or parent’s enemy as opposed to their child, this is to be ...
Views: 176 - Boundaries: Can Someone Have The Tendency To Feel Exhausted If They Lack Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could act as though they are merely an extension of others. The reason for this is that they could tend to say yes if another person asks them if they will do something for them. And, even if they are not asked to do something, they could still be doing things for others. ...
Views: 169 - Boundaries: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that they have trouble letting people get close to them. This can mean that they will spend a fair amount of time by themselves. Then again, they could spend a fair amount of time around others but typically hide themselves when ...
Views: 177 - Loneliness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Experience Loneliness? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what could soon stand out is that they often feel cut off from others and alone. They could see that this is how they have been for most of their life. What could enter their mind is that this is just how their life is and that ...
Views: 150 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Driven By Hope If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is very driven, it doesn’t mean that this is a sign that they are in a good way mentally and emotionally and value themselves. Still, it can appear this way as being highly motivated is often seen as a sign that someone is in a good way and has ‘high self-esteem’. Not only ...
Views: 163 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Self-Image If His Mother Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, what could soon stand out is that he doesn’t have a very positive view. He could find that he feels worthless and unlovable. After coming to see this, he could soon start to think about how this is impacting his life. So, he ...
Views: 160 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Invisible If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he often feels unseen and unheard and as though he doesn’t even exist. He is then going to have a physical body and be able to be seen by others but he will seldom feel seen. If he were to take a closer look ...
Views: 189 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Needs If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is an interdependent human being who has needs, it doesn’t mean that he will act like one. In general, he could act as if he is an independent human being and doesn’t have needs. What this is likely to mean is that while he will typically meet his basic or ‘lower’ needs, his ...
Views: 159 - Father Wounds: Can Fathers Day Be Hard For Someone If They Had An Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, Fathers Day is a day when they will show their gratitude to their father for all the things that he did for them when they were a child and continues to do for them now that they are adults. When someone is in this position, this is then going to be a day of celebration and ...
Views: 177 - Intimacy: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Need For Intimacy He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, what he could find is that he generally acts as though he doesn’t have the need to connect to a woman. As a result of this, a number of his needs are typically not going to be met. So, his need to be seen and heard by a woman, ...
Views: 170 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was Brought Up By A Parent Who Lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel when they are around others. Then again, this can be something that takes place without them consciously choosing to do so. Due to this, they can generally create the impression that everything is fine. Naturally, this is going to stop ...
Views: 196 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can False Hope Stop A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOn the surface, it can seem as though a man who is focused on his mother and ignores his own life is happy with how things are. This is partly because of how he behaves and what he is likely to say if he is asked why he behaving in this way. So, he can create the impression that he is happy ...
Views: 159 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can False Hope Cause A Woman To Stay With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a woman has come to see that she is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, she could take the time to think about what she needs to do next. This may also involve her talking to a few of her friends about what is going on. Either way, before long, she could share her thoughts ...
Views: 172 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Let His Ex Down? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks, months or even years ago, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother might have been in a relationship. He might seldom if ever think about his ex, or he could often think about her. When he does think about her, he could feel angry and let down, and he could wonder why ...
Views: 156 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Experience Womb Trauma? - by Submitted on May 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is unable to live his own life due to how focused he is on his mother, it will be clear that he is out of balance. He will be acting more like an extension of his mother than a separate human being who has his own needs and feelings. If he didn’t have his ...
Views: 144 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Go Into An Emotionally Collapsed State After A Setback? - by Submitted on May 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to fall into a deep hole when something doesn’t go as they want it to. Due to this, this will be a time when they will experience disempowering thoughts and feelings. Along with ...
Views: 161 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Will A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have A Lot Of Loss To Work Through? - by Submitted on May 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that he is acting like an extension of his mother and is ignoring himself, a man can look into what he can do to change his life. Still, he might see that this is not going to happen overnight. But, after he has looked into what he can do to start acting like an individual ...
Views: 234 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Forgive Himself? - by Submitted on May 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has recently become aware of how caught up he is in his mother’s world and has a rough idea of what happened during his formative years, he could often experience a fair amount of anger, rage and hate. This is how he can feel whenever he is around his mother and when he thinks about how ...
Views: 161 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing A Healthy Sense Of Entitlement? - by Submitted on May 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a lot is said about those who are entitled. When someone is in this position, they can be described as being ‘very entitled’ and expecting the whole world to revolve around them. From this, it can be as though there are only two options. Either someone is entitled and will behave ...
Views: 176 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Disembodied? - by Submitted on May 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their body and their feelings, something significant might need to take place for them to realise this. It might seem strange that they wouldn’t be aware of this. However, if they have been for way for most of their life and, thus, this is just ...
Views: 163 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Mistreat His Partner? - by Submitted on May 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman may struggle to understand is why the man that she is with treats his mother well but not her. Most likely, it wasn’t this way when they first started spending time together. When they first met, he might have been attentive, understanding, kind and caring, for instance. Along ...
Views: 161 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Only Blame His Father For What Happened? - by Submitted on May 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is neglecting his own life due to how much he does for his mother, he can believe that his father is at fault for how he behaves. He can then be frustrated and even angry about how he lives his life but his mother won’t have played a part. In his eyes, then, ...
Views: 196 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Blame His Father For What Happened? - by Submitted on May 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter starting a relationship with a woman, a man could come to see that he is overly focused on his mother. This is because the woman that he is with might have shared her observations with him and made it clear that he is not responsible for his mother. As he is open-minded and able to hear ...
Views: 175 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fall Apart Without External Structure If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on May 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could be fairly settled and only experience anxiety and fear, for example, from time to time. Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is in a good way mentally and emotionally. However, although they can have this outlook, it doesn’t mean that this is ...
Views: 153 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Create A Disembodied Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on May 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a human being, it means that they will have a head and a body. And, on the inside, they will have and thoughts, feelings and instincts. However, although there are these two parts of them or seemingly two parts of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of ...
Views: 200 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Sacrificed By His Parents? - by Submitted on May 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be clear that something is not right if a man is focused on his mother and is not there for himself. He will be a separate human being, who has his own needs and life to lead, and yet, he won’t act like one. Thus, he will have put his own life to one side and his main ...
Views: 204 - Early Deprivation: Is Self-Hate Passed Down From One Generation To Another? - by Submitted on May 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that they find it hard to feel good about themselves. What could stand out, if they were to take a closer look at how they feel during these moments, is that they feel worthless, unlovable and deeply ...
Views: 221 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Continually Cheated On? - by Submitted on May 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA few days, weeks or months ago, someone may have been in a relationship with someone who they loved. But, after finding out that this person cheated on them, they might have soon decided that it was best for them to cut their ties with them. Then again, they might have found out that this ...
Views: 198 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Look Towards A Woman To Rescue Him? - by Submitted on May 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, he can act as if he is merely an extension of his mother. Due to this, he is going to neglect himself and his life won’t be very fulfilling. However, this can just be what is normal, which means that he might not be aware of ...
Views: 224 - Mother Wounds: Will A Man Unconsciously Project The Mother That He Had Into Women? - by Submitted on May 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man meets a woman, it might not be long until he develops a view of her. After this, he can believe that the view that he has formed of her is a reflection of what she is like. However, although this can be the case, what if what is going on for him has had an effect on how he ...
Views: 193 - Early Deprivation: Are Attachment Problems Passed Down From One Generation To Another? - by Submitted on May 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wasn’t able to connect to and form a strong connection with their primary caregiver during their early years, who is likely to have been their mother, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. But, even if this is the case, what took place will have had a big impact on them then ...
Views: 192 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Father Abandon Himself? - by Submitted on May 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt first, a man who is entangled with his mother might have focused on the impact that she is having and had on him. The reason for this is that it would have been clear that she is having and did have a big effect on him. But, as time has passed, it might have become clear that there is the ...
Views: 211 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Unconsciously Look For A Mother Figure If His Mother Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man’s childhood is well and truly behind him, it doesn’t mean that every part of him has moved on from this stage of his life. A big part of him can be frozen in time and still trying to receive what was not provided all those years ago. Assuming that this is the case, this ...
Views: 224 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Consciously Choose To Harm Their Child? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can believe, if they were mistreated during their early years, is that their parent or parents did this on purpose. They then did what they could to undermine their child as opposed to doing what they could to build them up. Assuming that it was one parent who did this; they ...
Views: 207 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Assert Himself? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has become aware of the fact that he is overly focused on his mother and is ignoring his own life, he may also find that he doesn’t have a strong need to do anything about it. If he is single, then, he will continue to suffer, and, if he is in a relationship, his partner will also ...
Views: 160 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Rejected By His Father? - by Submitted on May 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and needs to focus on himself, he could start to explore what his early years were like. What this will do is allow him to gain a deeper understanding of why he is behaving in this way. By doing this, he can soon find that ...
Views: 159 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a separate human being with their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can feel like they are simply an extension of others. Due to this, they are not going to have the sense that they own themselves, they will ...
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