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- Top 10 things not to do if you want to be considered a great catch by the opposite sex - by This list was developed by listening to singles talk about what they want in relationships, how they evaluate potential partners and why they reject them.
1. Don't be unavailable.
This one is the number one complaint with singles. Again and again, people say they are available when in ...
Views: 886 - How to Choose a Partner - by There are many single people looking for a relationship, but not necessarily finding the one. I hear it all the time in my practice. Single clients and friends tell me they have tried personal ads, dating services and the Internet. Some get their friends to set them up on blind dates. Many go to ...
Views: 701 - Letting Go of Love, Part II - by Note: "He" and "him" is used throughout this article to make for easy reading. However, the article is applicable to both genders, so any "he" can be substituted with "she."
Last week we talked about letting go of a particular kind of past relationship. It was the kind of relationship where ...
Views: 4650(2 votes) - False Advertising or the Benefit of Being All of You - by Imagine that you go to a car dealership and buy a sports car. You take it home, park it in your garage and turn in for the night. The next morning you open up your garage and find a luxury coupe. The sports car is nowhere in sight. Read on to find out what happened with your sports car.
In the ...
Views: 703 - Bringing Romance Back - by Romance dies, that’s a fact, right? When you find the love of your life, you'll both settle into a daily routine of financial, household, and child responsibilities, forgetting you are a couple, right? Romance will only last through the initial crush of the relationship. After that you and your ...
Views: 702 - How to attract true love - by Most singles want to know how to attract true love. Below are nine steps tested out on a number of singles who voted them to be extremely useful.
1. Believe it's possible for you to have a long-term, loving, wonderful relationship
Many singles hope for a wonderful relationship, but few ...
Views: 755 - Why Romance Dies - by Romance is how most relationships begin. We anticipate being with our partner, give flowers, write cards, shower each other with attention and affection, stage seductions, etc. But somewhere down the road, the romance begins to fade. It happens so often that it seems ordinary, expected, natural. ...
Views: 1002 - Feel - by Recently I had a conversation with a friend about relationships.
She told me she does not have a relationship and has not had one for the last few years. I asked her if she was complete with her divorce and the relationship right after that. She said she had no feeling left about her old ...
Views: 721 - How to Stop Being Single - by Are you single but don't want to be? If so, are you also not dating?
You're not alone. Many singles who want to be in a committed relationship tend to date very rarely or not at all. And they can't really be blamed. After all, how do you date if you have trouble finding people to date? How do ...
Views: 987 - 10 Worst Dating Mistakes Made by Singles, Part I - by Sometimes the best way to learn is from other's mistakes. Especially others who may now be living a life you want.
This week I interviewed clients who are now in loving relationships about their worst dating mistakes as singles. Then I added some of my own dating mistakes to the list.
These ...
Views: 840 - HeartLogic - by Do you have repeating relationship patterns? Do you attract the same kinds of people again and again? Do you wonder why you can't find available partners? Do you complain that you can't meet anyone? Do you have relationships that only last a few dates? Are you suffering with some other ...
Views: 714 - Does "Mass" Dating Work In Finding Mr. or Ms. Right? - by Mass dating, for the purpose of this article, encompasses dating services, singles' ads on the web and in newspapers and magazines, and other services and venues specifically designed for singles to meet other singles and "find" each other.
For your free copy of the How To Attract Your Ideal ...
Views: 770 - Forgiveness is a Destination - by Forgiveness is a destination and not an action. When you tell yourself to forget and forgive some wrong or hurt, you can not. You tell yourself to take the action of forgiveness, yet can not, because forgiveness is not an action.
When your boss passes you over for a promotion or a raise, you ...
Views: 755 - Help in Identifying Teens Who Are in Abusive Dating Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2007 from Connie LimonDo you suspect your teen is in an abusive dating relationship? Some teens feel that having a boyfriend or girlfriend proves their own worth. They may feel so strongly about having a relationship that a bad relationship is better than no relationship at all. Teens are also highly susceptible ...
Views: 880 - Keeping My Boyfriend Sexually Attracted - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDr. Neder: I read one of your articles about how to keep my boyfriend interested in me sexually. You said to try to change things up but honestly I feel like I just want to be myself because if he fell in love with who I am then why should I change just for him to show interest in me again? He ...
Views: 758 - 5 Ways To Be A Strategic Dater - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2007 from Amy SchoenToday’s dating advice for women and men, is designed to help you discover if you are a Strategic Dater. When you go out to singles event, do you: 1) stick with your friends? 2) hang off by yourself and look like you are available? 3) never would be caught at a singles event! If ...
Views: 2423 - My First Date - by Theresa was a cheerleader and the school Social convenor.
One afternoon, around lunchtime, I was at my locker and Theresa approached me, wide-eyed and smiling and said, "You’re Art Nefsky, aren’t you?". I nodded, and she introduced herself. She said she recognized me from the school plays. We ...
Views: 848 - Meeting that special someone: - by You’ve met many people in your life. How many of them have been your ideal mate? Probably very few. You may have dated someone very attractive, only to find that they don’t seem so wonderful after you get to know them. If you’re going to find Mr. or Ms. Right, you’re probably going to have to go ...
Views: 798 - First Date Checklist: - by First dates sometimes offer a range of emotion from thrilling to terrifying! Here are some tips that will help things go smoothly:
#1: Be on time! Timeliness is expected, but being late (or too early) makes a bad impression. If you can't help being a little late, call before the expected ...
Views: 716 - How Much is Sex “Worth”? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederDear Dr. Neder: I’m 23 years old and I met this guy (25) about 6 months ago and we really hit it off. He’s absolutely perfect! We got along great and started dating and things turned physical pretty quickly. I’ve decided to wait until I’m married before I’ll have sex but we made out and ...
Views: 1949 - ***Online Dating - When and How Much Do We Open Up? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2007 from Debi BerndtOnline Dating - When and How much do we open up? I recently was interviewed by a writer on Match.com regarding the email communications between prospective online daters. It made me realize how our dating society has changed. In my dating days, I remember the difference in how men ...
Views: 1042 - Why Do Women ‘Tease’? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2007 from Jonathan FalkenIn order to understand what is really going on with this phenomenon we need to stop projecting our male perspectives onto women. Actually this apparently annoying behaviour makes perfect sense when evaluated from the point of view of a woman. One of the reasons that women engage in this ...
Views: 13329 - I’m a Snoop! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2007 from Dr. Dennis NederHello – This is questions requires some background information. My ex-boyfriend and I just broke up about a month ago after a two-year relationship because he got into medical school 7 hours from home, and I can’t move because I had accepted a really great job. We decided that long distance ...
Views: 1195 - The Secret Of What Women Want in Men - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2007 from Jay JulioWhat do women want? many men have wondered. Who knows. But figuring out what women want in men is crucial to becoming effective not only in dealing with women, but developing the kind of Dating Life you really want. So what do women want from men? What traits do they look for? And why -- ...
Views: 2294 - Three Things to Do BEFORE You Go on That Date - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2007 from Casey DawesAccording to the National Center for Health Statistics, the divorce rate in 2005 was 3.6 per 1,000 population and the marriage rate was 7.5 per 1,000 population, leading to the statements that half of all marriages end in divorce. But the truth is that many of these divorcees want to get ...
Views: 1819 - Could George Costanza Have Avoided the Telephone Time Waster? - by Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
What's up, Doc!
I read your articles every week in askmen.com and I consider myself a follower of The "System." I wonder if you could help me out. My brother's girlfriend told me about this girl she works with. She told me that we had a lot in common, ...
Views: 869 - Can a Relationship Start Without the Home Phone Number? - by Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Dear Doc,
Sometimes a woman refuses to give me her home phone number for "security reasons" (i.e. she wants to keep away the weirdoes and stalkers), but she is perfectly willing to meet me at a restaurant first and usually does. I really prefer to call the ...
Views: 977 - Can A Man Ever Go Back To The One Who Rejected Him? - by Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Dear Doc,
I've studied your Dating Dictionary, listened to your tapes and even watched some Cary Grant movies. I have also been looking around for women to practice The "System" on. I recently ran across a woman from my past and wondered if, with my new ...
Views: 1031 - HAVE YOU EVER HEARD "I AM MY HUSBAND'S WIFE" ON TALK RADIO? - by Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Dear Doc,
I think my wife has lost interest in me. I'm 36 years old, and I've been married for almost twelve years. Lately, I have been feeling that every bit of energy she has either goes into our two children, or into keeping her girl friends happy.
Don't ...
Views: 771 - Does a Woman Feel Guilty When She Cheats On a Guy? - by Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Hi Doc,
My name is Joey. I'm nineteen years old and I went out with this girl for a year and a half. She was my first love - I mean I was head over heels for this girl. She was beautiful, very attractive, very intelligent and funny - qualities you can't ...
Views: 5352 - CAN A WOMAN WITH HIGH INTEREST LEVEL BREAK A DATE? - by WOMEN DON'T LIE - MEN DON'T LISTEN
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Hi Doc,
I'm having a problem with a girl I met through an Internet dating service. On our first date, I came to her house with flowers and took her to a nice restaurant. I thought it went pretty well; we had a nice ...
Views: 6269 - THE POWER OF FEMININE GRACE - by Dear Doc Love,
I am a woman who has been around the block at least once, and I just have to tell you that I think your advice is very accurate and honest. I am 38, divorced, have children (with whom I have a very open rapport about everything from sex to politics), and I have the most ...
Views: 5104(4 votes) - THIS TIME, THE WOMAN IS RIGHT - by Hi Doc,
I'm having a problem with my girlfriend, and I really need some advice. Recently, my girlfriend was over at my house when my ex called. (My ex and I had been together for 9 months, and I broke up with her about 6 months ago.)
I chatted with my ex for about 10 minutes and my ...
Views: 884 - Do Ernest and Julio Gallo Hold the Key to Women? - by Hey Doc,
I met a girl on a blind date. She's 21 and I'm 29. We went to a bookstore and hung out at a bar. At first, she was shy, so I bought her a few drinks. After three wine coolers, she loosened up and made it clear she was attracted to me.
At three different times during the date, I went ...
Views: 789 - CAN A MAN AVOID GAME PLAYERS WHEN USING THE PERSONALS? - by Dear Doc Love,
I have a love challenge from Germany. I am a good-looking 29 year-old physician. I recently put an ad plus my photo on a singles website and a beautiful 26-year-old teacher answered it. Without asking her, she sent me her picture and phone number with her second e-mail. We later ...
Views: 798 - BREAST CANCER PREVENTION AND TREATMENT WITH NATUROPATHIC MEDICINE - by Hi Doc,
I have been dating this woman seriously for the past three months. Recently she has gone through some stressful times - for example: she got into a fight with her mom, a friend informed her that he had cancer, and she's had difficulty with some of her college classes.
Another male ...
Views: 717 - WHY DOES SHE ALWAYS BRING HER KID ON THE DATE? - by Hi Doc,
I am smitten with a beautiful redhead who has a three year-old daughter. She told me from the beginning that she wasn't looking for anyone because she didn't want anyone telling her how to raise her little girl. Apparently, she had had a bad relationship with her daughter's father, ...
Views: 726 - CAN HIGH INTEREST LEVEL CONQUER RESENTMENT? - by Hi Doc,
I've taken all of your advice and used The "System" extensively. As a result, a girl I've been seeing has shown a high degree of interest in me. First: she's been the one to call me to go out places. Second: she's sent me emails telling me how special I am (she normally doesn't give ...
Views: 1797 - STOP CHATTING AND ASK FOR THE HOME PHONE NUMBER! - by Hey Doc,
A waitress I like works at a restaurant I go to a lot. I gave her my business card and on a couple of occasions after that, we spoke about going out sometime. She was very open to the idea.
Before leaving town for a holiday, she gave me her cell phone number. I called her and we had ...
Views: 926 - When are Women the Most Happy? - by Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Dear Doc Love,
I just discovered your Internet column in Askmen.com; the one entitled "A Dose of Male Perspective on this Romantic Love Stuff." As a babyboomer single (divorced) woman, I disagree on one aspect: "The woman is happiest when she does the ...
Views: 818 - WHY GO AGAINST THE VERY THING THAT MADE YOU SUCCESSFUL? - by Hey Doc,
I'm a freelance designer in my thirties who has been working for a company off and on for about six months. At this company, there is one girl in particular that I've grown very fond of.
Lately, I've been a little flirtier with her and she's responded with smiles. I haven't ...
Views: 700 - AVOID BECOMING THE SURROGATE BOYFRIEND - by Hey Doc,
I have had a platonic relationship with a girl for four years. We have done almost everything together, even vacations. Things have gone very well - until about a month ago, shortly after she met her current boyfriend.
When she first told me about the new man in her life, I told her ...
Views: 4131 - IF SHE LOVED YOU SO MUCH, WHY DID SHE MOVE AWAY? - by Hi Doc Love,
I wrote to you before and your advice helped a lot. I have another question for you.
I've been in a relationship for eight months. Three weeks ago, my girlfriend moved to the West Coast, while I'm still stuck here on the East Coast. Just to keep her interested in me, and to keep ...
Views: 10405 - AS THE SONG TITLE SAYS, GIRLS: "STAND BY YOUR MAN" - by Hi Doc,
Got a stumper for you. I met my fianc? at a time in my life when I was financially set, carefree, and had lots of time to shower her with attention. I asked her to marry me and move to Missouri to be with me (she lives in Rhode Island). True - she had to give up a job, her family and ...
Views: 751 - WHY WOULD A WOMAN TALK ABOUT HER OTHER DATES? - by Hi Doc,
I was on a date with a girl, and I was thinking that she really liked me. She had invited me over to her house to watch movies and stuff like that. Then on the second date, she started telling me how she went out with some other guy the previous week. Though she didn't have anything ...
Views: 1619 - CAN A WOMAN BE COAXED INTO TAKING THE NEXT STEP? - by Hi Doc,
I've been talking to this girl for about a month now and we hit it off real well. We have a lot in common and we talk a lot on the phone.
The problem is that when I ask her if we can take our relationship to the next level and be a couple, she tells me that I need to take it slow ...
Views: 1010 - WHEN ARE WOMEN THE HAPPIEST? - by Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Dear Doc Love,
I just discovered your Internet column in Askmen.com; the one entitled "A Dose of Male Perspective on this Romantic Love Stuff." As a babyboomer single (divorced) woman, I disagree on one aspect: "The woman is happiest when she does the ...
Views: 2335 - Guys, Has a Woman Ever Bewildered You with Any of These Lines? - by "Can't we just be friends?"
"I don't kiss on the first date."
"I need someone who is more exciting."
"Did I tell you about my present lover?"
"I think you're a nice person, but…"
If you have heard any of these lines, you're in luck because I have the medicine to cure your case of ...
Views: 920 - THE LAST THING YOU WANT TO BE IS HER FRIEND - by Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Hi Doc,
I'm currently a sophomore in college. Back in high school, I met this girl that I really liked. Though we never saw each other outside of school, we would always talk and have a good time in class. During our senior year I tried desperately to ask ...
Views: 748 - What Can the Gigolo Teach Nice Guys about Romancing Women? - by Hey Doc Love,
I have this friend who has the ability to talk women into buying him things. He does not buy them anything or tell them he loves them but they still give him stuff. Recently, a woman bought him a pair of shoes that cost 300 dollars!
How can I get girls to buy me things too? I ...
Views: 3963