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Right now, a man could be with a woman who is greatly undermining him. This could be something that has been going on for a few weeks or months, or it may have been going on for a number of years.
But, regardless of how long he has been in this position, he is unlikely to be in a good way. He ... Views: 140
Even though someone has a mental, emotional and instinctual self, it doesn’t mean that they are generally in touch with each of these parts. In general, they can be in touch with what is going on for them at a mental level but that’s about it.
But, if this is just what is normal, they won’t ... Views: 138
At the beginning of someone’s life, they needed a mother who was able to attune to their needs and typically meet them. The reason for this is that they were in a physically and emotionally dependent state.
Therefore, although they had experienced a physical birth, they hadn’t experienced an ... Views: 138
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he is more or less always in a relationship. So, after he has broken up with a woman, he might only be single for a few weeks or months.
Assuming that this is the case, he could believe that he just prefers to be in a ... Views: 138
For a little while now, someone may have had issues with their throat. So, they might often have a sore throat, find it hard to swallow and have tension in their neck.
Thanks to what is going on for them in this part of their body, it could often be hard for them to speak clearly and as ... Views: 137
If a man were to talk to another person about how he sees himself, they could struggle to understand why he sees himself in this way. The reason for this is that he could believe that he is worthless and unlovable.
He could end up being told that these are just beliefs and that they don’t ... Views: 137
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they don’t believe that they own their own body. It can be as though this part of them is owned by others.
They are then going to own their mind, but that will be as far as it will go. What they might also see ... Views: 137
If someone has come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they can wonder why they were treated so badly. However, it might have taken them years to arrive at this point.
The reason for this is that their brain is likely to have blocked out what happened and they might ... Views: 136
What can be normal is for someone to play a role when they are around others. For example, they can typically come across as easy-going, selfless and do what they can to please others.
As a result, they are rarely if ever going to fully show up around others and freely express themselves. ... Views: 136
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to act as if they are an object that exists to serve others. So, they could find that they are often doing things for others and seldom there for themselves.
Therefore, if they are not ... Views: 136
Recently, a man may have found out that the woman he is in a relationship with has cheated on him. Then again, he might have found out that she is having an affair and that this has been going on for a little while.
Alternatively, he might have told her something and asked her to keep it to ... Views: 135
What a man may see, if he is overly focused on his mother and is overlooking a number of his own needs is that he has turned his back on himself. It could go further than this, though, as he could see that she expects him to be there for her.
Therefore, what could enter his mind is that ... Views: 135
After being a model for a little while and/or a cam girl, a woman might join OnlyFans. In the beginning, she might only share naked pictures of herself but as time passes, she can take things further.
Thanks to what she is doing, she could be earning far more than she ever has before. ... Views: 134
What someone may find, if they step back and reflect on their life, is that they tend to keep their thoughts and feelings to themselves. Along with this, they can see that they typically do what other people want and what they think they want.
Thanks to this, it will be normal for them to act ... Views: 132
Even if someone’s early years were a time when they were greatly deprived and deeply wounded, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. If they were to think about this stage of their life, they could think about how it wasn’t that bad.
They might even have a fairly ... Views: 132
If a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, she may find that she spends a lot of time being there for her father and offering her support. She might see that she has been there for him for as long as she can remember.
However, what might now stand out is that although she loves her ... Views: 132
If a man is in a relationship with a woman, he could spend a lot of time trying to please her. As a result, he will be focused on her needs and will do what he can to meet them.
The outcome of this is that he won’t be connected to a number of his own needs and will neglect himself. Due to how ... Views: 128
Right now, a woman can be in a relationship with a man who is rarely physically let alone emotionally available. The reason for this is that he could spend a lot of time being there for his mother and taking care of her needs.
Due to this, she will be in a relationship but she may as well be ... Views: 128
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what might stand out is that he has been with a number of women who were not very stable. These women would then have often been all at sea emotionally.
As a result, when he was with a woman like this, he would have probably spent a lot of ... Views: 127
Even if a woman has the tendency to see other people as an extension of herself and lacks empathy, it doesn’t mean that a man will realise this. Due to this, if a man ends up dating or being in a relationship with her, he can be in for a big surprise.
Now, it could seem strange as to why a ... Views: 127
If a man is caught up in his mother’s world and his own life is being overlooked, he could have well and truly had enough. He could be sick and tired of acting like her parent and abandoning himself.
However, on the plus side, at least he will be aware of what is going on and have the need to ... Views: 125
If a man is in a position where his mother is using him to meet her own needs, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to accept this. Therefore, if he started dating a woman and she pointed this out, it wouldn’t have much impact.
He can say that his mother loves him and that he wants to be ... Views: 125
Even though someone can want to achieve one or a number of things, it doesn’t mean that they will be fully aware of why this is. This is because they can be out of touch with what is truly driving them.
What this illustrates is that there is their conscious mind or conscious sense of ... Views: 124
Over the years, a man may have walked away from a number of women just as things were starting to get serious. Then again, this might have been something that has only taken place on one occasion.
However, regardless of how many times he has had this experience, he might not want to have this ... Views: 124
A man can be in a position where he not only focuses on his mother and ignores himself but he can be comfortable with this. He can have the sense that he is doing the right thing by being there for her.
So, as far as he is concerned, as he is her son, it can be his responsibility to be there ... Views: 124
If a man is in a position where his life revolves around his mother, he is not going to have much of a life. Ultimately, a lot of his time and energy will be directed towards meeting her needs, leaving him with very little time and energy to meet his own needs.
He is then going to be her son ... Views: 124
What can be normal is for someone to focus on other people’s needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise how focused they generally are on other people’s needs.
Consequently, they will often overlook their own needs, which will cause them to neglect themselves. Yet, ... Views: 123
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have trouble freely expressing themselves. What can be normal is for them to feel restricted and ignore how they feel and their needs.
As a result of this, it won’t matter if they are by themselves or ... Views: 122
In general, a man could do a lot for his mother, and he may have been this way for many years. He is then going to be more like her parent than her son, which will mean that he is out of balance.
However, no matter what he does for her, he could end up doing even more if she becomes ill and ... Views: 122
If a man steps back and reflects on his life, what he may find is that he has been with a number of women who were very caught up with themselves. These would then have been women who were consumed by their own needs and had very little if any time for him.
They would then have expected him ... Views: 122
Even though a man will be physically separate from his mother, it doesn’t mean that he will act like it. This is also likely to mean that he won’t feel emotionally separate from her either.
He will then often be doing things for her and his emotional state will largely be defined by her. Now, ... Views: 121
Even though a man will be here to live his own life, if he is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, this is not going to be possible. His life will be of secondary importance, whilst his mother’s life will be of primary importance.
If he is aware of this, he can be ... Views: 121
Even though someone will have a number of different needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with all of their needs, let alone do what they can to meet them. Instead, they can only be in touch with a few of their needs and they might not always do what they can to meet these ... Views: 120
What a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels low and depressed. He could find that this is because he doesn’t feel good about himself and doesn’t believe this will ever change.
If he were to think about why he feels this way, he could think ... Views: 120
If a man is in a relationship but is overly focused on his mother, his girlfriend is likely to be frustrated with what is going on. This is because he will spend a lot of time doing things for his mother, having very little time for himself, let alone her.
She might have kept her true ... Views: 119
Recently, someone may have gone through a breakup, and, since then, they might not have been in a good way. This may have been a relationship that was going well or it might not.
Either way, there can be moments when they experience fear and anxiety, and other moments when they lose touch ... Views: 118
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they can find is that they have the tendency to please others. This can largely take place without them consciously choosing to do so.
Being this way will mean that they typically focus on other people’s needs and ignore ... Views: 118
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, if that they often end up in situations where they need to be saved. Their life is then going to be anything but harmonious and there will be a lot of ups and downs.
It can then be normal for them to feel helpless, ... Views: 118
Even if someone’s early years were anything but nurturing, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. They might not remember a great deal about this stage of their life; then again, they might believe that this stage of their life wasn’t that bad, with it being a time when they received what ... Views: 118
If a woman is in a position where she does a lot for her mother and ignores a number of her own needs, she will be out of balance. But, if living in this way is just what is normal, she might not be aware of what is going on.
Due to this, she could often feel low and drained but believe that ... Views: 118
Practically from the moment that someone’s wakes up, they could experience anxiety to one degree or another. Shortly after this, they can think about one or a few of the things that they have to do that day and be filled with dread.
What might change what is going on is if they have a coffee ... Views: 116
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they rarely feel happy or experience joy. In general, then, they are going to spend a lot of time feeling flat or down.
What might stand out is that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. If ... Views: 115
Over the years, a man may have been with a number of women who he was unable to get close to. So, he may have been with at least one woman who was already in a relationship and he was having an affair with.
Along with this, he may have been with at least one woman who lived a long way away or ... Views: 114
If a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he has the tendency to be aloof when he is around women. As a result of this, he will come across as distant and it won’t be possible for a woman to connect to him.
He could see that this has largely stopped him from ... Views: 114
A man might not remember a great deal about what took place during his formative years but that doesn’t mean what took place at this stage of his life is well and truly in the past. Consequently, his adult life can be very similar to how it was for him during this stage of his life.
It might ... Views: 114
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may see is that they typically only have enough money to merely exist. So, they can have what they need to pay their rent, buy food and clothes, for instance, but that could be about it.
This could mean that they have a job ... Views: 112
Practically from the moment that someone wakes up until they go to bed at night, they could be on the go. When they are not working, then, they can be exercising, practising a hobby or out socialising.
They can come across as confident, high-energy and as someone who is not afraid to try new ... Views: 112
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they find is that they are often not treated very well by others. So, when they are around their friends, perhaps family and at work, they could often be put down and ignored, for instance.
Then again, they might typically ... Views: 111
Even though someone is not powerless, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. In general, they could feel totally helpless and as though they have no control over their life.
But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be consciously aware of how they feel. As a result, there ... Views: 111
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to hide their needs and how they feel. What can then be normal is for them to do what they can to please others.
However, this is not to say that they constantly think about what they can ... Views: 110