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The Importance of Mind-Body Work for Treating Grief - by Michael Roth- Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Desire To Love If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to only have the desire to share his body with a woman, nothing more nothing less. Then again, he might have the need to share his mind with her, but that could be about it. Either way, this is likely to mean that he will only have casual encounters and will, ...
Views: 169 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Responsible If His Mother Becomes Ill? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man does a lot for his mother and neglects a number of his own needs in the process, it doesn’t mean that he won’t end up in a position where he de does even more for her. This is something that can take place if his mother was to become unwell and less capable of looking after ...
Views: 169 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Wounded To Admit That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they could feel the need to talk to their parent or parents about what happened. They can hope that this will be a time when what they say is validated and empathy and remorse are expressed. Now, assuming that ...
Views: 168 - Child Abuse: Can It Be Easy For An Abusive Parent To Get Away With Abusing Their Child? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was attacked in a public place, they could end up paying a visit to a police station. They will have been harmed, so naturally they will want to do something about what has happened. If they were attacked in a public place, there is a chance that at least one camera recorded what ...
Views: 167 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was The Scapegoat During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they can have the tendency to feel bad about themselves. And, it might not matter what they do or how they live their life, as it might not change the sense of badness that they often experience. Along with this, they can have an overly developed sense of ...
Views: 166 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Disembodied? - by Submitted on May 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their body and their feelings, something significant might need to take place for them to realise this. It might seem strange that they wouldn’t be aware of this. However, if they have been for way for most of their life and, thus, this is just ...
Views: 165 - Mother Wounds: Can A Mother’s Fear Of The Masculine Cause Her To Emasculate Her Son? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could be passive, easy-going, not stand up for himself or be assertive. Consequently, he is seldom going to take action, express his opinion, stand his ground or assert himself. Most likely, this is going to stop him from being able to live a fulfilling life. For example, he ...
Views: 165 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Abandoned After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around his mother and has been this way since he was a boy, it is naturally going to be difficult for him when she passes on. However, he might rarely if ever think about her passing on. This can be because he is so caught up in her world that he doesn’t have time to ...
Views: 164 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Have A Narcissistic Defence? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is neglecting himself because he is too focused on his mother, he might need to talk to her about what is going on. He might want to explain to her that behaving in this way is not serving him and he no longer wants to do as much for her. Unsurprisingly, as he ...
Views: 164 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Disconnected If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man reflects on his life, what he can find is that he often feels as though he is on the outside and doesn’t feel connected to others. This can mean that he will spend a lot of time feeling lonely. But, if he doesn’t feel this way, it can typically be because he has distracted himself. ...
Views: 163 - Child Abuse: Does A Child Need To Be ‘Physically Disciplined’? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a video circulating online where two police officers visit a home, after being informed that a child is being abused. It starts with a police officer saying to a woman, “We’re here to investigate a child abuse complaint”. The woman then responds with, “I didn’t call the police”. Soon ...
Views: 163 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Driven By Hope If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is very driven, it doesn’t mean that this is a sign that they are in a good way mentally and emotionally and value themselves. Still, it can appear this way as being highly motivated is often seen as a sign that someone is in a good way and has ‘high self-esteem’. Not only ...
Views: 163 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Mother Have Hated Her Son? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his early years, he might see that his mother often treated him like he was nothing. So, he might have frequently been criticised, humiliated, hit, rejected, and even left by her. Now, if he were to imagine that he has a child, assuming that he ...
Views: 163 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Forgive Himself? - by Submitted on May 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has recently become aware of how caught up he is in his mother’s world and has a rough idea of what happened during his formative years, he could often experience a fair amount of anger, rage and hate. This is how he can feel whenever he is around his mother and when he thinks about how ...
Views: 163 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Mistreat His Partner? - by Submitted on May 21, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a woman may struggle to understand is why the man that she is with treats his mother well but not her. Most likely, it wasn’t this way when they first started spending time together. When they first met, he might have been attentive, understanding, kind and caring, for instance. Along ...
Views: 163 - Self-Knowledge: Does The Past Only Exist In Someone’s Mind? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn the self-development world, it is often said that the past only exists in someone’s mind. Therefore, if they often think about what they have been through and this is causing them to suffer, they just need to change what is taking place in this part of them. Now, what can’t be denied is ...
Views: 163 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Go Into An Emotionally Collapsed State After A Setback? - by Submitted on May 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to fall into a deep hole when something doesn’t go as they want it to. Due to this, this will be a time when they will experience disempowering thoughts and feelings. Along with ...
Views: 162 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative Self-Image If His Mother Was Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, what could soon stand out is that he doesn’t have a very positive view. He could find that he feels worthless and unlovable. After coming to see this, he could soon start to think about how this is impacting his life. So, he ...
Views: 162 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Find It Hard To Assert Himself? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has become aware of the fact that he is overly focused on his mother and is ignoring his own life, he may also find that he doesn’t have a strong need to do anything about it. If he is single, then, he will continue to suffer, and, if he is in a relationship, his partner will also ...
Views: 162 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Fear That He Would Lose Himself If He Left His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to see that he is overly focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, he might soon feel the need to spend less time being there for her and more time being there for himself. However, this doesn’t mean that he will just be able to draw the line with her and start living his ...
Views: 161 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can False Hope Stop A Mother-Enmeshed Man From Living His Own Life? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOn the surface, it can seem as though a man who is focused on his mother and ignores his own life is happy with how things are. This is partly because of how he behaves and what he is likely to say if he is asked why he behaving in this way. So, he can create the impression that he is happy ...
Views: 161 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fear That They Are Going To Die If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone fears that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be aware of this. Now, there will be a time when their life will come to an end; of course, death is part of life. However, the difference here is that when it comes to the former, this will be ...
Views: 160 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Be Out Of Touch With His Needs If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is an interdependent human being who has needs, it doesn’t mean that he will act like one. In general, he could act as if he is an independent human being and doesn’t have needs. What this is likely to mean is that while he will typically meet his basic or ‘lower’ needs, his ...
Views: 160 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man behaves as though he is merely an extension of his mother, it is going to be clear that he needs to change his behaviour. Ultimately, he is not here to be his mother’s slave; he is here to live his own life. However, even though he will need to change his behaviour, it doesn’t mean ...
Views: 160 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Rejected By His Father? - by Submitted on May 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and needs to focus on himself, he could start to explore what his early years were like. What this will do is allow him to gain a deeper understanding of why he is behaving in this way. By doing this, he can soon find that ...
Views: 160 - Early Deprivation: Can A Man Have A Disembodied Sense Of Self If He Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to generally live in his head and thus, be out of touch with his feelings and instincts. He is then going to look like a whole human being but he typically won’t operate as one. But, if this is just what is normal, he might not be aware of how alienated he is ...
Views: 159 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to reflect on how a man behaves, they could soon come to the conclusion that he doesn’t value himself. The reason for this is that he could have a job that he can’t stand and be in a relationship where he is walked over. Then again, he could have a job that he enjoys but he ...
Views: 159 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Get Lost Trying To Understand Why He Is Enmeshed? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother and doesn’t have much of a life himself, there are a number of things that could take place. He could feel deeply frustrated and helpless and believe that his life will always be this way. Alternatively, he could feel deeply ...
Views: 159 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Trying To Be Seen And Heard By His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man generally wasn’t seen and heard by his mother during his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he no longer has these needs. He can then be in a position where just about his whole life revolves around his mother and his need to be seen and heard by her. However, if behaving in this ...
Views: 159 - Self-Destructive: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that just about whenever they take a step forward, they soon end up taking a step back. There can also be times when they end up taking more than one step back. Thanks to this, they could be extremely frustrated and angry about not being able to move forward in life. ...
Views: 159 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Let His Ex Down? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks, months or even years ago, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother might have been in a relationship. He might seldom if ever think about his ex, or he could often think about her. When he does think about her, he could feel angry and let down, and he could wonder why ...
Views: 157 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Will Be Free After His Mother Has Passed On? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man will be free to live his own life, it doesn’t mean that he will feel this way. Instead, he can feel as though his mother owns him and is then in control of what he does or doesn’t do. From this, it will be clear that he doesn’t feel loved and supported by his mother. She is ...
Views: 157 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Make Him Into Her Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperBased on how a man is behaving, that’s if he is overly focused on his mother’s needs, is that he is more like her parent than her son. He will then have been born after her but will be as though he was born before her. However, although he will be playing a parental role, he might not be ...
Views: 157 - Mother Wounds: Is A Man Wasting His Time If He Tries To Find Out Why His Mother Hated Him? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man has come to see that his mother didn’t treat him very well during his formative years, he can have the need to talk to her about what took place. Based on what he experienced, he might have come to the conclusion that she hated him. Or, if he might have concluded that there were ...
Views: 156 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Too Traumatised To Separate From His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if a man’s life revolves around his mother, he is not going to be able to live his own life. To use an analogy, it will be as though he is driving a car and instead of driving where he needs to go, he continually follows another car. But, even though he will be ...
Views: 156 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Fear Intimacy If They Had An Intrusive Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will want to experience deeper connections with others, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. So, they could find that other people are out of reach and they are unable to get close to them. As a result, they might not have any close friends and they might not have ...
Views: 155 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fall Apart Without External Structure If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on May 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could be fairly settled and only experience anxiety and fear, for example, from time to time. Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is in a good way mentally and emotionally. However, although they can have this outlook, it doesn’t mean that this is ...
Views: 155 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone’s Parent Have Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, they may find that they have the inclination to ignore their own needs and be there for others. After this, they might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Naturally, by being this way, a number ...
Views: 155 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Empty If His Mother Was Unable To Love Him? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if a man feels as if something is missing, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. One reason for this is that he could live in a way that allows him to avoid how he feels. So, he could spend a lot of time in doing mode, which will stop him from having to be with how ...
Views: 155 - Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Make Him Into Her Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is more like his mothers parent than her son. The reason for this is that he could spend a lot of time doing things for her. Yet, even when he is not doing anything for her, he could still spend a lot of time ...
Views: 153 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Lack A Felt Sense Of Belonging If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the right to be here and have their needs met, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Instead, deep down, they can have the sense that they don’t deserve to be here or have their needs met. Now, although this is something that they can be ...
Views: 153 - Impulsive Behaviour: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Impulsive? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, one thing that might end up standing out is that they have the tendency to act without thinking. As a result of this, they won’t think about the consequences that may arise if they do something; they will just take action. They ...
Views: 153 - Symbolic Fears: Can Someone’s Fears Be Symbolic If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are numerous phobias that someone can have, and some of these are more well-known than others. Furthermore, while some of these phobias can stop them from being able to live a full and rich life, others can typically be put to one side and not trouble them. If, then, they were ...
Views: 153 - Withdrawal: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Withdraw Under Stress? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they behave in a way that doesn’t serve them when they experience a lot of stress. So, they can see that they have the tendency to withdraw physically. Along with this, they can lose touch with their emotional ...
Views: 151 - Loneliness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Experience Loneliness? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what could soon stand out is that they often feel cut off from others and alone. They could see that this is how they have been for most of their life. What could enter their mind is that this is just how their life is and that ...
Views: 150 - Willpower: Can Someone Have A Weak Will If They Had Controlling Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that when there is a will, there is a way. What this illustrates is how important willpower is when it comes to achieving something. This is then an inner source of power that will allow someone to get from where they are, to where they want to be. Along with this, it is this ...
Views: 150 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay Small If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can be free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will do so. Instead, based on how they typically behave, it can be as though they are in an invisible prison. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they are living in a very ...
Views: 149 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Stop Him From Breaking Away? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNot only can a man be focused on his mother but she can also expect him to be there for her and meet certain needs. From this, it will be clear that she can’t accept that he has his own needs and life to lead. Based on how she treats him, it will be as if he is her possession and thus, she ...
Views: 148 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Discard A Woman? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is caught up in his mother’s world, he might not have the time or energy to be in a relationship with a woman. Then again, he might have had a number of relationships over the years. So, if he is not in a relationship, it might not be long until he is in one. After speaking to a ...
Views: 148 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Have Narcissistic Tendencies? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and ignores himself, he can struggle to understand why he is this way. What could be clear is that it doesn’t make any sense for him to be this way. He could believe that he should be focused on his own life, not focused on his ...
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