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Even though someone will have a number of needs, they could typically act as though they only have a few needs. They can then come across as though they merely have basic and mental needs, for instance.
Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is very independent and doesn’t need ... Views: 184
Although a man’s childhood is well and truly over, it doesn’t mean that he will generally feel like a strong and capable adult. Instead, he can generally feel low and be full of doubt, and be anxious and fearful.
If he is consciously aware of what is going on, he could believe that he is this ... Views: 184
Even though someone is an imperfect human being, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thus, they won’t be able to accept that making mistakes and getting things wrong is part of the human experience.
Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of unnecessary pressure. ... Views: 184
Although someone is a separate human being with their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can feel like they are simply an extension of others.
Due to this, they are not going to have the sense that they own themselves, they will ... Views: 183
What can be normal is for someone to ignore a number of their needs and to focus on others. But, if this is just what is normal, it might not be something that they are consciously aware of.
Consequently, they will be neglecting themselves but this is not going to be something that will stand ... Views: 183
If someone is struggling mentally and emotionally, they can end up looking for a therapist to work with. They might have been in a bad way for a little while or this might be an experience that is relatively new.
If this is not something that they have just started to experience, it is good ... Views: 183
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that they don’t have a very ‘positive’ view of themselves. So, they can believe that no one likes them, are worthless, are a burden, are unlovable and are incapable, for instance.
What could enter their mind ... Views: 182
If a woman is with a man who is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, she is likely to wonder what is going on. She can struggle to understand why he is behaving in this way.
It could be clear to her that he is not there for himself and this is causing him to ... Views: 182
What will be clear, if a man spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, is that he has the sense that his mother owns him. Nonetheless, this is not to say that this is something that he will be consciously aware of.
Therefore, if it was put forward to him that he is behaving as though ... Views: 182
If a man has come to see that he is too focused on his mother and her needs, what could also stand out is that his father is also in the same position. After this, what could enter his mind is that his mother is using both of them.
He could then see that this has been going on for many, many ... Views: 182
What someone can find is that they have trouble knowing how they feel and what their needs are. They might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember.
After this, they could think about how being this way makes it hard for them to know what to do. But, as they will have ... Views: 181
If someone was to think about a mother-enmeshed man, what is likely to come to mind is a man who is overly focused on his mother. This will make complete sense as if he is entangled with her, his life is surely going to revolve around her.
Based on this, if a man doesn’t speak to his mother ... Views: 181
After a man has come to see that he is focused on his mother and is abandoning himself, he can experience a lot of anger toward her. He can be angry about being used and taken advantage of.
To make matters worse, if he were to talk to her about what was going on, she might not listen to what ... Views: 181
Irrespective of how many years have passed since a man was a boy, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. This might not be something that he is aware of, though.
If someone who understood the impact that early deprivation can have on someone was to take a ... Views: 180
If a woman has been with a number of men who were focused on their mother and, thus, were unavailable, she is likely to question if this area of her life will ever change. But, if she has been in this position on more than one occasion, this is to be expected.
What could make this even harder ... Views: 180
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on what often goes through their mind, they could come to the conclusion that they have a scarcity mindset. They could see that they often think about how there is not enough.
This can relate to there not being enough money, opportunities, ... Views: 179
What can be normal is for a man to experience ‘negative’ thoughts and to feel bad about himself. Thanks to this, he can spend a lot of time feeling low and depressed.
Also, he might seldom take action and do what he can to achieve his goals. Taking this into account, he is unlikely to live a ... Views: 179
If a man is unable to live his own life, due to how focused he is on his mother, it can appear as though she is the main problem. It might even seem as though the only way that he will be free is if his mother passes on.
This is something that a woman could say as a result of how caught up ... Views: 179
During someone’s early years, a time when they needed to be seen and heard in order to grow and develop in the right way, they might have largely been ignored. This would then have been a time when their basic needs might have typically been met but their emotional needs wouldn’t have.
One or ... Views: 178
What someone may find, if they were to reflect on their behaviour, is that they have the tendency to put things off. So, this can relate to one area of their life or it could relate to how they are in general.
If this relates to how they are in one area of their life, it might have much of an ... Views: 178
What someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that they have trouble letting people get close to them. This can mean that they will spend a fair amount of time by themselves.
Then again, they could spend a fair amount of time around others but typically hide themselves when ... Views: 177
For some people, Fathers Day is a day when they will show their gratitude to their father for all the things that he did for them when they were a child and continues to do for them now that they are adults. When someone is in this position, this is then going to be a day of celebration and ... Views: 177
If someone takes a step back and reflects on their life, what they can see is that they often do things that they don’t want to do. So, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say no.
As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time doing things that don’t serve ... Views: 176
After thinking about some of the things that they experienced during their formative years, someone could find it hard to understand why they were treated so badly. But, if they were treated as though they were their parent or parent’s enemy as opposed to their child, this is to be ... Views: 176
In general, a lot is said about those who are entitled. When someone is in this position, they can be described as being ‘very entitled’ and expecting the whole world to revolve around them.
From this, it can be as though there are only two options. Either someone is entitled and will behave ... Views: 176
Although someone can be used to being physically seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel seen. In general, they can feel as though they are not seen and even question if they exist.
It could seem strange as to how they could be seen by others and at the same time, not feel seen. ... Views: 176
If a man was brought up by a mother who, in general, wasn’t very nurturing, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. So, when he thinks about this stage of his life, he could think about how his mother did love him but that she didn’t always show it.
The view that he has of her is then ... Views: 176
If a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he could see that he is too focused on his mother's needs and is ignoring a number of his own. He might soon find that this is how he has been for as long as he can remember.
For whatever reason, he will have started to see clearly ... Views: 176
Even though a man can have the desire to be with a woman who is available, he might not believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he may have been with a number of women who were not available.
In fact, he might have only been with women who were not available. Thanks to the ... Views: 175
After starting a relationship with a woman, a man could come to see that he is overly focused on his mother. This is because the woman that he is with might have shared her observations with him and made it clear that he is not responsible for his mother.
As he is open-minded and able to hear ... Views: 175
If a man is in a position where he has the tendency to do what his mother wants and neglects a number of his own needs, it could be said that he needs to assert himself. However, although this is what he will need to do, it doesn’t mean that this will take place.
Firstly, he might not be ... Views: 175
If someone has just broken up with their partner, they can be in a bad way. They might have been with them for a number of months or years but, no matter how long it was, they won’t just be able to carry on with their life.
Yet, as this person will have been a big part of their life and now ... Views: 175
If someone wasn’t cherished during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, if they were able to take a step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might soon stand out is that they are not in a good way mentally and ... Views: 174
What a man may find, if he were to take a step back and reflect, is that he finds it hard to stick to things. So, he can come up with a goal and start taking action and then, before long, he can put it to one side.
He might see that this often takes place after he has experienced a setback. ... Views: 174
The other day, when I was walking around a city, I saw a number of street names that reflected its medieval past. This was in addition to all of the buildings from this period that were dotted around.
What played a part in me noticing these names and the builders is my interest in medieval ... Views: 173
After a woman has come to see that she is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, she could take the time to think about what she needs to do next. This may also involve her talking to a few of her friends about what is going on.
Either way, before long, she could share her thoughts ... Views: 172
Right now, a woman can be with a man who is anything but available. Yet, even though he is this way now, he might not have been this way at the beginning and may have created the impression that he was available.
Due to how much time he spends doing things for his mother, he may have very ... Views: 172
Even if a man was to see a woman who he is attracted to, it doesn’t mean that he would take the next step. Instead, he could talk himself out of speaking to her and let the chance pass.
Then again, he might not need to talk himself out of doing something as he might not believe that it is ... Views: 171
When a man not only meets a woman who he is attracted to but starts dating her, he can believe that his view of her is accurate. However, as time passes, he can find that she is nothing like how he thought she was in the beginning.
Due to this, he can come to the conclusion that he was ... Views: 171
After a woman has been with a man for a while, what might enter her mind is that she is more like his mother than his girlfriend. Now, there can be a variety of reasons as to why she would come to this conclusion.
First, she can be the one who makes most of the decisions and plans just about ... Views: 171
Whether someone is watching the news or browsing a social media site, they can hear about how a certain country is a problem. Alternatively, they could hear about how people who belong to a certain group are a problem.
Then again, they could hear about both of these things. Either way, this ... Views: 170
If a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, what he could find is that he generally acts as though he doesn’t have the need to connect to a woman. As a result of this, a number of his needs are typically not going to be met.
So, his need to be seen and heard by a woman, ... Views: 170
If a man is in a position where practically his whole life revolves around his mother and he is in a relationship, it can be hard for his partner to understand what is going on. But, as he will be her son, not her parent, this is to be expected.
Moreover, he will be an individual who has his ... Views: 170
If a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time focusing on and doing things for his mother, his own life is going to be neglected. What this comes down to is that he only has so much time and energy.
It would be different if he could be fully focused on himself and his mother but ... Views: 170
In general, someone could act as though they are merely an extension of others. The reason for this is that they could tend to say yes if another person asks them if they will do something for them.
And, even if they are not asked to do something, they could still be doing things for others. ... Views: 169
For quite some time now, someone might have suffered from depression. As a result of this, they can typically have a low mode, not be able to experience pleasure or be interested in doing a great deal.
Due to this, days, weeks, months and even years might have passed by but they won’t have ... Views: 169
What someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, is that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. They could find that, in general, they are not aware of how they feel.
This is likely to show that they spend most of their life living in ... Views: 169
Unless a man is working, he could be doing something for his mother. And, even if he is not doing something for her, he could spend a lot of time thinking about her and what he should be doing for her.
If so, as opposed to his mother being another person in his life, she will be the centre of ... Views: 169
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they typically feel, what they could soon notice is that they often feel invisible, ignored and lonely. They can show that when they are around others, they seldom feel seen and heard.
It is then to be expected that they would often feel ... Views: 168
What can be normal is for a man to only have the desire to share his body with a woman, nothing more nothing less. Then again, he might have the need to share his mind with her, but that could be about it.
Either way, this is likely to mean that he will only have casual encounters and will, ... Views: 168