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The Importance of Mind-Body Work for Treating Grief - by Michael Roth- Learned Helplessness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Are Helpless? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that their life is not very fulfilling. So, just about every area of it might not be going how they would like it to go. Now, this might be something that has been at the back of their mind for quite ...
Views: 258 - Disconnected: Can Someone Only Listen To Their Needs When They Are Ill If They Are In A Disconnected State? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has needs that they need to pay attention to in order to live a fulfilling life, they can overlook a number of their needs. In fact, they might not even be aware of a number of their needs. Therefore, they won’t be consciously choosing to be this way; it will just be what is ...
Views: 257 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attempt Suicide? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can appear to be doing fine or at the very least, not in a bad way mentally and emotionally. But, beyond the impression that they typically create around others, can be someone who is not in a good way. Consequently, it won’t be possible for them to receive the ...
Views: 257 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Abandonment If Their Parents’ Had An Unstable Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might end up standing out is that they have a strong fear of being left. So, they can believe that their friends are going to leave them and perhaps their partner, if they have one. By being this way, they could see that they ...
Views: 257 - Mother Wounds: Why Would An Abusive Mother Have Had A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could wonder, if they had a mother who was typically not very nurturing, is why she even had a child or perhaps children. But, based on how she generally behaved, this is to be expected. If she had generally been nurturing and supportive, there would be no reason for ...
Views: 257 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Stay Loyal To His Father? - by Submitted on May 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is likely to stand out, if a man is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself, is that he has a strong need to please her. Due to how strong this need is, a number of his needs will end up being overlooked. From this, it will be clear that he needs to spend less time being there ...
Views: 257 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Believe That They Are Worthless If they Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s formative years, they may have had at least one parent who was very harsh. If so, it would have been normal for them to be put down by this parent and treated like they were nothing. Therefore, even if there were moments when this parent did treat them differently, it ...
Views: 257 - False-Self: Can Someone Have A Needless False Self If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have a number of needs, they could typically act as though they only have a few needs. They can then come across as though they merely have basic and mental needs, for instance. Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is very independent and doesn’t need ...
Views: 256 - Father Wounds: Why Would A Man Believe That He Is Being Controlled By The Matrix? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man believes that both he and others are being controlled by something ‘out there’, he is unlikely to be short of support. In his eyes, then, there could be a group of people who operate behind the scenes who are controlling most of humanity. This could just be something that he shares ...
Views: 256 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Only Blame His Father For What Happened? - by Submitted on May 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has come to see that he is neglecting his own life due to how much he does for his mother, he can believe that his father is at fault for how he behaves. He can then be frustrated and even angry about how he lives his life but his mother won’t have played a part. In his eyes, then, ...
Views: 256 - Self-Worth: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry A Sense Of Unworthiness? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to meet their needs, they are going to need to know that they are worthy of having them met and to take action. Another way of looking at this is to say that there is the being element and the doing element. However, although both of these elements are important, someone can be in ...
Views: 256 - True Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Murdered? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves, it might generally be a reflection of their true self. Then again, it might generally be a reflection of their false self. If it is generally a reflection of their true self, it will mean that they will have a strong connection with their body. By having ...
Views: 256 - Boundaries: Can Someone Lack Boundaries If They Were Treated Like An Object During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a separate individual, with their own needs and feelings, it is not going to be possible for them to always say yes and to do what another person wants or suggests. If they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. However, while they will need to say no at ...
Views: 255 - Mother Wounds: Will A Man Unconsciously Project The Mother That He Had Into Women? - by Submitted on May 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man meets a woman, it might not be long until he develops a view of her. After this, he can believe that the view that he has formed of her is a reflection of what she is like. However, although this can be the case, what if what is going on for him has had an effect on how he ...
Views: 255 - Needs: Why Would A Parent Cause Their Child To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they could typically ignore a number of their needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of this. If so, apart from their basic needs, most if not all of their other needs will seldom be met. To be specific, they can generally take care ...
Views: 255 - Critical Thinking: Is What Is Taking Place In The World A Reflection Of What Is Held Inside The Collective Consciousness? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, there were lockdowns in place that prevented millions of people from being able to carry on as normal. The main purpose of these lockdowns was said to have been to try to stop the virus from spreading. Since then, there has been a war between Russia and Ukraine. And, to go ...
Views: 254 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Create A Disconnected False Self? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is connected to their body, they will have access to their needs and feelings. By having this connection to themselves, they will be able to freely express who they are and live a life that is worth living. What will also play a part in them being able to live in this way will ...
Views: 254 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Waiting For His Fathers Support? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on his mother’s life and is ignoring his own, it will be clear, at least to some people, that something is not right. Of course, he is not here to be an extension of his mother; he is here to express himself and live a fulfilling life. This is not to say that he can’t be ...
Views: 254 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Will A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Different If He Dates A Woman Who Belongs To A Different Racial Group? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, someone left a comment on a video that I had made about a mother-enmeshed man. They essentially asked me if a man in this position would be different if he dated a woman who was from a different racial group. This was not something that I had been asked before and I thought ...
Views: 254 - Anger: Can Someone Carry Lot of Anger If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often feel angry and even enraged. At times, due to how worked up they become, they could lose the ability to think clearly and do things that they later regret. This could be how they have been for as long ...
Views: 253 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a separate individual with their own needs and feelings, they are not always going to want to do what another person wants them to do. During these moments, they will need to make this clear. If this wasn’t the case, there would be no reason for them to say no to another person. ...
Views: 253 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need To Love If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is part of the human experience to want to not only be loved but to also love. But, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that someone will be in touch with both of these needs. If they aren’t, these needs will be repressed and will, therefore, be outside of ...
Views: 253 - Child Abuse: Will Someone Be Controlled By Their Abusive Parent If They Hate Them? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter thinking about some of the things that they experienced during their formative years, someone could find it hard to understand why they were treated so badly. But, if they were treated as though they were their parent or parent’s enemy as opposed to their child, this is to be ...
Views: 253 - Critical Thinking: Are Some Men’s Lives Being Ruined By OnlyFans? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years now, it has been relatively easy for a man to access adult content. The only thing that he has needed is a device and an internet connection, with this giving him the ability to view an endless amount of pictures and videos. In recent years, however, a man can not only ...
Views: 253 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Live In Hope? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that, when it comes to the areas of their life that are not going well, they hope that things will change. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they are not ...
Views: 253 - Emotional Regulation: Does Someone Need To Develop The Ability To Regulate Their Emotions If They Are Out Of Control? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could see, if they were to reflect on their life, is that their inability to handle their emotions is having a negative on their life. They could also see that this is nothing new as they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might not need to ...
Views: 253 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That He Is Not Enough For A Woman If He Had A Critical Mother? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he behaves, he could find that he spends a lot of time doing things so that he can be enough. He could find that this doesn’t relate to being enough in general, it relates to being enough for a woman. He could then spend a lot of time trying ...
Views: 253 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Need To Be Cared For Cause Them To Act Helpless? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they haven’t been able to get it together, so to speak. So, unlike their friends, they could often struggle for money and have a job that is anything but fulfilling. Additionally, they could often be in a ...
Views: 252 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man See Some Women As Sexual Objects If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man sees a woman to who he is attracted, it might not typically occur to him that she is a human being who has her own needs, feelings, hopes, fears and insecurities, for instance. Instead, she can purely be seen as an object that can satisfy his sexual needs. There is the chance that, ...
Views: 252 - Relationships: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attach To The Wrong People? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might soon stand out, if someone were to step back and reflect, is that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them. This could be something that has happened so often that they question if they want to be with another person. But, as fed up as they can be, ...
Views: 252 - Vulnerability: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Vulnerable If They Had A High Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is not a superhero who is unable to be affected by life, they can come across as though this is the case. As a result of this, it can be as though they are unaffected by life. They are then not going to have moments when they come across as hurt, sad or down, for instance. ...
Views: 252 - Child Abuse: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When A Parent Abuses Their Child? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could find it hard to get their head around what happened. But, as their own parent or parents will have been the ones who didn’t treat them well, this is not going to be much of a surprise. This person ...
Views: 251 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing A Healthy Sense Of Entitlement? - by Submitted on May 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a lot is said about those who are entitled. When someone is in this position, they can be described as being ‘very entitled’ and expecting the whole world to revolve around them. From this, it can be as though there are only two options. Either someone is entitled and will behave ...
Views: 251 - Enmeshment: Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was on a plane at the end of last year, I started watching a few episodes of a series called Yellowstone. I think I may have heard about it before or I might have just been curious about it after I saw the cover and read the description. Anyway, I was soon engrossed in the series and I ...
Views: 251 - Fight Instinct: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Fight Instinct If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, it will be necessary for someone to relax and recharge, and, at other times, it will be necessary for them to take action and get things done. The fire that is inside them won’t be activated when they are relaxed and it will be when they are not. However, to say that this fire will ...
Views: 251 - Irrational Thoughts: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have ‘Irrational’ Thoughts? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while, someone may have experienced thoughts that are having a negative effect on their wellbeing. Along with these thoughts, there can be feelings that also arise. These thoughts and feelings are then not going to be positive and empowering; they will be negative and ...
Views: 251 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Help A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Break Away From His Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might stand out, if a woman has been with a man for a little while, is that he is overly focused on his mother. She can find it strange that he is so caught up with her and unable to live his own life. However, she can believe that she has what it takes to gradually pull him out of his ...
Views: 251 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Abandon Himself? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, she is likely to wonder what is going on. She can struggle to understand why he is behaving in this way. It could be clear to her that he is not there for himself and this is causing him to ...
Views: 251 - Needs: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Needs If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an interdependent human being who has needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are completely independent and don’t have any needs. However, this doesn’t mean that they will be consciously denying their true nature. ...
Views: 251 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Very Guarded If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can want to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to experience it. So, they might have spent a fair amount of time on their appearance and spent time socialising but not been able to make much progress. This could be something that has been going on ...
Views: 250 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Being Victimised By Their Shadow? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to share their opinion in regards to why the world is the way that it is, they might say that it’s because of the people that are in power. Therefore, if these people were dealt with in one way or another, the world would be different. This can be someone who ...
Views: 250 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Look Towards Other Human Beings To Save Them? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring an election, numerous people vote for a party that they believe is going to change their lives for the better. For some of these people, what goes on at this level defines what their life is like. In other words, their life will be in the hands of whoever is in power and so, it is to ...
Views: 250 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Narcissistic? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have been in a number of relationships with people who were narcissistic. They may even see that there are a number of people in their life who are like this. When they think about what these ...
Views: 250 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Disconnected From Themselves? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be out of touch with how they feel and a number of their needs. By being this way, they are going to neglect themselves and this can mean that they will often feel drained. So, their need to relax and connect deeply with others can typically be overlooked. ...
Views: 250 - Emotional Eating: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Engage In Emotional Eating? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to eat when they are emotionally unsettled. This can be something that takes place every now and then. Alternatively, this could take place a few times a week or it might be more often. ...
Views: 250 - Football: Did Cristiano Ronaldo “Cry Like A Little Girl” During The Portugal vs. Slovenia Football Match? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSince the match between Portugal vs. Slovenia in the European football championship, a lot has been said about the emotion that Cristiano Ronaldo expressed after he missed a penalty. Some people have criticised him for crying after he missed a penalty, while others have been supportive. When ...
Views: 250 - Helplessness: Can Someone Embody A Sense Of Helplessness If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be passive and lack motivation. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might typically only do what they have to do. Based on how they live their life, it will be as though they have given up on life and don’t ...
Views: 250 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: What Does A Woman Need To Do If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been up with a number of men who were focused on their mothers and were not available, a woman can be angry and frustrated. But, as she will have given a lot and received very little, this is not a surprise. What may also play a part in this is that she could believe that she has ...
Views: 250 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Woman Struggle To Make A Mother-Enmeshed Man Available? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, he is not going to have much time for her. And, when she is with him, he could generally be mentally somewhere else and emotionally out of reach. She is then not going to feel seen and heard, valued and loved, and that she is with ...
Views: 250 - Early Deprivation: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was deprived during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that their brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place. However, while what took place will be in the past, the impact that it had on them is likely to ...
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